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over a year ago
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"Thats why folk go to councelling to talk to someone who does not know or will not judge them"
I get that, but their also highly trained, i just meant ordinary people, but yes i suppose the basis is no different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Or we don't open up as honesty with friends as we just assume they will judge. We can't walk just walk away from them as we can with a total stranger
I think strangers do judge, but it's much more about how we view others response or reaction that determines the outcome. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Strangers sometimes have better perspective, on the outside looking in - and life experience in addition. "
Thats good point, sometimes not being involved can be insighful. |
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Novelty of experience, perhaps? You've self-selected your friends, who won't potentially have a difference that a stranger may have. Your friends may also have something to do with the issue. A detached perspective, without any repercussions, may also allow you to distil an issue very concisely, which can often let us gain a different perspective on something that's been overwhelming. Lots possible ways that talking helps and especially with someone who's unonvolved with you and possibly your past. |
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"On the positive side someone did make you feel better there are sadly a lot about who don't. "
Yeah, i try to cut them out as much as possible, im perfectly capable of making myself feel bad |
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"Complete strangers don't care about you on a more than superficial level. They listen in a different way and if they give advice it's without risk to a friendship. "
Thats a very point about risk to friendship |
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Strangers don't come with the baggage- theirs and yours- that a friend has.
Talking to a stranger means that you can be more honest about your feelings, desires, your past and what you want to do because they are a blank canvas. You havnt invested in them so you don't have anything to lose.
If they disapprove or don't like you it doesn't matter and this gives you a tremendous freedom to be yourself that you might not be able to do with a friend. |
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"Strangers don't come with the baggage- theirs and yours- that a friend has.
Talking to a stranger means that you can be more honest about your feelings, desires, your past and what you want to do because they are a blank canvas. You havnt invested in them so you don't have anything to lose.
If they disapprove or don't like you it doesn't matter and this gives you a tremendous freedom to be yourself that you might not be able to do with a friend."
My friends know exactly who and what i am they know everything about me (i wear my heart on my sleve) theyve never once disaproved... dispared sometimes though  |
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Because friends are supposed to look after you. We don't always appreciate it the same if we 'expect' it.
A stranger owes us nothing. So that little smile or a kind word from a stranger can mean more than if it was from a friend.  |
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"Because friends are supposed to look after you. We don't always appreciate it the same if we 'expect' it.
A stranger owes us nothing. So that little smile or a kind word from a stranger can mean more than if it was from a friend. "
Wow... that had never even crossed my mind. |
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