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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing will make the loss of your friend any less sad, but you are still surrounded by others who care about you. Lean on them, talk, and it'll help you through the next few days. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm sorry to hear I can't profess to know what you're going through as i've not experienced similar. Take solace that even on the darkest days a ray of hope lies for a better tomorrow. Hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you guys. I read it at work this morning. Thankfully I was so busy that I didn't have time to think about it and it took my mind off it for a few hours.
But I just cannot believe how someone can take other's life away just like that...  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Vent away, don't apologise.
There's no set way for dealing sadly, it'd be fantastic if there was. You'll find a way of coping, even when it feels like you're not, you are.
Death does feel like a bloody awful pattern, doesn't it? At times it almost feels like a farce now for me.
Talk to those who care about you and look after you. People will be there for you.
Sending love, x |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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That's so terrible and sad. It's understandable how you feel as often it seems like bad things happen in such a close succession that it drags you down.
My only (probably poor) advice is to focus on the positives in your life and of the happy memories and time spent with your loved ones to remember how fortunate you are to have been in each other's lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
Really sorry to hear that ! It’s truly awful news to receive x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were really close few years ago. Lost touch for a bit but such is life - people move away, delete social media etc.
I was her maid of honour 7 years ago.
We discussed possible flat sharing in the future since she became single agay.
Now she's gone. So full of life and ideas to change hers for better.
So sad and angry at the same time - hope Justice will be done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
I moved from Southampton a couple of years ago, 12 people I know & was close too passed, keep your chin up. It does get better with time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Such dreadful news! I'm so sorry.
Try to remember the good times & try be around others who are their to support you at this time. True friends or family will get you through!
Many hugs xx you take care of yourself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were really close few years ago. Lost touch for a bit but such is life - people move away, delete social media etc.
I was her maid of honour 7 years ago.
We discussed possible flat sharing in the future since she became single agay.
Now she's gone. So full of life and ideas to change hers for better.
So sad and angry at the same time - hope Justice will be done."
Xxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I appreciate your kind words, guys.
Thank you.
As they say 'enjoy every day as you don't know if it's your last'..
I truly understand it.
RIP my friend xx |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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Loss of any life is terrible,
But it seems to be the good ones that get taken.
All we can do is support each other through bad times and try to make the world a better place, one step at a time. |
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
I'm so sorry for your loss |
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op so sorry to hear i recently lost a good mate to suicide and another in a motorbike crash with another biker so know how down u are feeling so if u want a chat feel free to message sending u a hug xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey sorry to hear about your loss x you have had a bad bit of luck recently x hopefully you will be able to deal with this latest setback x try and keep your chin up x onwards and upwards xxx   |
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op a good friend network helps ,luckily i had that when my friend committed suicide and as a result some of them have trained to be councillors so any of the guys can talk to someone when down and it may be easier if the councillor is a friend also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so very sorry for your loss and how each new loss echoes the pain of your other losses. Grieving doesn’t ever end, it gets easier and then one thing brings it all back to the surface. I hope you have strength and love around you to help you get to a place of greater peace with it.
It never goes, just gets more manageable. Sending hugs - Mrs |
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
Gosh that's awful I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sending you lots of love beautiful. Stay strong. 
Jo.Xx |
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So sorry Jessica, that's absolutely awful. My thoughts are with you. I took a call last Monday letting me know that one of my closes friends had passed away.
You cry, surround yourself with loved ones. Cry some more. Remember all the good things about them. Take care x
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Be grateful for knowing them, be grateful for the laughs and the happy times, be grateful that you shared it and not sat in silence
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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Jessica, nothing prepares for this.
You have to go through this step by step.
Talking it through, till it doesn't hurt definitely works. Writing your thoughts down on paper speeds things up by focusing your anguish, out of your head, through the pen and on to the paper.
A clear head is a happier head...
Grief is like toothache, we will all get it at some point and can only get better with the right help.
All the best in the days and weeks to come.
Message me if you want to chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
So sorry for all you’ve suffered.
I’m still trying to deal with stuff myself, so am not sure I have the answers, but I can recommend chatting to someone you trust, who won’t judge, possibly someone impartial, just to talk.
Trust me, this last year I’ve lost so many people I love, so I know how life can just seem to kick you when you’re down, but I also know that there are many amazing people around to help you. The strongest one being yourself. We never know what we can cope with, until we’re truly tested. There are no magic answers, we just carry on. It’s all we can do. We owe it to them, and ourselves to live.
I do know that we all have a strength within us that we didn’t know possible, you will have that too. Vent, cry, get angry, laugh/smile at the good memories, take time out, do whatever you need, it’s all a natural part of the process, and no one way is right or wrong when it comes to grief.
Sending you healing hugs x
Viv xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be kind to yourself. Your friend was lucky to have had you in her life, and you to have had her in yours. I hope the murderer is caught and realises what they have done. Grief tends to come in waves - you have good days, bad days, days you just get through. Then just when you think you are back to normal, something will knock you off your feet again. This is normal … horrible, but normal. Don't be afraid to ask for help, its a hard road xx hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
This is a lot for you to deal with, especially the trauma of murder. Sorry you are going through this. I lost 3 close family members in a short space of time and had family politics erupt on top. I can at least sympathise and understand the loss of your family but cannot claim to know the pain of the murder on top you are dealing with. I hope some professional bereavement counselling may help you. Hugs x |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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A psychologist kuhbler ross described various emotional states folk go through during and after a bereavement.
Anger bargaining denial depression and acceptance.
I can only say in time we get through these things,
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks Jeffrey. I took a few days off work and tried to rest, relax and do things I enjoy to take my mind off it.
I'll never understand what happened or why, but I'll keep the memories I have with my friend forever. She's in better place now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
How awful. I'm so sorry honey. Sending huge hugs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you Jade and thank you everyone for kind words, I appreciate it.
My workmates have been awesome, got lot of hugs, flowers, card and chocolates when they found out why I was crying..
Thoughts of love to all the angels up there looking at us and looking after us (heart) |
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
Grief is the most debilitating emotion, and it moves through you in stages. We have become deeply acquainted with it. We both processed what happened to us in different ways and at different speeds. The only real thing we learned is that you can’t fight it, and no matter how hard you try to resist it, it will engulf you eventually. Don’t fight it. Know, truly know, that your shock, your tears, your anger, your confusion, everything you feel, it’s okay. It’s okay now, next week, next month, next year. No words that other people say can really help, but people close to you are a source of support. Talk to them, express yourself. Express yourself here. Write to us privately if you’re moved to do so. But talk. Talking won’t change what happened, but not talking does make it harder. We will listen. Many people here will listen. With all our love, A&G xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend got murdered on Sunday. Been told tragic news this morning.
How do you deal with such news?
My mum passed away 2 years ago. Grandma last year. Close friend this year.
It's becoming a pattern..
Sorry. I just needed to vent it somewhere "
time is your best friend, and positive people. I've been there and made some stupid decisions and from experience time is your best friend |
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