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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down  |
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
Yup
I do
Tend to avoid them tbh
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
Maybe she needs a chat or some help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
I think the term is "mood hoover" or "fun sponge"
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I work with a real mood hoover. She drives me nuts with her moaning. She’s mid-40’s & still lives with her dad. They have such a rigid life it’s untrue!!
I got fed up of trying to be nice & involving her I events. We are all so much happier when she is not in the office!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down
Maybe she needs a chat or some help"
I've tried helping her.
Shes unhappy at home living with her dad and won't move out because it's too expensive.
I've told her in a nice way that life is expensive!
You have to work to get what you want!
She just wants to be a victim
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I work with a real mood hoover. She drives me nuts with her moaning. She’s mid-40’s & still lives with her dad. They have such a rigid life it’s untrue!!
I got fed up of trying to be nice & involving her I events. We are all so much happier when she is not in the office!!
J x"
Theres no helping some people.
Yes the only solution is to try not to be around them much 
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"I work with a real mood hoover. She drives me nuts with her moaning. She’s mid-40’s & still lives with her dad. They have such a rigid life it’s untrue!!
I got fed up of trying to be nice & involving her I events. We are all so much happier when she is not in the office!!
J x
Theres no helping some people.
Yes the only solution is to try not to be around them much
I cant wait to go home!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
no people are generally happy in my company  |
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"I work with a real mood hoover. She drives me nuts with her moaning. She’s mid-40’s & still lives with her dad. They have such a rigid life it’s untrue!!
I got fed up of trying to be nice & involving her I events. We are all so much happier when she is not in the office!!
J x
Theres no helping some people.
Yes the only solution is to try not to be around them much
I cant wait to go home!"
We have a friend like this, since school, thirty odd years now. he has a full life, wife, children. But he moans about everything. Is never happy. Always exhausted. He seems like an old man. Everyone loves him, but we stopped trying to help long ago. If people won’t help themselves there’s nothing you can do. And some people love to be negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I made friends with a younger woman when she claimed to have cancer. Every time I saw her she had a different sympathy seeking story to tell me. It became clear she was making things up for attention. . It started to really get me downIt got so that I was taking my daughter to school late so I could avoid the woman. In the end I had to tell her I didn't want to be her friend anymore, for the sake of my own mental health. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I work with a real mood hoover. She drives me nuts with her moaning. She’s mid-40’s & still lives with her dad. They have such a rigid life it’s untrue!!
I got fed up of trying to be nice & involving her I events. We are all so much happier when she is not in the office!!
J x
Theres no helping some people.
Yes the only solution is to try not to be around them much
I cant wait to go home!
We have a friend like this, since school, thirty odd years now. he has a full life, wife, children. But he moans about everything. Is never happy. Always exhausted. He seems like an old man. Everyone loves him, but we stopped trying to help long ago. If people won’t help themselves there’s nothing you can do. And some people love to be negative. "
Some people aren't happy unless they're unhappy |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I never understand why some people are unhappy and always complaining
Life is hard enough as it is sometime without other people making it worse.
I have a couple of friends who nowadays I don't see very often. But the last thing you ask them is "how are you?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
It can really drag you down. I try and surround myself with more upbeat people but work can be a problem because you don’t always choose who you interact with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to stay away from people like this.
The ones that always moan and say life is hard. Yes life is f*ing hard but I always walk round and see the good in things. I smile in the face of adversity.
One friend I have messaged me with “hi hun how are you” but she’s not interested if I’m good bad or indifferent. It’s just an opener for her to offload her latest saga. I’ve stopped replying now.
I found a lump once and was worried like hell and the one time I did say I wasn’t too chipper she then went on to talk about her decorating disaster. Wound me the hell up.
As a rule I stay away from these folk now. Even family that are the same!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never understand why some people are unhappy and always complaining
Life is hard enough as it is sometime without other people making it worse.
I have a couple of friends who nowadays I don't see very often. But the last thing you ask them is "how are you?"
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I know people like that. Drama Queens and very negative people.
I try to avoid anyone like that. They drag you down. Trying my best just to have happy people in my life.
I'm self employed, so close my workshop doors when the miserable old gits are about. Lol. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
Let her wallow in her unhappiness. Think good thoughts  |
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We have a guy at work who is always moaning and finding the negatives in anything. It’s tiresome and boring. About like him, actually. He really is a rain cloud sort of fellow. Single too, quelle surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am lucky as in not to have to work with anyone like this, but I am in somewhat of dilemma at the moment because one of my friends is like this, and it is becoming unfortunately intolerable, no matter what you say or what you do or even spending your free time attempting to support them and help, their only conclusion is that life is shite and I am not at a loss about how to deal with it ...... the sad thing is because of the impact it has been having on my health, I am seriously considering walking away from the friendship...I do understand and recognise that people do need help .... |
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I'm a naturally upbeat and optimistic person, and I find negative people really draining...so I avoid them wherever possible. There are a couple at my place of work, thankfully not in my team...I only speak to them if absolutely necessary, and then just about work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But. I wonder how my attitude squares itself against the current climate of helping colleagues and friends with mental health issues."
We are important too. Sometimes you have to walk away to protect yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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sometimes people need to be brought out of themselves, in my current workplace my first job was with a guy called Marcus worked with him for two weeks solid got on well with him, hes a bit hippyish but a really interesting guy every person ive spoken to has said that they weren't a fan and have been quite rude in their description of him never saw it at all, if somebody is in a bad place try i advertently to take their mind elsewhere it works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sometimes people need to be brought out of themselves, in my current workplace my first job was with a guy called Marcus worked with him for two weeks solid got on well with him, hes a bit hippyish but a really interesting guy every person ive spoken to has said that they weren't a fan and have been quite rude in their description of him never saw it at all, if somebody is in a bad place try i advertently to take their mind elsewhere it works for me "
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"But. I wonder how my attitude squares itself against the current climate of helping colleagues and friends with mental health issues.
We are important too. Sometimes you have to walk away to protect yourself. "
Very true but people seem to offer themselves as support quite freely. I wonder if they're aware that sometimes it isn't in either persons interest. I think you have to be realistic, can you genuinely offer ongoing support for weeks, months, years? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But. I wonder how my attitude squares itself against the current climate of helping colleagues and friends with mental health issues.
We are important too. Sometimes you have to walk away to protect yourself.
Very true but people seem to offer themselves as support quite freely. I wonder if they're aware that sometimes it isn't in either persons interest. I think you have to be realistic, can you genuinely offer ongoing support for weeks, months, years?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
How interesting. What have you done about it other than set up a chat about it on a swingers website? Maybe give her the offer of a coffee and a chat. Everyone has something going on privately and she may not be aware of how she is coming across. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Theres a woman I work with that is so unhappy, my general happiness bothers her!
She’s a miserable cow who doesn’t like any one or any thing. For this reason alone, I smile at her every morning and wish her a great day |
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"The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down
How interesting. What have you done about it other than set up a chat about it on a swingers website? Maybe give her the offer of a coffee and a chat. Everyone has something going on privately and she may not be aware of how she is coming across."
That's a bit harsh and whilst I agree that yes, one could ask how she is doing, it's not always that simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
Throat chop her!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down "
She’s a Mood-Hoover 
You need a Radiator. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But. I wonder how my attitude squares itself against the current climate of helping colleagues and friends with mental health issues."
I think there is a big difference between someone who is suffering from depression and someone who is negative. While it is quite possible that a person can be both it isn’t by any means necessary. It’s when you see new or unusual behaviour that being there for someone is most necessary.
Someone who has always been negative is not going to change by you offering them a shoulder to cry on, bizarrely this will make them worse because it reinforces the (often subconscious) belief that being sad is the quickest way to get attention and care. Sadly trying to help someone like this will not change them but drain every bit of energy out of you. The first rule of first aid is ‘is it safe for me to approach’ this is just as true for mental health as it is for physical. You wouldn’t walk out on thin ice to rescue someone who has fallen in but would call for professional help from people who have the tools to help. The same is true of life’s victims. They need help to learn a new outlook on life and that won’t come by simply being nice to them however harsh that sounds and feels. It can take a loooong time to recover from such encounters. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down
How interesting. What have you done about it other than set up a chat about it on a swingers website? Maybe give her the offer of a coffee and a chat. Everyone has something going on privately and she may not be aware of how she is coming across.
That's a bit harsh and whilst I agree that yes, one could ask how she is doing, it's not always that simple. "
We constantly talk about her and her problems.
Her negative attitude towards everything is exhausting- she clearly has a lot of issues.
An eating disorder being the main one.
She is painfully thin and is probably starving out of her mind - no wonder she's so angry - she has a lot of control freak characteristics.
We work in an environment where everyone is needy and a lot of energy needs to be given.
I have nothing left for her.
I feel miserable after a whole day of being around her!
It's hard not to take it all on board.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty lucky, my co workers are really lovely.
Sorry you’re stuck with a shitebag, OP X"
Yes you're lucky to work with lovely people - I just spent 9hrs listening to moaning 
That's enough to make the happiest person in the world depressed!
On the upside I'm working with someone else tomorrow - thank fuck!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else work with any?
Or even worse live with any!
The young woman I'm working with today is one of the unhappiest people I've ever met - it's getting me down
It can really drag you down. I try and surround myself with more upbeat people but work can be a problem because you don’t always choose who you interact with "
Yes exactly - we all spend so much time at work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
Hurrah
I bet you feel amazing x"
Better than amazing!!! Free and ridiculously happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate it!
I get people have bad days and all, but when they’re projecting their mood on others or bringing everyone else down it’s not great.
When I used to work in Care there was an older woman like that all the time, I hated doing double ups with her as all she would do is whinge & I’m such a positive upbeat person! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale "
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself. |
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself."
You brought your marriage into this thread not me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself.
You brought your marriage into this thread not me "
Yes I did...have you commented on anybody else’s posts or just thought you’d target mine? |
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself.
You brought your marriage into this thread not me
Yes I did...have you commented on anybody else’s posts or just thought you’d target mine?"
I merely pointed out that there’s two sides to everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself.
You brought your marriage into this thread not me
Yes I did...have you commented on anybody else’s posts or just thought you’d target mine?
I merely pointed out that there’s two sides to everything "
Absolutely there is,but you’ve chosen to point that out on my post and nobody else’s,any particular reason for this? |
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By *arkb73Man
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"I lived with one for 11 long years, divorcing the miserable tw@t at the moment.
I’m sure he would tell a different tale
You know nothing about my marriage,so maybe keep your options to yourself.
You brought your marriage into this thread not me
Yes I did...have you commented on anybody else’s posts or just thought you’d target mine?
I merely pointed out that there’s two sides to everything
Absolutely there is,but you’ve chosen to point that out on my post and nobody else’s,any particular reason for this?"
No reason at all - it’s a forum and one is allowed to express a view. You called your ex a miserable twat - perhaps he is. I said that he would probably tell a different tale. Not sure why that warrants an attack on me? |
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