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"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " Only for my girlfriend and only if it's nothing drastic. I trust her sense of style and fashion but I wont change myself for others generally speaking. | |||
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"I don't, I dress for the occasion " I dress for the attention lol | |||
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"I'll change small, temporary things for a friend or repeat meet, sometimes. Not if they ask. More, I know X likes it when I do y, so I'll do y today. " i think this is alright to do. but in general I think if someone likes me then that's good if they dont then that's fine too. Everybody has a different preference to how they like people to look . change your looks drastically for one and you change away from another | |||
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"I'll change small, temporary things for a friend or repeat meet, sometimes. Not if they ask. More, I know X likes it when I do y, so I'll do y today. i think this is alright to do. but in general I think if someone likes me then that's good if they dont then that's fine too. Everybody has a different preference to how they like people to look . change your looks drastically for one and you change away from another " Oh god, it's never drastic. It's more like, a friend particularly comments on a way I do my hair, that they like it better than my usual, I might file the information away and do my hair the same next time. It's all just versions of myself. | |||
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"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " None,I'm not here to conform to someone else's standard.My appearance is how I want it to be,and the opinion of others on the subject is irrelevant to me | |||
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 . If someone tells me what to wear or do I instinctively resist -Mrs | |||
"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " None whatsoever . I just do my own thing. I dress how I like and reveal what I choose. | |||
"Zero . If someone tells me what to wear or do I instinctively resist -Mrs "This x | |||
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"In reading comments I see there’s talk of hair removal and that sort of thing, I do that but it’s about me looking and feeling my best but I still look like and dress like me . -Mrs " If I was on a dry spell I wouldn't be arsed with hair removal  | |||
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"I dont change anything and yes i did know most men dont notice eyebrows in my experience anyway. Noone in my entire life has commented on my eyebrows" I’ve had so many comments on my eyebrows in my life and several from men! They’re not even kept up with that great, but apparently men DO notice them. A charming one in a chat room asked to “finish” on them | |||
"In reading comments I see there’s talk of hair removal and that sort of thing, I do that but it’s about me looking and feeling my best but I still look like and dress like me . -Mrs If I was on a dry spell I wouldn't be arsed with hair removal "Well yeah haha that’s logical to me! Same. | |||
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"I dont change anything and yes i did know most men dont notice eyebrows in my experience anyway. Noone in my entire life has commented on my eyebrows I’ve had so many comments on my eyebrows in my life and several from men! They’re not even kept up with that great, but apparently men DO notice them. A charming one in a chat room asked to “finish” on them "Your eyebrows are the bomb to be fair | |||
. But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit. | |||
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"Just clarifying that no one told me to do my brows . But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit."Oh, it wasn't you. Just on your thread, lol. But same. I naturally have straight eyebrows and recently had them shaped with a bit more of an arch. Literally nobody has ever said anything to me about it. But I like it. | |||
"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " 3 hours worth of change | |||
"Just clarifying that no one told me to do my brows . But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit.
Oh, it wasn't you. Just on your thread, lol.
But same. I naturally have straight eyebrows and recently had them shaped with a bit more of an arch. Literally nobody has ever said anything to me about it. But I like it. "Just checking haha! Guys mention my eyebrows all the time, it's a good compliment! But it's not why I'd do them | |||
"Just clarifying that no one told me to do my brows . But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit.
Oh, it wasn't you. Just on your thread, lol.
But same. I naturally have straight eyebrows and recently had them shaped with a bit more of an arch. Literally nobody has ever said anything to me about it. But I like it.
Just checking haha!
Guys mention my eyebrows all the time, it's a good compliment! But it's not why I'd do them "Yeah, mine is things like, I'll pick my eyeshadow to bring out my eyes, because people like them. With extremely rare exception, if anyone said "wear X for me", I'd tell them to take a hike. | |||
"Just clarifying that no one told me to do my brows . But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit.
Oh, it wasn't you. Just on your thread, lol.
But same. I naturally have straight eyebrows and recently had them shaped with a bit more of an arch. Literally nobody has ever said anything to me about it. But I like it.
Just checking haha!
Guys mention my eyebrows all the time, it's a good compliment! But it's not why I'd do them "Now you have me intrigued, are they in any of your public photos? (SFW mode on) | |||
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"Clothes but that also depends if they have a valid reason. It's true about the eyebrows though, I just shave the middle part to avoid a monobrow!" I love my monobrow and I'm proud of it lol | |||
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"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " I feel like I've given you inspiration Its a good feeling to have | |||
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"I always dress for me, I might ask a meet their favourite colour and wear that. But ultimately I don’t change anything x " Yes, that's the kind of thing I mean. Or I have certain dresses I'll wear to a social depending on the vibe they've given me in messages. | |||
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"I'll change small, temporary things for a friend or repeat meet, sometimes. Not if they ask. More, I know X likes it when I do y, so I'll do y today. i think this is alright to do. but in general I think if someone likes me then that's good if they dont then that's fine too. Everybody has a different preference to how they like people to look . change your looks drastically for one and you change away from another Oh god, it's never drastic. It's more like, a friend particularly comments on a way I do my hair, that they like it better than my usual, I might file the information away and do my hair the same next time. It's all just versions of myself. " yeah I agree with that. Like with me the main thing would be having a shave ...I'm usually stubble but i know some people like clean shaven some dont mind. But nothing drastic | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. " It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves." Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. " Who knows what's going to be contentious? | |||
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"I'm tempted now to ask people what they really like seeing me in. "Orgasmic state | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. " Exactly this. We had so much fun with so many like minded people who certainly made every effort with their appearance when they met us. I don’t think I realised how grateful we should have been! We always had the feeling that if we made the effort, then those we met might too, and they did - thankfully. If we arrived at a meet and someone said “ You can take me as I am, I’m not changing or doing anything about how I am to please anyone else” , we would have been out of the door like a shot! | |||
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"Just clarifying that no one told me to do my brows . But I do feel more confident if I'm squared up a bit.
Oh, it wasn't you. Just on your thread, lol.
But same. I naturally have straight eyebrows and recently had them shaped with a bit more of an arch. Literally nobody has ever said anything to me about it. But I like it.
Just checking haha!
Guys mention my eyebrows all the time, it's a good compliment! But it's not why I'd do them
Now you have me intrigued, are they in any of your public photos? (SFW mode on)" no, I'm not brave enough for public face pics! | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. Exactly this. We had so much fun with so many like minded people who certainly made every effort with their appearance when they met us. I don’t think I realised how grateful we should have been! We always had the feeling that if we made the effort, then those we met might too, and they did - thankfully. If we arrived at a meet and someone said “ You can take me as I am, I’m not changing or doing anything about how I am to please anyone else” , we would have been out of the door like a shot!" Yeah. A bit like “I say it how it is” “I won’t change for anyone” “this is me take me or leave me” We may think it but saying it is different. Makes me think who are you trying to convince here. Yourself? | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. Exactly this. We had so much fun with so many like minded people who certainly made every effort with their appearance when they met us. I don’t think I realised how grateful we should have been! We always had the feeling that if we made the effort, then those we met might too, and they did - thankfully. If we arrived at a meet and someone said “ You can take me as I am, I’m not changing or doing anything about how I am to please anyone else” , we would have been out of the door like a shot!"
It's weird to me too. Usually the ones who say if their meet turned up in trackie bottoms and a polo shirt they'd go mad and leave. So they dictate what others should wear but wear whatever they like. Hmmmm  | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves." I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying | |||
"I think there's a difference between changing for people and making an effort. I have a beard, I wouldn't shave it off but I'd trim it so it was tidy. I wouldn't change for other people but I would put effort into being the best me I am at that point of time. " I always trim my beard too . | |||
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"How on earth does autocorrect think petiole is a better word than people??" It's pretty cool though. | |||
"I’ll change small sexy things for petiole if they couch it the right way. A couple got quite demanding about reassurance that I dressed ‘classy’ once. They got fairly short shrift. But a sexy regular meet who likes me to rouge my nipples, or someone who likes me to meet without pants, or in latex, I’ll happily do that if it’s suggested in the context of a larger scenario not demanded. And I’ve become firmer about the amount of pubic hair I wear, having been very concerned about people’s pubic likes and dislikes earlier in my fab experience. My weight I’ll change for myself, eventually, never for anyone else." Similarly, people who expect me to dress slutty can take a hike. | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying" Exactly that - it's neither passive aggressive nor "not caring how others see us" to be comfortable in yourself and how you feel, and dressing for the occasion. As you say there is a world of difference and I certainly wouldn't turn up for a meet dressed inappropriately - but nor would I turn up for a meet dressed a particular way because someone had told me to | |||
"I’ll change small sexy things for petiole if they couch it the right way. A couple got quite demanding about reassurance that I dressed ‘classy’ once. They got fairly short shrift. But a sexy regular meet who likes me to rouge my nipples, or someone who likes me to meet without pants, or in latex, I’ll happily do that if it’s suggested in the context of a larger scenario not demanded. And I’ve become firmer about the amount of pubic hair I wear, having been very concerned about people’s pubic likes and dislikes earlier in my fab experience. My weight I’ll change for myself, eventually, never for anyone else. Similarly, people who expect me to dress slutty can take a hike. " I e just had a very vivid image of you in very slutty knickers underneath your dress. I may need to think about that for a bit..  | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying Exactly that - it's neither passive aggressive nor "not caring how others see us" to be comfortable in yourself and how you feel, and dressing for the occasion. As you say there is a world of difference and I certainly wouldn't turn up for a meet dressed inappropriately - but nor would I turn up for a meet dressed a particular way because someone had told me to" I didn’t say it was passive aggressive. I said I felt some of the comments come across that way and very bolshy. | |||
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"Recently I've been struggling with my self esteem and I started thinking I need to lose weight so people would like me etc, luckily I realised I was just having a abit of a down time so I sorted my head out and reminded myself that the people that matter like me regardless. " Good girl. Xx | |||
"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " None . Brush my teeth and i'm good to go | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying Exactly that - it's neither passive aggressive nor "not caring how others see us" to be comfortable in yourself and how you feel, and dressing for the occasion. As you say there is a world of difference and I certainly wouldn't turn up for a meet dressed inappropriately - but nor would I turn up for a meet dressed a particular way because someone had told me to I didn’t say it was passive aggressive. I said I felt some of the comments come across that way and very bolshy. " No, you didn't. Gloswingers did, I think it was that post that GM was referring to. | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying" thats exactly what i was saying | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying Exactly that - it's neither passive aggressive nor "not caring how others see us" to be comfortable in yourself and how you feel, and dressing for the occasion. As you say there is a world of difference and I certainly wouldn't turn up for a meet dressed inappropriately - but nor would I turn up for a meet dressed a particular way because someone had told me to I didn’t say it was passive aggressive. I said I felt some of the comments come across that way and very bolshy. No, you didn't. Gloswingers did, I think it was that post that GM was referring to. " Nah I'd misread/misinterpreted Nora's comment so apologies - although I'm not really sure how commenting that you won't change your style for someone other than yourself, and especially not on demand, is either passive aggressive or bolshy to be honest. | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying Exactly that - it's neither passive aggressive nor "not caring how others see us" to be comfortable in yourself and how you feel, and dressing for the occasion. As you say there is a world of difference and I certainly wouldn't turn up for a meet dressed inappropriately - but nor would I turn up for a meet dressed a particular way because someone had told me to I didn’t say it was passive aggressive. I said I felt some of the comments come across that way and very bolshy. No, you didn't. Gloswingers did, I think it was that post that GM was referring to. " Er.... excuse me but Gloswingers didn’t say it was passive aggressive. Even though I think some comments may come across that way too. | |||
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"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " You shouldn't have to change for anybody. | |||
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"I don't give a shit if men don't care about eyebrows. I still want mine to be immaculate. I'll sometimes wear something in particular I know someone I'm seeing likes but all the clothes i own I've bought because I like them anyway. " Eyebrows are a very important thing to a women | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. Yep. Some of these comments I’m finding a bit passive aggressive to be honest. Exactly this. We had so much fun with so many like minded people who certainly made every effort with their appearance when they met us. I don’t think I realised how grateful we should have been! We always had the feeling that if we made the effort, then those we met might too, and they did - thankfully. If we arrived at a meet and someone said “ You can take me as I am, I’m not changing or doing anything about how I am to please anyone else” , we would have been out of the door like a shot!" Not catering your appearance to another's persons requirements is hardly the same thing as not making an effort though? | |||
"I don't give a shit if men don't care about eyebrows. I still want mine to be immaculate. I'll sometimes wear something in particular I know someone I'm seeing likes but all the clothes i own I've bought because I like them anyway. " This! I love my eyebrows looking well groomed, I don’t put as much product in as I used to because they’ve grown so much. I love having them threaded, makes them stand out even more. | |||
"I don't give a shit if men don't care about eyebrows. I still want mine to be immaculate. I'll sometimes wear something in particular I know someone I'm seeing likes but all the clothes i own I've bought because I like them anyway. Eyebrows are a very important thing to a women" They are . I may not be a born and bred scouser but ive adopted their pride in their eyebrows | |||
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"I don't give a shit if men don't care about eyebrows. I still want mine to be immaculate. I'll sometimes wear something in particular I know someone I'm seeing likes but all the clothes i own I've bought because I like them anyway. This! I love my eyebrows looking well groomed, I don’t put as much product in as I used to because they’ve grown so much. I love having them threaded, makes them stand out even more. "My Anastasia Beverley hills brow pomade is like a life staple to me now. I'd rather skip mascara. | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. " Making an effort is different than changing for others. No one is saying they show up dirty or not in their best clothes. But a man asked me to wear lingerie and heels and serve drinks and I told him to take a hike I might choose to wear lingerie, but it’s up to me. It doesn’t mean I look bad when I meet someone but I’m not going to be anyone but me even if they would like to see me in something specific. - Mrs | |||
. Of course we make an effort but I am not going to show up In a slinky body con dress and heels and Mr isn’t going to show up in dress shoes and a tie. We are ourselves and if that’s not good enough then they aren’t right for us. We don’t smell or come straight off work. | |||
"Can’t believe how many people have taken the idea of being yourself without changing for others to mean you don’t make an effort to look good at a meet . Of course we make an effort but I am not going to show up In a slinky body con dress and heels and Mr isn’t going to show up in dress shoes and a tie. We are ourselves and if that’s not good enough then they aren’t right for us. We don’t smell or come straight off work. "Exactly! I would have thought that was taken as is, obviously i shower, throw on some slap etc. But i’m not putting on a dress when I don’t normally wear a dress, just because some fella wants to slip me one. | |||
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"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. " That’s because we make an effort for ourselves rather than for the benefit of others. There’s a difference. I make an effort for myself because I like to look good, making an effort for others but not for yourself is a sign of insecurity to me. | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. It’s staggering to realise how many people seem not to care how others see them. I’m glad that the people we met had a similar approach to ourselves. I think there's a difference between dressing to the occasion and to impress, against changing appearance upon request. I don't think anyone would turn up to a meet in sweat pants and stained t-shirt. There's a difference between doing things to feel your best, and doing things specifically to please others against your interests. I may be wrong here but I think that's what people are saying" Exactly this. | |||
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"Can’t believe how many people have taken the idea of being yourself without changing for others to mean you don’t make an effort to look good at a meet . Of course we make an effort but I am not going to show up In a slinky body con dress and heels and Mr isn’t going to show up in dress shoes and a tie. We are ourselves and if that’s not good enough then they aren’t right for us. We don’t smell or come straight off work.
Exactly! I would have thought that was taken as is, obviously i shower, throw on some slap etc. But i’m not putting on a dress when I don’t normally wear a dress, just because some fella wants to slip me one."Absolutely agree! I’m surprised that anyone could be confused or misinterpret what people are saying. I thought it was obvious? | |||
"I make an effort for other people I am a little surprised most people don't on this thread. " I think you have misunderstood there. I don’t make an effort for other people, I make an effort because I like to be clean and presentable and comfortable and wear things that I feel flatter me or make me feel good. It really isn’t the same this as changing the way you look for others. If I was meeting someone and they asked me wear a certain something or dress a particular way I would refuse. I wouldn’t meet them. It would make me very uncomfortable. | |||
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"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met." Ok. | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met." I think people are talking about changing your hair colour, dress sense, weight, boob size etc for someone else, not just getting dressed up for a meet. | |||
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"I tend to dress down on purpose. They either like me or they don't! " I think that's a good idea on a first social. Can see how they behave in a non sexual environment. | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met." That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else. | |||
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"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met." If it makes her happy to do so then there’s no problem surely? We are all different and that’s a good thing | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else." | |||
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"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else." | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else." I totally agree with you. What I’m saying is in response to those people who say “I’m not dressing up for anyone”, and “They can take me as I am”, etc.... which strikes me as very odd when you’re meeting someone else for potential sexual fun at some point. Perhaps I have upset a few people by suggesting that those who say they don’t change their appearance are showing a certain amount of disrespect to a meet by not making an effort. But we’ve been to clubs, parties and all sorts over the years and rarely seen anyone that doesn’t make the effort. And the same applies to pretty much everyone we met over the years. And that is my interpretation of changing appearance. I think that is where I’ve become confused. However, I certainly take the point that you make about growing a bush or wearing big beige knickers. That just wouldn’t happen Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best?  | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else. I totally agree with you. What I’m saying is in response to those people who say “I’m not dressing up for anyone”, and “They can take me as I am”, etc.... which strikes me as very odd when you’re meeting someone else for potential sexual fun at some point. Perhaps I have upset a few people by suggesting that those who say they don’t change their appearance are showing a certain amount of disrespect to a meet by not making an effort. But we’ve been to clubs, parties and all sorts over the years and rarely seen anyone that doesn’t make the effort. And the same applies to pretty much everyone we met over the years. And that is my interpretation of changing appearance. I think that is where I’ve become confused. However, I certainly take the point that you make about growing a bush or wearing big beige knickers. That just wouldn’t happen Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best? "I don’t think you’re getting what people mean. When they say “take me as I am” I assume it doesn’t mean they make no effort, it means they make effort but the effort is for themselves. They wear what *they* like and not what other people like. That’s not making no effort. I make an effort anywhere I go, but it’s not for anyone else but myself, if I want to wear a red dress it’s because I like it, not because someone else has asked me to. There’s a difference between making an effort for the benefit of others (which I find sad if you’re not doing it for yourself), and making an effort for yourself, because you like looking good. | |||
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"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. " Exactly. That’s what I meant. It’s the way people say it. I’m the same I’d avoid. Just my personal opinion. I wouldn’t change myself for anyone either but I know he likes short skirts stockings heels etc so I would wear that. Why wouldn’t you want to please someone? If he said get a skin tight PVC number then no I wouldn’t because I don’t like them. I just see attitude in some comments sometimes and it’s just not for me. | |||
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"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Exactly. That’s what I meant. It’s the way people say it. I’m the same I’d avoid. Just my personal opinion. I wouldn’t change myself for anyone either but I know he likes short skirts stockings heels etc so I would wear that. Why wouldn’t you want to please someone? If he said get a skin tight PVC number then no I wouldn’t because I don’t like them. I just see attitude in some comments sometimes and it’s just not for me. " | |||
"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Exactly. That’s what I meant. It’s the way people say it. I’m the same I’d avoid. Just my personal opinion. I wouldn’t change myself for anyone either but I know he likes short skirts stockings heels etc so I would wear that. Why wouldn’t you want to please someone? If he said get a skin tight PVC number then no I wouldn’t because I don’t like them. I just see attitude in some comments sometimes and it’s just not for me. " Exactly how I see it too . Well said ladies | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met." But that is her being herself. Being a pleaser and loving to put on things to allure is fine if that is who she is. If someone asked her to show up in a goth style dress and boots she’d also be uncomfortable as that’s not her way. We are talking about being yourself, not slating people who don’t dress the same way. She’s not changing for people. If they told her to dye her hair red for the meet and she disliked red hair or didn’t want to, I’m sure she wouldn’t do it. It’s about doing something you’re uncomfortable with to please a meet. Some love to be told what to wear and that’s ok too. | |||
"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Exactly. That’s what I meant. It’s the way people say it. I’m the same I’d avoid. Just my personal opinion. I wouldn’t change myself for anyone either but I know he likes short skirts stockings heels etc so I would wear that. Why wouldn’t you want to please someone? If he said get a skin tight PVC number then no I wouldn’t because I don’t like them. I just see attitude in some comments sometimes and it’s just not for me. " I wouldn’t spend time with anyone who’d expect me to dress as anything I’m not. That’s what my answers mean. People ask or demand specific things out of my comfort zone, or ask Mr to shave his face or whatever. Some requests are indicative of the other person pushing their wishes on. It doesn’t mean people don’t take time to dress in a way that appeals to a meet within their comfort zone. | |||
" Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best? "Lol no I don’t think there are but this post is just bonkers. Of course I wear my fishnets if someone says they like them...but I don’t wear hold ups so I wouldn’t. I don’t change my style or go out of my comfort zone or change myself drastically to please another human. That’s what the question meant to me; not do you show up selfishly dirty to a meet in your pyjamas and tough shit | |||
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"None, if you cant take me as I am then so be it." Oh don’t say that! You’ll be described as angry or not making an effort! | |||
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"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. " Avoid and move on. It's a two way thing and unfortunately many have climbed up their ass so far that theirs no seeing the light about it anymore and it's just one way traffic for them. | |||
"None, if you cant take me as I am then so be it. Oh don’t say that! You’ll be described as angry or not making an effort! "As per normal, I have no fucks to give | |||
"None, if you cant take me as I am then so be it. Oh don’t say that! You’ll be described as angry or not making an effort!
As per normal, I have no fucks to give "what and no fucks either? You must be selfish | |||
"None, if you cant take me as I am then so be it. Oh don’t say that! You’ll be described as angry or not making an effort!
As per normal, I have no fucks to give what and no fucks either? You must be selfish "Not those kind of fucks, I always have plenty of them to go around  | |||
"None, if you cant take me as I am then so be it. Oh don’t say that! You’ll be described as angry or not making an effort!
As per normal, I have no fucks to give "Best way to be! | |||
"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Avoid and move on. It's a two way thing and unfortunately many have climbed up their ass so far that theirs no seeing the light about it anymore and it's just one way traffic for them." Indeed. Happily they post in crayon so they're easy to spot. | |||
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"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else. I totally agree with you. What I’m saying is in response to those people who say “I’m not dressing up for anyone”, and “They can take me as I am”, etc.... which strikes me as very odd when you’re meeting someone else for potential sexual fun at some point. Perhaps I have upset a few people by suggesting that those who say they don’t change their appearance are showing a certain amount of disrespect to a meet by not making an effort. But we’ve been to clubs, parties and all sorts over the years and rarely seen anyone that doesn’t make the effort. And the same applies to pretty much everyone we met over the years. And that is my interpretation of changing appearance. I think that is where I’ve become confused. However, I certainly take the point that you make about growing a bush or wearing big beige knickers. That just wouldn’t happen Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best? "I honestly think we're saying the same thing from different positions. The way I have read those comments I haven't taken it to mean that they don't make an effort, just that they don't allow others to dictate their appearance . They don't dress up FOR someone rather than that they don't dress up. "They can take me as I am" I see as they will dress how they feel good. As you say, when you go to clubs and parties, virtually everyone makes an effort and anyone who wouldn't would be in the vast minority. It's more that everyone's version of making an effort and dressing up looks different and to me, people are just saying they wouldn't change what their vision of dressing up looked like just to please someone else if it meant dressing or looking a way that wasn't them. | |||
"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Avoid and move on. It's a two way thing and unfortunately many have climbed up their ass so far that theirs no seeing the light about it anymore and it's just one way traffic for them. Indeed. Happily they post in crayon so they're easy to spot." Luckily I've graduated to felt tips. | |||
"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) " Absolutely zippo | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else. I totally agree with you. What I’m saying is in response to those people who say “I’m not dressing up for anyone”, and “They can take me as I am”, etc.... which strikes me as very odd when you’re meeting someone else for potential sexual fun at some point. Perhaps I have upset a few people by suggesting that those who say they don’t change their appearance are showing a certain amount of disrespect to a meet by not making an effort. But we’ve been to clubs, parties and all sorts over the years and rarely seen anyone that doesn’t make the effort. And the same applies to pretty much everyone we met over the years. And that is my interpretation of changing appearance. I think that is where I’ve become confused. However, I certainly take the point that you make about growing a bush or wearing big beige knickers. That just wouldn’t happen Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best?
I honestly think we're saying the same thing from different positions. The way I have read those comments I haven't taken it to mean that they don't make an effort, just that they don't allow others to dictate their appearance . They don't dress up FOR someone rather than that they don't dress up. "They can take me as I am" I see as they will dress how they feel good. As you say, when you go to clubs and parties, virtually everyone makes an effort and anyone who wouldn't would be in the vast minority. It's more that everyone's version of making an effort and dressing up looks different and to me, people are just saying they wouldn't change what their vision of dressing up looked like just to please someone else if it meant dressing or looking a way that wasn't them." | |||
"Just to clarify. We met people (a huge amount of people) to enjoy sexual adventures that ticked both our and their boxes. We didn’t do regular meets, and neither of us were looking for for anything deep, but boy we had a ball. And there wasn’t a time when we didn’t look to dress to impress. Especially my wife who as I said before would always wear sexy, alluring and often risqué clothing for each and every meet. She wouldn’t dream of anything less, and certainly wasn’t doing this because she had nothing better to do for the hours that it took her to get ready. She did it because she felt way more confident when she was dressed up, and because she knew that I and the people we met appreciated the effort she went to for us. That, in my opinion, is what makes her so special. She never came on the forums, and I doubt she ever will because she says she has nothing in common with most of the people on here. And once again, another example of this is shown in this thread. According to some of you it seems that anyone who IS willing to change their appearance to suit a meet, or someone else, is insecure or wrong to do so. I say that’s complete crap because she for one is a pleaser, and gets her satisfaction and pleasure from the enjoyment she gives others. And yes, that includes changing her appearance for the delectation of me and the people we met. That isn't that unusual. Most women I know who do this spend hours getting ready for meets or club nights, I know I certainly do. As you say, she did it because it made her feel more confident, I.e. it is for herself. That is all people on here are saying too. Of course people look different for meets than other situations. I doubt anybody thinks I go to work or my mum's for dinner wearing some of the outfits on my profile. However what people are saying is that they have a certain way they enjoy and feel good looking and they wouldn't alter that to suit someone else. Your wife appears to enjoy dressing up, what if a meet had asked her to for example, wear jeans and a t-shirt or no make up? Or if they were turned on by massive, beige knickers that she didn't feel sexy in? You have also mentioned being clean shaven, what if a meet had asked her to grow a bush? Obviously the line is different for everyone but I'm sure most people have aspects of their appearance they would be unwilling to change just to please someone else. I totally agree with you. What I’m saying is in response to those people who say “I’m not dressing up for anyone”, and “They can take me as I am”, etc.... which strikes me as very odd when you’re meeting someone else for potential sexual fun at some point. Perhaps I have upset a few people by suggesting that those who say they don’t change their appearance are showing a certain amount of disrespect to a meet by not making an effort. But we’ve been to clubs, parties and all sorts over the years and rarely seen anyone that doesn’t make the effort. And the same applies to pretty much everyone we met over the years. And that is my interpretation of changing appearance. I think that is where I’ve become confused. However, I certainly take the point that you make about growing a bush or wearing big beige knickers. That just wouldn’t happen Are there really people who would go for a meet without making more effort than normal to look their best?
I honestly think we're saying the same thing from different positions. The way I have read those comments I haven't taken it to mean that they don't make an effort, just that they don't allow others to dictate their appearance . They don't dress up FOR someone rather than that they don't dress up. "They can take me as I am" I see as they will dress how they feel good. As you say, when you go to clubs and parties, virtually everyone makes an effort and anyone who wouldn't would be in the vast minority. It's more that everyone's version of making an effort and dressing up looks different and to me, people are just saying they wouldn't change what their vision of dressing up looked like just to please someone else if it meant dressing or looking a way that wasn't them.
"As above, my take me as I am comment doesn't mean I don't make an effort. I always do and am very well turned out. I will not be dictated to on how I dress though, or my appearance, I.e. my beard. I'm saving that off for no one. | |||
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"I always assume the "I don't do requests, take me as I am" angry types would have the same thoughts about shagging. -No give and take. Only do what they like and don't care what the other person wants. Avoid and move on. It's a two way thing and unfortunately many have climbed up their ass so far that theirs no seeing the light about it anymore and it's just one way traffic for them. Indeed. Happily they post in crayon so they're easy to spot. Luckily I've graduated to felt tips." | |||
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"I wouldn’t change my appearance for anyone. Never have, never will. As long as I’m happy with myself that’s all that matters. " And so you shouldn’t, your stunning! Stay beautiful x | |||
"How much of your appearance do you change, if any, for other people? (inspired by a comment that women don't realise that men don't care about eyebrows) Absolutely zippo "Men | |||
