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So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
"veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself  | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. "  this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs 
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. " Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? | |||
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"I like my social meet veris. The only way I won't show a veri is if it has my real name in it. You can't please everyone so I'm pleasing myself. They are nice to read back and remind myself of that day x" I love reading social veris  as long as they’re not graphic sex ones I think they’re lovely x | |||
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"You do what you want its your profile! It may make some people avoid you but did you really want to meet that sort of person anyway? NO! " That’s my take too. But it’s funny how people are making decisions based on wanting to avoid drama rather than just because they don’t want to... | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs
I don’t like drama "But are the drama causers friends or potential meets? | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? " It's my ball that they're using, so I'm putting it away. | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself "Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others... | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? It's my ball that they're using, so I'm putting it away. "Ha ha so it’s avoiding others rather than just because you don’t want to? | |||
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"You do what you want its your profile! It may make some people avoid you but did you really want to meet that sort of person anyway? NO! That’s my take too. But it’s funny how people are making decisions based on wanting to avoid drama rather than just because they don’t want to..." Thats how people have bad meets in general hidden comparability issues come up when meeting in person. I am always 100% clear I keep my hat on in bed but its a drama too far for some.  | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs
I don’t like drama
But are the drama causers friends or potential meets? "I find SM are the worse. It’s a swinging site
So potential meets and repeat meets when they see veris can cause drama. Hence, I often hide because I don’t want to play those games. | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs
I don’t like drama
But are the drama causers friends or potential meets? "Usually it's neither, the ones causing the drama are often third parties who are keeping tabs on people they want to meet, have met or have just taken a dislike to. Idle gossip can be a nasty and vicious thing at times. | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs
I don’t like drama
But are the drama causers friends or potential meets?
Usually it's neither, the ones causing the drama are often third parties who are keeping tabs on people they want to meet, have met or have just taken a dislike to. Idle gossip can be a nasty and vicious thing at times. "That’s my point.. are irrelevant people affecting how you use fab? | |||
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"I used to show them but I know prefer to keep them private. It’s between me and who I meet with. " Because of trouble or just because that’s how you prefer it? | |||
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"You do what you want its your profile! It may make some people avoid you but did you really want to meet that sort of person anyway? NO! That’s my take too. But it’s funny how people are making decisions based on wanting to avoid drama rather than just because they don’t want to..." Why is it funny if they want to avoid drama? Some people want a quiet life. Some people want everyone to know their business. Some people post their business online but complain their business is private. | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? It's my ball that they're using, so I'm putting it away.
Ha ha so it’s avoiding others rather than just because you don’t want to?"If people behaved with respect and not with possessiveness or jealousy then that might be a different matter, so often though, drama is caused by meeting people or people looking at who you've met and making assumptions. I think I'd rather keep who I'm meeting between myself and who I meet. It's simpler and nicer that way. | |||
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"I hide everything because that's how I am. I usually feel guilty after a social when I've met nice people and they've given me veris but I just want to hide them. I don't know about people stirring. If they like drama that's cool. " Yeah I get that. I’m wondering how the stirrers affect others. They’re not people I associate with so to me their opinion is worthless. | |||
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"I show some, don't show the majority. It's for a myriad of reasons really - I'm all too aware of how people can talk about them and react about them but also sometimes I just don't want to. I tend to not give much weight to idle gossip or veris; I've had times where person X has said "oh but person Y said person Z was crap in bed" and I don't readily believe it. Veris don't always accurately reflect a situation either; the only people who truly know what's going on is the person verifying and the verification receiver." Yup.. agreed. Nobody knows the dynamics between 2 people and that varies dramatically! I wonder how many people are using the site as they wish as opposed to being affected by how others behave... | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? It's my ball that they're using, so I'm putting it away.
Ha ha so it’s avoiding others rather than just because you don’t want to?
If people behaved with respect and not with possessiveness or jealousy then that might be a different matter, so often though, drama is caused by meeting people or people looking at who you've met and making assumptions.
I think I'd rather keep who I'm meeting between myself and who I meet. It's simpler and nicer that way. "Agreed. So you are affected by those around you.. | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? " Exactly! I'm not into games, let the haters hate. Not my issue so I'll show what I want and if people dont like it then they dont have to read it | |||
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"Most of ours are from socials either group ones or on/ones. Fuck what everyone else does or thinks.. They mean very little anyway tbh, if there's only one or two do some homework as some don't even mean you actually exist in real life!
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? Exactly! I'm not into games, let the haters hate. Not my issue so I'll show what I want and if people dont like it then they dont have to read it " I kinda feel if everyone behaves differently because of the behaviour of others then somehow the haters win!! | |||
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" Veris don't always accurately reflect a situation either; the only people who truly know what's going on is the person verifying and the verification receiver. Yup.. agreed. Nobody knows the dynamics between 2 people and that varies dramatically! I wonder how many people are using the site as they wish as opposed to being affected by how others behave..." I do think it takes a particular rare sort to want to make up their own mind about a person. It's human nature, to some extent, to listen to what others say about another, critically thinking about why is different. People talk and that's undeniable. And sometimes it does get to you because fuck knows people can be twunts. I think I'm getting to the point where I've been on the site for a loooong time and now just think fuck it. I'll do me (not setting out to hurt others but also not not being true to me). | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? Exactly! I'm not into games, let the haters hate. Not my issue so I'll show what I want and if people dont like it then they dont have to read it
I kinda feel if everyone behaves differently because of the behaviour of others then somehow the haters win!! "I see your point, it's not just the haters though. I firmly believe that a verification is just to show that you're real, that you're as you say and that's it. Everything else is a matter of opinion. Much as they're flattering and really nice, I'm not going to have the same experience with the next person so they're kind of irrelevant to other people. | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
"I'll put what I want on my profile and if people don't like it they can feck off lol. | |||
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" Veris don't always accurately reflect a situation either; the only people who truly know what's going on is the person verifying and the verification receiver. Yup.. agreed. Nobody knows the dynamics between 2 people and that varies dramatically! I wonder how many people are using the site as they wish as opposed to being affected by how others behave... I do think it takes a particular rare sort to want to make up their own mind about a person. It's human nature, to some extent, to listen to what others say about another, critically thinking about why is different. People talk and that's undeniable. And sometimes it does get to you because fuck knows people can be twunts. I think I'm getting to the point where I've been on the site for a loooong time and now just think fuck it. I'll do me (not setting out to hurt others but also not not being true to me)." It’s a really sad state of affairs when stuff like this is an issue because of others. Maybe I’m too much of an idealist but I sometimes think we are letting the nasties win by even thinking about how we should behave. People who pm warning others about members that are nothing to do with them really need to take a good look at themselves. | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. Is it a game when it’s only the other person playing? Exactly! I'm not into games, let the haters hate. Not my issue so I'll show what I want and if people dont like it then they dont have to read it
I kinda feel if everyone behaves differently because of the behaviour of others then somehow the haters win!!
I see your point, it's not just the haters though.
I firmly believe that a verification is just to show that you're real, that you're as you say and that's it. Everything else is a matter of opinion.
Much as they're flattering and really nice, I'm not going to have the same experience with the next person so they're kind of irrelevant to other people.
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"I used to show my veris in their entirety, but after a few messages from individuals ‘putting down’ the people I’d chosen to meet; and another throwing their toys out of the pram, I now hide them. I will now only show a veri if I choose to, whether social or not, out of respect to that individual but only for a couple of days. If they choose to show my veri that is entirely up to them. I explain this to anyone I meet now, for some we choose not to veri each over at all. " What kind of people actually message to comment on another person?!? That’s just pathetic.. think I’m more of the mindset that this kind of behaviour is going unchallenged at the expense of others fun. | |||
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"I don't even bother getting or giving veris unless they really want one. I don't show them anyway. I've found it's easier to just keep things private." Is that because you just prefer that or because of negative experience? | |||
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"I used to show them but I know prefer to keep them private. It’s between me and who I meet with. Because of trouble or just because that’s how you prefer it? " I did have a bit of trouble, which made me reflect on them. And in conclusion I just think some things are better left private. | |||
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"I used to show my veris in their entirety, but after a few messages from individuals ‘putting down’ the people I’d chosen to meet; and another throwing their toys out of the pram, I now hide them. I will now only show a veri if I choose to, whether social or not, out of respect to that individual but only for a couple of days. If they choose to show my veri that is entirely up to them. I explain this to anyone I meet now, for some we choose not to veri each over at all. What kind of people actually message to comment on another person?!? That’s just pathetic.. think I’m more of the mindset that this kind of behaviour is going unchallenged at the expense of others fun." These people are clearly after attention, ignoring them hurts far more than confronting them. | |||
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"I used to show them but I know prefer to keep them private. It’s between me and who I meet with. Because of trouble or just because that’s how you prefer it? I did have a bit of trouble, which made me reflect on them. And in conclusion I just think some things are better left private. " That’s ridiculous!! Maybe I’m just frustrated that those causing trouble get away with it and affect what should be a fun experience. | |||
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"I had someone message a guy I'd verified calling me all sorts of things. He showed me the messages. I think it's sad that others go out their way to do that. Life's too fecking short x" It's happened to me too, it's pathetic but I just try to ignore it. | |||
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"Group social veris, are displayed. Threads for those are on the forum, so it's already public who attends. But I rarely give, a veri from a 1:1 social, and I don't display them if I receive them either. Too many people on here use veris as a points scoring system, to have subtle digs, and play games I left that shit behind at playschool " It’s really sad that people have nothing better to do than this.. I kinda feel like they’re winning with the amount of people who have to overthink this! | |||
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"I used to show my veris in their entirety, but after a few messages from individuals ‘putting down’ the people I’d chosen to meet; and another throwing their toys out of the pram, I now hide them. I will now only show a veri if I choose to, whether social or not, out of respect to that individual but only for a couple of days. If they choose to show my veri that is entirely up to them. I explain this to anyone I meet now, for some we choose not to veri each over at all. What kind of people actually message to comment on another person?!? That’s just pathetic.. think I’m more of the mindset that this kind of behaviour is going unchallenged at the expense of others fun." Oh you’d be surprised, or maybe not, the amount of people that comment on others that they haven’t met. The first message I received like that, they also instant blocked, so I couldn’t respond, I still reported them People can try and put you off individuals, but I make up my own mind and decide who I meet, no-one else | |||
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"We'd like the option of a separate colour for social meets and play meets, as your verifications can soon add up with socials in the mix. Some people who only glance at verifications and don't make a difference, think you're hardened swingers and it puts them off. Which leads to another question, what is a hardened swinger? Any views on that score? To some it maybe loads of verifications, to others, a different reason." Someone with 4 veris could be a hardened swinger. They may meet in clubs every night and be on 16 other sex sites. Someone with 350 veris could have 349 social veris and only fucked 1 person. If your profile or veris put them off it just means you're not compatible, not that you're a bad person/ people. I won't meet people with more than 4 veris on their profile. | |||
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"I used to show them but I know prefer to keep them private. It’s between me and who I meet with. Because of trouble or just because that’s how you prefer it? I did have a bit of trouble, which made me reflect on them. And in conclusion I just think some things are better left private. That’s ridiculous!! Maybe I’m just frustrated that those causing trouble get away with it and affect what should be a fun experience." I don’t hide them to avoid trouble. I really don’t care about what the haters think. I just think some things are nobody else’s business. | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
"yeah mostly I sod the haters.. only take issue when people seem to think its okay to message verifications to stir | |||
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"I don't even bother getting or giving veris unless they really want one. I don't show them anyway. I've found it's easier to just keep things private. Is that because you just prefer that or because of negative experience? " No majorly bad experiences. I've had some digs when they used to be on show - about the person or when I've chose to meet them, if I've had another chat going on at the same time. It's just a kind of odd concept, if I met someone on Tinder or in a pub we wouldn't review each other publicly. I get their original purpose for proving someone is real, but I'll meet someone without any no problem. I can figure out myself if they're for real. I still find it quite fun reading other people's | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself
Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others..."well its my feeling on it but having associated and chatted with many women who have been involved in negativity associated with veris and people theyve met or are about to meet i think others could learn from it, couples as a rule dont care about others visiting their unit they have each other but single men and women can suffer from the negative vibes of the showing off aspect of play veris and status updates, meet by all means but keep it to yourself its safer | |||
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"I used to show my veris in their entirety, but after a few messages from individuals ‘putting down’ the people I’d chosen to meet; and another throwing their toys out of the pram, I now hide them. I will now only show a veri if I choose to, whether social or not, out of respect to that individual but only for a couple of days. If they choose to show my veri that is entirely up to them. I explain this to anyone I meet now, for some we choose not to veri each over at all. What kind of people actually message to comment on another person?!? That’s just pathetic.. think I’m more of the mindset that this kind of behaviour is going unchallenged at the expense of others fun. Oh you’d be surprised, or maybe not, the amount of people that comment on others that they haven’t met. The first message I received like that, they also instant blocked, so I couldn’t respond, I still reported them People can try and put you off individuals, but I make up my own mind and decide who I meet, no-one else " It’s mental!! Genuinely shocked at some of the stuff I’ve witnessed recently. Don’t get how people invest so much time and energy into others they’ve never even met! | |||
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"I've currently got my social verifications on show from the Birmingham social last week. I'll probably hide them soon though, just because I dislike giving people the veri trail to follow. I find that veris are used by others for all sorts of reasons, usually to measure themselves against others that you've met or to nose about who you've met. Personally I don't want to play either game. this for me.
I unhide sometimes or to show others but some go down the ‘rabbit-hole’ with Verifications and jealous etc occurs
I don’t like drama
But are the drama causers friends or potential meets?
I find SM are the worse. It’s a swinging site
So potential meets and repeat meets when they see veris can cause drama. Hence, I often hide because I don’t want to play those games. "Exactly some don't like what you have on your shopping list, or to see what they've been sampling. We should all be free to do as we please.
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself
Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others...well its my feeling on it but having associated and chatted with many women who have been involved in negativity associated with veris and people theyve met or are about to meet i think others could learn from it, couples as a rule dont care about others visiting their unit they have each other but single men and women can suffer from the negative vibes of the showing off aspect of play veris and status updates, meet by all means but keep it to yourself its safer "Get the whole self preservation thing. Just think it’s sad people have to on something that’s so irrelevant to anyone else. | |||
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"I was asked to unhide mine so a person could see them, stupidly I did and then they contacted people off my veris to ask about me. I found that stalkerish for one but pretty offensive as well. So they remain hidden now." Bloody hell thats crazy!! Some people are really odd.. | |||
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" The first message I received like that, they also instant blocked, so I couldn’t respond, I still reported them " Reported them for what reason? | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself
Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others...well its my feeling on it but having associated and chatted with many women who have been involved in negativity associated with veris and people theyve met or are about to meet i think others could learn from it, couples as a rule dont care about others visiting their unit they have each other but single men and women can suffer from the negative vibes of the showing off aspect of play veris and status updates, meet by all means but keep it to yourself its safer
Get the whole self preservation thing. Just think it’s sad people have to on something that’s so irrelevant to anyone else."it is sad but the green eyed monster is a life thing you can't get around the fact it exists so why deny it just stifle it, dont brag | |||
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"I don't even bother getting or giving veris unless they really want one. I don't show them anyway. I've found it's easier to just keep things private. Is that because you just prefer that or because of negative experience? No majorly bad experiences. I've had some digs when they used to be on show - about the person or when I've chose to meet them, if I've had another chat going on at the same time. " Yeah, I've been told off for meeting someone when I'm not meeting anyone. The reality is they don't even know how many I have been. | |||
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"I was asked to unhide mine so a person could see them, stupidly I did and then they contacted people off my veris to ask about me. I found that stalkerish for one but pretty offensive as well. So they remain hidden now. Bloody hell thats crazy!! Some people are really odd.. " I know, fortunately a friend got in touch and made me aware they had been contacted, he wasnt very impressed with them for doing it either....just made me rethink them all together. | |||
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"I had someone message a guy I'd verified calling me all sorts of things. He showed me the messages. I think it's sad that others go out their way to do that. Life's too fecking short x It's happened to me too, it's pathetic but I just try to ignore it. " I ignore now. At the time it bothered me. I genuinely found it baffling as to why she was doing it x | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
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Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself
Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others...well its my feeling on it but having associated and chatted with many women who have been involved in negativity associated with veris and people theyve met or are about to meet i think others could learn from it, couples as a rule dont care about others visiting their unit they have each other but single men and women can suffer from the negative vibes of the showing off aspect of play veris and status updates, meet by all means but keep it to yourself its safer
Get the whole self preservation thing. Just think it’s sad people have to on something that’s so irrelevant to anyone else.it is sad but the green eyed monster is a life thing you can't get around the fact it exists so why deny it just stifle it, dont brag "Mine are social only so nowt to brag about! just think the dynamics of fab are funny sometimes.. | |||
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"I was asked to unhide mine so a person could see them, stupidly I did and then they contacted people off my veris to ask about me. I found that stalkerish for one but pretty offensive as well. So they remain hidden now. Bloody hell thats crazy!! Some people are really odd.. I know, fortunately a friend got in touch and made me aware they had been contacted, he wasnt very impressed with them for doing it either....just made me rethink them all together." All of the above, plus Bouncing off back of veris too hence, mostly hidden. | |||
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"I had someone message a guy I'd verified calling me all sorts of things. He showed me the messages. I think it's sad that others go out their way to do that. Life's too fecking short x It's happened to me too, it's pathetic but I just try to ignore it. I ignore now. At the time it bothered me. I genuinely found it baffling as to why she was doing it x" That’s crap! obviously had nothing better to do.. I find the whole thing weird why people get so interested in others lives! | |||
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"I was asked to unhide mine so a person could see them, stupidly I did and then they contacted people off my veris to ask about me. I found that stalkerish for one but pretty offensive as well. So they remain hidden now. Bloody hell thats crazy!! Some people are really odd.. I know, fortunately a friend got in touch and made me aware they had been contacted, he wasnt very impressed with them for doing it either....just made me rethink them all together." Yeah I can imagine! What an odd thing to do | |||
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"Our profile. Our business. Too many veri's for some. Not enough veri's for others Don't like it? Dont contact us! It's really that simple. We've been on the side where someone gave a couple of our veri's a hard time. We also know someone we gave a veri to had an equally hard time from a couple they'd met a few times. Hence why we don't show them anymore Can't be doing with drama llamas! " Isn’t it crazy though how a few words can cause so much trouble from people we don’t even know or care about!?! Baffling that some have this much energy to cause trouble. | |||
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"I had someone message a guy I'd verified calling me all sorts of things. He showed me the messages. I think it's sad that others go out their way to do that. Life's too fecking short x It's happened to me too, it's pathetic but I just try to ignore it. I ignore now. At the time it bothered me. I genuinely found it baffling as to why she was doing it x" Yeah, it's pretty crappy and can make you feel like shit. | |||
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
veris equal bragging and bragging equals trouble social veris are fine but best to keep what you do and who you meet to yourself
Which is great if you do that for you.. but I’m wondering how many do that for fear of others...well its my feeling on it but having associated and chatted with many women who have been involved in negativity associated with veris and people theyve met or are about to meet i think others could learn from it, couples as a rule dont care about others visiting their unit they have each other but single men and women can suffer from the negative vibes of the showing off aspect of play veris and status updates, meet by all means but keep it to yourself its safer
Get the whole self preservation thing. Just think it’s sad people have to on something that’s so irrelevant to anyone else.it is sad but the green eyed monster is a life thing you can't get around the fact it exists so why deny it just stifle it, dont brag
Mine are social only so nowt to brag about! just think the dynamics of fab are funny sometimes.."i agree but if you're observant you know the pitfalls and how to avoid them | |||
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"Most of ours are from socials either group ones or on/ones. Fuck what everyone else does or thinks.. They mean very little anyway tbh, if there's only one or two do some homework as some don't even mean you actually exist in real life!
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"Our profile. Our business. Too many veri's for some. Not enough veri's for others Don't like it? Dont contact us! It's really that simple. We've been on the side where someone gave a couple of our veri's a hard time. We also know someone we gave a veri to had an equally hard time from a couple they'd met a few times. Hence why we don't show them anymore Can't be doing with drama llamas! " Sorry but wrong attitude, I couldn't do it, at the extreme of this is why Adolf came to power & how people like this "Win". I know it's extreme but it's true. You should show them & report any abuse. Oh & tell the person to go fck themselves obviously..
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"I keep mine hidden because I like to keep things private. I displayed the ones from a group social for a few days then hid those as well. I've only really noticed the negativity about verifications stemming from the forums though - all i've ever had from local people was contacting previous meets to ask the best way to get a meet with me. " It’s definitely forum based! I had no idea they were an issue until I joined in here.. which is kind of why I think the troublemakers should be dealt with in such a small pond. They’re pretty irrelevant in the greater scheme of fab! | |||
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"Our profile. Our business. Too many veri's for some. Not enough veri's for others Don't like it? Dont contact us! It's really that simple. We've been on the side where someone gave a couple of our veri's a hard time. We also know someone we gave a veri to had an equally hard time from a couple they'd met a few times. Hence why we don't show them anymore Can't be doing with drama llamas! Sorry but wrong attitude, I couldn't do it, at the extreme of this is why Adolf came to power & how people like this "Win". I know it's extreme but it's true. You should show them & report any abuse. Oh & tell the person to go fck themselves obviously..
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"Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like? Pretty much this "It’s a shame more people can’t say this purely because of a minority of idiots! | |||
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"I just prefer things to be private. I’ve shown a couple because I was new and felt I had to as evidence I was ‘genuine’. But I don’t want people looking at how many or few people I’ve met and who they are and making some sort of judgement on that. I know how I got with someone without needing a written summary to show everyone else"
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" It’s definitely forum based! I had no idea they were an issue until I joined in here.. which is kind of why I think the troublemakers should be dealt with in such a small pond. They’re pretty irrelevant in the greater scheme of fab!" Because in the forum people talk, check each others profile, form cliques whether intentionally or subconsciously. It's expected and natural. I just show the summary : enough to proof that i am meet verified and the types of people i meet, and enough to protect their privacy and confidentiality. I love the verification summary because it's like a skirt, short enough to be exciting but long enough to cover the essentials. | |||
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"I keep mine hidden because I like to keep things private. I displayed the ones from a group social for a few days then hid those as well. I've only really noticed the negativity about verifications stemming from the forums though - all i've ever had from local people was contacting previous meets to ask the best way to get a meet with me. It’s definitely forum based! I had no idea they were an issue until I joined in here.. which is kind of why I think the troublemakers should be dealt with in such a small pond. They’re pretty irrelevant in the greater scheme of fab!" I agree the noise I hear about veris stems from the forums. However, the messages I received were non forum users (all except one) so not just limited to the forum. | |||
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"I couldn’t care less what people think. I’ve veris for different reasons - hosting, fucking and social. People that want to judge I’m not interested in anyway. Plus with all the veris I’ve actually been tamed and found a gorgeous man. So I can’t be doing that badly "I do love this about you!! | |||
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So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
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"Had this conversation with a couple of friends recently and wonder where you stand?!? We all know there are people on here with an unhealthy interest in what others do...
So taking sex out of it..
Do you show verifications from social meets?
Are you of the ‘sod the haters’ mindset it’s my journey and I’ll do it how I like?
Or do you deliberately hide everything because there are people who love to stir?
Has someone asked if I fucked you? That's what it is isn't it "Ha ha rumbled. Yes it is. In droves. | |||
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"It's normally the one to one sex meets with popular Forumites that cause all the bloody drama on here. So I only show stuff from way in the past, some veris from large social gatherings and a few of my meets from locals who know nothing of The Forum Wolf Pack. If I decide to show a verification that I know might get people's tongues wagging, then that's my business, I'm a big girl now and have learned to let any bitchiness just wash right over my head. "Forum nosies are not my kinda friends so their opinion is going over my head now.. I think it’s a shame people even have to think about it and this thread shows how many it does. It’s daft! | |||
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