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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
Waltham Abbey |
So, work has made it clear in our code of conduct (rightfully so) that relationships at work are frowned upon, especially so with our interns. Who, as you can imagine, are mostly younger males/females seeking work experience.
However, one of the interns (female, 25, and very hot) has recently made it very clear to me that she is keen to hook up - I would have never approached her for fear of being utterly inappropriate. I’m not her boss nor have any say on future recruitment, we just work in adjacent areas.
So, any advice from the Fab crowd? Should I steer clear as I’m playing with fire? Or dive in and enjoy ourselves noting the risk (I’d undoubtedly get fired if caught)? Anyone been in a similar situation? |
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Go for it, but don't get caught
It's in both of your interests to keep it private.
I'm surprised companies can still have a say on what you do in your personal life.
I assume they wouldn't be happy if they knew you were on here then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it, it's only a job after all. Just kidding depends how much you value your job, and can you be sure if caught she will not put all the on blame you, to save herself. |
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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
Waltham Abbey |
Let’s just say the owner is a pretty zealous person about moral standards and company reputation!! Yes, being on Fab probably wouldn’t go down well!
"Go for it, but don't get caught
It's in both of your interests to keep it private.
I'm surprised companies can still have a say on what you do in your personal life.
I assume they wouldn't be happy if they knew you were on here then?"
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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
Waltham Abbey |
"I wouldn’t get fired for it. How long left on her internship?"
3 months but she thinks she is moving overseas after. So she sees it as a short term fling for some fun - we do get on professionally/personally very well. |
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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
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"Go for it, it's only a job after all. Just kidding depends how much you value your job, and can you be sure if caught she will not put all the on blame you, to save herself."
Good points! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, work has made it clear in our code of conduct (rightfully so) that relationships at work are frowned upon, especially so with our interns. Who, as you can imagine, are mostly younger males/females seeking work experience.
However, one of the interns (female, 25, and very hot) has recently made it very clear to me that she is keen to hook up - I would have never approached her for fear of being utterly inappropriate. I’m not her boss nor have any say on future recruitment, we just work in adjacent areas.
So, any advice from the Fab crowd? Should I steer clear as I’m playing with fire? Or dive in and enjoy ourselves noting the risk (I’d undoubtedly get fired if caught)? Anyone been in a similar situation? "
if you fall out you have to continue working together and at ages 25 and 42 that can easily happen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is a “hook up” really worth risking your job for?
If you value your employment don’t do it, hook ups come and go, not worth the potential hassle.  "
And if the company has a specific policy for this situation, stick to it. It'll only take one little thing to go wrong for it to cost you your job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah policies are there for a reason. I.e it’s happens once before and it went south.
If work finds out it sounds like you’ll be dismissed for inappropriate conduct. Do you really want to explain that at an interview? |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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If she has made it clear she wants to hook up explain about the rules and wait for the internship to end and for her to either be employed or move on and then go for it. No quick fumble etc is worth losing your job for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn’t get fired for it. How long left on her internship?
3 months but she thinks she is moving overseas after. So she sees it as a short term fling for some fun - we do get on professionally/personally very well."
Do you trust her motives when you really think about it. The age difference, your position of responsibility in the company, the attitude of the boss ..... do you feel lucky punk?
Let it build for 3 months then pursue it when she leaves if you both want. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I mention this on every thread like this.
Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.
She basically had a stand up row in front of everyone in our department with him, then started telling line manager he was harrassing her. He wasn’t. He snapped one day and basically did the same thing she did but he was seen as being physically aggressive and was escorted from the premises by security, never to return.
She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.
It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.
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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks for the constructive comments on the pitfalls involved with this course of action - much appreciated all of you.
Clearly a plan needs to be made to delay anything until post-internship! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mention this on every thread like this.
Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.
She basically had a stand up row in front of everyone in our department with him, then started telling line manager he was harrassing her. He wasn’t. He snapped one day and basically did the same thing she did but he was seen as being physically aggressive and was escorted from the premises by security, never to return.
She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.
It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.
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thats really devious and unfair  |
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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago
Waltham Abbey |
"I mention this on every thread like this.
Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.
She basically had a stand up row in front of everyone in our department with him, then started telling line manager he was harrassing her. He wasn’t. He snapped one day and basically did the same thing she did but he was seen as being physically aggressive and was escorted from the premises by security, never to return.
She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.
It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.
thats really devious and unfair "
Very good point and well made, thanks. I have everything to lose (career and reputation) and the other party, not so much. Perhaps there is an agenda behind this, I sincerely don’t believe there is, but best not to risk it. |
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