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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is like watching porn
But chatting to real people
About there kinky side
Every one has one x"
Except you don’t tend to fuck other people when watching porn  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She don’t know but we talk about it when having sex and watching porn "
Does the thought of it make her horny?
Mine does if i start to describe what that extra person could be doing right at that moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is like watching porn
But chatting to real people
About there kinky side
Every one has one x"
True now I've looked properly. You've only cammed so far, according to the holy gospel of 'verifications'... Loads of married folk on here experimenting |
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Nothing wrong with curiosity, its human and there's nothing wrong with human desire per se. The potential problems come when these desires conflict with your marriage. I'm assuming your other half married you under the conditions that it was going to be a monogamous relationship? In which case to do anymore than be curious would be to move the goal posts in your relationship. Does your other half know your on here. Personally just being on here and saying you want to meet people I'd say you have already over stepped a mark if your other half doesn't know. It's very upsetting when a partner cheats on you.
So where do you go with this curiosity? I assume you want to keep your relationship with you other half?
Option 1: Keep it as a curiosity and take it no further at the expense of suppressing your sexual desires. Which in its self is sad because we should all be free to be who we are and express ourselves. Life is too short.
Option 2: Lead a double life and cheat on your partner. Which is really unhealthy for all involved. And although even if done with good intention to protect them is in my mind very disrespectful. The the fall out from the truth coming out is so painful and damaging. As someone who was lied to and cheated on by my ex spouse I can tell you the pain, loss of your sense of reality, emotional and trust issues going forward are unreal. It really undermines your belief in reality and your self. Honestly the worst period of pain, self doubt and feeling completely lost in my life. It feels like the world has been pulled from under your feet, wouldn't wish it on anyone. These are wounds that don't heal easy. So be warned if you love your other half then taking this option may hurt them worse than anything and make the future very hard for them.
Option 3: Be open with your desires, there is nothing wrong with them. Often when we are younger we form long term relationships, marriages etc before we truly know our own selves. And over time some people change. Surely with should be in a relationship where we are be free to be truly ourselves and be loved for who we are. So if you can be yourself with anyone it should be them. Be open, honest about your desires and what you want from life. Since you are the one moving the goal posts let them decide what they want to do going forward. Maybe they will still love you and accept who you are and wish to support you in that. Maybe they too wanted to look into moving the goal posts in terms of monogamy and sexuality? Or maybe this is something they cant tolerate in a relationship? If so yes that will cause hurt too, but your sexuality and desire is no ones fault, sometimes life is just like that. In which case you split and both free to find a life where you can both live on your own term.
Non of these options are easy but that is up to you to reason and find away. You are who you are but hopefully you reason a way forward that is ethical and fair. |
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"Nothing wrong with curiosity, its human and there's nothing wrong with human desire per se. The potential problems come when these desires conflict with your marriage. I'm assuming your other half married you under the conditions that it was going to be a monogamous relationship? In which case to do anymore than be curious would be to move the goal posts in your relationship. Does your other half know your on here. Personally just being on here and saying you want to meet people I'd say you have already over stepped a mark if your other half doesn't know. It's very upsetting when a partner cheats on you.
So where do you go with this curiosity? I assume you want to keep your relationship with you other half?
Option 1: Keep it as a curiosity and take it no further at the expense of suppressing your sexual desires. Which in its self is sad because we should all be free to be who we are and express ourselves. Life is too short.
Option 2: Lead a double life and cheat on your partner. Which is really unhealthy for all involved. And although even if done with good intention to protect them is in my mind very disrespectful. The the fall out from the truth coming out is so painful and damaging. As someone who was lied to and cheated on by my ex spouse I can tell you the pain, loss of your sense of reality, emotional and trust issues going forward are unreal. It really undermines your belief in reality and your self. Honestly the worst period of pain, self doubt and feeling completely lost in my life. It feels like the world has been pulled from under your feet, wouldn't wish it on anyone. These are wounds that don't heal easy. So be warned if you love your other half then taking this option may hurt them worse than anything and make the future very hard for them.
Option 3: Be open with your desires, there is nothing wrong with them. Often when we are younger we form long term relationships, marriages etc before we truly know our own selves. And over time some people change. Surely with should be in a relationship where we are be free to be truly ourselves and be loved for who we are. So if you can be yourself with anyone it should be them. Be open, honest about your desires and what you want from life. Since you are the one moving the goal posts let them decide what they want to do going forward. Maybe they will still love you and accept who you are and wish to support you in that. Maybe they too wanted to look into moving the goal posts in terms of monogamy and sexuality? Or maybe this is something they cant tolerate in a relationship? If so yes that will cause hurt too, but your sexuality and desire is no ones fault, sometimes life is just like that. In which case you split and both free to find a life where you can both live on your own term.
Non of these options are easy but that is up to you to reason and find away. You are who you are but hopefully you reason a way forward that is ethical and fair."
Brilliant answer and something to really consider  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We talk about every thing together
St8 gay lesbian
Swinging
getting caught is one of our fantasy
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Sounds like she may be open to a deeper conversation that would allow you to explore this with the person you trust most. That would be my advice. Being bi isn’t kinky just a different preference, nothing wrong with it.
We took a quiz called mojo which is meant for couples and it shows just the things you match on but opens discussion to preferences and kinks. Our chat about those results led us to Fab and we are really happy swinging and exploring together and it’s way nicer to explore other people with their consent and even brings us closer. If she’s that open in regular sex chat that would be the best way to go about it and it may not feel as kinky or wrong. Good luck |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"We talk about every thing together
St8 gay lesbian
Swinging
getting caught is one of our fantasy
Sounds like she may be open to a deeper conversation that would allow you to explore this with the person you trust most. That would be my advice. Being bi isn’t kinky just a different preference, nothing wrong with it.
We took a quiz called mojo which is meant for couples and it shows just the things you match on but opens discussion to preferences and kinks. Our chat about those results led us to Fab and we are really happy swinging and exploring together and it’s way nicer to explore other people with their consent and even brings us closer. If she’s that open in regular sex chat that would be the best way to go about it and it may not feel as kinky or wrong. Good luck "
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Great tip on the mojo quiz guys  |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"She knows I’m curious
She curious about lady’s to"
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Don't see how it could be wrong then, as Her Majesty says
it would only be wrong if you acted on it and she didn't know |
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"Married but bicurious
Is this right or wrong
Love sex xx"
Does your wife know you're on fab? If not would she be happier that you cheated on her with a man or a woman? Then you decided if it's right or wrong! Simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry OP I’m slightly confused by some of your answers, you seem to be contradicting yourself. If your wife knows you’re Bi curious and you both get turned on discussing it then what’s the problem?
Is she aware you’re on Fab or not? If she’s not then that’s your problem.
You might also want to consider changing your status from straight to bi curious considering your user name.
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Thank u
We had a couples account
But. All the guys just wanted her but she more
Wanting lady for pleasure then lots of cocks
She has mine lol
I’m curious about cock
Yes ok we’re a crazy pair
But u only live once’s |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, have you ever tried a cock?
For a long time I wanted to try it, but the reality was it was just OK.
If I was with a couple and he was bi would I play with him now? Absolutely.
Would I be devastated if I never had another one? Certainly not.
Assuming this is a fantasy then my advice would be try it, it's possibly just a mental block you need to try to be sure that you definitely like it or definitely don't like it.
I tried it and it didn't definitively answer my question but it did stop me wanting to know what it would be like.
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I told my partner ten years ago took ages to get to point
Never cheated on her and now we play together. She enjoys watching and sharing with me.
We only play if guy happy me to give oral. Amazing straight guys not so straight and end up wanting me to give head.
But glad I told her. I don’t fancy men in anyway just enjoy giving head. My partner would ask when out who I would go with. I said I would need to see naked.
I am lucky she understood and supports me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been in your shoes OP, so no judgement, I've not read entire thread though.
Talk about it more with your partner. Talk about Fab. Talk about this conversation on it.. talk, talk, talk!
If you're at the stage where you're seriously considering cheating, you can salvage your relationship, if you love her and want to. She may want to run a little free too.
Cheating breaks the trust and without trust, you don't have much to build s happy relationship on.
It sounds like you need to experiment, that may be all this bi urge is, no matter how strong you feel about it now. It may even be a reflection of how you feel about yourself right now, thinking the way you are.
No judgement from me, but you have the choice not to lie ever again. It's hard, it'll change your life, for the better, in the long run.
Better to learn the lesson now than risk causing more damage? |
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