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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Define too quick OP?
A lot of guys have the misconception that because they can't go for hours that it is too quick, when actually the average time amongst UK men is around 5 minutes.
As has been said above though - it is only a problem if you, or your partner make it a problem.
If it happens, it happens, not a lot you can do about it - it's how you react to it that is key - it certainly doesn't have to mean game over and there are plenty of things you can do while you wait for recovery to happen (and round 2 is usually less quick).
There are techniques such as edging that can help prolong orgasm but try not to think of it as a problem.
I find it happens to me if I go for it straight away rather than taking my time with foreplay and mixing things up a little and getting relaxed and comfortable generally - it also helps to know your body and recognise the signs that you might be close and if you are stop and take attention away from him for a while.
Either way with an understanding partner, and not letting yourself get worked up about it, it really doesn't have to be a problem.
I've also found that telling partners upfront that I can be a little quick sometimes helps - that way if you suddenly change tack mid play they understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have the same issue. As some people have pointed out, second round is normally better for me. I have tried masturbating around 4/5 hours before sex. That helps sometimes. But not always. |
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I've had men think it was too quick when I've been perfectly happy and have had an orgasm. If it's something that worries you then spend more time on foreplay and maybe ask her if she wants an orgasm before penetration (if the woman can orgasm and wants to have one) as at least then that takes the pressure off. Basically talk to them and see how they would like to work around it. |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
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Next time you are about to cum start thinking on Theresa May or some elderly frail granny and it should stop you from cumming.
Although this wont work if you have a fetish for old grannies or you get turned on by Mrs May. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You could try viagra (with proper medical consult). It helps some men last longer and worst case it will help you get hard again straight after so you are ready for round two. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I've had men think it was too quick when I've been perfectly happy and have had an orgasm. If it's something that worries you then spend more time on foreplay and maybe ask her if she wants an orgasm before penetration (if the woman can orgasm and wants to have one) as at least then that takes the pressure off. Basically talk to them and see how they would like to work around it."
All good points - I'd add that a lot of emphasis is placed on penetrative sex and guys having "failed" somehow if they don't achieve it, or if they've not pounded away for hours - it's possible to have a fantastic time without penetrative sex at all, and makes it easier to prolong the experience too - so something else to consider.
Of course it will take an understanding partner who is happy to forego penetrative sex which is where communication and being open and honest comes in. |
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"Define too quick OP?
A lot of guys have the misconception that because they can't go for hours that it is too quick, when actually the average time amongst UK men is around 5 minutes.
As has been said above though - it is only a problem if you, or your partner make it a problem.
If it happens, it happens, not a lot you can do about it - it's how you react to it that is key - it certainly doesn't have to mean game over and there are plenty of things you can do while you wait for recovery to happen (and round 2 is usually less quick).
There are techniques such as edging that can help prolong orgasm but try not to think of it as a problem.
I find it happens to me if I go for it straight away rather than taking my time with foreplay and mixing things up a little and getting relaxed and comfortable generally - it also helps to know your body and recognise the signs that you might be close and if you are stop and take attention away from him for a while.
Either way with an understanding partner, and not letting yourself get worked up about it, it really doesn't have to be a problem.
I've also found that telling partners upfront that I can be a little quick sometimes helps - that way if you suddenly change tack mid play they understand."
Excellent advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I (try) to always make sure a lady has at least one orgasm through foreplay before penetration. I dont think i cum too quick, but i never how how quickly i am going to cum until the time. A lot of variables |
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Time varies for me - sometimes it's quick, mostly longer.
My big problem is that once I've finished I lose interest and don't want to go again.
Although I do try to make sure that the lady has had at least one orgasm by then.
Because I are a gentleman, obviously 
But sometimes I find that I can't finish, no matter what - it just ain't gonna happen in that particular moment. And I've been told, by an ex, that as a woman it was incredibly frustrating knowing that she couldn't make me cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How quick is 2 quick? I find most guys don't last that long but I don't really mind once they put in a good effort to get me off. Plenty of playing and and oral. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Define too quick OP?
A lot of guys have the misconception that because they can't go for hours that it is too quick, when actually the average time amongst UK men is around 5 minutes.
As has been said above though - it is only a problem if you, or your partner make it a problem.
If it happens, it happens, not a lot you can do about it - it's how you react to it that is key - it certainly doesn't have to mean game over and there are plenty of things you can do while you wait for recovery to happen (and round 2 is usually less quick).
There are techniques such as edging that can help prolong orgasm but try not to think of it as a problem.
I find it happens to me if I go for it straight away rather than taking my time with foreplay and mixing things up a little and getting relaxed and comfortable generally - it also helps to know your body and recognise the signs that you might be close and if you are stop and take attention away from him for a while.
Either way with an understanding partner, and not letting yourself get worked up about it, it really doesn't have to be a problem.
I've also found that telling partners upfront that I can be a little quick sometimes helps - that way if you suddenly change tack mid play they understand."
Less then 5 minutes because I can only recall lasting up to 20 minutes only a few times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Next time you are about to cum start thinking on Theresa May or some elderly frail granny and it should stop you from cumming.
Although this wont work if you have a fetish for old grannies or you get turned on by Mrs May."
Nice one mate lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Next time you are about to cum start thinking on Theresa May or some elderly frail granny and it should stop you from cumming.
Although this wont work if you have a fetish for old grannies or you get turned on by Mrs May.
Nice one mate lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been on both sides, had situations where I've came too quick for my liking and situations where it seems to take forever. But that was back when my mindset was dick related, there is tons of things to do in sex, not just penis penatration so sex doesn't have to begin with or even end with the man cumming |
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"Been on both sides, had situations where I've came too quick for my liking and situations where it seems to take forever. But that was back when my mindset was dick related, there is tons of things to do in sex, not just penis penatration so sex doesn't have to begin with or even end with the man cumming"
Exactly this. |
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