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Do Beatiful women attract handsome hubbies?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow??? |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???"
Difficult one really as people rarely admit certain things...il get back when ive pondered  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if a woman is that good looking she can get a good looking hubby, if she doesnt its probably because she has low self esteem or he has got lots of money. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"if a woman is that good looking she can get a good looking hubby, if she doesnt its probably because she has low self esteem or he has got lots of money."
Or doesnt fancy men you perceive to be good looking?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think idividual taste has to come into it, the person in question may think that they are marrying the most handsome man ever, just might be the rest of us who dont think he is.
I dot think anyone would settle for someone they were not attracted to would they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???"
Some do after all you get the phrase mutual compatibility banded around and beauty isn't just on the skin they say.
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Most people seem to stick within their limits and capabilities I think..
You never seem to see a ugly woman with a good looking bloke...and vice versa (unless one of them is loaded of course!!!)..why would you?, they can afford to be a little more choosy I guess.
Then you will have average man, average woman..
And not good looking man/woman together..
The lower down the ladder you go I guess the more grateful that someone finds you attractive you become..you will probably accept that the person is not too spicy themselves, and they are probably thinking the same thing..
The sad thing is..some 'Andonis's' and 'glam babes' have the personality of an old piece of string...and a lot of plain Janes and Featureless Freds have a wonderful personality, and wit and warmth by the bucket load..
Unfortunately we often, unconsciously judge another by appearance alone..as its often the first impression.
Always makes me laugh when you read about models etc who say 'my boyfriend/husbands personality is the most important thing to me, I dont go by looks'
Thats their MILLIONAIRE footballer/Diamond dealer/Porsche franchise owning/film star boyfriend/ husband of course..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think idividual taste has to come into it, the person in question may think that they are marrying the most handsome man ever, just might be the rest of us who dont think he is.
I dot think anyone would settle for someone they were not attracted to would they?"
yes i would if he had lots of money. though love is blind as they say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some time ago there was a similar thread on here.
Someone said something that made quite a bit of sense.
It seems that when asked to score their looks on a scale of 1 to 10, women (for the most part) scored themselves lower than they actually are.
Whereas many men (not all) scored themselves higher than they deserved.
This misconception of how people judge their own looks could probably go a long way to why you often see good looking women with dodgy guys. 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i think idividual taste has to come into it, the person in question may think that they are marrying the most handsome man ever, just might be the rest of us who dont think he is.
I dot think anyone would settle for someone they were not attracted to would they?
yes i would if he had lots of money. though love is blind as they say. "
Blind but not skint then? |
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This tops all other threads for shallow replies.
Only two consider that beauty isn't skin deep.
Has no one EVER loved a person. I mean THE person?
David Walliams isn't an adonis by any means but I believe he's married to someone considered beautiful to look at and there are thousands of other examples. I don't think it's for his money - she has her own.
Even you most of you are really 'beautiful' on the outside you're pretty black on the inside.
I'm okay im beautiful inside and out. |
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???"
I think it's all personal preference. I've seen people I consider unnattractive in love with people I consider very attractive.
They pick their own partners. |
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There have been a number of studies on attractiveness which came to the same conclusions:
Men more often than not over rate how attractive they are to women…. so a guy others think is a 6 out of 10 will often think he is an 8.
Women more often than not under rate how attractive they are to men….. so a woman others think is an 8 will often think she is a 6-7.
However, this is in the ‘normal’ world…. things get really screwed up when it’s just about sex and not pairing for a relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There have been a number of studies on attractiveness which came to the same conclusions:
Men more often than not over rate how attractive they are to women…. so a guy others think is a 6 out of 10 will often think he is an 8.
Women more often than not under rate how attractive they are to men….. so a woman others think is an 8 will often think she is a 6-7.
However, this is in the ‘normal’ world…. things get really screwed up when it’s just about sex and not pairing for a relationship.
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When a blokes got a hard on, all women are 10's. |
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"There have been a number of studies on attractiveness which came to the same conclusions:
Men more often than not over rate how attractive they are to women…. so a guy others think is a 6 out of 10 will often think he is an 8.
Women more often than not under rate how attractive they are to men….. so a woman others think is an 8 will often think she is a 6-7.
However, this is in the ‘normal’ world…. things get really screwed up when it’s just about sex and not pairing for a relationship.
When a blokes got a hard on, all women are 10's."
Ain't that the truth  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I don't know if beautiful women attract beautiful men as such.....but I do think that beautiful people can in a way be very intimidating!
maybe us average/not so average people are so busying thinking "what on earth would a person like that see in me?" that people who are good looking don't think that...
so maybe it is as much a confidence thing as much as anything else... |
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman.. "
What part if any did you agree with ? |
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman..
What part if any did you agree with ?"
None of it.. I don't see myself as beautiful I see myself as a normal average woman... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There have been a number of studies on attractiveness which came to the same conclusions:
Men more often than not over rate how attractive they are to women…. so a guy others think is a 6 out of 10 will often think he is an 8.
Women more often than not under rate how attractive they are to men….. so a woman others think is an 8 will often think she is a 6-7.
However, this is in the ‘normal’ world…. things get really screwed up when it’s just about sex and not pairing for a relationship.
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Shit that's no good I rate myself as a 5 on a normal day (though a 15 hour day doesn't help lol) or as a 6 when I've had a decent night's sleep and done myself up like a dog's dinner. That means I'm a 3 or a 4 which is hardly ideal 
Though I can always boost that without resorting to plastic surgery I suppose by increasing my earnings as most female friends have admitted to me when discussing it that having a rammed bank account doies make a man seem a lot more attractive...
Its strange but a woman having money doesn't seem to have as much of an effect on men. Maybe because despite this being the 21st century deep rooted in us all is still the hunter-gatherer/childbearer and cook ideals for the sexes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman.. "
thats a bit cheeky, either say you look nice, or dont bother to say anything. |
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman..
thats a bit cheeky, either say you look nice, or dont bother to say anything."
I take no notice of what men have to say any more.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This tops all other threads for shallow replies.
Only two consider that beauty isn't skin deep.
Has no one EVER loved a person. I mean THE person?
David Walliams isn't an adonis by any means but I believe he's married to someone considered beautiful to look at and there are thousands of other examples. I don't think it's for his money - she has her own.
Even you most of you are really 'beautiful' on the outside you're pretty black on the inside.
I'm okay im beautiful inside and out. "
i like david walliams, looks nice. the thing about men who arent that attractive though, the ones i have met, its like they have to prove themselves, there are ugly people who are ugly on the inside too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???"
i personally think, and this is only my opinion that in a relationship looks are less important, on here its just sex so you go for the best you can get, but if your planning on spending your life with someone surely their personality has to count more?
Saything that all because we may look at a woman and think she could do better dont mean thats how she see's her fella, she may look at him and wonder why other women dont fancy the pants off him too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???
i personally think, and this is only my opinion that in a relationship looks are less important, on here its just sex so you go for the best you can get, but if your planning on spending your life with someone surely their personality has to count more?
Saything that all because we may look at a woman and think she could do better dont mean thats how she see's her fella, she may look at him and wonder why other women dont fancy the pants off him too"
may be she chose hime because she doesn't want other women to fancy him? 
 that's why Kate chose me |
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman..
thats a bit cheeky, either say you look nice, or dont bother to say anything.
I take no notice of what men have to say any more.... "
Such a shame you feel that way. I think you are very attractive and there are men out there who might feel that way and it'd be a shame if you didn't take notice of that. |
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Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder, they say. From what I can see, men and women both go for looks but what makes someone even more appealing is the personality.
But looks are subjective and entirely based on the person's opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something someone said earlier on here was words to the effect of:
'if she was beautiful, her hubby would be better looking'....
What do you think to this... any truth in it?
Or do people 'punch above their weight' in terms of looks?
Or is it really that shallow???"
growing up walking around shopping centres id see, good looking girls with not so good looking blokes and good looking blokes with really not good looking girls, i never understand,
as i have said in a previous post, i do think i am good looking (i may not have the 'playboy bunny' type body) but goodlooking all the same, my husband is beautiful to me and i love him.
if he isnt what you would choose then your choice,, beauty really is only skin deep and everyone is beautiful in their own way!! |
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By *ald6974Man
over a year ago
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Im with you! I figure it will be warmer and there will be more people I know! Meet you at the bar! lol"
Wot u drinking kidda....HOT tottie, i mean HOT TODDIE?? xXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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what about all them rich men and pop stars that are not good looking with models and good looking woman handing of there arms .. its been going on years ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Status can be very attractive to women, not in a shallow 'money' grabbing way either. I think it's a perfectly natural inbuilt thing to look for a life partner (if you want a life partner) to be reasonably successful, socialy adept, capable, at least as intelligent as yourself... all those things are attractive. It's in our genes, I don't think we even realize we are doing it mostly.
Our own levels of the above dictate what level of the above is 'attractive' in a partner I guess.
So, 'looks' are not the most important thing when falling in love.
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"Someone might think someone is beautiful another person might see them as ugly. I got told once I have a stunning face but if I lost weight I'd be a beautiful woman..
thats a bit cheeky, either say you look nice, or dont bother to say anything.
I take no notice of what men have to say any more.... "
Good! You should try liking yourself and stop seeking approval from external sources.
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be honest I don't understand why some beautiful woman marry attractive men like Christina Aguilera for example, Jennifer Lopaz is another but there will have been an attraction by them, they will see what we don't perhaps; what is beautiful to one is not to another, so no I don't think it has anything to do with being shallow, not with them anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes they do! If you are good looking you really dont want to be stuck with a minger.  "
But does that not say that good looking people are shallow then In which case, all hail the mingers and I am proud to be part of a group that is more interested in the person not the face |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what about all them rich men and pop stars that are not good looking with models and good looking woman handing of there arms .. its been going on years ..
Jo ....
Rich
Think now....... rich "
I think of the owner of stringfellows all them lovely woman year younger he pull .. All to do with money and power if he had not a penny who would be around it makes you think. Like the play-boy owner all them lovely woman around him ... money and power works both ways for him and them. |
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"what about all them rich men and pop stars that are not good looking with models and good looking woman handing of there arms .. its been going on years ..
Jo ....
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Think now....... rich I think of the owner of stringfellows all them lovely woman year younger he pull .. All to do with money and power if he had not a penny who would be around it makes you think. Like the play-boy owner all them lovely woman around him ... money and power works both ways for him and them. "
They are bunnies ..... just prossies that don't have to have sex but need to be around to be pretty in parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what about all them rich men and pop stars that are not good looking with models and good looking woman handing of there arms .. its been going on years ..
Jo ....
Rich
Think now....... rich I think of the owner of stringfellows all them lovely woman year younger he pull .. All to do with money and power if he had not a penny who would be around it makes you think. Like the play-boy owner all them lovely woman around him ... money and power works both ways for him and them.
They are bunnies ..... just prossies that don't have to have sex but need to be around to be pretty in parties."
well he picks alot of punnys to have fun with , lol |
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My view on this is that yes some beautiful women marry unattractive men for their money but other times you'll see a couple that looks wise you wouldn't put together but then you see how they interact and its clear they loveeach other. there are some famous couples i think this about and you'll find that on some occasions one of them is really funny and they do say the way to a woman's heart is to make her laugh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Honestly I did look a lot better 35 years ago and my body was in good shape then "
You should try liking yourself and stop seeking approval from external sources!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally women like financial security, a nice home good holidays. A provider, when they get bored of that nature takes over !"
that's a little disparaging! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Generally women like financial security, a nice home good holidays. A provider, when they get bored of that nature takes over !"
Don't men like that too? And I don't think you can generalise! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Generally women like financial security, a nice home good holidays. A provider, when they get bored of that nature takes over !"
Well Mr B doesn't earn lots of money, we very rarely get away on holiday and our house needs lots of work.
Blows that theory |
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Very interesting post got me thinking I have very little money, lost out to the elephant man in the queue for looks, oh yes and am single been divorced nearly 5 years. But I still get meets here so thank god I must have something going with my personality then. |
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"Yes they do! If you are good looking you really dont want to be stuck with a minger.
But does that not say that good looking people are shallow then In which case, all hail the mingers and I am proud to be part of a group that is more interested in the person not the face "
Interesting point above as well about 'personalities'...I was going to make the point before about that and certain 'types' will attract and only accept' certain types' into their social circle
You wont find many groups of 'professional' people having the odd bin man, factory worker, shelf stacker, builders labourer (not that there is anything wrong with any of these jobs, or the people that do them..)in their social circle...equally you wont find a group of manual workers as mentioned above with a barrister, a bank manager or a captain of industry in theirs..
Along with looks there is also the issue of a social divide..some people just 'stick to their own'..
But one thing that transcends both categories is 'personality'...Im sure we have all met or know boring, uninteresting, dour, warm, funny, interesting, and genuine 'types' in both groups.
One thing that has always struck me about a lot of swingers...they dont normally judge, they take people for what they are..if they like em, they may get it on with them..if they dont they move on. |
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