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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do? |
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?"
If it’s not your kind of game , don’t play |
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?"
less is more, dont show all dont say all and wear a mask  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm apparently intriguing but I don't know why  "
I hear the same but I don’t know why. I am a heart on my sleeve person but I know I’m contradictory. I am a tease as well but also a bit shy. Just be you, them being intrigued is down to just wanting to know more about you, if they aren’t intrigued they likely aren’t for you. - Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't reveal too much too quickly. Go slow. Stimulate the mind."
Yep, see that’s where I go wrong. By the time the meet comes round they know everything, are bored and cancel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm apparently intriguing but I don't know why
I hear the same but I don’t know why. I am a heart on my sleeve person but I know I’m contradictory. I am a tease as well but also a bit shy. Just be you, them being intrigued is down to just wanting to know more about you, if they aren’t intrigued they likely aren’t for you. - Mrs "
It is simply wanting to know more about the other person. There’s a sense of depth that hasn’t been revealed.
Most people I’d like to get to know are intriguing in one way or another. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?less is more, dont show all dont say all and wear a mask "
Still strikes me as silly game playing if I’m honest. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Intrigue is all about arousing someone’s curiosity and interest. It sounds like you already have that.
And if you are the kind of person who lays your cards out on the table rather than holds them close to your chest why change that for anyone. It’s not true to who you are and you’d never keep the game up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its a basic chat line they use on here. All the messages you get saying they find your profile intriguing"
You don’t reveal much either DS. You’re profile is hidden |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think its a basic chat line they use on here. All the messages you get saying they find your profile intriguing"
Come on! I’m not that naive. We’re a way past the introductory chats. The issue is keeping interest alive until I finally get some free time to meet. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Some people find us intriguing for god knows what reason, others don't. Don't give it much thought and just be yourself. Don't change to fit someone's fantasy. If they like you they'll find you naturally intriguing. Now go out and have sexy fun wuth the ones who do   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't reveal too much too quickly. Go slow. Stimulate the mind.
Yep, see that’s where I go wrong. By the time the meet comes round they know everything, are bored and cancel."
If you're giving them wank chat they don't need to meet.
If they say you've revealed everything 'in general', be glad you're not meeting them. You're a real person and not just some words in a few messages.
If they're bored you're not compatible. Again, be glad you're not meeting them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?less is more, dont show all dont say all and wear a mask
Still strikes me as silly game playing if I’m honest."
Be who you are. I much prefer authenticity. It’s not necessarily a game at all, it only becomes a game if it’s a deliberate attempt to hook people into something without their awareness in order to manipulate them. Some people are more reserved than others. That might be seen as intriguing. In other cases it’s just a sense of depth yet to be revealed. In other cases it’s the hint of a characteristic that you can only find out by getting to know that person better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?
If it’s not your kind of game , don’t play "
My thinking too, tbh. They’ll either get me or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them to fuck off .....
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If you're not what they want don't meet them.
But but but...sex..."
Tell them no more messages, you'll meet them at X location on X date/ time. And that you won't say what you'll be wearing or what will happen to them.  
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Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tell them to fuck off .....
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If you're not what they want don't meet them.
But but but...sex...
Tell them no more messages, you'll meet them at X location on X date/ time. And that you won't say what you'll be wearing or what will happen to them.
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Hmmmmmmm......thank you.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too."
All of this. There's someone for everyone on here without feeling like you have to jump through hoops |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too."
I certainly don’t enjoy it the other way round. I hate feeling like I’m chasing people. If I start to feel that then I lose interest. Life is too short and opportunities to meet too scarce to be putting hours into chasing people for sex, plus self-respect.
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Intriguing seems to the the favourite word for most of the single guys that message us!
They always lead with “I find your profile intriguing...”
We think it’s pretty straight forward, but I guess to them it’s a good way of starting a conversation. |
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"Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too.
All of this. There's someone for everyone on here without feeling like you have to jump through hoops"
You'll never win crufts with that attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Honestly just be yourself. I've had men before tell me they enjoy the thrill of the chase and women playing hard to get. I can't be bothered about that. I'm a pretty frank person and I appreciate the same in return. As with anything this makes me incompatible with some but there are plenty it I am compatible with who prefer this way too.
All of this. There's someone for everyone on here without feeling like you have to jump through hoops
You'll never win crufts with that attitude."
Oh I don't know, you haven't seen my freestyle work, and my tail is gorgeous if I do say so myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hint at things.. but never say it outright leave some things unsaid. Avoid talking about what you really, really want to discuss.. till it's forefront on both of your minds.
I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
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"Hint at things.. but never say it outright leave some things unsaid. Avoid talking about what you really, really want to discuss.. till it's forefront on both of your minds.
I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
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You are most definitely intriguing and I wanted to find out more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m a direct, heart on sleeve kind of person. Once I know I want to meet someone I’m pretty straightforward about that, but a couple of men I’m talking to have said they like to be intrigued. This is quite stressful. I’m not a mind game player. I haven’t a scooby how to ‘intrigue’ someone. What do I do?less is more, dont show all dont say all and wear a mask
Still strikes me as silly game playing if I’m honest."
not at all less is always more here, i mean most women dont really want to see a guys erect cock thrust in their view everytime and the same applies to a woman some of the sexiest pics are dressed either in lingerie or a dress, a mask as in a dress mask offers a little mystery protects your identity too if thats an issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hint at things.. but never say it outright leave some things unsaid. Avoid talking about what you really, really want to discuss.. till it's forefront on both of your minds.
I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You are most definitely intriguing and I wanted to find out more "
As are you and I don't know enough about you yet, so you still intrigue me Annabelle We must resolve it |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
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You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art "
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he. |
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he."
Maybe you intrigue without realising you do? |
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he."
Have they been well hung? |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he."
Picassos? How very intriguing! Although I'm more a fan of Jack Vettriano |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he.
Have they been well hung?"
They’re nicely framed.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he.
Picassos? How very intriguing! Although I'm more a fan of Jack Vettriano "
Too restrained for me. I like my topless Picasso women romping in my bedroom. |
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"Hint at things.. but never say it outright leave some things unsaid. Avoid talking about what you really, really want to discuss.. till it's forefront on both of your minds.
I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You are most definitely intriguing and I wanted to find out more
As are you and I don't know enough about you yet, so you still intrigue me Annabelle We must resolve it "
Yes, we must...anticipation, intrigue, I like how that feels |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he.
Picassos? How very intriguing! Although I'm more a fan of Jack Vettriano
Too restrained for me. I like my topless Picasso women romping in my bedroom. "
Vettriano is for the lounge, working your way up the stairs you find Birgitte Evelyn, then once your upstairs... well i'll leave you to ponder and be intrigued! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You don't need to surround yourself with those who don't understand your approach and don't appreciate you or engage on the same wavelength! Just stay true and dont waste energy on games. You are just perfectly RIGHT for someone out there. Lots i bet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art "
No.. but they can't say the info isn't on Fab and that the community isn't helpful and caring if we give out that information when asked. |
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Be who you are. I much prefer authenticity. It’s not necessarily a game at all, it only becomes a game if it’s a deliberate attempt to hook people into something without their awareness in order to manipulate them. Some people are more reserved than others. That might be seen as intriguing. In other cases it’s just a sense of depth yet to be revealed. In other cases it’s the hint of a characteristic that you can only find out by getting to know that person better."
That's beautifully put.
I am reserved to the point, where I am just not at all.. and would hate for anyone to think it is a deliberate plan to be 'intriguing'. |
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Be who you are. I much prefer authenticity. It’s not necessarily a game at all, it only becomes a game if it’s a deliberate attempt to hook people into something without their awareness in order to manipulate them. Some people are more reserved than others. That might be seen as intriguing. In other cases it’s just a sense of depth yet to be revealed. In other cases it’s the hint of a characteristic that you can only find out by getting to know that person better.
That's beautifully put.
I am reserved to the point, where I am just not at all.. and would hate for anyone to think it is a deliberate plan to be 'intriguing'. "
You’re right. I don’t think you can be deliberately intriguing. That’s more how someone experiences you. I think trying to be intriguing will just come across as game-playing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he.
Picassos? How very intriguing! Although I'm more a fan of Jack Vettriano
Too restrained for me. I like my topless Picasso women romping in my bedroom.
Vettriano is for the lounge, working your way up the stairs you find Birgitte Evelyn, then once your upstairs... well i'll leave you to ponder and be intrigued!"
So where do I put my Grosz? Always struggled with that one.. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
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I avoid sex chat for as long as possible and reccomend most men do same thing.
As nearly all men get graphic right from the get go..
You think those that need to take heed of this will actually do so?
I find it pretty boring 'sexting' I'd be far more turned on discussing a piece of art
Come over and check out my Picassos he, he.
Picassos? How very intriguing! Although I'm more a fan of Jack Vettriano
Too restrained for me. I like my topless Picasso women romping in my bedroom.
Vettriano is for the lounge, working your way up the stairs you find Birgitte Evelyn, then once your upstairs... well i'll leave you to ponder and be intrigued!
So where do I put my Grosz? Always struggled with that one.."
Well if it was me, in the spare room when the mother-in-law came to stay - You certainly have, erm.. intriguing taste! There you've cracked it, answered your OP post and discovered that really are intriguing! |
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