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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be more than a fuck without feelings persay and I'm not sure how you can have feelings for someone you haven't met?
However feelings sometimes do happen here and that's cool if you know where you stand and what can come from it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not. "
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it"
Do you need me to tell you how it ends for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol"
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those feelings are probably just lust to start with... then you start thinking how it will impact you and her. Its easy to get lost when things just click beautifully. All the best, whatever happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments. "
Thank you finally someone who gets me.. it’s so much more fun where there is chemistry right? We not objects and a fuck for the sake of fucking is not what I call sexual exploration |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments. "
Sound advice ^
My earlier comment was a little tongue in cheek. More saying don't follow me buddy......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments.
Thank you finally someone who gets me.. it’s so much more fun where there is chemistry right? We not objects and a fuck for the sake of fucking is not what I call sexual exploration "
I agree but a lot do want that but that’s fair enough. Everyone’s here for different things. That’s the beauty of fab really. It really isn’t just a swingers site. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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You have developed feelings for someone you haven't actually met?
My take is they're the butterfly type feelings when you're about to meet someone new, who you think you might hit it off with rather than 'proper feels' ~ is that what you mean?
So long as you both know where you stand with each other it's all good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments.
Sound advice ^
My earlier comment was a little tongue in cheek. More saying don't follow me buddy...... "
Your advice is always tongue in cheek zippy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I did. Went on for 3 years. Personally I prefer feelings to be involved. Having said that it depends what type of person you are, I know what I want and I know it’s not a proper relationship. I like Gemini man’s bubble analogy. I know I can walk away if need be. Loved him to bits but he wanted more and I wasn’t prepared to give more. Still friends though.
So my opinion is it depends totally on the situation and what type of person you are ie whether you can handle it or not.
That’s exactly where we are.. I have no expectations and I’m not running into the sunset with anyone... it’s just surprised me that it’s happened on a site like this lol
Life is full of surprises. Think carefully though before you jump right in. And you’re gonna get stick on here for sure. People won’t read the thread and just answer the question you're asking. That’s for sure. My advice is ignore those comments.
Sound advice ^
My earlier comment was a little tongue in cheek. More saying don't follow me buddy......
Your advice is always tongue in cheek zippy "
I never really give advice, ppl just take it as such, Dora. I'm an utter contradiction  xx |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t think i could deliberately dabble with someone in that situation knowing that it couldn’t go nowhere.
Deliberately opening yourself up to hurt.
It’s a form of self sabotage, and life is too short for that, no matter how lovely they were, or how good the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is for fucking, not feelings..."
Fab isn't quite the same as a marriage I guess..... .....I dont think I could ever 'just fuck' anyone though, maybe that'll change if I get to the mlc stage.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve certainly developed feelings for someone from this site....
It’s about intimacy in lots of ways. Sexual, physical and mental.
We got to know each other well.
Best sex I’ve ever had and we clicked on so many levels.
I’m a warm, open, loving woman. I can of course separate sex from love, and I have on many occasions, but sometimes, if you really hit it off......
For us, we will remain good friends, who care deeply about each other, but our circumstances at the moment mean we can’t be together right now.
Sometimes circumstances change.... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Fab is for fucking, not feelings...
Fab isn't quite the same as a marriage I guess..... .....I dont think I could ever 'just fuck' anyone though, maybe that'll change if I get to the mlc stage...."
Mlc? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is for fucking, not feelings...
Fab isn't quite the same as a marriage I guess..... .....I dont think I could ever 'just fuck' anyone though, maybe that'll change if I get to the mlc stage....
Mlc? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it"
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At least she is honest about her situation.
From personal experience I would advise that you do try and keep a step back mentally. Falling for someone who cannot be yours is just setting yourself up for heartache. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Developing feelings for someone and falling in love with someone are 2 different things. If it makes you both happy then good for you but remember shes married and dont fall in love and all will be well |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"At least she is honest about her situation.
From personal experience I would advise that you do try and keep a step back mentally. Falling for someone who cannot be yours is just setting yourself up for heartache. "
I kind of agree, I'm not passing judgement on your situation and I certainly agree that relationships can be and are formed on fab, but I do think that falling for a married person is fraught with heartache and trouble. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you only joined 5 weeks ago? "
So? Mine says 10 months ago. I’ve been here over 2 years. You’re says 2 months ago and you’ve been on similar amount of time. People do leave and come back. People even get banned and come back with different names sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have developed feelings for someone I met on here.
We have met quite a few times, but haven't even had sex yet. We message daily, check on each other, let each other know how much we care for each other.
Its the deepest friendship I've had with a man and know its a long term relationship that we both know won't progress beyond, an initially based, sexual friendship.
Neither of us can, or indeed want to, leave our original partners. Our back stories are complex and aren't for judging as that happens with complex health issues.
Initially I thought my deepening feelings were because of a situation my friend helped me leave, but as time passed I realised they were genuine and based on mutual honesty, trust and respect plus that essential click and need for adventures.
Long waffle, sorry, but don't jump without a breathing space x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feelings is the relevant word here, and as ever it has many interpretations. Yes, I agree that I couldn't have sex with someone I don't have feelings for. However, those feelings are a shared intimacy, sexual attraction and maybe some shared values and humour to make for pleasant company. They are not picking out curtains and skipping off into the sunset for evermore as lifetime partners. Either party can leave at any time, no obligations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a school boy crush, check back on you feelings in 6 months.
Do you have a gf or wife? Do you have other friends or just work mate? Are you feeling lonely?
I think you need to assess if theres other factors that could make you feel more emotion to her to compensate something missing elsewhere in your life.
Now that will be £40 for that bit of advise. For more, you need to make an appointment, my fee is only £120ph.
I know... its really cheap. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"And at the end of those “few days together” she will go back to her daring husband as if nothing’s happened.
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That's what I was thinking.
You're not the first and not the last. However credit to her for being open and honest about actually being married ( more than some people on here) youknowwwhoyouare. The rest is up to you but good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you only joined 5 weeks ago?
So? Mine says 10 months ago. I’ve been here over 2 years. You’re says 2 months ago and you’ve been on similar amount of time. People do leave and come back. People even get banned and come back with different names sometimes. "
thats very interesting do they now, i had considered he may have came back it was just a question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Please come back to this thread after you have met her....
I’d be very interested in knowing how you feel after.....
But my advice is to proceed with caution.....
She can only give you so much attention, and if you want more from her.... You will lose and the husband wins every time.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
A work colleague I found on here.
We were FWB for over a year, saw each other every day, spent a lot of time together
I was falling for her pretty heavily.
She met someone outside FAB and fell in love with him.
It hurt, a lot. I avoid seeing her at all costs ow as it brings back feelings. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it"
Good luck as long as you both know what you want xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it
Good luck as long as you both know what you want xxx"
Thank you hun |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it
Good luck as long as you both know what you want xxx
Thank you hun"
Your welcome xxxx |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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I have fallen for someone on fab but turned out it wasn’t real or should I say they wasn’t.
I went on a bit of a rampage after this and found that I don’t actually want a relationship and enjoy the freedom of being a single woman in the swinging world.
I’m actually really grateful for this now as I couldn’t be happier now
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"So I recently started talking to a married woman on here who wanted to spice her sex life up behind her husband’s back... as we spoke, opened up and started to cam feeling have arisen..
We meeting next week and she’s staying over for a couple of days and I’m so excited as she’s exactly what I’ve been looking for, plus strangely enough married women turn me on.
Has any of you experienced this and started to have feelings for someone?
I mean we both know where we stand and don’t want to break her marriage but at the same time we know there’s more than just a fuck to it"
we've never experienced it but as a couple its less likely anyway (although not impossible).
Almost everyone who comments on these things in the forum wants things to be more than just a fuck, you're not alone |
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“plus strangely enough married women turn me on.“
This part of your statement made my ears prick up!!
A connection is one thing, what you seem to be describing is another, lust is healthy in this lifestyle, I’m am all for the connection, our profile raves about it, and it really does make a difference.
However, she is married, you I presume are not? I’m sure relationships do develop on this site, it’s inevitable, and good luck to all who actually do find love here.
However you stated that neither of you want to ruin her marriage.... and the fact that married women turn you on.... what happens when this fairy tale ends?
What if it does end her marriage,
what if she changes her mind and wants YOU not him??
She will no longer be forbidden “married” fruit....
What happens IF or when ??
Nothing judgemental intended, we are all here for different reasons, I just had to point out the above x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please come back to this thread after you have met her....
I’d be very interested in knowing how you feel after.....
But my advice is to proceed with caution.....
She can only give you so much attention, and if you want more from her.... You will lose and the husband wins every time...."
Can't see any winner in that situation, certainly not the husband. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had two long term friendships from fab.
Both amazing experiences. First one was single, the second married. It makes no difference as long as you know from the beginning what your relationship boundaries are.
The first flutters of a new friend of any kind are exciting. Getting to know someone is great. Add some sexual attraction and you have lust. Enjoy it but never confuse it!!! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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It's hard to have real feelings for somebody you haven't met in person in my experience.
The other thing is that she is cheating on her husband, even if it was perfect for you both, you probably would always know that she is capable of that.
There are lots of fabulous people on here who you could find a connection with, you could invest time into somebody who is emotionally and physically available and it could be a much happier ending for both of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fell for Ash before I met him and it's working well for us.
It's a different situation though as we are both single.
I hope whatever happens it works out well for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fell for Ash before I met him and it's working well for us.
It's a different situation though as we are both single.
I hope whatever happens it works out well for you. "
Were both single (we are not anymore ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are times people can have this kind of situation and things play out as expected.
There are probably more times shit goes down big time. Whether that be someone getting their heart broken, someone having their life as they know it ruined and taking years to recover or someone ending up in hospital coz the unsuspecting partner isn't as naive as thought.
What would you do if she turned up at your house, suitcases in tow coz he's realised what's happening, turfed her out and she's nowhere to go?
There's a bigger picture, remember it ain't just her life you're getting involved in and if you can have that on your conscience that's your cross to bare.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dangerous territory m8 you wouldn't like it to happen to yourself. There's plenty of single women on here x less complicated . Hey but who am I to judge |
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"There are times people can have this kind of situation and things play out as expected.
There are probably more times shit goes down big time. Whether that be someone getting their heart broken, someone having their life as they know it ruined and taking years to recover or someone ending up in hospital coz the unsuspecting partner isn't as naive as thought.
What would you do if she turned up at your house, suitcases in tow coz he's realised what's happening, turfed her out and she's nowhere to go?
There's a bigger picture, remember it ain't just her life you're getting involved in and if you can have that on your conscience that's your cross to bare.
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Totally agree with this Aunty P!!!
My ex did something similar...she and the next door but one neighbour started an affair...it ruined his 20 year marriage, with a 10 year old child involved who's struggling in her most important school year before high school, his wife has had a full on break down and nearly ended her life....
Do you really want to be involved in this kind of thing OP??"    |
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When we first met on our singles profile I was in a relationship with someone else,
Mrs sofa warned me not to develop feelings (only had two rules) as she is very lovable (her words) and hot as fuck..
And no I didn’t listen and don’t regret that we are now together as a proper couple! And planning a future together!
If it’s meant to be it will be
Good luck op and enjoy the ride or the journey what ever way it turns out ! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I’m often surprised at how quickly people think they get attached to others on here but if you both go into it knowing and understanding the situation and what you both want from it then what will be, will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m often surprised at how quickly people think they get attached to others on here but if you both go into it knowing and understanding the situation and what you both want from it then what will be, will be. "
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