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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have strong opinions about it/ there are a lot of married people here without consent.
Personally I think that investing the energy you put into playing away back into your relationship is a better choice. Asking them to join you is a better choice. Or ending something that truly isn’t working is an option.
I understand everyone has their reasons for doing it, but some will be very hard on you for being here like that.
We don’t play with people who are playing away but we have friends who are and don’t judge, we know it’s not black and white. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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that’s something that the couple would obviously arrange between themselves I wouldn’t feel comfortable approaching someone I knew was part of a couple. So I would only ever respond if contact was made with me |
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"that’s something that the couple would obviously arrange between themselves I wouldn’t feel comfortable approaching someone I knew was part of a couple. So I would only ever respond if contact was made with me "
Think you've got the wrong end of the stick there..  |
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way  "
Exactly.  obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long! "
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long! "
Some days Clem I  you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god no
Pitchforks and torches? 
Huh?
It was reference to a thread yesterday about a similar subject
Ooooooh I see, sorry I'm old
Old but hot "
Was just thinking the same about you (smiley face) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation "
Cheers sandy. A nice grown ups answer Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god no
Pitchforks and torches?
Huh?
It was reference to a thread yesterday about a similar subject
Ooooooh I see, sorry I'm old
Old but hot
Was just thinking the same about you (smiley face) "
Thanks. (I think!!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god no
Pitchforks and torches?
Huh?
It was reference to a thread yesterday about a similar subject
Ooooooh I see, sorry I'm old
Old but hot
Was just thinking the same about you (smiley face)
Thanks. (I think!!) "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
Hold onto your seat!
Tea or coffee? |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Op what is that on your testicles? The last one on your pics  
Rice crispy
Haha made me laugh that. It's a cyst mate  anymore questions? "
No questions just hello and welcome to the forums x |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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Personally we decided not to play with people playing away from home. Some will and some won't. For us it's too risky. If that person got caught we'd feel guilty.
That said I have known people playing away from home who I don't judge. Everyone has their reasons (like not wanting to become homeless for example). But if it's not working the best thing to do is be honest!! It's not always black and white we get that. |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way "
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?"
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Hold onto your seat!
Tea or coffee? "
I think ill take a beer for this one, it could be a long day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont "
OK Im out of here, there's a knitting thread somewhere |
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation "
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly, |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont "
Ever thought that you might be the reason if she has converted to a nun?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont "
Personally what you do is your business and nobody else's. I don't judge ive far better things to do with my life. And the reference to the offended wasnt you op it was for the apparent swinging Mormons here who do no wrong
Nobody is perfect and people should judge themselves by theor own standards before others. You only have 1 life and its very short so enjoy what you can while you can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly, "
Exactly this! |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
MIDLANDS |
"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly, "
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And so it begins
Thread along similar lines yesterday, poster was a lady... lots of sympathy for the situation etc etc
Male... oh lordy ... here we go "
I don’t think there was much sympathy! |
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"And so it begins
Thread along similar lines yesterday, poster was a lady... lots of sympathy for the situation etc etc
Male... oh lordy ... here we go
I don’t think there was much sympathy! "
Ok ... some and lots of suggesting that people aren't judgemental |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont
Personally what you do is your business and nobody else's. I don't judge ive far better things to do with my life. And the reference to the offended wasnt you op it was for the apparent swinging Mormons here who do no wrong
Nobody is perfect and people should judge themselves by theor own standards before others. You only have 1 life and its very short so enjoy what you can while you can "
Does it not matter who you hurt along the way?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Honestly whatever anyone says about me on here is fine. I'm genuinely not arsed. Im not bragging about anything. I was just curious to know what people thought about other users. Obviously I'm taking the fire coz I stood up and I'm fine with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And so it begins
Thread along similar lines yesterday, poster was a lady... lots of sympathy for the situation etc etc
Male... oh lordy ... here we go
I don’t think there was much sympathy!
Ok ... some and lots of suggesting that people aren't judgemental"
True. I agree. My thoughts are the same regardless of gender. But asking for opinions is asking for trouble tbf. Don’t know why people don’t just get on with it. I don’t need opinions on anything I do. I don’t know why people do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In a way i admire the men on here who are honest enough to state they are married. Its all the sleazebags who claim to be single when they are not i can not be arsed with."
Its selective honesty though so not really honest as they fail to let the wife know what they are up to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly."
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is there to discuss? Those who cheat will support your post and those who don't cheat, will be against it.
Each to their own. Live and let live. I don't meet men who cheat as I was cheated on in the past, but I also don't judge others. It's their life, not mine. |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
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Just curious.
Are you married as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?"
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married as the username suggests, but with full consent. My wife wants me to change my username as she says people see the name but dont read the profile and are put off by it, I agree but I like being honest from the off. |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
MIDLANDS |
"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?"
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!! |
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
I'm glad you realise this "
If someone you used to be in love with and made very serious promises to is more of a stranger than complete strangers...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!"
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's probably the best answer I've received for this question. Your right it's not black and white! "
I imagine your wife would think it's pretty black and white. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife does not know I am on here, wish she had the same interest in sex as I do, we could have lots of fun on here together "
Isn'tthat she likes men and likely wears panties a start |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m on here without my partner knowing. I think I just like the excitement and thrill of meeting new people but I do love my husband and wouldn’t leave him |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
MIDLANDS |
"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
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What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer. |
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We have always thought that most of the "single" guys on here are playing away.
It's one of the reasons we avoid private meets with guys. Too much potential for hassle and there is nearly always a trail so it isn't usually deniable.
Mrs has played with lots of married guys but only in clubs on the basis of what happens in the club stays in the club and everything is deniable.
If we see the same guy next day out in the vanilla world we wouldn't even say hello. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer."
Well maybe my reluctance to answer is down to the fact that I see absolutely no relevance whatsoever to my comments and my marital status |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
It’s ok, she told me she doesn’t mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont understand why anyone would be with someone if they feel the need to play away.
I could never do something that could cause such hurt and destruction if found out especially if theres kids involved.
Yes breaking up may cause hurt but much less and shorter lived. Honesty is the best policy. Being honest with someone is being respectful to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m on here without my partner knowing. I think I just like the excitement and thrill of meeting new people but I do love my husband and wouldn’t leave him "
You love him so much you dont mind how it could destroy him if he found out?
Just seems selfish and illogical |
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I had the choice to play away separate from hubby and he would do the same (he is bi ) but we both hated that idea so we play as a couple and so far its been great ,no secrets no hiding we are more open and honest with each other than we have ever been in 25 years ,Hubby says not knowing would be horrible and hurtful but being there somehow helps ,,,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t understand people who post threads like this to be honest.
You know not everyone agrees with cheating, yet you choose to post this knowing that anyway.
The way I see it is, if a cheater was genuinely comfortable with what they were doing the would just do it, they wouldn’t look to justify their actions or post threads like this.
I have more respect (the wrong word to use for cheats really) for cheats who cheat and carry on with their lives, then the cheats who feel the need to tell the world and try to justify it to strangers online.
Each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't meet attached people because, just forgetting they're cheating for a moment, they will virtually never be available when I would actually like or not be clock watching ... to me it seems like setting yourself up to be let down! Here for my needs/wants first and hate those being dictated to by an ignorant third party, who if finds out might just make my life bad for a while! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's probably the best answer I've received for this question. Your right it's not black and white!
I imagine your wife would think it's pretty black and white. "
I agree with this, actually. It would be for me/us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am part of a couple ( happily married too ) I'm here with full consent, we also play as a couple....personally I would never knowingly meet anyone that was attached I'm not about being part of that kind of drama.....I can usually sniff them.out anyway, but I agree with the comment on investing time into your marriage/relationship trust me I'd soon swing with my better half than without him, but alas I feel most of those playing away would never approach or suggest swing with their significant other because they do not want to share them. |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I’m on here without my partner knowing. I think I just like the excitement and thrill of meeting new people but I do love my husband and wouldn’t leave him
You love him so much you dont mind how it could destroy him if he found out?
Just seems selfish and illogical"
Covers it so simply. |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
MIDLANDS |
"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer.
Well maybe my reluctance to answer is down to the fact that I see absolutely no relevance whatsoever to my comments and my marital status"
Of course there is a relevance.
If you are cheating yourself, then you are going to defend a fellow cheat aren't you?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t understand people who post threads like this to be honest.
You know not everyone agrees with cheating, yet you choose to post this knowing that anyway.
The way I see it is, if a cheater was genuinely comfortable with what they were doing the would just do it, they wouldn’t look to justify their actions or post threads like this.
I have more respect (the wrong word to use for cheats really) for cheats who cheat and carry on with their lives, then the cheats who feel the need to tell the world and try to justify it to strangers online.
Each to their own. "
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer.
Well maybe my reluctance to answer is down to the fact that I see absolutely no relevance whatsoever to my comments and my marital status
Of course there is a relevance.
If you are cheating yourself, then you are going to defend a fellow cheat aren't you?
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The only thing I'm defending the OP against is the fact you came on on accusing him of bragging about his situation. I never saw any bragging. Then you went on to say there are lots of men and women are on here cheating, except men, apparently lack the same intelligence to keep quiet about it, yet there was a woman on here only yesterday with a similar thread. I only pointed that out and the only answer you could give was asking me about my status |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer.
Well maybe my reluctance to answer is down to the fact that I see absolutely no relevance whatsoever to my comments and my marital status
Of course there is a relevance.
If you are cheating yourself, then you are going to defend a fellow cheat aren't you?
The only thing I'm defending the OP against is the fact you came on on accusing him of bragging about his situation. I never saw any bragging. Then you went on to say there are lots of men and women are on here cheating, except men, apparently lack the same intelligence to keep quiet about it, yet there was a woman on here only yesterday with a similar thread. I only pointed that out and the only answer you could give was asking me about my status "
There may have been A woman on yesterday, but the men posting this crap will outnumber women about 20-1.
They do their's in private, many more men like everyone to know.
It seems a challenge from men to say I am cheating and I don't give a shit what anyone thinks so I will tell everyone.
They would all sure give a shit if the wife found out.
Women just go quietly along their way.... |
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"This shit again!!! I don’t care anymore but hope all who cheat and try and justify it hope there willies or fannys fall off!!!
Well said!!"
Can a fanny fall off?
I may have missed the point here |
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"This shit again!!! I don’t care anymore but hope all who cheat and try and justify it hope there willies or fannys fall off!!!
Well said!!
Can a fanny fall off?
I may have missed the point here"
Some of the fuckers splashed all over fab definitely have bits that can fall off |
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I don't see the point in these posts or half the replies given - i think ppl should feel free to do as they like and live with the consequences. I don't think it's going to achieve much to try to seek justification from a bunch horny fuckers on a fab forum. A more interesting post would be how many forum favourites are married and cheating, THAT would be fun..... |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I don't see the point in these posts or half the replies given - i think ppl should feel free to do as they like and live with the consequences. I don't think it's going to achieve much to try to seek justification from a bunch horny fuckers on a fab forum. A more interesting post would be how many forum favourites are married and cheating, THAT would be fun..... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am here without her knowledge but I want her involved if things progress, I want her to experience another guy I'm just struggling with how to approach it without just coming out with it |
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont
Personally what you do is your business and nobody else's. I don't judge ive far better things to do with my life. And the reference to the offended wasnt you op it was for the apparent swinging Mormons here who do no wrong
Nobody is perfect and people should judge themselves by theor own standards before others. You only have 1 life and its very short so enjoy what you can while you can
Does it not matter who you hurt along the way??"
Yes and no. You cant always avoid something because it'll hurt or upset or offend someone. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
Just curious.
Are you married as well?
Just curious
What does my status have to do with anything ?
Your comments indicate a certain status.
We always stand corrected of course!!
Wow really ? A tad judgemental i think, but that's ok, your entitled to your opinion .
What is judgemental about asking a question?
We note your reluctance to answer.
Well maybe my reluctance to answer is down to the fact that I see absolutely no relevance whatsoever to my comments and my marital status
Of course there is a relevance.
If you are cheating yourself, then you are going to defend a fellow cheat aren't you?
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Not always.
I'm married.
In the Op's case I would wonder what's going wrong already with him being so young. He couldn't of been married for that long. |
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"It saddens me when a young person is cheating,I always think it's more the older generation who have been married for 20 year's do that. "
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Everyone has a reason for being here, who are we to judge but....
If you’re here, married and without consent, at least have the decency to be honest and open about it. Saves both parties the embarrassment when it ‘accidentally’ drops into conversation (as it inevitably will)
If you tell me you’re not and I subsequently find you are you know where the door is ..... |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont
Personally what you do is your business and nobody else's. I don't judge ive far better things to do with my life. And the reference to the offended wasnt you op it was for the apparent swinging Mormons here who do no wrong
Nobody is perfect and people should judge themselves by theor own standards before others. You only have 1 life and its very short so enjoy what you can while you can
Does it not matter who you hurt along the way??
Yes and no. You cant always avoid something because it'll hurt or upset or offend someone. "
It isn't just 'someone', it is your supposed life partner.
The cheats aren't scared of the partner finding out, they are simply scared of their partners telling them to get out.
It isn't about saving the feeling of their partners, it is about saving their own skins. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all can hurt people along life's highway but choosing to hurt your partner, any kids and their future lives, family and friends is a big difference and doing so by choice says a lot about the person doing the hurting ... all for a shag? |
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"Everyone has a reason for being here, who are we to judge but....
If you’re here, married and without consent, at least have the decency to be honest and open about it. Saves both parties the embarrassment when it ‘accidentally’ drops into conversation (as it inevitably will)
If you tell me you’re not and I subsequently find you are you know where the door is ....."
'have the decency to be honest' haha if he's not going to tell his wife he's highly unlikely to be open and honest with someone else |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"We all can hurt people along life's highway but choosing to hurt your partner, any kids and their future lives, family and friends is a big difference and doing so by choice says a lot about the person doing the hurting ... all for a shag? "
The married people who we have spoken to don't give a flying toss whether they hurt their wives or their kids.
They just want sex.
How sad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not married but I am in a committed relationship, he knows I'm here, he's here too but I wouldn't be without his knowledge and blessing. I don't judge those who aren't though. |
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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago
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My dad cheated on my mum a very long time ago, so as a child I felt the damage of that action. I dont entertain married men because I was around when my mum found out and it was horrible, I choose not to be party to that behaviour regardless of their reasons...I want nothing to do with it...personal preference and I dont judge why folk do it, if you cant do the time dont do the crime |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please? |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please? "
All relationships are based on consent surely! |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please? "
Married people fucking others without their partner's consent. |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please? "
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be"
To be honest yesterday was the first female post like this id seen on here. There’s a male one every couple of days if not more! My opinions are the same whichever gender. |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be
To be honest yesterday was the first female post like this id seen on here. There’s a male one every couple of days if not more! My opinions are the same whichever gender. "
Misguided bravado I suspect |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be
To be honest yesterday was the first female post like this id seen on here. There’s a male one every couple of days if not more! My opinions are the same whichever gender.
Misguided bravado I suspect "
Yes I suspect that too on most of them.
Great filters though |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be
To be honest yesterday was the first female post like this id seen on here. There’s a male one every couple of days if not more! My opinions are the same whichever gender.
Misguided bravado I suspect
Yes I suspect that too on most of them.
Great filters though "
Very true ... they never end well |
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Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels "
Nope. Not joking. |
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Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking. "
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"Maybe knowledge would be a less contentious word than consent? "
I agree. Consent suggests directed agreement and allowing someone to do something whereas knowledge is just letting them know. Whether or not why agree is another issue.
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Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?"
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OK. So having been married for over 25 years, then becoming aware that the marriage was dead, the sex was rubbish (he was my only partner from age 15) and I was just the unpaid housekeeper - I divorced him. Then finding this lifestyle, and enjoying it, how about this ....
If you were a man. You love your wife. She is the great love of your life. You've been together for 20 years plus. You get on well, share the same daft sense of humour, love your kids, your grandkids, have lots of good friends, share the same values .... BUT for whatever reason, she has completely gone off sex. Cuddles are ok. Holding hands. Kissing. She is still gorgeous and sexy to you, but she really isn't interested in sex anymore. You need an outlet other than your right hand, for sex. You don't want to pester her. You told her 7 years ago that you wouldn't initiate sex any more - you would leave that to her. Since then you have made love a handful of times.
Why is it imperative that you leave her?
The life you have is a good one. You are both happy. The only issue is sex. Believe me, most women have no idea how important sex is to men.
Surely it isn't such a bad thing to have a fwb who is discreet, doesn't want you to leave your wife, and just wants sex.
I'm not saying it is 'right'. Merely that for some people it is a solution to a problem. |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"OK. So having been married for over 25 years, then becoming aware that the marriage was dead, the sex was rubbish (he was my only partner from age 15) and I was just the unpaid housekeeper - I divorced him. Then finding this lifestyle, and enjoying it, how about this ....
If you were a man. You love your wife. She is the great love of your life. You've been together for 20 years plus. You get on well, share the same daft sense of humour, love your kids, your grandkids, have lots of good friends, share the same values .... BUT for whatever reason, she has completely gone off sex. Cuddles are ok. Holding hands. Kissing. She is still gorgeous and sexy to you, but she really isn't interested in sex anymore. You need an outlet other than your right hand, for sex. You don't want to pester her. You told her 7 years ago that you wouldn't initiate sex any more - you would leave that to her. Since then you have made love a handful of times.
Why is it imperative that you leave her?
The life you have is a good one. You are both happy. The only issue is sex. Believe me, most women have no idea how important sex is to men.
Surely it isn't such a bad thing to have a fwb who is discreet, doesn't want you to leave your wife, and just wants sex.
I'm not saying it is 'right'. Merely that for some people it is a solution to a problem. "
Ad long as the person is honest about the situation |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
At least you are honest enough to admit it unlike many . One of my biggest angst is that people are quick to condem guys but are all to willing to ignore females that are here under the same guise. That is how it seems to be
To be honest yesterday was the first female post like this id seen on here. There’s a male one every couple of days if not more! My opinions are the same whichever gender. "
Thats the thing whatever your views, I believe it should be applied equally.
It is fluidity of which the opinion changes based on gender which I feel strongly agains.
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Exactly. obviously not to your wife, but to us strangers, you're honest as the day is long!
Some days Clem I you the most
OP as long as you are upfront then other users can make their own mind up about your situation
The best thing you could have done OP is go about your business quietly,
Agree totally, but it looks like the OP would rather brag about it.
There are loads of cheating women on here as well as men, but at least they have the intelligence to do just as you say and go about their business quietly.
Firstly, at what point is he bragging about anything ?
Secondly, there was a woman on here yesterday asking pretty much the same thing
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Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean? "
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!! |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"OK. So having been married for over 25 years, then becoming aware that the marriage was dead, the sex was rubbish (he was my only partner from age 15) and I was just the unpaid housekeeper - I divorced him. Then finding this lifestyle, and enjoying it, how about this ....
If you were a man. You love your wife. She is the great love of your life. You've been together for 20 years plus. You get on well, share the same daft sense of humour, love your kids, your grandkids, have lots of good friends, share the same values .... BUT for whatever reason, she has completely gone off sex. Cuddles are ok. Holding hands. Kissing. She is still gorgeous and sexy to you, but she really isn't interested in sex anymore. You need an outlet other than your right hand, for sex. You don't want to pester her. You told her 7 years ago that you wouldn't initiate sex any more - you would leave that to her. Since then you have made love a handful of times.
Why is it imperative that you leave her?
The life you have is a good one. You are both happy. The only issue is sex. Believe me, most women have no idea how important sex is to men.
Surely it isn't such a bad thing to have a fwb who is discreet, doesn't want you to leave your wife, and just wants sex.
I'm not saying it is 'right'. Merely that for some people it is a solution to a problem. "
Would the wife think it isn’t such a bad thing though? |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 14/10/19 20:54:39]"
Weather we swing together or apart or married or separated it's all cheating, love and lust are different entities , What we get from swinging is the lust that lots of married people have lost , They have not lost loving each each other , Just changes in the dynamic of the couple |
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"[Removed by poster at 14/10/19 20:54:39]Weather we swing together or apart or married or separated it's all cheating, love and lust are different entities , What we get from swinging is the lust that lots of married people have lost , They have not lost loving each each other , Just changes in the dynamic of the couple "
How is it cheating if your partner agrees? Or you do it together? |
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"[Removed by poster at 14/10/19 20:54:39]Weather we swing together or apart or married or separated it's all cheating, love and lust are different entities , What we get from swinging is the lust that lots of married people have lost , They have not lost loving each each other , Just changes in the dynamic of the couple "
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"[Removed by poster at 14/10/19 20:54:39]Weather we swing together or apart or married or separated it's all cheating, love and lust are different entities , What we get from swinging is the lust that lots of married people have lost , They have not lost loving each each other , Just changes in the dynamic of the couple
How is it cheating if your partner agrees? Or you do it together?"
This
We do it together and on our own, I know, he knows ..... I'm lost on the cheating part!!!! |
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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago
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"OK. So having been married for over 25 years, then becoming aware that the marriage was dead, the sex was rubbish (he was my only partner from age 15) and I was just the unpaid housekeeper - I divorced him. Then finding this lifestyle, and enjoying it, how about this ....
If you were a man. You love your wife. She is the great love of your life. You've been together for 20 years plus. You get on well, share the same daft sense of humour, love your kids, your grandkids, have lots of good friends, share the same values .... BUT for whatever reason, she has completely gone off sex. Cuddles are ok. Holding hands. Kissing. She is still gorgeous and sexy to you, but she really isn't interested in sex anymore. You need an outlet other than your right hand, for sex. You don't want to pester her. You told her 7 years ago that you wouldn't initiate sex any more - you would leave that to her. Since then you have made love a handful of times.
Why is it imperative that you leave her?
The life you have is a good one. You are both happy. The only issue is sex. Believe me, most women have no idea how important sex is to men.
Surely it isn't such a bad thing to have a fwb who is discreet, doesn't want you to leave your wife, and just wants sex.
I'm not saying it is 'right'. Merely that for some people it is a solution to a problem.
Would the wife think it isn’t such a bad thing though?"
We agree totally.
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"Everyone has a reason for being here, who are we to judge but....
If you’re here, married and without consent, at least have the decency to be honest and open about it. Saves both parties the embarrassment when it ‘accidentally’ drops into conversation (as it inevitably will)
If you tell me you’re not and I subsequently find you are you know where the door is .....
'have the decency to be honest' haha if he's not going to tell his wife he's highly unlikely to be open and honest with someone else "
Very true but he’s also unlikely to have the ability to maintain the pretence with someone on fab! |
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"[Removed by poster at 14/10/19 20:54:39]Weather we swing together or apart or married or separated it's all cheating, love and lust are different entities , What we get from swinging is the lust that lots of married people have lost , They have not lost loving each each other , Just changes in the dynamic of the couple
Eh?"
well its been raining for weeks what you expect |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!"
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so. |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so."
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so."
And it* bloody predictive text |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so."
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Not married but been with my better half for a long, long time. Both on here separately but with full knowledge and discussion.
Not having a go at anyone else, but the shared discussions etc. Are a big part of what I enjoy here - I don't think I'd be on (other than for forums) if I was single. Interesting reading everyone else's situations though.... |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so.
Out of interest, if he found out would he mind/be hurt or be fine with it? "
So if you asked him if it was ok for you to do this and he said no.. would you stop? |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks
Consent? Since when does an adult need consent from another to do as they please?
Your joking right?? That comment is wrong on so many levels
Nope. Not joking.
Are you a burglar?
A burglar? What do you mean?
So adults don’t need consent, hmmmm!!!
No.As adults we each make our own choices. Is it a requirement to seek permission from my husband to live my life as I choose? My husband doesn't seek permission from me to do what he pleases and I would never insist he should. He has no sex drive but I do. We are best friends and have no secrets other than that.
I tell the truth to folk I speak to on here.. I dont feel the need to tell my husband I am on here... admit isn't fear of being homeless when I own the house that we live in.
My husband and I have different priorities in life... our marriage is perfect for us. We are 2 different people who are capable of making our decisions independently in life without seeking permission or approval from the other to do so.
Out of interest, if he found out would he mind/be hurt or be fine with it? "
In all honesty Suki he may be a little hurt, but would probably be fine with it. Nobody is perfect... or as perfect as they would like to think they are. And as things are no different at home...he would be fine. All the things that are important to him I meet. I work hard to keep him happy... maybe our marriage is more perfect for him than me....? |
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"Curious to see how many other married users are on here and how many are on here without their partner's consent. I for one am here without her consent, but that's a choice I've made. What are other peoples opinions..
Thanks "
I'm not allowed to say the words I'd use.... @#**@# |
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Not condoning or defending being solo players. This is an adult site and swinging is an adult lifestyle. People have many different reasons for being on here and many circumstances, but ultimately we are supposed to be adults and as such we make decisions and do so knowing the risks. Me personally I knew the risks and accepted any consequences, yes I did pay a big price but now know a happiness Id never known before.
I simply think that people have their views but should also resect others without judgement, I know its not likely to happen, one could hope. My view round this subject is that people should simply be honest about their circumstances, and then it is down to the individuals to decide as adults without judgement form others |
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I think one of the reasons why people are NOT honest about ‘playing away’ is the negative responses they get in the forum when they announce it. If people were more accepting then people might be more honest and everyone would benefit. |
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"I though most of the guys on here were? There just can't be that many men age 30 - 50 on the shelf.
Haha exactly mate atleast I'm honest in a way
Ever thought of being just as honest to your wife?
Great input. Sure someone else asked that. How do any of you know that I've not been honest with her in the past and she's converted into a nun? Ya dont
Personally what you do is your business and nobody else's. I don't judge ive far better things to do with my life. And the reference to the offended wasnt you op it was for the apparent swinging Mormons here who do no wrong
Nobody is perfect and people should judge themselves by theor own standards before others. You only have 1 life and its very short so enjoy what you can while you can "
Hey you should type on these threads a lot more! I like you - it'll always be my round (2 beers) |
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I'm on here playing with my wifes consent, even then it is still difficult to get meets, due to being married.
Admittedly as a couple we won't meet with guys playing away, we have had the messages from the wife/partner when they've found the profile. |
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"I think one of the reasons why people are NOT honest about ‘playing away’ is the negative responses they get in the forum when they announce it. If people were more accepting then people might be more honest and everyone would benefit. "
Why announce it though? I’ve met married men and I’ve said this before but in my experience, on the whole, they have been nicer, more honest with me and more respectful than single men. It depends on the circumstances with me though. Anyone who feels the need to do a thread like this would instantly put me off. Just get on with it. As long as people are honest with anyone they meet or are going to potentially meet then I don’t see how it affects other people or is any of their business. I do object to married people lying about being single though. If they’re honest about it then people can make an informed decision on whether to meet them. If not move on. This is predominantly a sex site and I can’t believe the nastiness and judgement that I constantly see. It’s fine to have an opinion but to be nasty is not! To call someone a cunt on one of these threads is just childish and bang out of order. Grow up people ffs |
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I'm curious on why you started this thread op. Are you second guessing your choice?
As stated above life is short I live life the way I wish and so should others but it is not forced, it is their choice. No regrets, no judgmentalists, no what ifs. |
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These threads are started usually to get attention especially if it is a contentious subject, sorry OP.
But the knock on effect that threads can provoke thought as well as abuse on some level, people have to read them lol. The initial intent may have been self intetest, the result can be of benefit to others indirectly. |
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"I think one of the reasons why people are NOT honest about ‘playing away’ is the negative responses they get in the forum when they announce it. If people were more accepting then people might be more honest and everyone would benefit. "
Why should more people be accepting?
I won’t be accepting of cheats, but I won’t bleat on about it all the time, I’m entitled to feel how I feel.
I personally think it’s ridiculous to ever expect honesty from someone who deceives the most important person in their life. |
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"Personally we decided not to play with people playing away from home. Some will and some won't. For us it's too risky. If that person got caught we'd feel guilty.
That said I have known people playing away from home who I don't judge. Everyone has their reasons (like not wanting to become homeless for example). But if it's not working the best thing to do is be honest!! It's not always black and white we get that. "
Well said. Everyone's situations and circumstances are different. Who are we to judge what is right it wrong?  |
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Just a misconception, under the law one partner cannot exclude the other from the marital home unless they obtain an injunction and that is only in the case of violence or threat.
The law doesn't consider cheating or infidelity as just cause to exclude a partner from the marital home. Changing locks of throwing their stuff out is illegal. So being made homeless would not can not happen |
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We try not to judge anyone for their choices on coming in here without a partner’s knowledge.
But, having endured some infidelity in our own relationship, we simply choose not to play with others who are here without the knowledge of their partners.
We’re not particularly horrible about it, we just explain ourselves and say thank you and move on. |
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