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Does cannot accommodate = cheating partner?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes - every single time. No one has any other circumstances in which they don’t want strangers in their home
In a previous incarnation, I received a message within 5 minutes of appearing on the forum asking why I couldn’t accommodate  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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Some people don't want to meet in their home for security reasons.
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Some may live with friends or family.
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Maybe it's a new home and it needs work doing.
I'm sure there's many other legitimate reasons .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never accommodate. I'm very much single. My home is my haven, my safe place and I'd never bring a meet there.
Do what suits you and what makes you feel comfortable. You don't have to explain yourself. People should accept you accommodate or you don't. |
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"I've seen it quite a few times but this was part of a status on here today which prompted me to post
'No attached (cannot accom) single males' "
That's because there area lot of fab single men about and people don't like deception.
People assume too much though better just to ask someone and they can decide if they answer or not. |
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It can mean that but not always. Some people have kids at home, some live with other family members or housemates, etc.
Personally I can occassionally accommodate if my partner is away or staying over with someone he is meeting/dating but because that's unpredictable I put can't accommodate.
Personally if a single person can't I prefer to see a brief explanation of why in their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
Nope...all you have to do is say why you can't accommodate...it's up to them to believe you or not ..you can't do anymore than that .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. Many don't want to have sex in their family home. Keeping it separate. I'm sure not all will assume that. "
This is why I don’t accommodate. I’m on here with my partner’s full knowledge and consent. But my family home is just that - my family home  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many reasons people cant accommodate. Single parent is one. Lodgers. Discretion not wanting strangers knocking on the door for nosey neighbours to see lol. Not always meaning cheating but yeah it does spring to mind most times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t accommodate in a trillion years unless I was in a long term relationship (which I don’t plan on doing again anyway). This is my children’s home and I wouldn’t dream of it. Besides I don’t want anyone to know where I live, ever. I’m know 3 men in the same situation. I really don’t get why people assume they must be married! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It often does mean that, so if I were a man who could not accomm I would mention it on my profile. 'Why?' is one of the first questions I ask, there are a lot of married men on here."
Yes there is which doesn’t bother me, what does bother me is if they lie about it. It’s the first question I ask people anyway. It’s usually quite easy to work out if they are lying tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can accomm but when it happens it will be in a airb&b which i will sort out. Won't have people in my place as i don't want randoms rocking up pissed and Horny!!
Also have kids at home and parents in the same street, that's a lot of explaining if there is more than one meet in a week (I'm lonely a lot haha)
It works quite well really, I pay on a credit card for the air B&B and pay it off by the end of the month! Credit rating improves, it's win, win  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No and I think people who jump straight to that opinion must have had some bad experiences somewhere along the line! I'd never ever accommodate as it's my family home and I have to keep my daughter safe. |
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Unfortunately op there are so many ‘single’ men on here who are playing away behind their partner’s back that have cannot accommodate on their profiles that all guys with it get tarred with the same brush.
There are many reasons other than being attached that people have for not accommodating strangers in their home for sex. Kids, house share, live in carer for a relative, just don’t want to etc.
Maybe put something on your profile to say why you can’t/won’t accommodate if it bothers you that people make assumptions. |
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I never assume that, when I see it on a profile.
People can't or won't accommodate for a multitude of reasons.
I can't, I have children at home, teenagers who appear without warning. Older grown up ones who pop in randomly when passing.
And lesson learnt the hard way, giving my address to someone doesn't always end well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think these days it's so expensive to rent/buy that many people no longer live alone.
Most of my single friends either live with housemates or family. So if someone says they can't accommodate I assume it's because of this. |
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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago
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It could mean that but could also mean lot of other reasons
People share houses now have kids live with family or just wana keep this life seperate from there normal home life lots of reasons best never to assume or judge and could allways ask respectfully |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I think that often people assume that as, along with a few other tell tale signs, it can mean that they're cheating.
Making the assumption out of the gate is very judgemental but in many ways its helpful. For the women and couples doing it, it thins the herd. For the single guys, it rules out those that jump to hasty conclusions.
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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Strange world Fab..somd think Gents are cheating if they can't, ladies not so.
Whatever reason there maybe (if you wish to state on your profile thats your choice) it is equally as apllicable to all on here.  |
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We'd love to have the option to have people around for fun, but with offspring living here it's not going to be possible. We won't ask them to stay away from their home just to have sex with others.
When they leave home then things will change for us ad some of our fab friends. |
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Not in every case but think the other way round. How many guys that are fab single can accommodate?
If you don't want to meet the fab single guys discounting those that can't gets rid of most and it's a numbers game. There are plenty of single guys that can accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't want people in my house that are essentially strangers. Can you imagine if the 'relationship' with a couple etc turned sour. Not playing on my own doorstep, literally! |
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I think, for men, that a lot of stuff is presumed to = cheating. With women hardly anyone cares if they are or not.
Plus a good majority of 'single' men on here are cheating and hide it coz they know most women don't want to fuck them.
As a female i can be honest and put it on my profile and i'll still get fucked. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We don't accommodate for the safety of our child. If it's a couple we know well then maybe but even then our son would have to he at a relatives house!
Most single guys in our area who cant accommodate have in their profile it's because they're playing away! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't accommodate for the safety of our child. If it's a couple we know well then maybe but even then our son would have to he at a relatives house!
Most single guys in our area who cant accommodate have in their profile it's because they're playing away!"
Excuse me. I know lots of femails all playing away and cheating. |
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Excuse me. I know lots of femails all playing away and cheating. "
You say that like it matters.
I would suggest that a lot of people use the cheating argument to thin the herd. The herd of available females doesn't need thinning, quite the opposite.
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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"We don't accommodate for the safety of our child. If it's a couple we know well then maybe but even then our son would have to he at a relatives house!
Most single guys in our area who cant accommodate have in their profile it's because they're playing away!
Excuse me. I know lots of femails all playing away and cheating. "
Perhaps so we wouldn't play with them either!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rent a room in someone's family home, it would be very disrespectful to bring fab people back there even when they are out! But I still get messages asking why I can't accorm and am I cheating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a generalisation then yes attached people can't accommodate and if they did that's quite yucky ... so people aren't being judgmental just pragmatic in a place where "most" singles actually aren't ... lots of singles that can't accommodate for other reasons find it best to state why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t accommodate as I keep this life very separate from my private life so no giving out my phone number or where I live just my choice and yes it does cut opportunities to meet |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
So would it be ok if they accomodate when the partner is at work or away somewhere?
Did no one ever think that some people might not want to invite strangers into their house who they know fuk all about???
Must be lots of cheating women too because plenty of them dont accomodate either. |
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Not accommodating on its own doesn't mean someone is cheating.
Sadly for males ,much of fab thinks that those who don't accom are cheats.Same doesn't always apply to women who do not accom.
Many don't want strangers in their home or live with family.
There are usually other giveaways when someone is cheating .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Excuse me. I know lots of femails all playing away and cheating.
You say that like it matters.
I would suggest that a lot of people use the cheating argument to thin the herd. The herd of available females doesn't need thinning, quite the opposite.
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So am i reading this correct that you are saying that a cheating women that cant accomodate is ok as there is less women than men on here. If so bit sexest that |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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Excuse me. I know lots of femails all playing away and cheating.
You say that like it matters.
I would suggest that a lot of people use the cheating argument to thin the herd. The herd of available females doesn't need thinning, quite the opposite.
So am i reading this correct that you are saying that a cheating women that cant accomodate is ok as there is less women than men on here. If so bit sexest that"
Its normally ok only because most men actually dont care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my case it means I am a full time mother and have two sons with special needs.. so not really ideal! It could be many reasons, like house sharing or family living at home .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
most assume it, just put a reason on profile you cant change peoples assumptions of you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
There are many that assume this is the case. Personally I don't care because I don't accommodate either. People's reasons are their own and not really anyone else's business. If I feel like I have to explain my reasons to someone then we're going no further. I want nsa sex not to bring them home to meet my mother! That's why hotels are so perfect. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t involve myself in the reasons why people can’t accommodate. I wouldn’t ever accommodate in my own home so I wouldn’t question why others don’t do it.
My home life and fab life are completely separate and I wouldn’t mix the two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cannot accommodate with no reason as to why not given, asking to be discrete / discretion required and not been forth coming with face pictures all taken together usually mean the person is cheating. After a while on fab you get adept at reading all the signs.
If you can't accommodate for genuine reasons then I recommend adding those reasons to your profile especially when your a single male simply due to the numbers of other males that your up against.
Good luck in the hunt x
KJ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine "
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it  . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it. "
us guys especially me dont read profiles anyway so your safe the ones who say they do are telling porkies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it. "
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had issues with a stalker in the past. At the time I lived in a flat on the ground floor. It ended with me calling the police who turned up to find her on my balcony with a large kitchen knife in her hand!
Just another reason why someone may choose not to accommodate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once posted a thread asking for profile advice and everyone jumped on the fact I had, cannot accommodate. Most said it immediately red flagged me as untrustworthy. A few even flat out accused me of being a cheating husband despite never knowing or talking to me.
I am completely single and available btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it...."
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it....
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin "
Omg, so how do you sort the ones to reply to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile says I can accommodate because I can (I think it does anyway, I haven't checked) but its be extremely unlikely in reality that I would unless she was a reular gf or very trusted friend. I don't really need anyone turning up on my doorstep talking to my daughter (which has happened in regular life). My home life is my business unless I share it and fabbers don't tend to be the most stable of folk either in my limited experience.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it....
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin
Omg, so how do you sort the ones to reply to?"
It’s a very complex flowchart process! It goes something like.....
Cock pic as profile pic = instant delete (unless there’s something really intelligent or witty in the first line of the message that makes me want to respond - not usually the case)
Openers such as “meet now” / “can I buy....” / “I’d destroy you all night long...” (etc... you get the gist) = instant delete
Anything else, I’ll generally open and read. Then...
If there’s no punctuation and I’m struggling to even read it = don’t bother trying to read and instant delete.
Then.... I’m looking for wit, intelligence, respectfulness, the suggestion that my profile has been read.....
This is usually 1 in every 20 by this point.
It feels like screening candidates for a job sometimes
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Hence why I avoid it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it....
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin
Omg, so how do you sort the ones to reply to?
It’s a very complex flowchart process! It goes something like.....
Cock pic as profile pic = instant delete (unless there’s something really intelligent or witty in the first line of the message that makes me want to respond - not usually the case)
Openers such as “meet now” / “can I buy....” / “I’d destroy you all night long...” (etc... you get the gist) = instant delete
Anything else, I’ll generally open and read. Then...
If there’s no punctuation and I’m struggling to even read it = don’t bother trying to read and instant delete.
Then.... I’m looking for wit, intelligence, respectfulness, the suggestion that my profile has been read.....
This is usually 1 in every 20 by this point.
It feels like screening candidates for a job sometimes
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Hence why I avoid it "
I feel privileged..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it....
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin
Omg, so how do you sort the ones to reply to?
It’s a very complex flowchart process! It goes something like.....
Cock pic as profile pic = instant delete (unless there’s something really intelligent or witty in the first line of the message that makes me want to respond - not usually the case)
Openers such as “meet now” / “can I buy....” / “I’d destroy you all night long...” (etc... you get the gist) = instant delete
Anything else, I’ll generally open and read. Then...
If there’s no punctuation and I’m struggling to even read it = don’t bother trying to read and instant delete.
Then.... I’m looking for wit, intelligence, respectfulness, the suggestion that my profile has been read.....
This is usually 1 in every 20 by this point.
It feels like screening candidates for a job sometimes
.
Hence why I avoid it
I feel privileged....."
You are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it.
If they're distrustful before you even get to talk or explain then are they really the kind of ppl you want to talk to anyway...? Duck your heard under it....
Oh yeah totally, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I was just reflecting on the ever-evolving minefield that is Fab. Im fact, I’m grateful for the percentage who don’t read my profile... I currently have 1154 unread messages. I really should keep on top of the admin
Omg, so how do you sort the ones to reply to?
It’s a very complex flowchart process! It goes something like.....
Cock pic as profile pic = instant delete (unless there’s something really intelligent or witty in the first line of the message that makes me want to respond - not usually the case)
Openers such as “meet now” / “can I buy....” / “I’d destroy you all night long...” (etc... you get the gist) = instant delete
Anything else, I’ll generally open and read. Then...
If there’s no punctuation and I’m struggling to even read it = don’t bother trying to read and instant delete.
Then.... I’m looking for wit, intelligence, respectfulness, the suggestion that my profile has been read.....
This is usually 1 in every 20 by this point.
It feels like screening candidates for a job sometimes
.
Hence why I avoid it
I feel privileged....."
In all honesty the reason I think my inbox has got so out of hand and is overflowing (and don’t laugh at me).....
I actually used to feel mean deleting without acknowledgement. I felt like it was rude and I didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings (even complete strangers who I don’t know and will never meet ). I’m basically a bit of wimp, probably too soft hearted for the world of swinging!! Christ knows how I’ve survived ....  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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I have my own reasons for accommodating or not, for meeting or not.
If people want to believe that means I'm married or attached, go for it. It's your choice, I don't blame you as that is understandably the most "common" and easily explained reason - not everyone is honest, but not everyone is looking to cheat and lie their way to things.
As I say I have my own reasons for why things are as they are. I'm not looking for quick random meets so I'm not going to explain them to a random stranger. I'll give an explanation to whoever I like in my own time - depending on who, that could be in the first few messages, or it could be further along.
I don't owe anyone explanations, nor do I expect anyone to just accept and be happy with my stance on it. If you are not okay with that, that is fine. Move along as we wouldn't be compatible in that case. |
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over a year ago
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"I have my own reasons for accommodating or not, for meeting or not.
If people want to believe that means I'm married or attached, go for it. It's your choice, I don't blame you as that is understandably the most "common" and easily explained reason - not everyone is honest, but not everyone is looking to cheat and lie their way to things.
As I say I have my own reasons for why things are as they are. I'm not looking for quick random meets so I'm not going to explain them to a random stranger. I'll give an explanation to whoever I like in my own time - depending on who, that could be in the first few messages, or it could be further along.
I don't owe anyone explanations, nor do I expect anyone to just accept and be happy with my stance on it. If you are not okay with that, that is fine. Move along as we wouldn't be compatible in that case. "
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over a year ago
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I can't and would not accommodate at my home. My 2 daughters live with me. Its their home .
Also I would not want someone knowing where I live just in case he was horny and would come round at anytime he wanted to relieve himself .
Maybe I'm over thinking the last comment . Maybe there are not men that do this . Apologies if offended. |
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I play at home and will only play with those who accommodate also.
No one has to justify to me why they don't accommodate: I don't care, I'm just not inviting anyone into my home who won't let me into theirs. |
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over a year ago
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"I can't and would not accommodate at my home. My 2 daughters live with me. Its their home .
Also I would not want someone knowing where I live just in case he was horny and would come round at anytime he wanted to relieve himself .
Maybe I'm over thinking the last comment . Maybe there are not men that do this . Apologies if offended. "
Don't apologise, some men do turn up at all hours, even in front of children, demanding another fuck. Many reports from people who have experienced this. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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" Also I would not want someone knowing where I live just in case he was horny and would come round at anytime he wanted to relieve himself .
Maybe I'm over thinking the last comment . Maybe there are not men that do this . Apologies if offended. "
No, there are men like that out there. Pre last relationship and kids i had a two night stand and made mistake of bringing him back to mine as it was on the way back from the pub where we were.
Everytime he went out with his mates i’d get stones thrown at my bedroom window (if the house was in darkness cos I was in bed) or he’d knock on my door. Despite me telling him to do one. All because he was d*unk and horny .
The only thing that put an end to it was when he knocked on the door and i had a male friend visiting, who he saw. He got quite flustered and apologetic and left sharpish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't and would not accommodate at my home. My 2 daughters live with me. Its their home .
Also I would not want someone knowing where I live just in case he was horny and would come round at anytime he wanted to relieve himself .
Maybe I'm over thinking the last comment . Maybe there are not men that do this . Apologies if offended.
Don't apologise, some men do turn up at all hours, even in front of children, demanding another fuck. Many reports from people who have experienced this."
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It does for some but can mean many things. Perhaps some who cheat list themselves as can accom, to help distract or confuse to help stop being caught out.
Adding a simple explanation will be fine for many |
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over a year ago
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I live alone. And certainly wouldn't even consider inviting a complete stranger into my home. And it should apply to men as well. Way to many nutters in this world. So if people want to make assumptions on why you can't a accommodate. Let them. Safety first. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm single, living on my own. The main reason I don't accommodate is I don't want my neighbours to know what I'm up to.
Plus my profile says I can't accommodate but every Friday and Saturday night I get messages from guys who want to come to mine. Imagine how many would be wanting to visit if I did accommodate? |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
I've seen Couples in their profile, state in writing, that in their mind, any guy who cannot accommodate must be married & cheating behind their wife's back!!
Rather singular in approach and not prepared to accept there could be perfectly valid reasons!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
Doubt it, kids at home, house share, lots of genuine reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is who cares my reasons are mine
I’m now wondering if people think that about mine when they see it . I don’t accommodate because my home and swinging lives are completely separate and that’s how I like to keep it. My profile does state that I’m in a relationship and on here with his consent...but I’m not sure how many would read past the don’t accommodate bit if they jumped to that conclusion. Hmmm. Minefield isn’t it. us guys especially me dont read profiles anyway so your safe the ones who say they do are telling porkies "
I do. But i can read and love reading. |
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I think "Cannot Accomodate" often means "Don't want to accomodate" particularly with single women who quite understandibly don't want to invite strangers into their home, also single parents of both sexes for the same reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It can mean I'm not having you at mine as its a shit tip or it can mean I live with my mum and dad. "
Or it can mean I'm not having you at mine because I live with my wife's mum and dad and it's a shit tip! |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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"I think "Cannot Accomodate" often means "Don't want to accomodate" particularly with single women who quite understandibly don't want to invite strangers into their home, also single parents of both sexes for the same reason."
This is how we feel even as a couple. We have a child this is his space. We don't want to bring others into it if that makes sense?? |
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over a year ago
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"I've seen on a few profiles while browsing that this is a common thought.
I've just moved to live with my sister for a few months, for me that's a genuine reason for not being able to accommodate. But it sounds like others will read that as me being a cheating partner and will rule me out straight away. "
So me not wanting people to know where I live means that I'm cheating when I'm single lol OK mate.
You cant assume that, people are in different situations. |
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We won’t accommodate because we just don’t want people coming into our home. And we know plenty of single men that feel the same and prefer hotels or clubs. Most men that cheat are upfront when you chat anyway so I wouldn’t worry about it. |
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"I never accommodate. I'm very much single. My home is my haven, my safe place and I'd never bring a meet there.
Do what suits you and what makes you feel comfortable. You don't have to explain yourself. People should accept you accommodate or you don't. "
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I live with my son but if he was not here i still would not accommodate. For a safety aspect i do not want men knowing where i live and i also do not want my Fab life to be mixed with my home life. I am quite happy to pay half of all hotel cost so dont really find it a big issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many of fab don’t accommodate at home for many reasons, that’s their choice but some are doing it for the wrong reasons. We cannot change that so leave them to it and find the right people for you even if means going half’s on a hotel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people want to think that your cheating then let them!!
I would rather keep my home separate from Fab as it's exactly that...my home, my sanctuary away from the world for me!!
There are dayuse rooms, air b&b's, normal hotels etc that can be arranged!!
Sadly though it's the way of the world, you must be hiding something. |
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"No. Many don't want to have sex in their family home. Keeping it separate. I'm sure not all will assume that. "
That pretty much sums us up. In over 10 years doing this together we never have and never will.
However we do think that quite a lot (not all) of "single" profiles that cannot accommodate are cheaters. Not only on FAB but also on the German and Spanish sites that we use.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope I’m a single dad 2 kids at home and have a sitter over so I can go out and enjoy myself... everyone has there own reasons don’t put us all in same category |
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I have a colleague renting a room off me, so for obvious reasons I don't play at home,, plus someone would want 2 massive dogs jumping on them coming Tru the door, could have a heart attack and then what do I do.
Nope hotel rooms are the only way to go, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really doesn't 100% indicate anything there are a large number of attached men on here who's profile say they can accommodate.
Those who can't accommodate just don't want you round at their house. Having a partner there is just one of many possibilities for not doing so. |
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