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I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? |
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over a year ago
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I've offered to meet both sexes to turn up, probably arranged about 20 coffee meets. One showed. I guessed the women were not actually women and the men just wanted a fuck and when they realised I was genuine in my coffee only offer , deleted and blocked or just ghosted. Only person who showed was a guy. |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
i never did no
But id say you more than did your bit for charity  for me included |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? i never did no
But id say you more than did your bit for charity for me included"
Shut up you daftie, it was me who nagged to meet you! Lol |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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I'm happy to meet other ladies just for a coffee and have done so. My experience with single men and couples has been a bit different. I high percentage of them ghost me when they realise that there is no sex involved and the social meet is just that. |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? i never did no
But id say you more than did your bit for charity for me included
Shut up you daftie, it was me who nagged to meet you! Lol"
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
If they're worried about same sex veris just hide the veri count.
I've offered to meet people for a social before. No takers.
I guess when the women realised it was only a social and I wasnt there to fuck 'em......  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’?
If they're worried about same sex veris just hide the veri count.
I've offered to meet people for a social before. No takers.
I guess when the women realised it was only a social and I wasnt there to fuck 'em...... "
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We are willing to meet people socially just to verify them, even if there is no prospects of anything more.
Often though, it seems that people don't want to meet if we say they're not what we're looking for.
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
A lot of my man veris are from organised socials so I for one don’t care. They could always hide the summary if they have such low confidence in themselves. |
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I think. With the evidence presented, my conclusion is that more women would be more likely to do the same sex coffee thing than men, as more men appear to feel put out that there’s no play involved... but with the obvious point of their being more single men it’s not really a fair test is it?
I’d mage a shit auditor! Lol |
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It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant. |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant."
I think that was part of my point, that and the other end of the spectrum where men have only really signed up for the sex site’ and expect nothing but actual bedroom action with single ladies.
I had LOADS of inboxes from single men when I was organising socials calling me ‘pathetic’ and stuff like that x |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
I think that was part of my point, that and the other end of the spectrum where men have only really signed up for the sex site’ and expect nothing but actual bedroom action with single ladies.
I had LOADS of inboxes from single men when I was organising socials calling me ‘pathetic’ and stuff like that x"
 It's too early for me to form an eloquent reply, so just all of this. |
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"always happy for a coffee and chat in my lunch break to help the genuine guess only the genuine would attend !! "
I'll remember that if I'm ever bored and fancy a natter of a lunchtime! "Please help me out, I'm genuinely in need of a cuppa and chinwag..." |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant."
That wouldn’t bother me because I don’t meet women who don’t like bi men. There are plenty that do and I prefer more open minded women than closed minded ones. |
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"We’ve offered to meet a few single guys for a social just to assist them with their first veri but they all refused as they wanted more than a social. "
Someone refused me because ‘who’s to say you’re not a fake’ errr... 200 and odd people? Lol |
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Too much emphasis on these verifications  . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess |
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"Too much emphasis on these verifications . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess "
In this age of ghosting, dreamers, and fakes, I'd prefer to see more verifications than less for a potential meet. |
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"Too much emphasis on these verifications . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess "
I agree. I just feel sorry for those who feel that it’s a help (as it’s true some won’t meet unverified profiles) and they don’t know where to even start |
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"Too much emphasis on these verifications . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess
In this age of ghosting, dreamers, and fakes, I'd prefer to see more verifications than less for a potential meet."
As much as the word ‘dreamer’ makes me grit my teeth I agree that I don’t see a large number as a negative like some do, more the opposite, that they are sociable and active in making plans x |
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"We’ve offered to meet a few single guys for a social just to assist them with their first veri but they all refused as they wanted more than a social.
Someone refused me because ‘who’s to say you’re not a fake’ errr... 200 and odd people? Lol"
Not invisible or fake just very tiny |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant."
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. |
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"Too much emphasis on these verifications . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess
In this age of ghosting, dreamers, and fakes, I'd prefer to see more verifications than less for a potential meet.
As much as the word ‘dreamer’ makes me grit my teeth I agree that I don’t see a large number as a negative like some do, more the opposite, that they are sociable and active in making plans x"
"Never intend to meet-ers" doesn't have the same ring to it though Exactly, it's like buyer feedback on eBay: you're less likely to get crap from a well verified seller but there's always exceptions on both sides |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
Ugh yeah. That is a bugger! |
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"Too much emphasis on these verifications . People are judged etc. Sad times.
Never cared for them, although i know they mean a lot to some. I don't think anyone should ever be desperate to get a veri though! That's just how it works on here i guess
In this age of ghosting, dreamers, and fakes, I'd prefer to see more verifications than less for a potential meet.
As much as the word ‘dreamer’ makes me grit my teeth I agree that I don’t see a large number as a negative like some do, more the opposite, that they are sociable and active in making plans x"
I don't see lots of veris as a negative either. I like that they've met lots of people.
But I wouldn't meet them for a sex meet because we're not compatible.
Some people love the verification system and some don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would love a verification if it was from a man would you show it? Honestly Nope
Why? Out of interest xx"
Because of the majority of fab users thoughts on the matter , thinking I am gay bi or fab straight .. I am proper straight |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
I think that was part of my point, that and the other end of the spectrum where men have only really signed up for the sex site’ and expect nothing but actual bedroom action with single ladies.
I had LOADS of inboxes from single men when I was organising socials calling me ‘pathetic’ and stuff like that x"
Now, that end of the spectrum puzzles me more. I don't quite get the logic there. If a lady I was keen to have a play-date with wanted to meet me for a coffee, I wouldn't see this as a rebuttal. It would suggest to me that she'd enjoyed whatever interaction we'd had up to this point enough to want to spend time with me in person, and I'd take that as very positive. Even with a strict no-sex stipulation, that would be an opportunity to chat and flirt and see if a beautiful woman might want to have sex with me the way we used to do it before the internet. |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
This too. A lot of people here have an unhealthy obsession with how others identify their sexuality, I've seen it get quite unpleasant for no reason. |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant."
if they display the verification, you can see it was a social to verify. That would not put us off. Hiding the verification is suspicious
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I would love a verification if it was from a man would you show it?
Yes, that’s the million dollar question here. "
I think by showing it people are able to make their own choices, by hiding it, it looks suspicious on a straight profile. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
I think that was part of my point, that and the other end of the spectrum where men have only really signed up for the sex site’ and expect nothing but actual bedroom action with single ladies.
I had LOADS of inboxes from single men when I was organising socials calling me ‘pathetic’ and stuff like that x"
Pathetic of them not to want to use the site as it was intended to be used imo. Socials are a great way to network with a view to meeting new people for sex. Isn't that the point of swinging? |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable verifying a newbie man on a one to one coffee date or a drink.I am ok with verifying a newbie man at a social or club and I have done so a couple of times.However even this has proved to be a problem for me at times as I get messages from men , tv/ts asking to meet for adult fun they seem to think because I have verifications from men that I maybe meet men for adult fun which is not the case.I ask them to read the verifications as they are quite clear that I have met the men at socials or clubs. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
In that particular instance his OP didn't add up (something about having been refused a meet because his sexuality had "accidentally" been changed to bisexual despite him having no knowledge of it and despite his profile saying he was looking for TVs) - he initially denied any bisexuality and then changed it to having met two men for sex to "try" it and so was rightly called on it in that instance. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I'd happily meet anyone regardless of gender or sexuality if they seemed genuine enough and I felt a veri would genuinely help them - I've verified and been verified by guys socially and am bisexual and it's never done me any harm in the slightest - so don't buy into the "people won't want to meet me" thing.
In fact in my experience those that won't meet bisexual men, or men who have met men are in the overwhelming minority here and mostly wouldn't be people I'd want to meet anyway |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
I think that was part of my point, that and the other end of the spectrum where men have only really signed up for the sex site’ and expect nothing but actual bedroom action with single ladies.
I had LOADS of inboxes from single men when I was organising socials calling me ‘pathetic’ and stuff like that x
Pathetic of them not to want to use the site as it was intended to be used imo. Socials are a great way to network with a view to meeting new people for sex. Isn't that the point of swinging? "
Well, to us it is... some don’t see it that way do they? Xx |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar.
In that particular instance his OP didn't add up (something about having been refused a meet because his sexuality had "accidentally" been changed to bisexual despite him having no knowledge of it and despite his profile saying he was looking for TVs) - he initially denied any bisexuality and then changed it to having met two men for sex to "try" it and so was rightly called on it in that instance."
Yes and then he left the site.
In this thread people have said they would assume a veri from a man meant they were lying about meeting men for sex. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I've just seen a status that says "don't message unless you have a 'meet' veri".
That's her wishes, and I respect that and I won't send her a message, but if I'd wanted to meet her, even for a social, my message would get deleted.
To me, she is wanting other people to do the leg work for her.
I know I could go to a club, but before I do, I would much rather have a coffee meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have met newbies or non verified men before. One became my regular fabber couple of years ago. So I do give a chance. But if someone only wants to meet me purely to get a veri, computer says nooooo... |
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WalkingTaff and I have met a couple of times to compare "war stories"
Didn't do it "Just for the Veri"
And I wouldn't meet anyone just for that.
It's just the same as having a pint down the pub with a mate
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I have MM veris. Also TV/TS veris.
They're clearly and obviously from socials and frequently mention that within the actual veri.
And yet I've had some much crap over them I hide my summary and only show them for a few hours after they've been sent.
I do it to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
It's like a public service... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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In this thread people have said they would assume a veri from a man meant they were lying about meeting men for sex. "
Actually no-one has said that - some have suggested that others might assume it but nobody here has said that is the assumption they make - there's a difference.
And we all know what assume did anyway
Either way in the instance you highlighted as an example, the guy was lying and was rightly called on it |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"WalkingTaff and I have met a couple of times to compare "war stories"
Didn't do it "Just for the Veri"
And I wouldn't meet anyone just for that.
It's just the same as having a pint down the pub with a mate
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By (user no longer on site)
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In this thread people have said they would assume a veri from a man meant they were lying about meeting men for sex.
Actually no-one has said that - some have suggested that others might assume it but nobody here has said that is the assumption they make - there's a difference.
And we all know what assume did anyway
Either way in the instance you highlighted as an example, the guy was lying and was rightly called on it"
You're right they said it would look suspicious. Or that he wasn't straight. Not that he was lying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We always meet when we say. Loads dont meet or dont respond when confirming on the day. If we dont get a confirmation then we dont go so not to waste time. But we would meet for social or coffee. |
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"always happy for a coffee and chat in my lunch break to help the genuine guess only the genuine would attend !!
I'll remember that if I'm ever bored and fancy a natter of a lunchtime! "Please help me out, I'm genuinely in need of a cuppa and chinwag..." "
Like I say always happy for a cup
Of coffee and a natter with like minded |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"always happy for a coffee and chat in my lunch break to help the genuine guess only the genuine would attend !!
I'll remember that if I'm ever bored and fancy a natter of a lunchtime! "Please help me out, I'm genuinely in need of a cuppa and chinwag..."
Like I say always happy for a cup
Of coffee and a natter with like minded "
I've tried this approach when I've been out and about in town, hasn't worked so far as they haven't wanted to meet in a public place. They've just tried to invite themselves to mine or theirs instead lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've offered to meet both sexes to turn up, probably arranged about 20 coffee meets. One showed. I guessed the women were not actually women and the men just wanted a fuck and when they realised I was genuine in my coffee only offer , deleted and blocked or just ghosted. Only person who showed was a guy. "
Why would someone not meet.
Coffee and a chat are two of my fave things to do |
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"always happy for a coffee and chat in my lunch break to help the genuine guess only the genuine would attend !!
I'll remember that if I'm ever bored and fancy a natter of a lunchtime! "Please help me out, I'm genuinely in need of a cuppa and chinwag..."
Like I say always happy for a cup
Of coffee and a natter with like minded I've tried this approach when I've been out and about in town, hasn't worked so far as they haven't wanted to meet in a public place. They've just tried to invite themselves to mine or theirs instead lol.
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Same experience usually think it’s code fir guarantee shag and disappear when they realise it’s actually just coffee lol |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"always happy for a coffee and chat in my lunch break to help the genuine guess only the genuine would attend !!
I'll remember that if I'm ever bored and fancy a natter of a lunchtime! "Please help me out, I'm genuinely in need of a cuppa and chinwag..."
Like I say always happy for a cup
Of coffee and a natter with like minded I've tried this approach when I've been out and about in town, hasn't worked so far as they haven't wanted to meet in a public place. They've just tried to invite themselves to mine or theirs instead lol.
Same experience usually think it’s code fir guarantee shag and disappear when they realise it’s actually just coffee lol "
Well, I've put one up for tomorrow, I'll give it another go. If it doesn't work its not my loss as I'm out and about and will stop for a coffee anyway lol. |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
they wouldn't want a veri from a guy if they were actually straight, verifications for me dont mean anything anyway most people will meet without them, why are they desperate though to get a veri is that the same desperation that gets banded about here a lot , will it transform their success rate here i dont think so but cam veris are easily achieved |
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I wouldn't want to he veri'd by a giy being str8. I have a mate on here that was veri'd by a guy and myself and a couple other mates deemed it suspect. Especially as he has been suspected of being with men in the past by his ex.
I'm struggling to get a veri this time around. I know I could get 1 by going to a club but i've been to pretty much every club in manchester snd its not really my thing. I will return to a few 1 day tho |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
I think its different man meeting man for a veri. Women meeting women is much more acceptable ie less stigma attached. Which is a shame... because men can meet for just a pint and still give a veri. |
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I would meet either sex for a social and a veri. Sometimes we all just need a coffee and a chat. Making friends is what this is all about really play is the bonus. I have a couple of male veris on my account and are visible. Ive met some amazing people on fab which is what truely counts for me |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
Presumably it would depend on how desperate they were to get verified. |
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"I would meet either sex for a social and a veri."
I only ever meet for a social first time. I have women blocked but I do enjoy just getting together with female friends I’ve made on here through the STPs, forum and, in the early days, Midlands chat room
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I once met another guy for a chat and he asked me to verify him , which I did , I never asked for one in return but he wrote one but done it as a webcam verification, so I just presumed he was embarrassed and actually just wanted the green tick ? |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
I’ve met a guy for a coffee and chat, and happy to display his veri on my profile. It’s good to ‘network’ lol  |
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’?
I think its different man meeting man for a veri. Women meeting women is much more acceptable ie less stigma attached. Which is a shame... because men can meet for just a pint and still give a veri."
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male."
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are |
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
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Either for a social, but wouldn't be doing it just to get a verification.
A meet for a coffee, cake, chat is just that.
A meet for a coffee and see if we click is different.
The first no verification.
The second I would want one.
One is social one is for meeting up to get naked.
Different thing.
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A few in the forum have actually done group coffee meets stating they’ll be at a venue between a certain time & people can drop in for a chat & to get the all important first green tick which confirms they are a real person of the sex they claim to be.
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"I've offered to meet both sexes to turn up, probably arranged about 20 coffee meets. One showed. I guessed the women were not actually women and the men just wanted a fuck and when they realised I was genuine in my coffee only offer , deleted and blocked or just ghosted. Only person who showed was a guy. "
We love meeting socially for coffee. Set expectations and then get together for a chat. We’ve got together with fab friends the past two weekends in a row for coffee and cake. It’s so nice. |
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This is probably the exact reason I can't get a social. Being a "newbie" has nothing to do with why I don't want to go to clubs. I don't like the idea of clubs at all, I'm not into voyeurism and I find that whole scene creepy and uncomfortable. I just want to meet regular people for casual sex. I would never stand someone up for a social and it pisses me off to read here just how many time wasters there are.
I never even get a reply. |
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"I have MM veris. Also TV/TS veris.
They're clearly and obviously from socials and frequently mention that within the actual veri.
And yet I've had some much crap over them I hide my summary and only show them for a few hours after they've been sent.
I do it to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
It's like a public service..."
I could leave a veri for Stingly cos I saw him at a social. I don’t think he could care less that I’m bi because he is confident in his sexuality and not scared of what others might or might not think of him for showing it. |
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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago
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"I see this a lot.
‘Really want a verification. What can I do’
People often suggest clubs (which the newbie is reluctant to do), an organised social or a coffee ‘date’.
My question is:- do straight people ever meet someone of their own sex just for a coffee and a natter? Or wouldn’t they do it as their veri count would say ‘from a man’? "
If I showed you my inbox messages from guys on here you would realise why men don’t meet me random men for a coffee off fab, end I’m in a basement somewhere or worse lol. I do how ever have a couple of friends that are males and on here but they host parties and we don’t meet socially per-say |
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"I have MM veris. Also TV/TS veris.
They're clearly and obviously from socials and frequently mention that within the actual veri.
And yet I've had some much crap over them I hide my summary and only show them for a few hours after they've been sent.
I do it to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
It's like a public service...
I could leave a veri for Stingly cos I saw him at a social. I don’t think he could care less that I’m bi because he is confident in his sexuality and not scared of what others might or might not think of him for showing it."
True story.
I have a veri from a TV/TS.
It clearly says it was a social veri. From a group social. That we had a great chat.
There's not the merest hint that it was anything other than a social and a natter.
And yet I was turned down because and with no desire to offend, I quote "I wouldn't meet you because you fuck trannies"
People's stupidity is mind boggling.
The veri and my summary are now hidden, as I said, its to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
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If people are honest, there are tons of us who meet to potentially help others along. Of other people then read the wrong things into a Veri from someone that they perceive to be of the wrong gender, that's just a reflection on the tragedy of that person's narrowminded outlook.
A lot of fab is about the social aspects of this lifestyle. It can be tough for many of us to meet frequently, as filtering people who are compatible can be slow. But a relatively quick coffee is easy, in comparison. |
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"I have MM veris. Also TV/TS veris.
They're clearly and obviously from socials and frequently mention that within the actual veri.
And yet I've had some much crap over them I hide my summary and only show them for a few hours after they've been sent.
I do it to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
It's like a public service...
I could leave a veri for Stingly cos I saw him at a social. I don’t think he could care less that I’m bi because he is confident in his sexuality and not scared of what others might or might not think of him for showing it.
True story.
I have a veri from a TV/TS.
It clearly says it was a social veri. From a group social. That we had a great chat.
There's not the merest hint that it was anything other than a social and a natter.
And yet I was turned down because and with no desire to offend, I quote "I wouldn't meet you because you fuck trannies"
People's stupidity is mind boggling.
The veri and my summary are now hidden, as I said, its to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
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I would be inclined to do the opposite and be proud as I wouldn’t want to meet anyone with such a small mind. So in essence you are doing yourself a favour by dwindling out the cock wombles |
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"I have MM veris. Also TV/TS veris.
They're clearly and obviously from socials and frequently mention that within the actual veri.
And yet I've had some much crap over them I hide my summary and only show them for a few hours after they've been sent.
I do it to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
It's like a public service...
I could leave a veri for Stingly cos I saw him at a social. I don’t think he could care less that I’m bi because he is confident in his sexuality and not scared of what others might or might not think of him for showing it.
True story.
I have a veri from a TV/TS.
It clearly says it was a social veri. From a group social. That we had a great chat.
There's not the merest hint that it was anything other than a social and a natter.
And yet I was turned down because and with no desire to offend, I quote "I wouldn't meet you because you fuck trannies"
People's stupidity is mind boggling.
The veri and my summary are now hidden, as I said, its to save the idiotic from embarrassing themselves by their own stupidity.
I would be inclined to do the opposite and be proud as I wouldn’t want to meet anyone with such a small mind. So in essence you are doing yourself a favour by dwindling out the cock wombles "
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male.
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are "
So you'd leave a veri saying "met for a social, great sense of humour! But she's more of a salad dodger than her, rather out of date photos led me to believe!"  |
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male.
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are
So you'd leave a veri saying "met for a social, great sense of humour! But she's more of a salad dodger than her, rather out of date photos led me to believe!" "
The regular forum user I met fairly recently, who purports to be 51, and uses pics from I don’t know when on her profile, received no veri from me at all. Similarly the woman who invited me to her home for coffee, and when she opened the door, I almost asked if her daughter was at home........ |
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male.
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are
So you'd leave a veri saying "met for a social, great sense of humour! But she's more of a salad dodger than her, rather out of date photos led me to believe!"
The regular forum user I met fairly recently, who purports to be 51, and uses pics from I don’t know when on her profile, received no veri from me at all. Similarly the woman who invited me to her home for coffee, and when she opened the door, I almost asked if her daughter was at home........ "
Possibly, I shouldn't have laughed at that...... |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
I saw that.
Ridiculous judgemental twats. |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
Isn’t part of the problem that there is no way to differentiate between a social meet and a sexual one with just a glance. |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar. "
Isn’t part of the problem that there is no way to differentiate between a social meet and a sexual one with just a glance. |
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male.
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are
So you'd leave a veri saying "met for a social, great sense of humour! But she's more of a salad dodger than her, rather out of date photos led me to believe!"
The regular forum user I met fairly recently, who purports to be 51, and uses pics from I don’t know when on her profile, received no veri from me at all. Similarly the woman who invited me to her home for coffee, and when she opened the door, I almost asked if her daughter was at home........ "
Oh mannnn!! It makes no sense to me that people try and deceive if they’re actually looking to meet people!! Do they honestly think you won’t notice or say anything?!! Odd creatures... |
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"It's an interesting question. I see a lot of women's profiles that won't meet bi men, sometimes in very strong and borderline offensive terms. If a man were to display a verification from another chap - or even worse just the summary; "1 meet from 1 man" that could immediately rule them out of most of the women mentioned above who may well use meeting men as a blanket rule to filter men they won't meet. So I can see why some fellas might be hesitant.
Straight men should *never* get a veri from a man. Even if it's just a coffee chat to get verified.
There was a thread the other day where a man had a couple of verifications from men. People hounded him for hiding the veris, saying he was lying about his sexuality. The meets could have been just social and they'd left the site so he couldn't show them- didn't matter, he was labelled a liar.
Isn’t part of the problem that there is no way to differentiate between a social meet and a sexual one with just a glance. "
I think the problem is that verifications aren't mandatory. They don't include meets off Fab. They are pointless. |
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I’m going to play devil’s apricot here for a while and suggest that men getting veris is a rite of passage that needs to be undertaken. I’d almost go as far as to suggest that there should be a probationary period prior to that. There are far too many males on fab who really shouldn’t be here, or, if I’m to be kinder, need to learn how to respect the site and it’s users. If you can’t walk into a club, attend a social or persuade another site member to meet you within a given time, then you probably shouldn’t be here.
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"I’m going to play devil’s apricot here for a while and suggest that men getting veris is a rite of passage that needs to be undertaken. I’d almost go as far as to suggest that there should be a probationary period prior to that. There are far too many males on fab who really shouldn’t be here, or, if I’m to be kinder, need to learn how to respect the site and it’s users. If you can’t walk into a club, attend a social or persuade another site member to meet you within a given time, then you probably shouldn’t be here.
(Lights blue touch paper and steps well clear)"
That could be a thread on it's own. A new OP discussion. |
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I think the problem is that verifications aren't mandatory. They don't include meets off Fab. They are pointless. "
I'm not sure that they're pointless, but there certainly not a guarantee of anything. At least if someone has been verified by someone who has multiple verifications, it suggests that there's a higher chance that they are a real person.
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"A social coffee meet is pointless. Doesn't prove they, are going to turn up for sex. Useful to prove a woman is real, but pretty pointless for a bloke. Women don't pretend to be male.
Women do pretend to be younger and slimmer than they are "
Do they pretend to be slimmer or is it simply your own perception of what you see? What if you see the pretty pictures but then the person says ‘they’re just photos, I have lumpy, bumpy wobbly bits? Who is being deceptive then?
We all want to post the best photos of ourselves surely?
As for age ... there are so many male forum users who are completely lying about their age. We all know it because people talk. That is mainly why we have an age range, to make allowances for the men that can’t cope with getting older. My age is correct apart from a couple of months. It’s pointless to lie.
Also - what about those men that take a little break? They delete their profiles are when they come back time has been reversed! people treat you like you are daft and not able to be observant but we notice things, we really do |
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