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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done similar, but in my case (and a good few years ago) it was a lady barperson who steadfastly ignored me in favour of the guys . I called her on it and as it was my local and she was new, it didn't go in her favour. So OP your were justified in your behaviour but I'd have stayed and made the barperson look an ass. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At midnight on your 40th birthday - no one will be able to see you.
Regardless of where you are - you could be in a shop looking at something and someone will just walk in front of you and stop.
It's like suddenly having an invisibility cloak on  |
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?"
I can’t say I have ever had that but I certainly wouldn’t t have waited over 15mins to be served, I would of called her out much sooner than that  |
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?"
And yet I bet he hadn't thought of you once since you flounced out |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've done similar, but in my case (and a good few years ago) it was a lady barperson who steadfastly ignored me in favour of the guys . I called her on it and as it was my local and she was new, it didn't go in her favour. So OP your were justified in your behaviour but I'd have stayed and made the barperson look an ass. X"
Didnt have time too unfortunately, had a show to get to. Ah well much calmer now, kinky boots was fabulous  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At midnight on your 40th birthday - no one will be able to see you.
Regardless of where you are - you could be in a shop looking at something and someone will just walk in front of you and stop.
It's like suddenly having an invisibility cloak on "
I've a few years to go, so I imagine things will only go further downhill. Ah well, just need to find a more upmarket venue next time I'm in leeds |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?
I can’t say I have ever had that but I certainly wouldn’t t have waited over 15mins to be served, I would of called her out much sooner than that "
Oh it was busy. I have no issue waiting my turn but being avoided to serve the teenagers instead pissed me off. But all good, the show was fabulous and made up for the piss poor service in the bar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?
And yet I bet he hadn't thought of you once since you flounced out"
Oh it was far more than a flounce, I dont do things in half measures. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have never noticed I am treated worse as I get older."
I hadn't until tonight. Just means I need to find a more upmarket place where teenagers aren't behind the bar and the clientele isn't predominantly teenagers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, you are far too young! Must have just been a jack ass bartender trying to vie for attention "
Thank you,I assumed so. I'm under no illusion I cant compete with teenagers but just common courtesy to say sorry I didnt see you, rather than smirking at me.
Ah well, rest of the night has been fabulous x |
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?
And yet I bet he hadn't thought of you once since you flounced out
Oh it was far more than a flounce, I dont do things in half measures."
Sounds like a flounce. Are we meant to be impressed that you got pissed off for not getting a drink? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?
And yet I bet he hadn't thought of you once since you flounced out
Oh it was far more than a flounce, I dont do things in half measures.
Sounds like a flounce. Are we meant to be impressed that you got pissed off for not getting a drink?"
Who's we, the only negative comment is from you so there is no we. I'm not trying to impress anyone. Are you really that self important you think I'm trying to impress you? Get over yourself.
I got pissed off someone is incapable of doing their job in a professional manner like the rest of us mere mortals have to do in the real world.
However night vastly improved after, so all is well and I hope you had a nice evening. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Never had it, waited my turn.
If I notice someone else was there before me and they come to me to seerve me.
I state they was infront of me, pointing them out could you serve them first."
I waited my turn, I have zero issue with that.
I was calm to start with, but when I pointed out I'd been waiting far longer and the little prick smirked at me and ignored me then I lost it.
But all good, night vastly improved and all is well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My favourite comment is ‘I like growing old but, if it takes much longer to get served I’ll be ordering a coffin."
Hahaha that's certainly how it felt earlier.
However now the blood pressure has come down, in hindsight, if that's the worst thing to happen on a night out then it really wasnt that bad of a night. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oddly I do not have this issue at all ! Maybe I am scary and they just want to serve me and get me away from the bar ! "
I need to try and look scarier then |
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Popped into Clarks this afternoon as they were closing. Wasn't welcomed or acknowledged in any way. So I eventually put the shoe on the counter to inquire about the size availability. EVENTUALLY they came back to say, not in store.
She reluctantly said she could order, I responded with no. I've been in the shop 5 times, ignored each time, so I wouldn't be returning. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Popped into Clarks this afternoon as they were closing. Wasn't welcomed or acknowledged in any way. So I eventually put the shoe on the counter to inquire about the size availability. EVENTUALLY they came back to say, not in store.
She reluctantly said she could order, I responded with no. I've been in the shop 5 times, ignored each time, so I wouldn't be returning."
It's just plain rude, no need for it. Dont blame you for not wanting to spend your money there again.
I dont treat customers like that, ever, so it bothers me when others dont have the same mentality.
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I worked most of my life in various hospitality jobs.
So it infuriates me when this happens.
I have no problem, when I know others are being served before to call out the bar staff..
On several occasions, when I've finally been acknowledged, I've asked the persons name, asked them to spell it, how long they've worked there, as I need to make sure I get the details right on my 'mystery client' report
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?"
Trip advisor!!! |
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I was in Wetherspoons in York a few months back and waited over 20 minutes to get served while the young bar staff kept serving all the early 20's folk either side of me, even those who had come up to the bar after me, I was fuming! I don't even look old and it was my first drink so not sure what it was other than them giving their uni mates preference  |
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On several occasions, when I've finally been acknowledged, I've asked the persons name, asked them to spell it, how long they've worked there, as I need to make sure I get the details right on my 'mystery client' report
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I'm going to remember that for next time  |
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Went to the Red Lion in Magaluf. Felt like I was the oldest person there and I'm only 34. The bartender acted like I was invisible and kept ignoring me and serving the younger guys and girls to my left and right. I waved a 20 euro note and he still behaved like I wasn't there. I watched him serve more people, so I turned around and walked out. Went to another bar called 'Tiger Tiger' and was served immediately by a friendly female bartender. I stayed just to be near her company and had a good night out. Funny how two bars can create opposite effects.
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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Speaking from the serving side of the Bar, within which I've over 40 years expertise, plus have been a Licensee too, the "art" of acknowledging anyone arriving at a bar counter whilst you serve someone else, doesn't seem to exist these days.
Any place where I've been in charge, I expected my bar staff to possess that extra-spatial awareness, knowing who was waiting & in which order.
In the OP's issue, sounds like insufficient numbers of staff were on duty, but for staff not to make customers aware they'd be served soon, is poor.
That member of staff would not last long in my bar with that attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I worked most of my life in various hospitality jobs.
So it infuriates me when this happens.
I have no problem, when I know others are being served before to call out the bar staff..
On several occasions, when I've finally been acknowledged, I've asked the persons name, asked them to spell it, how long they've worked there, as I need to make sure I get the details right on my 'mystery client' report
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Hahaha love it and good for you. Wish I'd have handled it more like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have just a rude reminder that the older I'm getting the more invisible I'm becoming.
Bar, barman, ignored after waiting over 15 minutes to go serve the much younger clientele. Cue angry verbal rant from myself, which I know the little wanker heard as he smirked which made me even worse, before an epic departure that may have included a large wanker hand gesture.
I'm fuming even though I know I shouldn't. Ladies, and gents, how do you conduct yourselves during an episode of blatant age favoritism?
Trip advisor!!! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was in Wetherspoons in York a few months back and waited over 20 minutes to get served while the young bar staff kept serving all the early 20's folk either side of me, even those who had come up to the bar after me, I was fuming! I don't even look old and it was my first drink so not sure what it was other than them giving their uni mates preference "
It's just bloody rude.
Mine was a young guy so not sure whether they were friends or he'd managed to kid himself that by giving them preferential treatment he'd somehow have his cock wet by the end of the night.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Went to the Red Lion in Magaluf. Felt like I was the oldest person there and I'm only 34. The bartender acted like I was invisible and kept ignoring me and serving the younger guys and girls to my left and right. I waved a 20 euro note and he still behaved like I wasn't there. I watched him serve more people, so I turned around and walked out. Went to another bar called 'Tiger Tiger' and was served immediately by a friendly female bartender. I stayed just to be near her company and had a good night out. Funny how two bars can create opposite effects.
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Urgghh what a wanker. But glad you ended up having a good night regardless. |
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"Speaking from the serving side of the Bar, within which I've over 40 years expertise, plus have been a Licensee too, the "art" of acknowledging anyone arriving at a bar counter whilst you serve someone else, doesn't seem to exist these days.
Any place where I've been in charge, I expected my bar staff to possess that extra-spatial awareness, knowing who was waiting & in which order.
In the OP's issue, sounds like insufficient numbers of staff were on duty, but for staff not to make customers aware they'd be served soon, is poor.
That member of staff would not last long in my bar with that attitude."
If only there were more bar managers like yourself.
I've also previously worked as a barmaid in my younger days, and I never served anyone out of turn and always made sure whiever was next in line knew I'd seen them. It's just rude, and I cant stand bad manners. |
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Some bars work on sections.. so staff only serve in a certain area next to their respective till.
Waiting 15mins isn't great however, I know bars that you could be six deep at and wait 20mins for drinks at easily.
Rather than spit the dummy, I think would I most likely would have looked around more.
If the staff levels were short on the bar. Was there another area quieter to be served at.
You could have had a quiet word in a managers ear, even a member of the door staff, and made a quiet formal complaint. They are more likely to take that seriously.
A manager will back their staff 99% of the time on a busy Saturday night.
But a good manager would monitor the situation.
D*unken dummy throwing gets you even less chance of a drink..
And you could have been stone cold sober!!
Sorry.
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"Some bars work on sections.. so staff only serve in a certain area next to their respective till.
Waiting 15mins isn't great however, I know bars that you could be six deep at and wait 20mins for drinks at easily.
Rather than spit the dummy, I think would I most likely would have looked around more.
If the staff levels were short on the bar. Was there another area quieter to be served at.
You could have had a quiet word in a managers ear, even a member of the door staff, and made a quiet formal complaint. They are more likely to take that seriously.
A manager will back their staff 99% of the time on a busy Saturday night.
But a good manager would monitor the situation.
D*unken dummy throwing gets you even less chance of a drink..
And you could have been stone cold sober!!
Sorry.
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The bar had 4 staff on, 2 at each section. I was literally stood next to his till.
I did have a scan around and didnt see anyone who resembled a manager, and really didnt have time to go through the hassle of making a complaint to someone who wouldn't have given a toss either.
It wasnt d*unken dummy throwing, it was sober dummy throwing, but yes in hindsight I should have handled it better
But oh well, lesson learnt. Avoid student type chain bars with teenage bar staff. |
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"Some bars work on sections.. so staff only serve in a certain area next to their respective till.
Waiting 15mins isn't great however, I know bars that you could be six deep at and wait 20mins for drinks at easily.
Rather than spit the dummy, I think would I most likely would have looked around more.
If the staff levels were short on the bar. Was there another area quieter to be served at.
You could have had a quiet word in a managers ear, even a member of the door staff, and made a quiet formal complaint. They are more likely to take that seriously.
A manager will back their staff 99% of the time on a busy Saturday night.
But a good manager would monitor the situation.
D*unken dummy throwing gets you even less chance of a drink..
And you could have been stone cold sober!!
Sorry.
The bar had 4 staff on, 2 at each section. I was literally stood next to his till.
I did have a scan around and didnt see anyone who resembled a manager, and really didnt have time to go through the hassle of making a complaint to someone who wouldn't have given a toss either.
It wasnt d*unken dummy throwing, it was sober dummy throwing, but yes in hindsight I should have handled it better
But oh well, lesson learnt. Avoid student type chain bars with teenage bar staff."
If it is part of a chain. You could right a written complaint.
They do take them seriously..
Either that. Do the shimmy with boobies to get noticed  |
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"Some bars work on sections.. so staff only serve in a certain area next to their respective till.
Waiting 15mins isn't great however, I know bars that you could be six deep at and wait 20mins for drinks at easily.
Rather than spit the dummy, I think would I most likely would have looked around more.
If the staff levels were short on the bar. Was there another area quieter to be served at.
You could have had a quiet word in a managers ear, even a member of the door staff, and made a quiet formal complaint. They are more likely to take that seriously.
A manager will back their staff 99% of the time on a busy Saturday night.
But a good manager would monitor the situation.
D*unken dummy throwing gets you even less chance of a drink..
And you could have been stone cold sober!!
Sorry.
The bar had 4 staff on, 2 at each section. I was literally stood next to his till.
I did have a scan around and didnt see anyone who resembled a manager, and really didnt have time to go through the hassle of making a complaint to someone who wouldn't have given a toss either.
It wasnt d*unken dummy throwing, it was sober dummy throwing, but yes in hindsight I should have handled it better
But oh well, lesson learnt. Avoid student type chain bars with teenage bar staff.
If it is part of a chain. You could right a written complaint.
They do take them seriously..
Either that. Do the shimmy with boobies to get noticed "
Hahaha I'll seriously consider the suggestion for next time |
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