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Is bad speeling a turn of?
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over a year ago
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"Would you avoid fucking somebody based on how they write? Even if they're as hot as can be?  "
No. As long as I understand the gist of the message, all good  |
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"Was the spelling mistake in the title on purpose? 
It cunningly drew you in, didn't it?  "
It did indeed, very clever! 
In answer to the question at hand, not necessarily, however I do find text speak a bit of a turn off... |
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"Was the spelling mistake in the title on purpose?
It cunningly drew you in, didn't it?
It did indeed, very clever!
In answer to the question at hand, not necessarily, however I do find text speak a bit of a turn off... "
Everybody so far seems fine with dodgy spelling. I wonder how many people are annoyed by text speak, like you. |
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"Was the spelling mistake in the title on purpose?
It cunningly drew you in, didn't it?
It did indeed, very clever!
In answer to the question at hand, not necessarily, however I do find text speak a bit of a turn off...
Everybody so far seems fine with dodgy spelling. I wonder how many people are annoyed by text speak, like you."
I don’t find it annoying... I just can’t read it that easily anymore... luckily it was more of an early 2000’s thing and most people use whole words now! |
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It depends. If the messages are interesting enough then spelling mistakes don't bother me.
If they are messages saying the guy wud luv to meet up then yes, spelling matters.
More importantly, a well articulated interesting message is a turn-on, so a poorly articulated one suffers by comparison. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Was the spelling mistake in the title on purpose?
It cunningly drew you in, didn't it?
It did indeed, very clever!
In answer to the question at hand, not necessarily, however I do find text speak a bit of a turn off...
Everybody so far seems fine with dodgy spelling. I wonder how many people are annoyed by text speak, like you.
I don’t find it annoying... I just can’t read it that easily anymore... luckily it was more of an early 2000’s thing and most people use whole words now! "
Sorry. I though it annoyed you. Gud d t3xt isn't 2 bad 4 u. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It depends. If the messages are interesting enough then spelling mistakes don't bother me.
If they are messages saying the guy wud luv to meet up then yes, spelling matters.
More importantly, a well articulated interesting message is a turn-on, so a poorly articulated one suffers by comparison."
Ah to paraphrase Oscar Wilde, sup baby? |
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The odd mistake isn't an issue for me. You can normally tell if it's due to dyslexia or English not being their primary language, and that isn't ever an issue.
If it's riddled with spelling and grammar issues then, honestly yeah, it puts me off.
As does any sort of nonironic text speak.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Depends. It is definitely an instant turn off.
We all make spelling mistakes, and typos, or can be dyslexia etc but if it's constant and obvious it does show a lack of effort and presentation.
As for text speak, I don't mind things like "tbf" or slang words, but full on "hey wuu2. Wana suk?" and many other examples like that, then it is a turn off.
The text speak was just an examole, I have only had that message from men. Obviously if it was sent from a woman text speak is acceptable... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think I need someone of a certain intelligence with a reasonable command of words. Its sexy innit
(well aware of my own public image here  )
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All the ladies love a big juicy... brain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I need someone of a certain intelligence with a reasonable command of words. Its sexy innit
(well aware of my own public image here )
This "
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Depends. It is definitely an instant turn off.
We all make spelling mistakes, and typos, or can be dyslexia etc but if it's constant and obvious it does show a lack of effort and presentation.
As for text speak, I don't mind things like "tbf" or slang words, but full on "hey wuu2. Wana suk?" and many other examples like that, then it is a turn off.
The text speak was just an examole, I have only had that message from men. Obviously if it was sent from a woman text speak is acceptable... "
Definitely isn't!... Well |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think I need someone of a certain intelligence with a reasonable command of words. Its sexy innit
(well aware of my own public image here )
This
All the ladies love a big juicy... brain."
Because the brain is in the pants? |
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"Depends. It is definitely an instant turn off.
We all make spelling mistakes, and typos, or can be dyslexia etc but if it's constant and obvious it does show a lack of effort and presentation.
As for text speak, I don't mind things like "tbf" or slang words, but full on "hey wuu2. Wana suk?" and many other examples like that, then it is a turn off.
The text speak was just an examole, I have only had that message from men. Obviously if it was sent from a woman text speak is acceptable... "
Yeah things like tbf, tbh, imo.. doesn't bother me at all.
"U gud m8 wna c wat u thank ov me" is a different kettle of fish. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think I need someone of a certain intelligence with a reasonable command of words. Its sexy innit
(well aware of my own public image here )
This
All the ladies love a big juicy... brain.
Because the brain is in the pants? "
Maybe my brain is pants! Wait... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Depends. It is definitely an instant turn off.
We all make spelling mistakes, and typos, or can be dyslexia etc but if it's constant and obvious it does show a lack of effort and presentation.
As for text speak, I don't mind things like "tbf" or slang words, but full on "hey wuu2. Wana suk?" and many other examples like that, then it is a turn off.
The text speak was just an examole, I have only had that message from men. Obviously if it was sent from a woman text speak is acceptable...
Yeah things like tbf, tbh, imo.. doesn't bother me at all.
"U gud m8 wna c wat u thank ov me" is a different kettle of fish."
The 2nd example you gave is more annoying to me too. Odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I need someone of a certain intelligence with a reasonable command of words. Its sexy innit
(well aware of my own public image here )
This
All the ladies love a big juicy... brain."
Haha, indeed! Intelligence and command of words is a huge deal to me. It can turn me instantly on or off. Obviously you can tell the difference between the odd typo versus someone with less of an eloquent grasp of the English language. It’s by no means the only factor that matters to me though. And obviously on here it’s more apparent because contact is made via written messages. I don’t judge people who struggle with spelling or grammar though - I’m just naturally more inclined towards those who are more gifted in that sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is good spelling and grammar a turn on? Think it can be a turn off at times as people generally don't ever want to feel or sound less intelligent... Although I have found the more I have educated myself, the more dumb I have felt in relation to others... Go figure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it "
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Maybe I should have asked if people find bad messages in general a turn off.
Bad spelling is only 1 aspect. And, as has been pointed out, dyslexia could account for spelling mistakes. So could typos and autocorrect. |
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"Is good spelling and grammar a turn on? Think it can be a turn off at times as people generally don't ever want to feel or sound less intelligent... Although I have found the more I have educated myself, the more dumb I have felt in relation to others... Go figure"
That must make you smart think Aristotle said "the more you know, the more you know you don't know" |
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"Is good spelling and grammar a turn on? Think it can be a turn off at times as people generally don't ever want to feel or sound less intelligent... Although I have found the more I have educated myself, the more dumb I have felt in relation to others... Go figure
That must make you smart think Aristotle said "the more you know, the more you know you don't know""
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?"
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I am dyslexic, and will not always see if autocorrect puts the wrong word in if they are similar. I once wrote a massive document where I should have written vulnerable but had wrote venerable. "
That's the thing, I think you can tell (especially over time) if it is due to dyslexia or just poor effort and conscious bad spelling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine "
Noted. I barely understand myself some days.... |
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I think most spelling mistakes are due to corrective text tbh. It's excessive text speak that we would avoid. Usually a sign of youth, uneducated (as in time and place for text speak, not knowing when appropriate or not). Also for the more mature folks, bloody bad manners.
Old skool! |
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"I am dyslexic, and will not always see if autocorrect puts the wrong word in if they are similar. I once wrote a massive document where I should have written vulnerable but had wrote venerable.
That's the thing, I think you can tell (especially over time) if it is due to dyslexia or just poor effort and conscious bad spelling. "
This is true being dyslexic doesn't mean I'm unable to write, just means it takes me longer than others. |
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"Is good spelling and grammar a turn on? Think it can be a turn off at times as people generally don't ever want to feel or sound less intelligent... Although I have found the more I have educated myself, the more dumb I have felt in relation to others... Go figure
That must make you smart think Aristotle said "the more you know, the more you know you don't know""
Love that Aristotle geezer. Great quote. |
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By *inx80Woman
over a year ago
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"Only one thing really puts me off is ladies referring to themselves as "a women"
Other than that unless it's in proper "talk lyk dis" writing then I'm not overly fussed"
Why don't you like women calling themselves "a woman"? |
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"Only one thing really puts me off is ladies referring to themselves as "a women"
Other than that unless it's in proper "talk lyk dis" writing then I'm not overly fussed
Why don't you like women calling themselves "a woman"?"
I think he means literally a womEn. As opposed to a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only one thing really puts me off is ladies referring to themselves as "a women"
Other than that unless it's in proper "talk lyk dis" writing then I'm not overly fussed
Why don't you like women calling themselves "a woman"?"
He said "a women". As in a misunderstanding of the plural. I assume that's what he meant. |
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days.... "
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only one thing really puts me off is ladies referring to themselves as "a women"
Other than that unless it's in proper "talk lyk dis" writing then I'm not overly fussed
Why don't you like women calling themselves "a woman"?
I think he means literally a womEn. As opposed to a woman."
Snap! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol"
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....? |
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"Only one thing really puts me off is ladies referring to themselves as "a women"
Other than that unless it's in proper "talk lyk dis" writing then I'm not overly fussed
Why don't you like women calling themselves "a woman"?
He said "a women". As in a misunderstanding of the plural. I assume that's what he meant."
Exactly that. You can be 1 Woman, you can't be 1 women.
(And that's what grinds my gears) |
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....?"
Yes I have an very lovely one it is too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....?
Yes I have an very lovely one it is too "
No offence to that chap. But his face has nothing on your remarkable chest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....?
Yes I have an very lovely one it is too
No offence to that chap. But his face has nothing on your remarkable chest! "
None taken, and agreed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....?
Yes I have an very lovely one it is too
No offence to that chap. But his face has nothing on your remarkable chest!
None taken, and agreed "
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"And text speak being dyslexic is like written diarrhea, takes me ages to understand it
Do you ever find you develop your own language with some of those you talk to...?
Yes if I speak to someone enough. But it will take time, abbreviations can be a total bitch for me. But once I understand them I'm fine
Noted. I barely understand myself some days....
That's cause you're far more cool than me lol
I am NOT cool, have you seen my face lately....?
Yes I have an very lovely one it is too
No offence to that chap. But his face has nothing on your remarkable chest!
None taken, and agreed
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Thank you both |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Ach. I know the correct answer should be no, spelling doesn't matter to me. In all honesty, I *can* be a bit of a pretentious twunt at times so yes, it does matter to some degree. I like coherency in messages and not trying to work out what I'm trying to read. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that. But rightly or wrongly (and yes, I'm starting a sentence with but) I do like, what I perceive to be, a more considered approach to messages and profiles. |
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"Ach. I know the correct answer should be no, spelling doesn't matter to me. In all honesty, I *can* be a bit of a pretentious twunt at times so yes, it does matter to some degree. I like coherency in messages and not trying to work out what I'm trying to read. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that. But rightly or wrongly (and yes, I'm starting a sentence with but) I do like, what I perceive to be, a more considered approach to messages and profiles. "
Is a twunt like a cagina? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ach. I know the correct answer should be no, spelling doesn't matter to me. In all honesty, I *can* be a bit of a pretentious twunt at times so yes, it does matter to some degree. I like coherency in messages and not trying to work out what I'm trying to read. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that. But rightly or wrongly (and yes, I'm starting a sentence with but) I do like, what I perceive to be, a more considered approach to messages and profiles.
Is a twunt like a cagina? "
Penock innit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it's the occasional there/their or your/you're confusion - I may close one eye.
But if it's a long paragraph with no commas or full stops, constant spelling errors (this is why smartphones have a spell check) and it's hard to read or understand - then I wouldn't even reply to that.
English is my third language and I'm proud to use it well. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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Everyone makes spelling mistakes from time to time and autocorrect doesn’t always help. So the odd spelling mistake doesn’t really matter. What matters more is the style of writing and the character that comes through. That does matter to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ach. I know the correct answer should be no, spelling doesn't matter to me. In all honesty, I *can* be a bit of a pretentious twunt at times so yes, it does matter to some degree. I like coherency in messages and not trying to work out what I'm trying to read. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that. But rightly or wrongly (and yes, I'm starting a sentence with but) I do like, what I perceive to be, a more considered approach to messages and profiles.
Is a twunt like a cagina?
Penock innit"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's the occasional there/their or your/you're confusion - I may close one eye.
But if it's a long paragraph with no commas or full stops, constant spelling errors (this is why smartphones have a spell check) and it's hard to read or understand - then I wouldn't even reply to that.
English is my third language and I'm proud to use it well."
Yeah, the long messages without punctuation get to me at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it unfair that bad spelling, punctuation etc annoy me more from mature ladies/couples? It's as if a part of me thinks they've had time to learn better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No, some of the best people I have dated have been highly intelligent but dyslexic."
Dyslexia has been mentioned a few times in this thread. You make a fair point.
The general consensus I'm getting at this point is that people dislike obviously lazy messages. Things like spelling mistakes, text speak etc are simply possible indications of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!! "
I always thought it's a bizarre irony that "dyslexia" must be a bitch to spell for somebody with dyslexia. I wonder if the inventor of the word was a sadist. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!! "
That's how I see it. Bad spelling is down to a lack of effort. Even with dyslexia, which should always be taken in to consideration, it just requires even more effort for those with. Something those of us without dyslexia often underestimate.
I see it as taking pride in what you are doing, putting words in to text. I appreciate a very well worded letter/message/text from somebody with dyslexia much more because of the effort put in to that pride. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, some of the best people I have dated have been highly intelligent but dyslexic."
True dat! Albert Einstein was dyslexic. First thing they told me when I got tested. Also there's loads of different strands of dyslexia. For me it's comprehension, but I excel in every other area. My point being you could be dyslexic and have great spelling and grammar.
For me, it's more about effort and them being able to express themselves coherently so I can understand what is being said. Even if someone is beautiful I find it hard to get interested if we can barely communicate. Makes me feel shallow |
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
That's how I see it. Bad spelling is down to a lack of effort. Even with dyslexia, which should always be taken in to consideration, it just requires even more effort for those with. Something those of us without dyslexia often underestimate.
I see it as taking pride in what you are doing, putting words in to text. I appreciate a very well worded letter/message/text from somebody with dyslexia much more because of the effort put in to that pride. "
It depends on the situation for me. I expect a profile to be well written as you have time to check it or have someone else check it if needed. During back and forth messaging however, I don't expect someone to have to put in excessive amounts of labour every time they speak to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
That's how I see it. Bad spelling is down to a lack of effort. Even with dyslexia, which should always be taken in to consideration, it just requires even more effort for those with. Something those of us without dyslexia often underestimate.
I see it as taking pride in what you are doing, putting words in to text. I appreciate a very well worded letter/message/text from somebody with dyslexia much more because of the effort put in to that pride.
It depends on the situation for me. I expect a profile to be well written as you have time to check it or have someone else check it if needed. During back and forth messaging however, I don't expect someone to have to put in excessive amounts of labour every time they speak to me."
I guess I feel a bit like that. With profiles, there's time to write them well. With messages, and especially live chat, we're all likely to make typos. |
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"No, some of the best people I have dated have been highly intelligent but dyslexic.
True dat! Albert Einstein was dyslexic. First thing they told me when I got tested. Also there's loads of different strands of dyslexia. For me it's comprehension, but I excel in every other area. My point being you could be dyslexic and have great spelling and grammar.
For me, it's more about effort and them being able to express themselves coherently so I can understand what is being said. Even if someone is beautiful I find it hard to get interested if we can barely communicate. Makes me feel shallow"
Absolutely! I've met dyslexics with fantastic spelling and grammar who are just slow readers and writers. I've also met someone who despite being the top of my Physics class in sixth form, struggled to spell Physics. It does vary a lot. |
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I’m lazy with spelling. I rarely proof read my posts so they’re often littered with typos and spelling mistakes. The same with messages. Auto-carrot also has a wonderful habit of changing the word I’m trying to type too, especially on my iPad where I type with my thumbs.
Spelling is not an issue unless I cannot understand what has been typed and almost all of the time I can. |
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
I always thought it's a bizarre irony that "dyslexia" must be a bitch to spell for somebody with dyslexia. I wonder if the inventor of the word was a sadist."
Probably the same person that named "lisp" |
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
That's how I see it. Bad spelling is down to a lack of effort. Even with dyslexia, which should always be taken in to consideration, it just requires even more effort for those with. Something those of us without dyslexia often underestimate.
I see it as taking pride in what you are doing, putting words in to text. I appreciate a very well worded letter/message/text from somebody with dyslexia much more because of the effort put in to that pride.
It depends on the situation for me. I expect a profile to be well written as you have time to check it or have someone else check it if needed. During back and forth messaging however, I don't expect someone to have to put in excessive amounts of labour every time they speak to me."
I don't expect excessive amounts of labour either, just a coherent message that I don't have to put into google translate to decipher. We all make typos, and phones correct things to the strangest of words sometimes, but it's the general laziness and slang that puts me off
(Anybody else spell checking their messages before posting or just me?! Haha) |
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
I always thought it's a bizarre irony that "dyslexia" must be a bitch to spell for somebody with dyslexia. I wonder if the inventor of the word was a sadist.
Probably the same person that named "lisp" "
That bastard! |
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"I am dyslexic and plagued by autocorrect, but always make an effort to use good language when messaging, and would expect the same in return.
I see it as a lack of effort, and it really does put me off. I find well written messages so much more appealing, and wouldn't talk to somebody that uses slang text (even if they were super hot)
Point blank refuse to reply to anything like "hey bbe, hw r u" too.
It's not like the old days on a Nokia 3310 where you had characheter limits and had to abbreviate everything to fit it in one message to save that extra 10p!!
That's how I see it. Bad spelling is down to a lack of effort. Even with dyslexia, which should always be taken in to consideration, it just requires even more effort for those with. Something those of us without dyslexia often underestimate.
I see it as taking pride in what you are doing, putting words in to text. I appreciate a very well worded letter/message/text from somebody with dyslexia much more because of the effort put in to that pride.
It depends on the situation for me. I expect a profile to be well written as you have time to check it or have someone else check it if needed. During back and forth messaging however, I don't expect someone to have to put in excessive amounts of labour every time they speak to me.
I don't expect excessive amounts of labour either, just a coherent message that I don't have to put into google translate to decipher. We all make typos, and phones correct things to the strangest of words sometimes, but it's the general laziness and slang that puts me off
(Anybody else spell checking their messages before posting or just me?! Haha)"
Ha! Yeah I bet everyone is frantically checking their messages for typos. Unforgiving on yourself for that one.
I do however like purposely made spelling mistakes. Me and my friend used to leave notes everywhere at my old work place. Ones above the bin saying "Putt you're waist in hear". I know, I'm a loser... But big whoop, wanna fight about it? |
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Not as bad as people who use the Spelling or Grammer line as a response to being put in their place in a previous comment,
Does nothing but show up someone's lack of wit , creativity, and true colors. |
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"Ach. I know the correct answer should be no, spelling doesn't matter to me. In all honesty, I *can* be a bit of a pretentious twunt at times so yes, it does matter to some degree. I like coherency in messages and not trying to work out what I'm trying to read. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that. But rightly or wrongly (and yes, I'm starting a sentence with but) I do like, what I perceive to be, a more considered approach to messages and profiles. "
Agreed. Guess that makes me a pretentious twunt too I’m cool with that though |
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"Can't bear poor spelling when people are being lazy. Bad grammar is a turn off too. As is text speak. How r u...  NOPE! "
Fab must drive you crazy then! |
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If it's lazy, poor grammar and spelling are an irritation. For example, apostrophe's (sic) in plurals annoy me. I do like to see intelligence but this is not necessarily indiclated by perfect English. If the meaning is clear, if there is wit or evidence of real thought, then I can be persuaded to take off my grammar Nazi armband. |
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"If it's lazy, poor grammar and spelling are an irritation. For example, apostrophe's (sic) in plurals annoy me. I do like to see intelligence but this is not necessarily indiclated by perfect English. If the meaning is clear, if there is wit or evidence of real thought, then I can be persuaded to take off my grammar Nazi armband."
A little off-topic, but a local shop is called Perfect Party's. I pass it a couple of times each week and I always smile at the irony. Perfect Party's. |
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"If it's lazy, poor grammar and spelling are an irritation. For example, apostrophe's (sic) in plurals annoy me. I do like to see intelligence but this is not necessarily indiclated by perfect English. If the meaning is clear, if there is wit or evidence of real thought, then I can be persuaded to take off my grammar Nazi armband."
You’re a better person than I am. I will never take off my grammar Nazi armband.  |
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"If it's lazy, poor grammar and spelling are an irritation. For example, apostrophe's (sic) in plurals annoy me. I do like to see intelligence but this is not necessarily indiclated by perfect English. If the meaning is clear, if there is wit or evidence of real thought, then I can be persuaded to take off my grammar Nazi armband.
A little off-topic, but a local shop is called Perfect Party's. I pass it a couple of times each week and I always smile at the irony. Perfect Party's."
Is there a question mark? Might be a philosophical questions |
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If somebody doesn't appear to take care of how they present themselves or in how they communicate that would be very off-putting.
However, there are different levels of that. If a profile doesn't make sense then it is likely to be a no, but if it's just a small slip-up then we're probably not going to be too worried.
Whatever level it is in between would be weighed against what the person is like. We're going to cut a lot more slack with somebody who we really get on with or we know to be dyslexic. |
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over a year ago
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Just be careful not to be hoisted by ones own petard!
I think its, normally, quite obvious, when someone has made a typo, has dyslexia, or is just lazy and/or thick - I believe, like, attracts like |
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Yes BUT appreciate there are folks with dyslexia and word blindness. You can usually tell who is just bad though. It’s as much the language used as the actual spelling itself. |
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'It dont bovva me....'
Personally I think discarding someone simply by their spelling or grammar is quite harsh
My grammar and spelling ain't all that great, but I'd like to think people would still like to get to know me |
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"I’m lazy with spelling. I rarely proof read my posts so they’re often littered with typos and spelling mistakes. The same with messages. Auto-carrot also has a wonderful habit of changing the word I’m trying to type too, especially on my iPad where I type with my thumbs.
Spelling is not an issue unless I cannot understand what has been typed and almost all of the time I can.
I'm afraid your trying to hard to be funny when it's not really. Read your profile and I think that most people would be put off. On over a year and no verifications says it all!
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I didn’t ask for your feedback on my profile. I wasnt trying to be funny in my post. My verifications are hidden so you have no idea who I have met and when. I suggest you save your opinion for someone who cares what you think about them. |
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