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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why but the thought of playing with a lady without her husband knowing is a turn on.
Was that a hedging your bets caveat?  "
Hahahahahahahahaha |
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So are you condoning it or not? The two statements are a bit contradictory.
People have many reasons I suppose... I know... I’ve had hundreds of ‘sob stories’ in my inbox over the years.
Personally I don’t (knowingly) meet anyone that is playing without their partners knowledge as my partner knows and it is my opinion that if I can have that conversation then why can’t others.
Why? Because I just don’t feel I was born monogamous and I don’t feel like one person can fulfill your every need. I’d rather be honest and happy xx |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So you swing when you're single but wouldn't as a couple ?"
He's not looking to meet couples, just women. So not swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People cheat because they can, basically.
I don’t agree with it, never will and I won’t knowingly meet anyone who does it, but I also won’t message cheats berating them either.
Your two posts are contradictory. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back? "
Because; swingers.
It's fine that you only wanted your girlfriend OP, that's a very monogamous attitude and a laudable virtue you're signalling. However many people on this site don't share that attitude.
Regarding cheating, the reasons are many, varied and complex. How long do you have? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"People cheat because they can, basically.
I don’t agree with it, never will and I won’t knowingly meet anyone who does it, but I also won’t message cheats berating them either.
Your two posts are contradictory. "
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Its completely different story when both parties agree to have several partners...but we talking about cheaters who don't have the balls to respect their partners and tell them they want to sleep with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here we go, I'm off back to the rugby thread
I may even join you and I don’t do rugby!"
Haha you always say your staying out of it, but you can't help yourself |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"So you've never cheated, don't understand why people do, but want a wife to cheat with you?  "
It's an ego thing I think, it's essentially saying; "I want you so much I'm going to cheat for you" some people really like it |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Lots of reasons OP. Sometimes it’s the variety, the feeling of feeling desired, the fact you get to have “dirty” sex instead of the same old same old. Because you were offered it on a plate and you’re horny and don’t want to turn it down. Because they cheated, so why can’t you? You love them but don’t desire them. You married them but no longer love nor desire them....
The reasons are endless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here we go, I'm off back to the rugby thread
I may even join you and I don’t do rugby!
Haha you always say your staying out of it, but you can't help yourself "
 I absolutely do not anymore!! I used to then realised I was the only one who was ever right and nobody seemed to accept that so I don’t bother now   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both men and women cheat...for various reasons. Mainly self centred reasons.if someone isn't making you happy and you tried to rectify things...leave then meet someone else...simpler"
100% agree with this!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know why but the thought of playing with a lady without her husband knowing is a turn on.
Was that a hedging your bets caveat? "
It's just a naughty thought. |
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"Both men and women cheat...for various reasons. Mainly self centred reasons.if someone isn't making you happy and you tried to rectify things...leave then meet someone else...simpler 100% agree with this!"
It isn't always the best option to leave someone. I had a terminally ill husband who couldn't have sex and didn't want any sort of intimacy with me and we had four children living at home. How could I leave him ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you only noticed ladies on fab playing without their partners knowing, OP? Men cheat, too."
I know everyone does it. I haven't looked at many mens profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both men and women cheat...for various reasons. Mainly self centred reasons.if someone isn't making you happy and you tried to rectify things...leave then meet someone else...simpler 100% agree with this!
It isn't always the best option to leave someone. I had a terminally ill husband who couldn't have sex and didn't want any sort of intimacy with me and we had four children living at home. How could I leave him ?"
Exactly this. But the majority of people only see black or white on here. I met someone in this situation. You can argue till you’re blue in the face on here but they don’t see individual situations. You’re just a cheating scumbag.
Just glad I’m not so judgemental, life is so much happier that way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So are you condoning it or not? The two statements are a bit contradictory.
People have many reasons I suppose... I know... I’ve had hundreds of ‘sob stories’ in my inbox over the years.
Personally I don’t (knowingly) meet anyone that is playing without their partners knowledge as my partner knows and it is my opinion that if I can have that conversation then why can’t others.
Why? Because I just don’t feel I was born monogamous and I don’t feel like one person can fulfill your every need. I’d rather be honest and happy xx"
I would rather be told what is going on.. Than it being done behind my back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So you swing when you're single but wouldn't as a couple ?"
I've never been with anyone else who is into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its completely different story when both parties agree to have several partners...but we talking about cheaters who don't have the balls to respect their partners and tell them they want to sleep with others."
"but we talking about cheaters who don't have the balls to respect their partners and tell them they want to sleep with others"
How nieve! |
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Exactly this. But the majority of people only see black or white on here. I met someone in this situation. You can argue till you’re blue in the face on here but they don’t see individual situations. You’re just a cheating scumbag.
Just glad I’m not so judgemental, life is so much happier that way. "
Thank you Nora |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So are you condoning it or not? The two statements are a bit contradictory.
People have many reasons I suppose... I know... I’ve had hundreds of ‘sob stories’ in my inbox over the years.
Personally I don’t (knowingly) meet anyone that is playing without their partners knowledge as my partner knows and it is my opinion that if I can have that conversation then why can’t others.
Why? Because I just don’t feel I was born monogamous and I don’t feel like one person can fulfill your every need. I’d rather be honest and happy xx
I would rather be told what is going on.. Than it being done behind my back. "
Yet you find the thought of a woman playing without her partner knowing a turn on...
I rest my case. |
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"So are you condoning it or not? The two statements are a bit contradictory.
People have many reasons I suppose... I know... I’ve had hundreds of ‘sob stories’ in my inbox over the years.
Personally I don’t (knowingly) meet anyone that is playing without their partners knowledge as my partner knows and it is my opinion that if I can have that conversation then why can’t others.
Why? Because I just don’t feel I was born monogamous and I don’t feel like one person can fulfill your every need. I’d rather be honest and happy xx
I would rather be told what is going on.. Than it being done behind my back. "
Exactly. That’s what I’m saying. I had the balls to be honest and now our open relationship is buzzing! I actually feel sorry for people who have to worry about what they are doing but folks are in different circumstances and I appreciate that |
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"Both men and women cheat...for various reasons. Mainly self centred reasons.if someone isn't making you happy and you tried to rectify things...leave then meet someone else...simpler 100% agree with this!
It isn't always the best option to leave someone. I had a terminally ill husband who couldn't have sex and didn't want any sort of intimacy with me and we had four children living at home. How could I leave him ?"
I sometimes mention a woman we know whose husband is unable to even feed himself. The number of people who say she should tell him she's taking a lover is staggering. Life is messy, uncomfortable and unkind, taking physical and emotional comfort elsewhere while still caring for a spouse isn't wrong. |
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"I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back? "
Easy. I am not a piece of fitness machinery. A bike or swimming shorts or a kayak or a pair of trainers. I am married to an athlete who doesnt like to kiss or have sex... because it loses its meaning when it does happen. When you are a female with a sex drive who enjoys kissing and all you get is a peck when he leaves the house or at bedtime... you look to get what you are missing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both men and women cheat...for various reasons. Mainly self centred reasons.if someone isn't making you happy and you tried to rectify things...leave then meet someone else...simpler 100% agree with this!
It isn't always the best option to leave someone. I had a terminally ill husband who couldn't have sex and didn't want any sort of intimacy with me and we had four children living at home. How could I leave him ?
I sometimes mention a woman we know whose husband is unable to even feed himself. The number of people who say she should tell him she's taking a lover is staggering. Life is messy, uncomfortable and unkind, taking physical and emotional comfort elsewhere while still caring for a spouse isn't wrong. "
In my opinion it is wrong.
But each to their own.
Peoples opinions will differ, and people will still go out and do what they deem acceptable or worth the risk. |
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"I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back?
Because; swingers.
It's fine that you only wanted your girlfriend OP, that's a very monogamous attitude and a ***laudable virtue you're signalling.*** However many people on this site don't share that attitude.
Regarding cheating, the reasons are many, varied and complex. How long do you have? "
Wasn't just me then, seems to be a pattern. I've noticed many differences from OP's first forays into the forum to now but the underlying red flags still peek out. |
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Think the reason why you may get some unfinished sympathy here is that this place (myself included) is full of people who have had the dirty done on them.
Because of that you'll get strong opinions on the moral question. You need alot of trust to 'hook up' with someone and people who cheat are falling at the first hurdle. Then can't understand when they say "but I'm being open about my infidelity"
If you can be that dishonest with the person you are supposed to profess to care more about than anyone else, what trust can you give anyone here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a guy who was cheating on his wife,the thing is, his wife knew about it and didn't tell him because he was a happier man at home,he was great with the kids he was good to her, so she just left it alone,that was 15 or so years ago and they are still together,she still hasn't told him she knew about the affair |
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"I know a guy who was cheating on his wife,the thing is, his wife knew about it and didn't tell him because he was a happier man at home,he was great with the kids he was good to her, so she just left it alone,that was 15 or so years ago and they are still together,she still hasn't told him she knew about the affair"
I know someone like that too but I’ve gotta wonder if the women went elsewhere too?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a guy who was cheating on his wife,the thing is, his wife knew about it and didn't tell him because he was a happier man at home,he was great with the kids he was good to her, so she just left it alone,that was 15 or so years ago and they are still together,she still hasn't told him she knew about the affair
I know someone like that too but I’ve gotta wonder if the women went elsewhere too??"
She would have told me, but then again....... |
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I don’t get it.. never have and don’t think I could. But maybe I’m lucky to have not been trapped in some way. If I wanted out I could walk away honestly.
I’m sure many have perfectly legitimate reasons for doing what they do, but as someone who hasn’t been in that situation I have no interest in being part of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back?
Because; swingers.
It's fine that you only wanted your girlfriend OP, that's a very monogamous attitude and a ***laudable virtue you're signalling.*** However many people on this site don't share that attitude.
Regarding cheating, the reasons are many, varied and complex. How long do you have?
Wasn't just me then, seems to be a pattern. I've noticed many differences from OP's first forays into the forum to now but the underlying red flags still peek out."
What do you mean? |
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"I don’t get it.. never have and don’t think I could. But maybe I’m lucky to have not been trapped in some way. If I wanted out I could walk away honestly.
I’m sure many have perfectly legitimate reasons for doing what they do, but as someone who hasn’t been in that situation I have no interest in being part of it. "
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I am at odds here on this one.
life isn't always black and white and yes, I can see some circumstances where I would stay in the relationship but may
need to fulfil my needs if needed.
I wouldn't just walk away from a partner if they had undergone something life changing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've noticed some of the ladies on this site are playing without their husbands consent.
Personally when I've been in a relationship I didn't have any interest in other women.. I just wanted my girlfriend.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to sleep with others behind their partners back?
Because; swingers.
It's fine that you only wanted your girlfriend OP, that's a very monogamous attitude and a laudable virtue you're signalling. However many people on this site don't share that attitude.
Regarding cheating, the reasons are many, varied and complex. How long do you have? "
I'm not sure what you mean by a laudable virtue. Anyway I have plenty of time now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t agree with cheating one bit and dead against it, but if people are doing it on here wouldn’t meet them but that that’s their own business and shiz to deal with at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am at odds here on this one.
life isn't always black and white and yes, I can see some circumstances where I would stay in the relationship but may
need to fulfil my needs if needed.
I wouldn't just walk away from a partner if they had undergone something life changing.
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like a hip replacement?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because they're cunts."
I rest my case here. Really don’t know why people bother posting these threads on fab. This is what you get.
Live and let live but just get on with it. Do you all really care that much what people on here think anyway? |
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