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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
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Definitely the kids one...  nope, no, not happening. Huge red flag xx |
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"He has kids he doesn't take care of or see."
There's a whole lot of reasons for this.
Some fathers are bad or abusive, some mothers use the kids as a weapon to hurt their ex by withholding contact, others are fighting to see their kids and some just don't care.
Don't make the mistake of judging them all the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few where they just let me pay for everything and seem to expect it. I'm a bit old fashioned so I will always offer, but when it's way down the line and you realise they've not even once offered to buy you a drink in month's and you've paid for every date from start to finish..... same with travelling or driving..... lazy isn't attractive.....
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If I was dating red flags would be
being creepy and clingy, mansplaining, using phrases like "typical woman", being nasty about previous lovers, referring to an ex wife as "the witch" or similar, any form of bigotry, an assumption that his political views were mine, a comb over, cargo pants and dirty shoes. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I have loads to be honest. I lose interest in men very quickly as a result. My main ones are:
Too clingy
Drink too much
Talk shit about their parents
Don’t make effort to see their kids
Talk shit about kids mum
Aggressive
Argumentative
Chat the shit but don’t follow it up
Liars
If i get a gut feeling about someone then i bin them off. My gut instinct is usually shit hot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""He has kids he doesn't take care of or see."
There's a whole lot of reasons for this.
Some fathers are bad or abusive, some mothers use the kids as a weapon to hurt their ex by withholding contact, others are fighting to see their kids and some just don't care.
Don't make the mistake of judging them all the same way. "
Oh I don't but from experience guys don't have there kids because they think they are getting back at their exes. The ones who are genuine are usually the ones fighting to see their kids. |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
"I've had a few where they just let me pay for everything and seem to expect it. I'm a bit old fashioned so I will always offer, but when it's way down the line and you realise they've not even once offered to buy you a drink in month's and you've paid for every date from start to finish..... same with travelling or driving..... lazy isn't attractive.....
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1st date you pay... Ok
2nd date they atleast offer to pay
You communicate this is getting expensive for you
3rd date they don't atleast pay their half
Tell them it's not working out because of the above and if they don't understand or more importantly don't care.
Delete their details
I've stuck to that and I've either dodged a massive maintenance payment each month or found someone new who doesn't see me as an atm |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
Women who have an overly clingy relationship with their father... Aka Princess issues
Women who have a distant relationship with the father...
Aka daddy issues
It's different if someone is aware of their behaviour and is trying to change.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few where they just let me pay for everything and seem to expect it. I'm a bit old fashioned so I will always offer, but when it's way down the line and you realise they've not even once offered to buy you a drink in month's and you've paid for every date from start to finish..... same with travelling or driving..... lazy isn't attractive.....
1st date you pay... Ok
2nd date they atleast offer to pay
You communicate this is getting expensive for you
3rd date they don't atleast pay their half
Tell them it's not working out because of the above and if they don't understand or more importantly don't care.
Delete their details
I've stuck to that and I've either dodged a massive maintenance payment each month or found someone new who doesn't see me as an atm"
I dont mind paying more, that's not the issue, especially if I can or she cant afford it, but it's women who don't pay anything at all or don't even offer that bug me. Just nasty..... |
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"I've had a few where they just let me pay for everything and seem to expect it. I'm a bit old fashioned so I will always offer, but when it's way down the line and you realise they've not even once offered to buy you a drink in month's and you've paid for every date from start to finish..... same with travelling or driving..... lazy isn't attractive.....
1st date you pay... Ok
2nd date they atleast offer to pay
You communicate this is getting expensive for you
3rd date they don't atleast pay their half
Tell them it's not working out because of the above and if they don't understand or more importantly don't care.
Delete their details
I've stuck to that and I've either dodged a massive maintenance payment each month or found someone new who doesn't see me as an atm
I dont mind paying more, that's not the issue, especially if I can or she cant afford it, but it's women who don't pay anything at all or don't even offer that bug me. Just nasty....."
Can’t believe people do that. I don’t offer I insist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1.1) Avoid the broken ones who say it's casual but then get jealous over the most minor things and want to own you..... ....and ffs whatever you do just realise you cannot fix them, that's for them to work out... harsh but wise words....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1.1) Avoid the broken ones who say it's casual but then get jealous over the most minor things and want to own you..... ....and ffs whatever you do just realise you cannot fix them, that's for them to work out... harsh but wise words.... "
This is so true. |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
"When they never ask about you but love tell you all about them
This ....annoys the hell out of me "
Thats a narcissist. They have either never been told they are
Or more likely... Its the curse of narcissism they can't actually see or accept see they are narcissists
I just excuse myself mid date with these ones.
You'll only be banging your head a against a wall inside their own echo chamber trying to lead them out |
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
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I went on a date last year and got asked how much I earn, did I own my own house or rent, what type of car did I drive and how much maintenance did I pay for the kids weekly. Still not sure if it was a date or a loan application  There wasn’t a second date  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
I went on a date last year and got asked how much I earn, did I own my own house or rent, what type of car did I drive and how much maintenance did I pay for the kids weekly. Still not sure if it was a date or a loan application There wasn’t a second date "
Absolutely nobody on the planet except my boss and HR know how much I earn, and that will never change, it's just rude and judgemental!  |
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When they act like your boyfriend from very early on or lay it on thick hinting about future plans when you barely know each other.
Exhibiting signs of baggage/negativity on a first date... if that’s how they set out to impress, that shit aint going to get any better!
Any kind of slut shaming or bigotry |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When they act like your boyfriend from very early on or lay it on thick hinting about future plans when you barely know each other.
Exhibiting signs of baggage/negativity on a first date... if that’s how they set out to impress, that shit aint going to get any better!
Any kind of slut shaming or bigotry "
Very good points. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
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Golly gosh that’s a lot !!! Did this actually happen ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
I went on a date last year and got asked how much I earn, did I own my own house or rent, what type of car did I drive and how much maintenance did I pay for the kids weekly. Still not sure if it was a date or a loan application There wasn’t a second date "
I wonder why .. hahahhaha |
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"When they go out of their way to slag off their ex at every opportunity
It's not a good look.
Airing ones dirty laundry in public is never a good look
Did you fall out with that lady over your anal changed comment?"
That wasn't me Mavis |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
Golly gosh that’s a lot !!! Did this actually happen ?"
Yea it has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
Definitely the kids one... nope, no, not happening. Huge red flag xx"
Haven't seen my kids in 18 months due to my toxic ex.....is that my fault...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few where they just let me pay for everything and seem to expect it. I'm a bit old fashioned so I will always offer, but when it's way down the line and you realise they've not even once offered to buy you a drink in month's and you've paid for every date from start to finish..... same with travelling or driving..... lazy isn't attractive.....
1st date you pay... Ok
2nd date they atleast offer to pay
You communicate this is getting expensive for you
3rd date they don't atleast pay their half
Tell them it's not working out because of the above and if they don't understand or more importantly don't care.
Delete their details
I've stuck to that and I've either dodged a massive maintenance payment each month or found someone new who doesn't see me as an atm"
I let the guy pay for the first date but then I pay for the second.
After that I prefer to split it.
Never been materialistic, it’s not a need for me to have a guy to be financially wealthy x |
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
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Utter nonsense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Red flags during dating?
When he is flash with money and insists on paying for everything but has no job.
When he messages you like 10 times in 30 minutes because you didn't get a chance to reply to his last message.
They text but never call.
When they soot down all your opinions and interests. Yes you can disagree but when they try hard to get you to agree with them.
Wants to know about your financial situation on a first date.
You always wonder when you'll see him again or when he will text again.
He has kids he doesn't take care of or see.
What's yours?
Utter nonsense."
To you maybe |
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