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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome to my world, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends what mood I'm in.

Either don't reply, block and delete or just reply and say sorry but your not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Welcome to my world, OP."

Hard to know what to say sometimes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally, I politely tell them I’m straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends what mood I'm in.

Either don't reply, block and delete or just reply and say sorry but your not for me."

I always feel blocking is harsh, but yep maybe spares any nastiness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hence it's sometimes easier to just delete and if they get arsey just block

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By *ed and WolfieCouple over a year ago

Gravesend

It’s the people that think they are the exception to the rule that gets me

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Just leave their messages unread. Forever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At least you reply which is nice,some People just cant handle rejection and will play any card to make you feel bad or guve you a hard to, personal preference is personal preference x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Welcome to my world, OP.

Hard to know what to say sometimes!"

I used to be polite. But then idiots happened.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally, I politely tell them I’m straight but not for F&B and his cute cut penis "

I know dude x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Welcome to my world, OP.

Hard to know what to say sometimes!

I used to be polite. But then idiots happened."

Haha yes it gets that way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I get a message from someone I am not attracted to, I just say so without saying that I am not attracted to their size dress, boobs size, shoes size, vegina size, knee size, skin colours, religious, social or political background.

If they want a reason, I say I am gay, if they are men, I say that I am a heterosexual who fuck women's anuses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am of an Indian origin and I have been politely declined a few times. I respect the other person's decision and I move on. I also thank them for their honesty. There is no hard feelings as you cannot force people to like you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am of an Indian origin and I have been politely declined a few times. I respect the other person's decision and I move on. I also thank them for their honesty. There is no hard feelings as you cannot force people to like you!"

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By *ady23Woman over a year ago

Coventry

I agree we all have preferences and u have to have some attraction or it won't work. To be honest whether u reply or not folk can get nasty. If people read ur profile and it says preferences it would save a lot of hassle. Unfortunately we had lots of messages but most clearly hasn't read the profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally, I politely tell them I’m straight but not for F&B and his cute cut penis

I know dude x"

It is cute to be fair

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Welcome to my world, OP.

Hard to know what to say sometimes!

I used to be polite. But then idiots happened."

Oh god, so much this.

Delete without reply means no thank you. Rinse, repeat. If idiots persist, see your block button.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally, I politely tell them I’m straight but not for F&B and his cute cut penis

I know dude x

It is cute to be fair

I know

but thanks for reminding me every morning through Kik

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's nice that you send a polite reply. Most of us would appreciate that.

If it makes you feel better, those people that get aggressive wouldn't be the type you want to meet anyway.

Some people are just arseholes and there is very little you can do about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's nice that you send a polite reply. Most of us would appreciate that.

If it makes you feel better, those people that get aggressive wouldn't be the type you want to meet anyway.

Some people are just arseholes and there is very little you can do about it. "

Definitely!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nobody here would believe this, but, I'm really, really rubbish at letting ppl down or saying no thanks. I hate being mean....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody here would believe this, but, I'm really, really rubbish at letting ppl down or saying no thanks. I hate being mean...."

Let's go guys... Free fuck

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Nobody here would believe this, but, I'm really, really rubbish at letting ppl down or saying no thanks. I hate being mean...."

Can i suck your cock?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Politely inform them I'm too busy for any new meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody here would believe this, but, I'm really, really rubbish at letting ppl down or saying no thanks. I hate being mean....

Can i suck your cock?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People who cry "racism" to a person's preference, are just twats. Absolute twats.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

I politely decline. If they persist then I delete and block.

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man over a year ago

Manchester

Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message."

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I politely decline. If they persist then I delete and block."

Thanks

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

"Hence it's sometimes easier to just delete and if they get arsey just block"

i block if they dont reply after a certain amount of time, if they read and delete, they reply and are not interested or they clearly don't read my profile...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!"

Why not blocking men and do your search ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t usually respond, if on the occasion I do it’s a “thanks but no thanks” and no more.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Don't tell them why you're rejecting them, just politely say they're not for you. If they pester as to why, block em.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message."

You cant necessarily define all preferences in a profile though, sowm ppl just have a face that is wrong or looks dishonest.... and them how so you tell them you don't like the look of their face despite them being perfect in paper....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

Why not blocking men and do your search ? "

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I politely decline. If they persist then I delete and block."

I used to do this, now I just ignore and do my own search

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

Why not blocking men and do your search ?

Eh?"

Block men, and search for the ones you are interested in yourself.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

Why not blocking men and do your search ?

Eh?

Block men, and search for the ones you are interested in yourself. "

Eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately, people get butt hurt way too easily these days. Soft cunts.

If you're not what she's after, even race wise, move on. She doesn't have to spread her legs for you just for the sake of "equality"

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

Why not blocking men and do your search ?

Eh?

Block men, and search for the ones you are interested in yourself.

Eh? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just say thank you but your not my type and wish them good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My last post was a general statement to the guys that get butt hurt over rejection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My last post was a general statement to the guys that get butt hurt over rejection."

Yes sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My last post was a general statement to the guys that get butt hurt over rejection.

Yes sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?"

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him?

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

I always replied no politely but some took that as an opening to try and start a conversation so mostly now I just delete sadly

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My phone types my reply....'thanks for your message but I'm not interested'.

No explanation needed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him? "

A shot in the dark here, but maybe the same thing

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Surely if you have stated your preferences on your profile and message anyway then it's completely fair if you ignore or delete their message.

I haven't..because if I list everything I want and dont want it becomes a bit tedious! Nobody reads it anyway.. when I have in the past, I found that!

But you have listed everything you want and don't want, anyone outside of that who messages should expect a no thanks reply at least

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him?

A shot in the dark here, but maybe the same thing "

Which is...?

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

A simple no thanks or not interested and most accept that.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't expect anything anymore these days.

I get I'm not everyone's cuppa. Sometimes gets frustrating when you have no intention of meeting and just making a passing comment on a profile/status just to see it get deleted.

More often than not though I'm pretty easy going about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just delete their message and if they get arsey block them... Think that's been said but yeah they're right. I personally don't understand how people can disqualify an entire colour of person as I see beauty in all colours, shapes and sizes. Good piece of advice is to state what you do like instead of what you don't. People are always going to get offended if you are rejecting them based on nothing but their skin colour. Remember, like it or not, you are essentially saying that no matter how good looking or fit they are, you find them unattractive based on the hue of their skin

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By *onkyLemonsCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him?

A shot in the dark here, but maybe the same thing "

So why make a forum post about it?

I’m with Mavis. If you had a “one size fits all” policy and just politely declined every person that didn’t tickle your fancy - why would you need to make a forum post asking for advice on how to reject, specifically, persons of a non-white origin without “hurting their feelings”?

Surely the fact that you feel that you have to treat people differently, based on nothing other than their racial origin suggests that there’s possibly an underlying issue?

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By *onkyLemonsCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him?

A shot in the dark here, but maybe the same thing

So why make a forum post about it?

Surely the fact that you feel that you have to treat people differently, based on nothing other than their racial origin suggests that there’s possibly an underlying issue?"

Also, again, just to clarify - nobody gives a flying fuck about your personal preferences. That why we’re all here - to fulfil our personal fantasies.

But if you think you have to treat people of a non white British origin differently to those who are white British - that makes you a racist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?"

For some reason I get lots of messages from men who obviously have not read my profile, however I always try to be polite in my response

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

To any one I don't have an attraction to a polite thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him? "

Exactly!

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?"

Do you tell them if it's because they are black or Asian? It would be best not to give that as a reason and just say you're not attracted to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do if someone messages you, and they're not your type! I am always polite but have been called a racist because I'm not attracted to black or Asian men!

That's not the case.. I just can't make myself feel something I don't! Theres someone for everyone, so no need to be aggressive?

What do you do if a white man mails you but you're not attracted to him?

A shot in the dark here, but maybe the same thing

So why make a forum post about it?

Surely the fact that you feel that you have to treat people differently, based on nothing other than their racial origin suggests that there’s possibly an underlying issue?

Also, again, just to clarify - nobody gives a flying fuck about your personal preferences. That why we’re all here - to fulfil our personal fantasies.

But if you think you have to treat people of a non white British origin differently to those who are white British - that makes you a racist."

Yes, that's what I was wondering.

But some non white people take any rejection as racist, so that's why I was asking what was said.

"I don't fuck black/ asian men" would get a certain response I'm sure.

If they chuck in the racism card to a simple "no thank you" reply then the issue is theirs and not worth worrying about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t get these kind of threads. If you’re not attracted to someone you’re not attracted. I don’t see the problem here. There’s no need to say I’m not attracted to you because you’re Asian or I’m not attracted to you coz you’ve got a big nose or you’re bald. I think people create problems for themselves to be honest. Are you saying sorry I’m not attracted to Asians? If so why? Surely thanks but no thanks is enough. Or are they saying is it because I’m Asian/black/bald or whatever. If they’re saying that just ignore them. You don’t have to explain why.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don’t get these kind of threads. If you’re not attracted to someone you’re not attracted. I don’t see the problem here. There’s no need to say I’m not attracted to you because you’re Asian or I’m not attracted to you coz you’ve got a big nose or you’re bald. I think people create problems for themselves to be honest. Are you saying sorry I’m not attracted to Asians? If so why? Surely thanks but no thanks is enough. Or are they saying is it because I’m Asian/black/bald or whatever. If they’re saying that just ignore them. You don’t have to explain why. "

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By *onkyLemonsCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you tell them in advance they'll ask over a series of around twenty pm's from what I hear.....