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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?  |
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Nobody said that it doesn't make someone genuinely bi. However there is no doubt that what you have outlined does happen. Its normally obvious in the messages so along the lines of "we can put put a show on for hubby". |
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I had one couple saying I wasnt fully bi because I wasnt willing to bottom for the male half of them. I have my preferences. I do not sub. I've tried being bottom and did not get any pleasure from it. I'm a dominant so know what I enjoy doing. I feel like people who try and call you out for it are just trying to make themselves feel better for being rejected. |
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Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest. |
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi? "
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too. |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest. "
Wasn’t to sure myself about the restrictions that’s why I asked the question, just an opinion someone else had, I feel the same as you, these are things that all involved discusses, everyone has something they are more comfortable with, how else can you have fun and wouldn't assume it would be any other way |
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
Wasn’t to sure myself about the restrictions that’s why I asked the question, just an opinion someone else had, I feel the same as you, these are things that all involved discusses, everyone has something they are more comfortable with, how else can you have fun and wouldn't assume it would be any other way "
Definitely. I see so many stories where the woman doesn’t really want to but is doing it for the man. I don’t meet couples but I have a couple profile and would meet as a couple. |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too. "
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant |
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant "
It was me and I didn't say that at all! |
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all! "
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest. "
In our case it definitely pleases me for her to enjoy her bi self. Usually it is next day/s before I actually benefit sexually though.
Actual FFM only really works if it is regular, otherwise there is too much FF and wine waiter. MFFM is more common, but again if she has not been with women recently novelty wins out. |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all! "
You mentioned restrictions in it?...I genuinely asked a question on here for peoples friendly opinions as there is many different ones. Not to make a point. About meets or who posted it |
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
You mentioned restrictions in it?...I genuinely asked a question on here for peoples friendly opinions as there is many different ones. Not to make a point. About meets or who posted it "
I did not mention restrictions at all. I think you need to go and have another look! |
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
In our case it definitely pleases me for her to enjoy her bi self. Usually it is next day/s before I actually benefit sexually though.
Actual FFM only really works if it is regular, otherwise there is too much FF and wine waiter. MFFM is more common, but again if she has not been with women recently novelty wins out."
There a lot of straight FFMs though. Same as the other way round. Then it’s all about the man
I assume. So many different things to consider and discuss to make sure everyone’s happy with it. I think so anyway. |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
If you wanted to know what a specific person meant it's probably best to ask them directly. "
Why I thought the forum was to chat and ask opinions, I wasn’t wanting to know the persons direct opinion as that’s theirs and there own choice as everyone has on here and I wasn’t calling them out on it directly? X
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
In our case it definitely pleases me for her to enjoy her bi self. Usually it is next day/s before I actually benefit sexually though.
Actual FFM only really works if it is regular, otherwise there is too much FF and wine waiter. MFFM is more common, but again if she has not been with women recently novelty wins out.
There a lot of straight FFMs though. Same as the other way round. Then it’s all about the man
I assume. So many different things to consider and discuss to make sure everyone’s happy with it. I think so anyway. "
I think that's the key, to make sure you know what you want out of it and sometimes when speaking to a couple it's been clear they both have very different ideas. |
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I will only meet a couple if I can meet the female first and typically this is a major no no form one or both for their reasons which I respect
It’s my restrictions on couples meets though as proves she is actually interested in me |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
You mentioned restrictions in it?...I genuinely asked a question on here for peoples friendly opinions as there is many different ones. Not to make a point. About meets or who posted it
I did not mention restrictions at all. I think you need to go and have another look! "
Sorry “constraints” I said restrictions I apologise this wasn’t to get at you just put a question out there?? I was just being friendly and trying to be involved in the forums  |
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
In our case it definitely pleases me for her to enjoy her bi self. Usually it is next day/s before I actually benefit sexually though.
Actual FFM only really works if it is regular, otherwise there is too much FF and wine waiter. MFFM is more common, but again if she has not been with women recently novelty wins out.
There a lot of straight FFMs though. Same as the other way round. Then it’s all about the man
I assume. So many different things to consider and discuss to make sure everyone’s happy with it. I think so anyway. "
Very true, every case has its reasons. My wife was bi before we met, we discovered swinging as a way for her to enjoy that side of her personality without the risks of hurting people who may want more than just sex. It mostly sort of works out for us, though due to circumstances it is almost always in clubs these days, which is a bit restrictive.
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
Wasn’t to sure myself about the restrictions that’s why I asked the question, just an opinion someone else had, I feel the same as you, these are things that all involved discusses, everyone has something they are more comfortable with, how else can you have fun and wouldn't assume it would be any other way
Definitely. I see so many stories where the woman doesn’t really want to but is doing it for the man. I don’t meet couples but I have a couple profile and would meet as a couple. "
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"Restrictions in what way? I think everyone has boundaries that need to be discussed beforehand but they should be agreed by all. Some couples won’t kiss etc, or some bi females don’t like the men to get involved but are happy for him to be there. I wouldn’t do it just to please him to be honest.
In our case it definitely pleases me for her to enjoy her bi self. Usually it is next day/s before I actually benefit sexually though.
Actual FFM only really works if it is regular, otherwise there is too much FF and wine waiter. MFFM is more common, but again if she has not been with women recently novelty wins out.
There a lot of straight FFMs though. Same as the other way round. Then it’s all about the man
I assume. So many different things to consider and discuss to make sure everyone’s happy with it. I think so anyway.
Very true, every case has its reasons. My wife was bi before we met, we discovered swinging as a way for her to enjoy that side of her personality without the risks of hurting people who may want more than just sex. It mostly sort of works out for us, though due to circumstances it is almost always in clubs these days, which is a bit restrictive.
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi? "
This is exactly what we are into |
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The only constraint I (Luke) would put on Hannah being with another woman would be that it doesn't get in the way of our relationship.
I'm perfectly happy for her to meet another woman and for me to have no involvement. This has happened. I know the woman she has had sex with and we get on well. We have talked openly about them having been together and I find it rather lovely, but I haven't been there when it's happened. If I was allowed to see or join in, then great, but I'm quite happy for it to remain how it is. |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"I will only meet a couple if I can meet the female first and typically this is a major no no form one or both for their reasons which I respect
It’s my restrictions on couples meets though as proves she is actually interested in me "
I think that’s completely fair especially as your the single female isn’t he situation and need to feel comfortable |
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I think boundaries are important. If someone decides I’m not bi and therefore doesn’t want to play with us, that’s fine lol but I gain nothing by lying and sex with women by telling the truth haha .
Mr doesn’t expect a show or make rules about how I interact with women, but he and I as a long term married couple will have boundaries and rules for how we both behave and treat each other and others during any meet. We don’t cross those boundaries as our relationship will always matter most because we share a life not just a couple of hours of sex. We won’t disrespect anyone, use them for a show or as an object, but we do prioritise our relationship with our boundaries. I also can meet women alone and he doesn’t have any involvement in that beyond knowledge of who and where.
I tried to answer your post but it was a bit confusing. -mrs |
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"I will only meet a couple if I can meet the female first and typically this is a major no no form one or both for their reasons which I respect
It’s my restrictions on couples meets though as proves she is actually interested in me "
It’s a great rule! |
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"I think boundaries are important. If someone decides I’m not bi and therefore doesn’t want to play with us, that’s fine lol but I gain nothing by lying and sex with women by telling the truth haha .
Mr doesn’t expect a show or make rules about how I interact with women, but he and I as a long term married couple will have boundaries and rules for how we both behave and treat each other and others during any meet. We don’t cross those boundaries as our relationship will always matter most because we share a life not just a couple of hours of sex. We won’t disrespect anyone, use them for a show or as an object, but we do prioritise our relationship with our boundaries. I also can meet women alone and he doesn’t have any involvement in that beyond knowledge of who and where.
I tried to answer your post but it was a bit confusing. -mrs"
Def a good answer Couldn’t of said it better myself (sorry for confusing you if I rabbled on a bit) lol (fem) |
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Many women only pretend to be bi because the man wants to watch. Or the man makes the rules and it's just not fun for the single woman joining.
Or some want to meet 1:1 with just the woman. Some couples don't meet separately. |
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
If you wanted to know what a specific person meant it's probably best to ask them directly.
Why I thought the forum was to chat and ask opinions, I wasn’t wanting to know the persons direct opinion as that’s theirs and there own choice as everyone has on here and I wasn’t calling them out on it directly? X
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
If you wanted to know what a specific person meant it's probably best to ask them directly.
Why I thought the forum was to chat and ask opinions, I wasn’t wanting to know the persons direct opinion as that’s theirs and there own choice as everyone has on here and I wasn’t calling them out on it directly? X
You can ask whatever you like within forum rules. Don't let it put you off posting. "
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By *bcums3 OP Couple
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"From another thread I posted to would like to see what your thoughts are? .... it was mentioned sometimes it’s hard to find genuine bi females due to restrictions the male places on the couple, this made me think? What restrictions? And why does these make them not genuinely bi? Is it because it is assumed it’s only for the males pleasure?..and if so why? I’m a bi female, I only play with my hubby and if everyone is comfortable and I prefer not to play with other men...all my choices and all my restrictions, so does that mean I’m not genuinely bi?
nothing wrong with that its your choice. But keep in mind people may look at your choices and decide based on that they are not interested in you that's their choice too.
Of course!..as there is always different reasons why someone isn’t interested? Though this isn’t about me/us directly and people meeting is??? just an opinion that was put out there by someone? And it made me wonder what they meant
It was me and I didn't say that at all!
If you wanted to know what a specific person meant it's probably best to ask them directly.
Why I thought the forum was to chat and ask opinions, I wasn’t wanting to know the persons direct opinion as that’s theirs and there own choice as everyone has on here and I wasn’t calling them out on it directly? X
You can ask whatever you like within forum rules. Don't let it put you off posting. "
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