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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Does this really exist or is it BS.? Didn't you belong to each other in the first place ?"
For starters it's a simple term to describe having sex with a primary partner after they had sex with someone else and very much exists in that context - so not really something to get hung up on semantics of a label over.
I'd also disagree that people "belong" to each other, which implies ownership of some sort (which I know to an extent contradicts my first point about getting hung up on semantics of terminology but think it's key that the sense of "ownership" the OP implies is clarified) |
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I think language is very important (it is to me anyway) and I dislike terms like "reclaim" and "share" applied to people. I think it perpetuates myths and stereotypes.
I'm quite a literal thinker though and will takes words at face value. |
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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago
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I appreciate the comments. I believe that some couples believe in ownership and especially in some sub Dom relationships. That aside I think more people think of partnership before ownership.
It's the reclaim bit that interests me. If it's reclaim sex then it seems there is a smattering of, 'your mine again' about it |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. |
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"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "
I like that phrase 'reunion sex'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.
I like that phrase 'reunion sex' "
Agreed, I was gonna go with reconnection sex but reunion is more fitting.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "
I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.
The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.
It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.
Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Experienced reclaim/reunion sex a couple of times with a primary partner after a meet with someone else. It wasn’t politically correct but it was incredibly hot.
But most of my sex life runs in opposition to the way I live the rest of my life. That’s what makes it dark and edgy for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ughhh I used to LOVE the reclaim fuck after a night in a club. Worked perfectly for the play scenarios we had.
Was never "owned" but I don't think that kind of label has to apply in any dynamic unless it's your kink.
It was always a big thing that I looked forward to with a play night.  |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?
Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.
There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing. "
Thanks butt you sea my right inn wood ant bee the best.
Tymes i can juice a boot red it me sail.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.
I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.
The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.
It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.
Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has."
In my experience, D/s dynamics have little to do with reunion sex (I'm using that phrase now!). It's far more prevalent in hotwife/stag & vixen or cuck dynamics, where one partner plays but the other waits for their return. It depends on individuals though. There are so many nuances at play that any encompassing terminology is almost impossible to define or make fit. |
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"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?
Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.
There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing. "
That seems a bit like sending the newbie down to stores to ask for a long weight! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?
Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.
There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing.
That seems a bit like sending the newbie down to stores to ask for a long weight!"
Since they are going anyway could they pick me up a skirting board ladder, a left handed screwdriver and some Tartan paint? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.
I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.
The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.
It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.
Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has.
In my experience, D/s dynamics have little to do with reunion sex (I'm using that phrase now!). It's far more prevalent in hotwife/stag & vixen or cuck dynamics, where one partner plays but the other waits for their return. It depends on individuals though. There are so many nuances at play that any encompassing terminology is almost impossible to define or make fit. "
OK good good point about D/s but still as you say, regardless of the relationship it is used, whatever its called a single phrase is never going to fit every scenario and dynamic. Reunion is pretty damn close though.
It is still focused on the power of the word instead of looking at the larger picture. Which is my main point overall of the power people give to individual words - if you look past the word itself, does it really matter what it is called when what really matters is what is under the label. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I obviously see things differently to other women because I believe a big part of my life is owned by my partner just as I own a big part of his life. We both could revoke that ownership any time we wish but we love each other and so dont ever see that happening.
I am a hotwife/vixen and my husband shares me with other men. I allow myself to be shared and want it to happen.
So reclaim sex is very much a thing for us and we enjoy it very much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.
I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "
I love this! Such a great way of looking at it. Reunion sex.
It's not about ownership or bdsm (for us). It's indescribable but such a buzz. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The semantics and context should be clarified but given this is mainly about sex, I see terms like this as kinky expressions (role play) for better experiences and has no real meaning outside of that
Know one belongs to anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same for both of us where comments about ownership are concerned..we re both free spirits though if she had sex with someone else I wouldn't necessarily want sex afterward cos I know she ll have had a real long enjoyable time of it and will probably be all puckered out   |
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