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F: have you ever faked an orgasm
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Yes, because my partner at the time (a long time ago) would throw a tantrum if I didn't have an orgasm, and he was lousy in bed. I didn't realise I could tell him to fuck off.
Indirectly, yes. Being bullied into faking pleasure for male ego is absurd. The idea that women experience pleasure for themselves should be obvious but isn't. Women are trained from a young age to smooth over problems and soothe egos, including to their own detriment, and it needs to stop. Fuck being nice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, because my partner at the time (a long time ago) would throw a tantrum if I didn't have an orgasm, and he was lousy in bed. I didn't realise I could tell him to fuck off.
Indirectly, yes. Being bullied into faking pleasure for male ego is absurd. The idea that women experience pleasure for themselves should be obvious but isn't. Women are trained from a young age to smooth over problems and soothe egos, including to their own detriment, and it needs to stop. Fuck being nice. "
He'd throw a tantrum because you didn't cum??
Like it was your fault..!?
I guess this gets to the heart of the question.
In those circumstances it's an issue, be it a feminist issue or simple decency!
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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago
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I used to fake it when i was younger because i didn't want to upset my x partners. But I've never faked it with my husband. Because he isn't like that. If i don't come, he just assumes that im tired or something. He'd be right too. He wouldn't panic like some men do. So I'm comfortable to be honest with him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"With my ex husband, to get him to stop. If he wanted sex he'd take it if I wanted to or not. So if I faked one he'd finish and leave me alone. "
Sounds horrific
But in this and similar situations coukd you argue that faking was empowering?
That it was your choice?? |
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