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Hi folks
I was talking with a mate of mine who's blind. He has never had a relationship and we were just joking about sex when i mentio ed that id "heard of" a swinging site Nd would he like some info. He was keen as mustard and im happy to help him make a profile but it got me thinking about the difficulties people with disabilities face when trying to play. Any one on here with a either a visible or non visible disability? Id particularly like to hear from anyone who is (or knows someone) who is blind.
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I've know at least two or three people who have disabilities on here. With technology and personal aids of all kinds then of course they can enjoy swinging as much as anyone. It's great you're helping your friend get started though, well done  |
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Thanks for the reply.
I've only known him as an adult and really didnt realise until recently that hed never been in a relationship or had sex. Im happy to help him meet someone wbo will help him out and happy to try to give practical help too. He'll probably get Soooo much more action than me too! Hes a good looking guy! Lol
Really thought provoking though - only seeing the difficulties hes facng now... |
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"Thanks for the reply.
I've only known him as an adult and really didnt realise until recently that hed never been in a relationship or had sex. Im happy to help him meet someone wbo will help him out and happy to try to give practical help too. He'll probably get Soooo much more action than me too! Hes a good looking guy! Lol
Really thought provoking though - only seeing the difficulties hes facng now..."
If he can't get laid in real life he won't get laid on here.
Don't give him unreasonable expectations. Swingers don't fuck everyone who asks. Most men have a very hard time on here even getting replies.
If there is anything unusual about him- such as being blind- I would think he will struggle more than most. Or be preyed on by bad types. |
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Thanks for your reply. Maybe im just naive. Hes a great guy and very funny but i somehow thought the idea would have an acceptance on here that doesnt exist IRL. There is still definitely a "does he take sugar" attitude in NI but i thought it might be easier to find like minded people in a group. Im shocked at my own naivety too, i suppose. |
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I think if anything it could do his self esteem more harm than good.
In a place where some men are struggling to get meets or even replies to messages to the point they make aggressive threads, statuses born from frustration and in some cases offering money, it could easily make him feel like he isn't wanted or good enough. Add to that he's a virgin.
The forums could show him that there are kind people, but I doubt he would get any sexual gratification.
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile"
I suppose - but then again, im tertified of doing that so i dont know how he would feel. I could ask i suppose. I almost feel indecent for asking now - as if its some kind of fetish. I apologise if its come across like that and its certainly not how i (we) meant it to appear.
In looking at this, its certainly opened my eyes to what perceptions we all hold about our lives and Fab. |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
Yep"
I agree too. |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile"
I agree as a single guy on the site and despite being part of a couple profile once I struggle to receive messages or get meets. The best thing in my opinion is what was mentioned above, take him to some clubs allow his personality to shine through and take it from there but don’t build up his expectations |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
I suppose - but then again, im tertified of doing that so i dont know how he would feel. I could ask i suppose. I almost feel indecent for asking now - as if its some kind of fetish. I apologise if its come across like that and its certainly not how i (we) meant it to appear.
In looking at this, its certainly opened my eyes to what perceptions we all hold about our lives and Fab. "
From where I'm sitting you wanted to show your mate a different side to life, there's nothing wrong with that at all! Wanting to help him expand and have new experiences that you think he'll enjoy is a fine quality to have in a friend 
I just feel on here it could be misguided. As much as we wish all people on here could be lovely, honest and decent people that isn't always the case.
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
Yep
I agree too."
Thanks for this folks. Its a great idea. Its a dauntimg prospect though!
Ill chat to him and see what he thinks after reading the replies - thanks |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
I suppose - but then again, im tertified of doing that so i dont know how he would feel. I could ask i suppose. I almost feel indecent for asking now - as if its some kind of fetish. I apologise if its come across like that and its certainly not how i (we) meant it to appear.
In looking at this, its certainly opened my eyes to what perceptions we all hold about our lives and Fab.
From where I'm sitting you wanted to show your mate a different side to life, there's nothing wrong with that at all! Wanting to help him expand and have new experiences that you think he'll enjoy is a fine quality to have in a friend
I just feel on here it could be misguided. As much as we wish all people on here could be lovely, honest and decent people that isn't always the case.
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Thanks for this - the thread has been really thought provoking from my own personal point of view. Time for a cuppa and a chat - cheers |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
Yep
I agree too.
Thanks for this folks. Its a great idea. Its a dauntimg prospect though!
Ill chat to him and see what he thinks after reading the replies - thanks "
Oh, and btw - "remembered for ever like shoo wap sha'waddy-waddy yippity dip de doo!" |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
Yep
I agree too.
Thanks for this folks. Its a great idea. Its a dauntimg prospect though!
Ill chat to him and see what he thinks after reading the replies - thanks
Oh, and btw - "remembered for ever like shoo wap sha'waddy-waddy yippity dip de doo!""
Chang chang changitty chang sha-bop  |
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"The best thing you could do is take him to a club, that way you'll get to meet real people and taken see his personality rather than his profile
Yep
I agree too.
Thanks for this folks. Its a great idea. Its a dauntimg prospect though!
Ill chat to him and see what he thinks after reading the replies - thanks
Oh, and btw - "remembered for ever like shoo wap sha'waddy-waddy yippity dip de doo!"
Chang chang changitty chang sha-bop "
We'll always be-ee togetherrrrrr wah - ooh yeah!
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I think that clubs are a good idea, but make sure you have tried places beforehand and know that the type of people there will be friendly and welcoming. Ideally somewhere that you already have a circle of acquaintances that you can introduce your friend to.
There's never any guarantees of what might happen at a club, but at least there is usually an atmosphere and attitude towards sex that might make it a little easier.
I think that it is a nice thing that you are doing in trying to help your friend, and wish you both well. Polly xx
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I have some personal experience of swinging with a disability and we have faced a few challenges but on the whole have a ball.
I think the club idea is a good one, the other is organised socials. We have found having a disability is less of a barrier when people can see it and you can get to know people rather than explaining it in a message. We love the social side of swinging and even if it doesn't result in a sexual meet its a great way meeting like minded people and building up confidence. Being blind doesn't mean he's not going to get laid just means he has to be a bit more creative. |
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