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Why are you here?

By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

I noticed that the forums are a strange melting pot of folks who dont/won't meet, people who are looking for relationships, cynical folks who are habitual, those actively seeking meets and a vast array of others.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab?

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan over a year ago

Northampton

I'm here for the lolz, shits & gigs mainly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get an adult Facebook and some great online friends and chats.

I get the occasional date, which tbf I could get irl, but on here I already know they are kinky and I don't have to pretend to be vanilla.

I get to look at home made porn pics. Always was my fav kind of porn.

That's why I'm here...

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I'm not sure myself anymore that's the truth.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I’m still here because I have some great friends, I love the MLSs and the forums make me laugh and occasionally tut but overall it’s a fun place to hang out. I don’t use other social media so this is all this is for me. It’s a bit of extra fun, it’s not my life by any stretch.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Lots of fabulous friends live here and I enjoy the chat. Though I rarely meet it remains a possibility if it feels right. Until then I’m enjoying just pottering around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cos im bored and its a good place to vent my rage rather than breaking things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not be here? Well it can be fun here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sexual exploration.... and the added bonus of learning some pretty freaky shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Brexit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haven't a clue why I am here. I rarely speak to people anymore and certainly don't meet although that isn't my choice more the lack of kinky gentlemen about. All I seem to attract is fuckboys who are cheating on their girlfriends and think they can speak to me like a whore

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

To keep in touch with people I meet at clubs, very occasionally arrange a meet and the forums.

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By *oppet22TV/TS over a year ago

huddersfield

To meet new people see where it gos from there social side and fun side of fab there's quite a few good people on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because I can't keep away.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

To meet people. To keep up with club events. The forums x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that we are all here for much of the same thing. Good sex good banter and learning things that you hadn't heard of before x and much more x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "
i get a deep soulful feeling, self worth, ego boost and heartfelt advice, who needs a shrink she keeps telling me I'm fine anyways

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Brexit"

Or your chaffing balls looking at your avatar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get orgasms from fab. And I play games.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi x"
i don't have a TV

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

Fab forums have definitely replaced Facebook for me. Far funnier for a start.

I have occasional meets, some of which have been awesome. All of which have been way better than any I used to get on any “dating” site. For one I can be pretty honest from the start about how kinky I am.

I met my fwb on here and we have some beyond amazing sex. I am still buzzing from last night!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To keep in touch with friends, forums and club events. This is my Facebook.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Something I've been questioning myself about recently OP - and to be honest I'm not entirely sure - it always used to be with the primary purpose of finding people I connected with enough to want to meet them and see where things went - with the secondary purpose of the forums being my main form of social media.

Now I don't think that has changed a great deal, as to a greater or lesser extent both of those hold true - although I've lately found the forums less appealing than I maybe once did - I would add to that though that the friends I have made and interact with are another factor but do find myself less "addicted" to the site than I maybe once did - still log on every day and still interact with it but on days where I am barely on I find I don't miss it either.

Maybe I'm just becoming old and jaded or maybe other factors are playing their part. Will never walk away completely as there are too many people I enjoy interacting with (either as friends or more than friends) but definitely think there are subtle changes to how I originally used the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi xi don't have a TV

Neither does J. At least if we hang out on here we have something to talk about

Rubi x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To perve on photos and to write unhelpful stuff in the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Curiosity. Been here for years on a previous profile.. dipped my toe in the scene, realised very quickly casual (multi partner sex) isnt my thing.

Stick around on here for the forums and chats.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

am single and i would be celebate if not for fab.so am on to get plenty sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here mainly to chat with friends now days also nothing better to do with a fiver also loving the forums lately been here 6yrs never really got involved until last few months and enjoying the posts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi xi don't have a TV

Neither does J. At least if we hang out on here we have something to talk about

Rubi x"
surely you have life to talk about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not sure myself anymore that's the truth.

I'm thinking the same! At the moment it's more out of boredom and loneliness, due to life circumstances, and because I have made one or two really nice friends who I want to keep in touch with.

If I can find people to have fun with that would be great, but I've not really found the right people based on who I've met so far.

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I’m still here because I have some great friends, I love the MLSs and the forums make me laugh and occasionally tut but overall it’s a fun place to hang out. I don’t use other social media so this is all this is for me. It’s a bit of extra fun, it’s not my life by any stretch. "

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use it like Facebook, Tinder, Twitter and porn rolled into one.

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Why not be here? Well it can be fun here.

That's not really an answer. What is it about fab that draws you here rather than the 3445455655 other public forums on the Internet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "

I dont use fab to find meets directly. I enjoy the forums as I always have.. chat occassionally in the chat rooms.. the biggest use though is for me to get people id be interested in meeting to events im going to.. or go to events they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am here for the forum, it is comedy gold

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Brexit"

Thanks for your honest input!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just looking for some adult fun!

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Haven't a clue why I am here. I rarely speak to people anymore and certainly don't meet although that isn't my choice more the lack of kinky gentlemen about. All I seem to attract is fuckboys who are cheating on their girlfriends and think they can speak to me like a whore"

OK, so beyond the negative aspects, what brings you here? Habit, hope?

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi x"

I find that the people on TV so very rarely post semi nude pictures and only occasionally talk to me directly...

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think that we are all here for much of the same thing. Good sex good banter and learning things that you hadn't heard of before x and much more x"

No, we really aren't. Many assume that people want the same as them, it simply isn't the case.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Sex and blowjobs (giving).

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By *rAngleseyMan over a year ago

Anglesey

My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them.

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Something I've been questioning myself about recently OP - and to be honest I'm not entirely sure - it always used to be with the primary purpose of finding people I connected with enough to want to meet them and see where things went - with the secondary purpose of the forums being my main form of social media.

That's interesting, thanks

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By *heshirefungirlWoman over a year ago

ammanford

I feel like it's one of them questions I find myself answering with "just coz I am"

I used to be very very active on here for meets and never really use the forum, but as the years has passed by, it's changed and I now use it more to stay in touch with people I've meet at clubs that I'm not ready to give my number or Facebook to and I come on the forums alot more, and not to forget playing "spot the Fab'er" this is great fun when your on a train or coach switch on your who's near me and see if someone traveling is also on fab

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Curiosity. Been here for years on a previous profile.. dipped my toe in the scene, realised very quickly casual (multi partner sex) isnt my thing.

Stick around on here for the forums and chats. "

So you're not a swinger but hang around the forums? Ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sex and blowjobs (giving)."
tmi

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I am here for the forum, it is comedy gold

So not for meeting, just to post?

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though"

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them."

Good plan, have you set up a thread?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im here with hubs on both profiles for the same reason we joined all those years ago ... fun ... swinging fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The forums amuse me, give me company and friendship. The chat rooms/cam help me battle my self consciousness and entertain me with banter, we meet people as well but there’s so many sides of it.

I know Mr likes the forums, he reads more than posting and flies under the radar a lot when he does post. He enjoys the cam room with me, it’s part of what we like together.

We enjoy planning meets, talking to people and mostly just don’t take ourselves seriously.

-Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them."
is it green with a number on it?

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

We are here too meet people and enjoy ourselves

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By *ooskiMan over a year ago

south coast

Forums amuse me as all sorts......, thats it....

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By *nlyoneruleMan over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Sexual exploration.... and the added bonus of learning some pretty freaky shit

^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm here cuz I'd like to add some spice and fun to my life, it's become way too serious past few years. Forums are great, having the chance to talk to new people is good too, but ultimately I want to meet and have a good time with lots of naughty fun

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting? "

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I really haven’t a clue why I’m here. It isn’t something I’d miss if it disappeared. However there a few I would like to stay in touch with.

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By *rAngleseyMan over a year ago

Anglesey

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them.

Good plan, have you set up a thread? "

No not yet... Good idea

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Well it’s not for the meets. When was the last one??? Must be the forums. I also like to read the reviews of clubs I’ve been to and might visit in the future.

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By *rtraymondo76Man over a year ago

Cheltenham

Can't PM you through filters. So, sad that you attract fuckboys as you put it who think they can insult all and sundry. I can say it 'cos I am one, the older guys will treat you with a lot more respect, so maybe aim a little higher up the target? Plenty of guys should be falling over them selves to meet a lady like you.

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By *rAngleseyMan over a year ago

Anglesey

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them.is it green with a number on it?

No it`s black with nothing on it.

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By *ikerdude2017Man over a year ago

Rotherham

looking for some sexy fun after becoming single again. a meet would be a miracle especially with a sexy lady.

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By *cedbunsWoman over a year ago

Gravesend

I’m mostly here because I use it to chat to friends and share pictures. I have a single profile that’s mainly pictures now. And a couples profile where we chat with people.

Mainly I lurk on the forums when I’m bored. It’s quite hard to get responses to posts here I find

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am here for the forum, it is comedy gold

So not for meeting, just to post? "
Yes for meeting too, but for the majority of the time I spend it on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "

To drink tea made by monkey's

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use. "

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I don’t particularly care for living in the ‘virtual’ world so I wouldn’t ever spend that much time on here, and I take breaks because that suits me. What others do though is their affair obviously

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab?

To drink tea made by monkey's "

That can be arranged...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "

We are looking for match to us, our interests in and out of the bedroom, our reasons for being here , simples!

Swinging is a compliment to our lifestyle and does not determine it

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I meet, although I'm finding it harder. I go to clubs. I have friends here, and I find the insight into the human psyche here fascinating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "

Because I'm bored

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab?

To drink tea made by monkey's

That can be arranged... "

Then my work here is done.. Might as well leave now.

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

It's an observation based on my experience and others. Usually an assertion like yours is based on external factors and to deflect an expected response, along the lines of 'the lady doth protest too much'

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

So you're here for the blatant and public flirting?

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab?

Because I'm bored"

Interesting

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at.

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

"Why not be here? Well it can be fun here.

this... and looking to live out some fantasies to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t know , the friends I,ve made I,m in contact with outside of fab not especially looking for more meets .

Prob on the edge of leaving tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm mostly here for the forums

Though once in a while I'm tempted over to the dark side

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a busy mum to three kids and work fill time and don’t get out often so I found dating didn’t work as I never had the time to continue anything meaningful. So on the rare occasion I can get out I go to clubs. And meet friends that way. I find a quick chat in a club and off to play is far easier than wasting my life on tinder trying to make small talk!! Different means to the same (but quicker) end.

I’d like to find something meaningful but havent found the right person circumstantially yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m here because it’s probably socially unacceptable to approach hot girls in the street and ask if they fancy trying a bit of girl on girl kinky fun. So I approach them on here instead ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them.is it green with a number on it?

No it`s black with nothing on it."
damn i havnt seen it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I joined because I’ve come out of a long term relationship. Dating sites are horrendous and all the men are just after a quick fuck. I thought if I joined here at least I know what they want straight up. The amount of men on here who are also not nice or cheats or treat you like a cum dump however I might as well of stayed on the dating sites

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at. "

Nor do I especially since you’re a forum fairly regular, unless he took your comment personally. Yes ppl do use that comment to be bitchy but they post the same thing regularly you were merely trying to express your use of Fab. Another example of folk making assumptions rather than clarifying a person’s intent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Due to quite severe mental abuse my whole life I've been very repressed, suffered low self esteem and confidence issues. It's only this year I've gained more confidence with the help of two very understanding friends who I finally confided in now I just want to have fun and explore my kinky side. I say kinky side but it's probably quite vanilla to most of those in the swingers lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m here because it’s probably socially unacceptable to approach hot girls in the street and ask if they fancy trying a bit of girl on girl kinky fun. So I approach them on here instead ...

Oh contraire would be very happy if you came up to me in pub, restaurant etc and asked if would like some hot girl girl with you

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

it's still fun and makes me smile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curiosity. Been here for years on a previous profile.. dipped my toe in the scene, realised very quickly casual (multi partner sex) isnt my thing.

Stick around on here for the forums and chats.

So you're not a swinger but hang around the forums? Ok"

Yep pretty much it. Glad i came back though as met a absolute worldie

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I joined because I’ve come out of a long term relationship. Dating sites are horrendous and all the men are just after a quick fuck. I thought if I joined here at least I know what they want straight up. The amount of men on here who are also not nice or cheats or treat you like a cum dump however I might as well of stayed on the dating sites

Again, I think that the negative aspects of your experience may mitigate your frustration but that doesn't change your motivation for joining. Others may affect your experience but not your 'why'

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan over a year ago

Northampton

"I'm here for the lolz, shits & gigs mainly

OK, this clearly to the forums.

I enjoy chatting to like-minded people and (hopefully) building connections strong enough to meet them in the real world. After all, isn't that why we are here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m here because it’s probably socially unacceptable to approach hot girls in the street and ask if they fancy trying a bit of girl on girl kinky fun. So I approach them on here instead ...

Oh contraire would be very happy if you came up to me in pub, restaurant etc and asked if would like some hot girl girl with you

Well... I shall bear that in mind if I ever do see you out and about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Again, I think that the negative aspects of your experience may mitigate your frustration but that doesn't change your motivation for joining. Others may affect your experience but not your 'why' "
true

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

if its so terrible here for you id leave?? i dont understand why some people have such low opinions or experiences of this site and stay... its free to leave you know?

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

I’m here for the forums now as I’m not meeting. There is no regularity to my posts, although I do have a brief read most days I’d say. I posted daily when I first joined Fab but real life gets in the way more these days. I haven’t even been to the MLS for a long time, which is a shame because I’ve got to know some lovely folk around the forum. Fab is a fun distraction most of the time

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at.

I think the assumption that I was casting aspersions on her reasoning is wholey wrong. I wasn't at all. I was merely trying to understand and explain 'why'.

Whether or not someone is a forum regular is irrespective, I don't attack nor cast spurious negativity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m here because it’s probably socially unacceptable to approach hot girls in the street and ask if they fancy trying a bit of girl on girl kinky fun. So I approach them on here instead ...

Oh contraire would be very happy if you came up to me in pub, restaurant etc and asked if would like some hot girl girl with you

Well... I shall bear that in mind if I ever do see you out and about

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

Its a tool to use to meet people without commitment for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good thread OP.

This is my 5 step guide.

1- Send opening message

2- Start Chat/exchange face pics

3- Talk on Phone

4- Arrange to Meet

5- The Goal !!!

(I don't rule out sex on a first meet, just as happy with a social though)

I can't seem to get past step 2

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By *hromosexualsCouple over a year ago

Near Abercynon

We joined in an attempt to fulfil a fantasy, which we did (and it was very positive).

Now we stay for more of the same, although we are in no rush now

. We’ve also chatted to some great people which has been lovely.

The forums are great too, always raise a smile.

One sort of double edged thing for me (The man of the couple) is that I see loads of pictures of other guys my age in great shape... I used to look at them while eating a kebab and drinking a beer, now I’m probably not having the beer and I’ve joined a gym (and the kebab is chicken, so basically a salad

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It started years ago when I wanted to explore being with a woman. Now its an escape and I get to talk to like minded people and have gained some amazing friends. The meets haven't been great but ok hopeful someone will turn up for me one day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find interacting with people more enjoyable than watching TV.

Rubi x

I find that the people on TV so very rarely post semi nude pictures and only occasionally talk to me directly... "

You're not watching the right channels.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never heard of Fab until my straight mate suggested it upon me becoming bicurious several months ago.

I think it is a better place than anywhere for me to potentially act on my bicuriosity, which I have not yet. It seems like I am in a parallel dimension sometimes flirting and chatting to women on a level I am not used to, but I am comfortable with it here.

On another level I have met some fit bi lads off here so that is a bonus haha. Then of course I like using the forums, it is an interesting mix of people and opinions you would not see on regular forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am here because I have got some very good friends in the UK that I started swinging with back in 1994 long before FAB's very existence, they have been on here for a very long time it's easier to keep in touch through this site as contact details especially mine change. This site allows us to reconnect as we always know how to find one another. We can also chat on cam.

I have recently taken a interest in the forum's tey can be interesting to say the least.

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty "

That's not nice

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By *oupleforxtrafunCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

That's not nice

As this site is full of them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

That's not nice

Well they do day if you can laugh at yourself

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty "

So trolling then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

That's not nice

As this site is full of them

Fab Guys is much worse, I had to delete again after a 3rd attempt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

That's not nice

As this site is full of them

To some cuckold couples he might be perfect for putting down the hubby. That's one thing I like about Fab. The vast lifestyle differences.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at.

I think the assumption that I was casting aspersions on her reasoning is wholey wrong. I wasn't at all. I was merely trying to understand and explain 'why'.

Whether or not someone is a forum regular is irrespective, I don't attack nor cast spurious negativity. "

Your initial response appears confrontational despite you explaining that it wasn’t intended to be. I have seen you around the forum and I agree you aren’t a troll, but I think you’ve been a little clumsy with your initial response on this occasion. As you and I both know Babs does not fall into the ‘I need to belittle other folk using the forum because my life is shit’ category and you’d never suggest that

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

We are perverts looking for other perverts.

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By *rAngleseyMan over a year ago

Anglesey

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

So trolling then? "

best have narcissist listed on your profile.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I am on here actively seeking meets with like minded people...

I would say I am still in the honeymoon phase of fab, I shall revisit your question in 3 months time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if its so terrible here for you id leave?? i dont understand why some people have such low opinions or experiences of this site and stay... its free to leave you know? "

Alright moody jeez I didn’t say all did I? I’ve had a cpl ofgood meets!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am here looking for possible fwb, chatting to a few people and like the forums

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think you misread my post, I was saying that others may have belittled her or others with that assertion.

Anyway. I feel this is getting a little off topic!

My apologies if I came across as confrontational, all I ever want is to understand or discuss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sexual exploration.... and the added bonus of learning some pretty freaky shit

Couldn't of put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if its so terrible here for you id leave?? i dont understand why some people have such low opinions or experiences of this site and stay... its free to leave you know?

Alright moody jeez I didn’t say all did I? I’ve had a cpl ofgood meets!"

There are some good guys left but as a guy I have sympathy for the ladies. The copy paste Messages, the fancy a fuck Messages, the downright filthy Messages. It's enough to make anyone feel a little cynical.

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"To laugh at the desperate and thirsty

So trolling then?

best have narcissist listed on your profile."

How so?

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By *ensual 2Couple over a year ago

Blackpool

Every now n again you get a nice surprise and meet somebody to play with on your page ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm looking for either hook ups, FWB stuff, or an actual relationship...not bothered which. Plus, it's essentially adult Facebook which is nice because I can actually speak my mind here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use this profile for the forums. I find some of the topics interesting.

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By *ister-mischiefMan over a year ago

Trafford

For escapism from the real world , it's nice to drop in see what friends are upto, club nights and meeting new people.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Right at this very moment I logged in to read, chat, comment while I have a coffee.

Years ago I joined to meet for N.S.A.

Sometimes I log in for other reasons.

Depends dunnit really?

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"My Wheelie bin was stolen recently & ive got a feeling it was someone on Fab, So ive been checking out the pics to see if it`s in the background of any of them.is it green with a number on it?

No it`s black with nothing on it."

Glad it wasn’t yours I nicked last night, that would have been awkward!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I come on the Forum for the sexy banter and a bit of escapism. Fabguys has a Forum too, but it's hidden and thus little-used.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I joined in the pursuit of sex

I've stayed because I'm hooked on the way people put themselves across

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By *adetMan over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Pure pleasure in whatever form that might take

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab? "

just curious, why are you here and what do you get from fab?

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By *armbloodedmanMan over a year ago

sheffield

here for nsa fun, meet new friends to chat with and if we get on fun

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

For the forums. For sex. For chatting. Originally, it was to see if I was bisexual or not.

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By *adetMan over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"For the forums. For sex. For chatting. Originally, it was to see if I was bisexual or not. "

Has your question been answered?

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By *ea monkey OP Man over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Not in a philosophical sense but in a very real; 'why do you come on fab?' sense.

So, without judgement or reprisals; why are you here and what do you get from fab?

just curious, why are you here and what do you get from fab?"

To make contact, meet and keep in contact with people. To explore thoughts and discuss issues with others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm more there than here tbh......

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Plus, it's essentially adult Facebook which is nice because I can actually speak my mind here."

Careful with that, opinions can get you into trouble

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

I'm here to get ignored. Be insulted just generally to get my self esteem as low as possible.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Im here to get my sexual fantasies fulfilled, make connections and learn more about sexual relationships others have

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple over a year ago

canterbury

To pull people's plonkers ...and fuel the fire of so many experts on here....the same old expert faces who know everything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No idea. Watching a car crash in slow motion is the nearest I can think of...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly, to meet people I can connect properly with. Quick sex is ten-a-penny down the local...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Come on fab to find like minded ladies who would like to meet up and go for a drink now and then, so far without much luck, but fingers crossed maybe one day

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

Came here to find like minded people, friendship and fun... though hasn’t been what we thought..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To find someone willing to pluck my ear hairs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here

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By *ullpa72Man over a year ago

Isle of Arran

To explore my bi sexual feelings .long repressed urges for male company .To meet new people with similar mind sets (not just sexualy) and of course the forums .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Came here to find like minded people, friendship and fun... though hasn’t been what we thought..

I completely relate to this. I had hopes that weren't fulfilled, but i'm lonely and quite isolated so I come on here out of boredom. I guess I'm still full of hope, but most would leave after the experiences I've had!

I'm glad some find what they want on here. I used to use the forums more but I don't find them as fun as others do. I feel like an outsider and an annoyance so I just put my two cents in every so often.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Came here to find like minded people, friendship and fun... though hasn’t been what we thought..

Every word of this echoes my frustration.

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By *izzymonkeyMan over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

"Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here"

. I went through a period like that not long ago and I was the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Came here to find like minded people, friendship and fun... though hasn’t been what we thought..

Every word of this echoes my frustration. "

Yup, totally the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here

. I went through a period like that not long ago and I was the same. "

I never knew that was how to do that emojii. Win, ta love...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here

. I went through a period like that not long ago and I was the same.

I never knew that was how to do that emojii. Win, ta love...

You’re welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alright I've had a drink, but let me add this...

Life's been a bit rubbish this last few months and these forums have been a godsend in terms of distraction and chatting to forumites has been something to look forward to...

Thanks everyone... You're the reason I'm here"

I understand this, it is a highlight for me, life hasn’t been rubbish but I’ve been adjusting to some things one of them being too much time and loneliness and the forum people really make life a bit easier and make me laugh a lot. I’ve only had tea

- Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since a few people are having a bit of a rant, I'll add my two pennies worth. All my life I've just wanted to take part in this little thing we call 'life', but whenever I put in serious effort to achieve this, I always get left behind, unheard, ignored. I don't get it because I feel I have so much to share with people, but nobody wants to know. Even on here I feel like I'm intruding when I add a comment on a forum post or attempt to message anyone. It's incredibly frustrating, but sadly reflects most of my real life away from social media too. I'm pretty fed up with it all now to be honest. Life hasn't been easy, the past few years have been absolute shite and there's hardly any positivity to counter balance the negativity. That was the main reason I joined this site, to add some fun and light to my life, yet still it's always the same. Sorry to moan, not that I feel like anyone will even read this, but I'm just tired of it. All I want is to be able to play in this playground we call the world, but I can never find anyone to play with, if that makes sense. Anyway, rant over, just venting a bit. Hope you're all well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Since a few people are having a bit of a rant, I'll add my two pennies worth. All my life I've just wanted to take part in this little thing we call 'life', but whenever I put in serious effort to achieve this, I always get left behind, unheard, ignored. I don't get it because I feel I have so much to share with people, but nobody wants to know. Even on here I feel like I'm intruding when I add a comment on a forum post or attempt to message anyone. It's incredibly frustrating, but sadly reflects most of my real life away from social media too. I'm pretty fed up with it all now to be honest. Life hasn't been easy, the past few years have been absolute shite and there's hardly any positivity to counter balance the negativity. That was the main reason I joined this site, to add some fun and light to my life, yet still it's always the same. Sorry to moan, not that I feel like anyone will even read this, but I'm just tired of it. All I want is to be able to play in this playground we call the world, but I can never find anyone to play with, if that makes sense. Anyway, rant over, just venting a bit. Hope you're all well "

I hear you brother. Keep posting. Lots of us read what you have to say. I know I worry that I'm intruding too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m sorry you feel like that. I think it’s really difficult for single straight males on here from what I hear. Don’t give up though. I’ve not seen you post in the forums yet. It’s fun though so hang around! It’s a great way to get to know people and it’s a good place to get away from real life stresses every now and then too! Even if you don’t meet people x

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Hiya, I hear what you are saying. And don't ever feel like you are intruding here. I've been here ages and don't always get replied to but that's ok. I do get to laugh and sometimes cry at some posts, threads. it's a good place to be the forum. It won't guarantee a meet but in time you will be known and interaction becomes easier x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've commented on a few, but largely get ignored, so I don't know. I'll persist for a bit longer, maybe a couple more months, then see how it goes. Thanks for taking the time to reply though. A meet would be awesome, but I'm not holding my breath, it would be nice to be able to feel part of something though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hear you brother. Keep posting. Lots of us read what you have to say. I know I worry that I'm intruding too. "

Thanks dude, much appreciated

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Then you have come to the right place..get involved, let your personality shine through x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe try and get to a social. Have you looked in that part of the forum? There are quite a few posted around the country.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks. From a physical viewpoint in can get frustrating too as most women on here seem to only want big muscles or black men, not that thats a problem as such, just means I'm an acquired taste I suppose lol, but at least the muscles can be worked on lol. Anyway, thanks for taking the time out to reply, I do appreciate it. It's a shame it takes a rant to do it at times and I don't want to come across as an attention seeker, just feeling a bit grr tonight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe try and get to a social. Have you looked in that part of the forum? There are quite a few posted around the country. "

In time I'll look more into it, just very difficult to right now. Plus I'll have to go on my own, which is a little daunting to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then you have come to the right place..get involved, let your personality shine through x"

Thank you x I hope so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve found what I was hoping to find but still here for the forums and keep in touch with friends I have made. I also have lots of time sitting in hotels and here is more entertaining than the tv.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found what I wanted through here. We both have friends here and enjoy the forum's. I'm not sure I would stay if for any reason things with him didn't work.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I'm not saying it is your life, I find it interesting when people make that assertion though

I know you’re not. I’m just making the point that it’s a bit of something extra, not a focus. I can take it or leave it.

Why do you find it interesting?

Because the implication is that its been an observation aimed at people either internally or externally. Especially if someone is a forum regular, as a way of belittling their forum use.

I wouldn’t have got that from what I said but fair enough

I have no idea what you’re getting at.

I think the assumption that I was casting aspersions on her reasoning is wholey wrong. I wasn't at all. I was merely trying to understand and explain 'why'.

Whether or not someone is a forum regular is irrespective, I don't attack nor cast spurious negativity. "

TM I don’t think you were trying to understand or explain ‘why’. I feel you expect a particular response from others when you start these threads and when that response isn’t forthcoming you find ways - your ways, of clarifying which actually appears to be just to disagree with a persons opinion or view or imply that’s there’s more to it. It’s as though you need to delve further into the meaning of things constantly. Sometimes there is no hidden meaning.

It was just a simple comment on a thread about why I am here. If you feel it is different to what I’m saying or if there’s a reason why I have stated what I did then that’s not for me to try to fathom. I am, as ever, confused

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get an adult Facebook and some great online friends and chats.

I get the occasional date, which tbf I could get irl, but on here I already know they are kinky and I don't have to pretend to be vanilla.

I get to look at home made porn pics. Always was my fav kind of porn.

That's why I'm here... "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know it’s frustrating for single men but when people say all women want just muscles or black men it’s really strange to me as I don’t see that at all. I see extensive fetishing of black men, and one small segment of women insist on gym fit men but the majority are looking for a little connection and a decent human. Don’t let it get you down, if you’re a nice person; treat people respectfully and read profiles, you might be surprised. It does take times sometimes and we all get discouraged that we aren’t at all what others want, but we can’t all be for everyone.

We aren’t looking for muscle men or people by skin colour. We look for nice respectful people who we/I find attractive. - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We aren’t looking for muscle men or people by skin colour. We look for nice respectful people who we/I find attractive. - Mrs "

Eloquently put and hope restoring affirmation of patience paying dividends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm here simply for an fun addition to a full life, the one thing that is missing which is physicality with a man

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