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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does your status have an lol after saying your hubby wont give you sex?
I just thought that"
Ah that old comedy gold of Marital issues 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nobodies business if you fuck behind your hubbies back,but if your looking for validation from the people of fab then good luck,none of them break the speed limit never mind cheat |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It's nobodies business if you fuck behind your hubbies back,but if your looking for validation from the people of fab then good luck,none of them break the speed limit never mind cheat"
Actually, I don't do either if those things, I dont drive much anymore and I'm single. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Is he the fella you meet with OP (as mentioned in last veri?). Maybe he’s just had enough?
Have a chat with him and see what’s going on. There’ll be something bothering him and you just need to chip away at him till he spills the beans as to what it is.
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"Is he the fella you meet with OP (as mentioned in last veri?). Maybe he’s just had enough?
Have a chat with him and see what’s going on. There’ll be something bothering him and you just need to chip away at him till he spills the beans as to what it is.
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But he doesn't want to spill his beans  |
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"Is he the fella you meet with OP (as mentioned in last veri?). Maybe he’s just had enough?
Have a chat with him and see what’s going on. There’ll be something bothering him and you just need to chip away at him till he spills the beans as to what it is.
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Maybe he know she has a lover and is in here and that why he doesn't want sex with her. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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The OP didn’t ask to be slated about her life or verifications. Yes there are probably many women in similar situations as her. We don’t always know why marriages fall apart.
I spent the last year of married life in a sexless relationship and yes I did ask him and received no answer. After 13 years of marriage and three children, he left. He traded me in for a woman 10 years younger and no kids.
Being on Fab may actually keep couples together as they can get the sex life they don’t get at home but still keep their marriage together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The OP didn’t ask to be slated about her life or verifications. Yes there are probably many women in similar situations as her. We don’t always know why marriages fall apart.
I spent the last year of married life in a sexless relationship and yes I did ask him and received no answer. After 13 years of marriage and three children, he left. He traded me in for a woman 10 years younger and no kids.
Being on Fab may actually keep couples together as they can get the sex life they don’t get at home but still keep their marriage together.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's nobodies business if you fuck behind your hubbies back,but if your looking for validation from the people of fab then good luck,none of them break the speed limit never mind cheat"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses. |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses."
Nope. I would have said the same. |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses."
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses."
This.
The judgement and discernment from some of the forumites who appear to sit up there in their ivory towers thinking they know it all with their smart ass replies and pack mentality really gets on my pip.
This lady is a real person, with a real problem, doing the best she can with what she's got. That's the best *anyone* can do.
The only time you should look down on someone is to give them a hand helping them up
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Nope. I would have said the same. "
Burning people with marital problems isn't exactly what I would call a winning comment or advice tbf  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
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I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
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Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
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I think the totch and pitchfork pack were making the.point that the very balanced responses on this thread would be.very different if the OP were a man.
Context is very important whem reading posts.
There wasnt much nastyness in this thread people will differ on the subject but to be quite honest the most self rightous post here has been yours |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
I think the totch and pitchfork pack were making the.point that the very balanced responses on this thread would be.very different if the OP were a man.
Context is very important whem reading posts.
There wasnt much nastyness in this thread people will differ on the subject but to be quite honest the most self rightous post here has been yours"
That's exactly the point I was trying to make but it seems to have whooshed over a few heads. Never mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
I think the totch and pitchfork pack were making the.point that the very balanced responses on this thread would be.very different if the OP were a man.
Context is very important whem reading posts.
There wasnt much nastyness in this thread people will differ on the subject but to be quite honest the most self rightous post here has been yours
That's exactly the point I was trying to make but it seems to have whooshed over a few heads. Never mind "
Its hard to fully understand the point of a post whem rushing.for your pitchfork |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!"
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
I think the totch and pitchfork pack were making the.point that the very balanced responses on this thread would be.very different if the OP were a man.
Context is very important whem reading posts.
There wasnt much nastyness in this thread people will differ on the subject but to be quite honest the most self rightous post here has been yours
That's exactly the point I was trying to make but it seems to have whooshed over a few heads. Never mind
Its hard to fully understand the point of a post whem rushing.for your pitchfork "
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"Imagine if the OP had a penis...
Maybe her husband would want to have sex with her.
Maybe
I reckon the replies would be different.
Burn the cheat...burn them!"
To be fair though she's not been given a fluffy reception |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
I think the totch and pitchfork pack were making the.point that the very balanced responses on this thread would be.very different if the OP were a man.
Context is very important whem reading posts.
There wasnt much nastyness in this thread people will differ on the subject but to be quite honest the most self rightous post here has been yours"
There wasn't "MUCH" nastiness on the thread being the word, admitting there was that going on. I was balancing it out I think you will find but hey I don't mind people starting on me for defending someone, rather that than for attacking someone with a problem to be honest ... but that's just me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There wasn't "MUCH" nastiness on the thread being the word, admitting there was that going on. I was balancing it out I think you will find but hey I don't mind people starting on me for defending someone, rather that than for attacking someone with a problem to be honest ... but that's just me "
Let me rephrase. What nastyness do you mean. I see some posts asking to clarify the OPs.position and others that have given good advice and then the ones you completely misread and jumped.to judgement in your rush to tell others stop judging?
No one is starting or attacking each other. Its this type of emotive language that actually gets in the way of people.sharing honest opinions |
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I'd encourage you to be supportive of him, as presumably you'd both prefer him to have his sexual interests still. Any causes of his issues are worth exploring, as well as having as much physical intimacy as you can. He may feel quite lost and concerned, including with worry about your relationship longer term. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There wasn't "MUCH" nastiness on the thread being the word, admitting there was that going on. I was balancing it out I think you will find but hey I don't mind people starting on me for defending someone, rather that than for attacking someone with a problem to be honest ... but that's just me
Let me rephrase. What nastyness do you mean. I see some posts asking to clarify the OPs.position and others that have given good advice and then the ones you completely misread and jumped.to judgement in your rush to tell others stop judging?
No one is starting or attacking each other. Its this type of emotive language that actually gets in the way of people.sharing honest opinions "
There was emotive language used throughout this thread and not just by me, you are saying such language stops people giving honest opinions, I say it stops people reaching out for help which is really sad, that people might have something heavy on their heart with no-one to talk to, they come here and get blasted. It's just very sad to me.
If anyone is going through anything, I have a none judgy ear here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try talking to him or counselling. I'd never go to the council with something as delicate as my sex life, now my rates yes 
Damned taxes. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
This.
The judgement and discernment from some of the forumites who appear to sit up there in their ivory towers thinking they know it all with their smart ass replies and pack mentality really gets on my pip.
This lady is a real person, with a real problem, doing the best she can with what she's got. That's the best *anyone* can do.
The only time you should look down on someone is to give them a hand helping them up
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But the self righteous pedestals off fab are full, no room for people who break the speed limit or God forbid..... Cheat!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My partner not had sex with me in 8 years! So its not just sexless women on here ok ?
Then like a said to the op.. leave before someone gets hurt!!"
Leave!! Great advice that is, maybe they enjoy each others company ffs |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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I'll never understand why people cheat. But sex isnt the be all and end all of a relationship. I can see some people getting hurt down the line. And having been the one who's been hurt, I really feel for all the partners who have no idea what their supposed loved one gets up to. |
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"My partner not had sex with me in 8 years! So its not just sexless women on here ok ?
Then like a said to the op.. leave before someone gets hurt!!
Leave!! Great advice that is, maybe they enjoy each others company ffs"
Well that maybe true.. but if she is unaware of this its gunna hurt if she finds out? I can see how that is bad advice?? |
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"My partner not had sex with me in 8 years! So its not just sexless women on here ok ?
Then like a said to the op.. leave before someone gets hurt!!
Leave!! Great advice that is, maybe they enjoy each others company ffs
Well that maybe true.. but if she is unaware of this its gunna hurt if she finds out? I cant see how that is bad advice??"
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"My partner not had sex with me in 8 years! So its not just sexless women on here ok ?
Then like a said to the op.. leave before someone gets hurt!!
Leave!! Great advice that is, maybe they enjoy each others company ffs
Well that maybe true.. but if she is unaware of this its gunna hurt if she finds out? I can see how that is bad advice??"
She probably knows, and doesn't give a fuck |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here. "
I wouldn't share a packet of crisps on here let alone our personal lives
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here.
I wouldn't share a packet of crisps on here let alone our personal lives
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I wouldn’t share a packet of crisp anyway lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thankfully my not quite hubby but other half thankfully has a high sex drive like me.
I’ve told him if we ever get married and he stops putting out at least once a day it would be legitimate reason for a divorce ??
Sex is important to us so it was a relief we having matching sex drives. But we talk and open about everything we would discuss it and find ways to ‘fix’ it if there was an issue |
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"It's nobodies business if you fuck behind your hubbies back,but if your looking for validation from the people of fab then good luck,none of them break the speed limit never mind cheat"
Once I drove 31 in a 30 zone because of an unexpected hill and mild inattention, I'm still wracked with guilt... |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here.
I wouldn't share a packet of crisps on here let alone our personal lives
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"It's nobodies business if you fuck behind your hubbies back,but if your looking for validation from the people of fab then good luck,none of them break the speed limit never mind cheat
Once I drove 31 in a 30 zone because of an unexpected hill and mild inattention, I'm still wracked with guilt..."
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here. "
However should this have been me with 130 or veris be it social or otherwise, openly admitting to cheating due to lack of sex with said wife i would hung, drawn quartered, skinned alive and castrated at the same time.
The point people were trying to make was the double standard between men and women. In 2019 men and women are equal, if you can treat a man like that for doing the same then you can treat a woman exactly the same. So in my opinion boo hoo, dry your eyes and deal with it. |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here.
However should this have been me with 130 or veris be it social or otherwise, openly admitting to cheating due to lack of sex with said wife i would hung, drawn quartered, skinned alive and castrated at the same time.
The point people were trying to make was the double standard between men and women. In 2019 men and women are equal, if you can treat a man like that for doing the same then you can treat a woman exactly the same. So in my opinion boo hoo, dry your eyes and deal with it. "
Edit: the number should be 30 130 and yes i feel like a twat for having to correct myself |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Nope. I would have said the same.
Burning people with marital problems isn't exactly what I would call a winning comment or advice tbf "
Baby cakes, I want to assure you that wasn't me 'burning' someone.
Neither was it advice. Should you feel so inclined I would suggest you read such threads started by the male variety..the man in the sexless marriage and then you will see what my comment means.
But thankyou kindly for your reply, my aim today wasn't to win the internet so fear not. |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Nope. I would have said the same.
Burning people with marital problems isn't exactly what I would call a winning comment or advice tbf
Baby cakes, I want to assure you that wasn't me 'burning' someone.
Neither was it advice. Should you feel so inclined I would suggest you read such threads started by the male variety..the man in the sexless marriage and then you will see what my comment means.
But thankyou kindly for your reply, my aim today wasn't to win the internet so fear not. "
I have read many threads, been here for years. I know how it goes and if you read above babycakes you would see that I don't advocate judgement for anyone for THEIR life choices regardless of their genitalia. I don't care who posts it personally. My point is that the forum is full of toxic judgement by 'perfect' people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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maybe he just doesn't have an interest in having sex with the op, maybe hes overweight or ill or has erectile dysfunction, maybe hes secretly bi so many different reasons could apply, the Ops been here a year at least seems a bit odd to ask your advice now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry I was being pleasured orally by my husband...did I miss much?
How come I wasn’t invited to the wedding?!
I am so sorry, how incredibly rude of me.  "
I wanted to fuck the bridesmaids |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, cheating is shit, it's more the bragging manner in which the OP has gone about it that has got my goat.
Those who've said the OP would have been slayed for doing it if she were a man are 100% correct.
No, we don't know the ins and outs (or lack of) in their relationship but to flaunt the fact you're taking them for a cunt ain't fair either.
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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lol..Great thread, as usual the opposing sides come out and try and fix all the problems of the World.
The Holier than thou brigade sit on the fence then start throwing daggers.
All from people that don't take life or themselves seriously. Oh Behave !!!
I am convinced that a lot of threads are started by something a little thought pushing and controversial and everyone dives in......
Crack on Guys very entertaining. Is this real life, I think not.
just my thoughts, but watch me get shot down |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here.
However should this have been me with 130 or veris be it social or otherwise, openly admitting to cheating due to lack of sex with said wife i would hung, drawn quartered, skinned alive and castrated at the same time.
The point people were trying to make was the double standard between men and women. In 2019 men and women are equal, if you can treat a man like that for doing the same then you can treat a woman exactly the same. So in my opinion boo hoo, dry your eyes and deal with it. "
The ones who say people are being judgy are generally the ones playing away themselves, no doubt. Personally speaking I have no interest in meeting people of either sex playing away, not even for a social. I'm an equal opportunities person. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I’m sure there was a thread yesterday saying how all sorts of people come here for support and advice and get a lot of comfort from it and anyone attacking a vulnerable person is a complete arse. You’ve got to love the forums 
OP It’s a shame you can’t ask something on here and be treated with some civility, no matter what gender. Whatever is said someone will pounce on you it’s inevitable unfortunately. |
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
Having been cheated on in the past by my ex husband .. i think my opinion to walk away is valid .
I was referring to people who were in the torch and pitchfork pack and the ones making fun of the OPs pain. Sensitivity severely lacking but judgement in oodles.
Ok but when its put in an open forum to discuss people look into that op! And its not all that it seams!
Oh hell, so she shared a problem that she is having, I don't think she deserved this level of judgement. Put your proverbial stones down people, I didn't think we lived in that kind of society over here.
I wouldn't share a packet of crisps on here let alone our personal lives
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I wouldn’t share a packet of crisp anyway lol "
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By *evyn69Man
over a year ago
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"The OP didn’t ask to be slated about her life or verifications. Yes there are probably many women in similar situations as her. We don’t always know why marriages fall apart.
I spent the last year of married life in a sexless relationship and yes I did ask him and received no answer. After 13 years of marriage and three children, he left. He traded me in for a woman 10 years younger and no kids.
Being on Fab may actually keep couples together as they can get the sex life they don’t get at home but still keep their marriage together.
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Can save a marriage if the only thing breaking it is different sexual desires! Xxx |
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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago
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"Self righteous, judgy people on the forum who are saints, have no marriage/relationship problems, are 100% honest and never step a foot out of line!
Forum people should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before judging them, if you can't do that then get to know someone before throwing judgement. If the OP was your friend or colleague and you were sat down over coffee and had confided in you in this way I think you would have been gentler and more understanding with your responses.
This.
The judgement and discernment from some of the forumites who appear to sit up there in their ivory towers thinking they know it all with their smart ass replies and pack mentality really gets on my pip.
This lady is a real person, with a real problem, doing the best she can with what she's got. That's the best *anyone* can do.
The only time you should look down on someone is to give them a hand helping them up
Now that I second we could and all should take note of that we're all here for our reasons and needs that are personal to us some wish to share those reasons others don't we shudnt judge and as this beautiful lady puts it so well we should offer a helping hand and an ear to listen give an opinion when and if asked and consider it well before giving not just give it. Life is very complicated xx at times we all need something or someone
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For all the perfect swinging Mormons out 99% of the issue with the op is that she felt the need to brag about what she's doing. the problem with the mormon types is that if the op were a man he would annihilated for saying something similar to this but because its a woman you have to defend and justify her actions. This is 2019 where men and women have equal rights including being treated exactly the same as a man for doing something like this. |
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"For all the perfect swinging Mormons out 99% of the issue with the op is that she felt the need to brag about what she's doing. the problem with the mormon types is that if the op were a man he would annihilated for saying something similar to this but because its a woman you have to defend and justify her actions. This is 2019 where men and women have equal rights including being treated exactly the same as a man for doing something like this. "
I have not defended her one iota |
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