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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
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Feeling really annoyed....I love going down and licking, kissing a girl (woman). But my wife doesn't like it.... Haven't licked pussy for years amd years.... I am so missing it. Do any other women not like being kissed on their other lips? Any reason why my wife doesn't apart from 'I just don't like it'? |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"Have you asked her why?"
Yes many times. She just doesn't like it. No kissing, no touching, only rubbing up then penetrate with out using hands. This happens about once a month if I am lucky. Asked about her past but not a lot of opening up about that..... |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"I'm not a massive fan of it either to be honest, it's alright, I just prefer other things a lot more. "
Thanks for letting me know, I honestly thought everyone licked it! Just hooked up with one that doesn't. I suppose I should have asked before we married! |
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over a year ago
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"I'm not a massive fan of it either to be honest, it's alright, I just prefer other things a lot more.
Thanks for letting me know, I honestly thought everyone licked it! Just hooked up with one that doesn't. I suppose I should have asked before we married!"
Wouldn't you have married then? |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm not a massive fan of it either to be honest, it's alright, I just prefer other things a lot more.
Thanks for letting me know, I honestly thought everyone licked it! Just hooked up with one that doesn't. I suppose I should have asked before we married!
Wouldn't you have married then?"
Of course I would. We work together, train together, travel together etc etc. Just finding out we have different needs and different speeds. Very frustrating time for us at the moment....thank you everyone for chatting it helps me calm down a bit! X |
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I wasnt keen when i first got with hubby as i hated him kissing me after but now 24 years down the line i love him and the guy we are with to do the same love it now ,Cumming on a guys face is a must now ...  |
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"Have you asked her why?
Yes many times. She just doesn't like it. No kissing, no touching, only rubbing up then penetrate with out using hands. This happens about once a month if I am lucky. Asked about her past but not a lot of opening up about that....."
What I’m going to say may be seen as unkind OP but it’s possible she doesn’t like you doing it because you’re not doing it right for her. Sometimes, it’s easier in a marriage to put up with the bear in the corner of the room then saying the words out loud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My hubby is amazing at oral. It is all about tongue technique and gentle change in pressure. Guaranteed to have a girl squirming. I also love sitting on his face and wriggling!
Not all guys have the right technique, but a lot of girls do. Probably down to experience and knowing how it feels, and where to hit the right spot.
If a guy does it wrong it can be so 'ouch and nope' but get it right... I am a pussy cat.
You need to take is slow and keep trying. Good luck! |
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"My hubby is amazing at oral. It is all about tongue technique and gentle change in pressure. Guaranteed to have a girl squirming. I also love sitting on his face and wriggling!
Not all guys have the right technique, but a lot of girls do. Probably down to experience and knowing how it feels, and where to hit the right spot.
If a guy does it wrong it can be so 'ouch and nope' but get it right... I am a pussy cat.
You need to take is slow and keep trying. Good luck! "
but his wife has said she doesn't like it, why would he keep trying?  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends on who with, I tend not to really enjoy it and start wondering when I'm going to get cock/fingers inside me. OP, open communication is the best way forward. There's not one sex act that suits all. |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"Have you asked her why?
Yes many times. She just doesn't like it. No kissing, no touching, only rubbing up then penetrate with out using hands. This happens about once a month if I am lucky. Asked about her past but not a lot of opening up about that.....
What I’m going to say may be seen as unkind OP but it’s possible she doesn’t like you doing it because you’re not doing it right for her. Sometimes, it’s easier in a marriage to put up with the bear in the corner of the room then saying the words out loud."
You are completely right. I am not doing it right for her!
Our needs and speeds are not gearing together. She does not like sex and never really has. Over the past four years it has got less and less often. She openly says that she does not need or want it but is happier without as she now finds it horrible.
This affects me greatly as I think it is me not pleasing her but she says she does not want pleasing sexually as she does not want it!
Phew......what a lot going through my head and heart about who I am and what I should do....fuck it's complicated! |
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I'm not sure I could have a serious relationship with someone who wouldn't let me go down on them, I love it too 
If she isn't to it OP then there's not much you can do to change her mind I don't think, and forcing the issue probably won't end well. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"My hubby is amazing at oral. It is all about tongue technique and gentle change in pressure. Guaranteed to have a girl squirming. I also love sitting on his face and wriggling!
Not all guys have the right technique, but a lot of girls do. Probably down to experience and knowing how it feels, and where to hit the right spot.
If a guy does it wrong it can be so 'ouch and nope' but get it right... I am a pussy cat.
You need to take is slow and keep trying. Good luck! "
It's nothing to do with technique, I've had sex with a lot of men with different techniques, and it's nice, but other things are better. Not everyone likes everything. |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"My hubby is amazing at oral. It is all about tongue technique and gentle change in pressure. Guaranteed to have a girl squirming. I also love sitting on his face and wriggling!
Not all guys have the right technique, but a lot of girls do. Probably down to experience and knowing how it feels, and where to hit the right spot.
If a guy does it wrong it can be so 'ouch and nope' but get it right... I am a pussy cat.
You need to take is slow and keep trying. Good luck!
but his wife has said she doesn't like it, why would he keep trying? "
Yep....why keep trying...can't even stroke or touch her pussy.....!!!! |
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"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment ..... "
It must be difficult for both of you. Hope you can resolve it |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"I'm not a huge fan of oral, I often get bored 
Me too, I'm thinking "just penetrate me already"  "
I like to play....but not with myself as it gets boring and repetetive after time ..... Yours, A frustrated man (if I can call myself that)! |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment .....
OP have you ever been able to touch her?"
Not really. Been together for 20 years and has got worse and worse. I hoped it would change after... Or after.... Etc etc |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment .....
It must be difficult for both of you. Hope you can resolve it "
We are trying. Don't know how.... |
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"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment .....
OP have you ever been able to touch her?
Not really. Been together for 20 years and has got worse and worse. I hoped it would change after... Or after.... Etc etc"
Wow that is a long time. My ex wouldn't go down on me even though I asked several times. I understand your feelings, even if from the opposite side. |
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"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment .....
OP have you ever been able to touch her?
Not really. Been together for 20 years and has got worse and worse. I hoped it would change after... Or after.... Etc etc"
Sorry to hear that and has been already said it can't be a good situation for either of you.
I don't have any answers, I wish I did. Except talking. I really hope that you can figure this out x |
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"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment .....
It must be difficult for both of you. Hope you can resolve it
We are trying. Don't know how...."
couples counselling? Sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees and talking things through with someone who can ask the right questions to tease out issues can help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yep....we have had many arguements and sleeping on the sofa about it. I am not going to hide that. It is hard for us at the moment ..... "
Perhaps both of you together seeing a marriage counsellor may help? |
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Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ... |
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"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ..."
Says on his profile that she knows. |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it "
Why would she if she doesn't like it? |
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"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ...
Says on his profile that she knows."
OK but is here the right place ,? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never liked it, but the experiences I had was with men who made it feel like they were doing me a favour and didn’t want to do it.
When I got with the current guy, I tried to stop him doing it till he basically pinned me down and went to town
He loves it and to have a guy who wants to do it basically is a game changer, I love it and he’s that good I squirt
Thank go for my Mr  |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
Thank you everyone. We have spoken about a marriage counsellar for us both but she as far as she is concerned it is my problem as it is me that wants.....aaaaarrrrrggghhhh trying to get to the gym and allotment to tire myself out but that don't work. Night times are the worst, you know why! Thinking she is trying to get rid of me, for me to make the move but talking she doesn't want that. To top it all off she is a jeolous one!
Once again thanks for supporting and questioning my rants. Feeling supported by you all. X |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it? "
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better |
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"Thank you everyone. We have spoken about a marriage counsellar for us both but she as far as she is concerned it is my problem as it is me that wants.....aaaaarrrrrggghhhh trying to get to the gym and allotment to tire myself out but that don't work. Night times are the worst, you know why! Thinking she is trying to get rid of me, for me to make the move but talking she doesn't want that. To top it all off she is a jeolous one!
Once again thanks for supporting and questioning my rants. Feeling supported by you all. X"
Maybe its time to say that you value your relationship and if she does too you she needs to come to relationship counselling with you. Failing that you could go alone. You can't continue as you are |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ...
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She tells me to have sex elsewhere to leave her in peace!
She has not seen my account and I have not met anyone. Only had messages from guys offering to suck my dick or for me to fuck their arses and I don't want that!
I am here as a distraction, a maybe, I don't know what is going to happen....but good point bringing it up about why I am here...some people have suggested to find a prostitute and pay for it! What do you think? |
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"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ...
She tells me to have sex elsewhere to leave her in peace!
She has not seen my account and I have not met anyone. Only had messages from guys offering to suck my dick or for me to fuck their arses and I don't want that!
I am here as a distraction, a maybe, I don't know what is going to happen....but good point bringing it up about why I am here...some people have suggested to find a prostitute and pay for it! What do you think?"
I think it's more important what *you* think. |
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"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ...
She tells me to have sex elsewhere to leave her in peace!
She has not seen my account and I have not met anyone. Only had messages from guys offering to suck my dick or for me to fuck their arses and I don't want that!
I am here as a distraction, a maybe, I don't know what is going to happen....but good point bringing it up about why I am here...some people have suggested to find a prostitute and pay for it! What do you think?"
I think that you are probably missing affection and intimacy as much as sex, you won't get that from an escort, you probably won't get it here either.
There probably isn't a short term fix for this. |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
Staines |
"Is being on here the right thing ? does she know or care you are ,sort your relationship before it gets to the affair stage ,hope you resolve it for both your sakes life is too short you BOTH need to be happy in all ways not just sexually ...
She tells me to have sex elsewhere to leave her in peace!
She has not seen my account and I have not met anyone. Only had messages from guys offering to suck my dick or for me to fuck their arses and I don't want that!
I am here as a distraction, a maybe, I don't know what is going to happen....but good point bringing it up about why I am here...some people have suggested to find a prostitute and pay for it! What do you think?
I think that you are probably missing affection and intimacy as much as sex, you won't get that from an escort, you probably won't get it here either.
There probably isn't a short term fix for this. "
Lol....the joys of being poor and parent hood (not being able to get a babysitter).
Yep I agree with you, lots of stresses from many different places and the moment is a lobg one.... |
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I hated oral with my ex, he just didnt do it for me the same as sex eventually I just didnt want it from him anymore. What You're saying sounds what my marriage was like, I hate to say that since we arent together anymore. I honestly have no advice for you but maybe just try not to bring it up so much to her?
I love oral now btw but only when I'm being fingered aswell otherwise its boring
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"Thank you everyone. We have spoken about a marriage counsellar for us both but she as far as she is concerned it is my problem as it is me that wants.....aaaaarrrrrggghhhh trying to get to the gym and allotment to tire myself out but that don't work. Night times are the worst, you know why! Thinking she is trying to get rid of me, for me to make the move but talking she doesn't want that. To top it all off she is a jeolous one!
Once again thanks for supporting and questioning my rants. Feeling supported by you all. X
Maybe its time to say that you value your relationship and if she does too you she needs to come to relationship counselling with you. Failing that you could go alone. You can't continue as you are"
Agree with this  |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it?
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better"
I'm saying she should, cos I know I would. So from my perspective she should. I'm not saying she HAS to! Are you girls OK? Do you need to get laid or something, jumping down my neck for no reason? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it?
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better
I'm saying she should, cos I know I would. So from my perspective she should. I'm not saying she HAS to! Are you girls OK? Do you need to get laid or something, jumping down my neck for no reason? "
But she's said she doesn't like it so why should she do it because you do like it? |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it?
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better
I'm saying she should, cos I know I would. So from my perspective she should. I'm not saying she HAS to! Are you girls OK? Do you need to get laid or something, jumping down my neck for no reason? "
I got laid Friday, thank you very much for your concern. |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it?
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better
I'm saying she should, cos I know I would. So from my perspective she should. I'm not saying she HAS to! Are you girls OK? Do you need to get laid or something, jumping down my neck for no reason? "
I'm fine, thanks for your concern  |
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"Jesus that's crazy! I could take it for breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper ?? ?? maybe even a cheeky midnight feast too. Your wife should take full advantage of it
Why would she if she doesn't like it?
exactly. I hate swede, eating it more often isn't going to make me like it any better
I'm saying she should, cos I know I would. So from my perspective she should. I'm not saying she HAS to! Are you girls OK? Do you need to get laid or something, jumping down my neck for no reason? "
Maybe she should take advantage of it, if she liked it but she doesnt so she wont and that's her prerogative |
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By *evyn69 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I hated oral with my ex, he just didnt do it for me the same as sex eventually I just didnt want it from him anymore. What You're saying sounds what my marriage was like, I hate to say that since we arent together anymore. I honestly have no advice for you but maybe just try not to bring it up so much to her?
I love oral now btw but only when I'm being fingered aswell otherwise its boring
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Thanks, really hard not to bring it up. There is no physicality anymore between us.. |
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