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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Or should it be?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I think one thread was enough plenty of opinions on first thread

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

In my opinion, we tell our children not to hit their friends when they annoy them. So it's hypocrisy to then do the same to them. And saying it never did me any harm isn't a reasonable response, that's the kind of excuses people who beat children use when justifying the bruises their children have, been there. So it's doesn't help children who are in those awful situations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my opinion, we tell our children not to hit their friends when they annoy them. So it's hypocrisy to then do the same to them. And saying it never did me any harm isn't a reasonable response, that's the kind of excuses people who beat children use when justifying the bruises their children have, been there. So it's doesn't help children who are in those awful situations. "

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"I think one thread was enough plenty of opinions on first thread"

Though I understand your viewpoint, it's such an emotive subject. Just seeing the first post title brought back memories. And I felt I needed to express my opinion instead of bottling it up.

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I think one thread was enough plenty of opinions on first thread

Though I understand your viewpoint, it's such an emotive subject. Just seeing the first post title brought back memories. And I felt I needed to express my opinion instead of bottling it up. "

Yes I agree.

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By *axo25Man over a year ago

lightwater

I don’t really understand why any parent would choose to put their hands on their children. Yes it’s difficult and very frustrating at times but you should always do your best by your kids, and losing control isn’t an option.

Thankfully it’s not something you see much these days.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Have to say i seriously dont remember being smacked as a child i only know what my mum told me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately it's all in the definition of the wording used. It's migrated from beating, to spanking to smacking to touching.

As with most things the initial reasoning behind it has been clouded by misinterpretation and by those with a particular agenda and by those who were abused in the name of discipline. Much like religion, apparently it causes wars, hatred, child abuse, societal abuse just to quote a few misquotes of very misguided people.

No it doesn't, people do and they hid behind the name of religion.

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By *axo25Man over a year ago

lightwater

"Unfortunately it's all in the definition of the wording used. It's migrated from beating, to spanking to smacking to touching.

No it doesn't, people do and they hid behind the name of religion.

A good point well made

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there are better ways to discipline children

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By *uciyassMan over a year ago

sheffield

Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have "

It’s fun to smack kids?

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By *axo25Man over a year ago

lightwater

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have "

Another cracking point! Ffs!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have "

It created the wonderful person you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have

It’s fun to smack kids?"

It's fun to smack adults in school uniforms

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have

It’s fun to smack kids?

It's fun to smack adults in school uniforms "

Massive difference is that that occurs between two consenting adults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-scotland-scotland-politics-49908849

Scotland to ban smacking children, so yes in Scotland it will be a criminal offence

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By *inkysexpotMan over a year ago

leeds

I was disciplined as a child with being smacked and no it didn't do me any harm as such.

I've got two children and I've never raised my hand to them and never will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think one thread was enough plenty of opinions on first thread"
no i disagree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t really understand why any parent would choose to put their hands on their children. Yes it’s difficult and very frustrating at times but you should always do your best by your kids, and losing control isn’t an option.

Thankfully it’s not something you see much these days. "

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

I’m trying so hard to do this too...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

My old me did my time there

. Then I realised it’s best to keep my opinions to myself and the real world. Fab really is a different kettle of fish! Not worth the grief!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

I’m trying so hard to do this too...

I do slip sometimes. It’s been a long process!

. I don’t allow myself to even look at the politics thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Or should it be?"

Yes it is! no need! stern words/mini lecture works for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hitting sends out the wrong message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hitting sends out the wrong message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

I’m trying so hard to do this too...

I do slip sometimes. It’s been a long process!

. I don’t allow myself to even look at the politics thread!

I have no willpower

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

I’m trying so hard to do this too...

I do slip sometimes. It’s been a long process!

. I don’t allow myself to even look at the politics thread!

I have no willpower

What’s that? Ffs. Another word I have to google!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was disciplined as a child with being smacked and no it didn't do me any harm as such.

I've got two children and I've never raised my hand to them and never will."

I was the same. It was part of growing up when I was a kid. My mates were the same. Back then parents would give their kids a clip round the ear in public and no one would bat an eyelid. I even remember my dad talking to the local Bobby who patrolled the neighbourhood, saying to him, if you ever catch my boys getting up to no good, you have my permission to give them a good kick up the backside lol. It's just the way it was back then. Even in school you got the teachers belt if you gave them reason to. Thank god these days are different. I agree I wouldn't lay a hand on my kids when they were young and if any teacher was to lift a belt to them, I would have been down at that school before they knew what hit them. I definitely see a difference in kids attitudes. These days I think kids are more disrespectful from when I was young. Whether being smacked or not was the reason we were more respectful than today's kids, I don't know. I find taking phones, computers and games consoles away was a good enough punishment

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

My old me did my time there

. Then I realised it’s best to keep my opinions to myself and the real world. Fab really is a different kettle of fish! Not worth the grief!"

I've not ended up in the naughty corner as yet

I hold back my opinions on controversial subjects well enough, though I do sometimes slip. I agree, not worth the hassle and too many people are incapable of distinguishing different shades of grey.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

My old me did my time there

. Then I realised it’s best to keep my opinions to myself and the real world. Fab really is a different kettle of fish! Not worth the grief!

I've not ended up in the naughty corner as yet

I hold back my opinions on controversial subjects well enough, though I do sometimes slip. I agree, not worth the hassle and too many people are incapable of distinguishing different shades of grey. "

All 50 of them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

My old me did my time there

. Then I realised it’s best to keep my opinions to myself and the real world. Fab really is a different kettle of fish! Not worth the grief!

I've not ended up in the naughty corner as yet

Haha. If only I copy and pasted your opinions mwahahahahahahahahahaha

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS over a year ago

west here ford shire

Never really had to smack my girls at all tbh

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By *ackdd72Man over a year ago

the valleys

I had a good few clips and the occasional shoeing when growing up thoroughly deserved for many although I still protest my innocence for one of them and it never did me any harm

I'll give you an incident that happened earlier this year to me

I live about a mile or so away from a local council estate with two large fields ideal for walking my dog

I was throwing a ball for my dog and noticed two of the ratkids (I would guess they were around 10 or 11) from the estate over by some trees they were throwing apples around as we got closer they started throwing them at us and I of course shouted at them to stop as a few were getting a bit close they responded in the colourful manner of most children these days I thought ok fun and games over called my dog and went to the other field they followed us and having run out of apples to throw the threw bricks instead one hit me and a few hit my dog who started limping I lost my rag and chased them but they bolted they had fractured my dogs leg I found out after taking him to the vets and in all it cost me about £700 I reported it to the police who basically told me when it came down to it,it would be my word against theirs as to what happened and they were sorry that there was nothing they could really do

I confronted one of the parents after a bit of searching and was met with the same colourful tone as the rats and on a few occasions since I've seen them at the same field and they always bolt when they see me I can tell you now that if I do ever catch them the very least they will have is a clip and I'm more than happy to have a discussion with their parents or the police if they become involved

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No it shouldnt, it is not the state that are raising them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The world is grey and everyone wants black or white it seems.....

And that comment my lovely epitomises fab for me.

Tis why I (mostly!) avoid the more serious threads now and have less trips to the naughty step

You are not a true forumite without a trip to the naughty step. Erm ... a friend told me

My old me did my time there

. Then I realised it’s best to keep my opinions to myself and the real world. Fab really is a different kettle of fish! Not worth the grief!

I've not ended up in the naughty corner as yet

I hold back my opinions on controversial subjects well enough, though I do sometimes slip. I agree, not worth the hassle and too many people are incapable of distinguishing different shades of grey.

Haha. If only I copy and pasted your opinions mwahahahahahahahahahaha

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do it do it do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a good few clips and the occasional shoeing when growing up thoroughly deserved for many although I still protest my innocence for one of them and it never did me any harm

I'll give you an incident that happened earlier this year to me

I live about a mile or so away from a local council estate with two large fields ideal for walking my dog

Little shits. The parents sound lovely also. I know you're angry and rightly so. I'd be very careful though. You dont want to end up in court on an assault charge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a good few clips and the occasional shoeing when growing up thoroughly deserved for many although I still protest my innocence for one of them and it never did me any harm

I'll give you an incident that happened earlier this year to me

I live about a mile or so away from a local council estate with two large fields ideal for walking my dog

Jesus it’s one thing giving a ‘clip’ to your own kids...

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

No, smacking children should NOT be criminal. Keep the State out of how parents raise their children.

I was smacked occasionally as a youngster, also caned at school.

I grew up to be a fairly well balanced

individual who respects the law and other people.

Today very little respect for authority.

The politicians have stopped the Police doing their job.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have

It’s fun to smack kids?

It's fun to smack adults in school uniforms "

Where do you think it started, back in school being smacked as a naughty teenager.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv always said no but recently I saw a father full wack his 10/11 year old very hard around the head. So in that case, yes definitely.

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

"Iv always said no but recently I saw a father full wack his 10/11 year old very hard around the head. So in that case, yes definitely. "

Does not sound too good. Not the same as a smack across the legs or buttocks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Grrrr, did some shit just go missing? I was making a cracking point...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv always said no but recently I saw a father full wack his 10/11 year old very hard around the head. So in that case, yes definitely.

Does not sound too good. Not the same as a smack across the legs or buttocks."

Exactly and that's why I'm not sure it should be criminalised.

As you said there is a big difference between a a smack on the hand or across the legs and what I witnessed. I still regret not saying anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon "

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon "

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon "

Women dominating men too with their boobs and vaginas....... .....where will it all end.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

Women dominating men too with their boobs and vaginas....... .....where will it all end.....

Arise sir Nippy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!"

Ok slap ‘em

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

Women dominating men too with their boobs and vaginas....... .....where will it all end.....

Arise sir Nippy "

Trying to keep it down tbf after a quick look at Mrs's pics.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!"

Not if your a good parent they won't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

Not if your a good parent they won't. "

Depending who they hang out with , I see it all the time first hand . irrespective of class of said parent (s)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

Not if your a good parent they won't.

Depending who they hang out with , I see it all the time first hand . irrespective of class of said parent (s) "

plenty uni kids are cunts not just the fodder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

Not if your a good parent they won't.

Depending who they hang out with , I see it all the time first hand . irrespective of class of said parent (s) "

Iv bought up my kids without hitting them. They are amazing individuals. Irrespective of who they hung out with they didn't give me any bother or get in any trouble with the police.They left school with qualifications and that's down to me keeping them grounded and communicating with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

Not if your a good parent they won't.

Depending who they hang out with , I see it all the time first hand . irrespective of class of said parent (s)

It's great that it all worked out well for you but for many it's not that simple!

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By *lbinoGorillaMan over a year ago

Redditch

"Hell no. I got a good few smacks in my day and never did me any harm. Health and safety and all that shite is killing all the fun we used to have

It’s fun to smack kids?

It's fun to smack adults in school uniforms "

And how exactly did they discover that they like it??

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

Pleased you were able to bring your off spring up without any physical chastisement. My concern is the criminalizing of something which for some parents maybe a necessary sanction. The State should not be involved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kids will soon be ruling adults soon

You mean, they don't already ....???!!!

Not if your a good parent they won't.

Depending who they hang out with , I see it all the time first hand . irrespective of class of said parent (s)

It's great that it all worked out well for you but for many it's not that simple! "

Bringing up kids isn't simple !

As much as there are bad kids there are equally as many bad parent's. Hitting your child is bad parenting.

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

In your opinion......!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pleased you were able to bring your off spring up without any physical chastisement. My concern is the criminalizing of something which for some parents maybe a necessary sanction. The State should not be involved. "

Why is physical chastisement sometimes necessary, that's crazy and cruel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In your opinion......!!"

Yes in my opinion which im allowed to give ?

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

Again your view....works for you. Others may see things differently.

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

My concern is the State bringing the law into the matter which should be left the families....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I admitted on the other thread that i lost control once and gave my son a walloping on the arse. There really is no need for physical violence. My son didnt need much punishment. When he was about 14 he through a massive paddy and kicked the wall and put a dent in it. I never said a word i just looked at him he knew damn well he had overstepped the mark. He went really quiet and sheepish for ages before he apoligised. The thing that got to my son and upset him the most was when i told him i was disappointed in him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand that it should never be the first line of discipline, but I do not think it should be criminalised.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well we all got a smack or two well deserved as kids too and turned out to be decent respectful adults. The world has gone mad enough as it is..

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

"I understand that it should never be the first line of discipline, but I do not think it should be criminalised."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am assuming that this thread is in response to new laws being made in Scotland.

About time too.

I don't believe physically assaulting your children is justifiable in any circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well we all got a smack or two well deserved as kids too and turned out to be decent respectful adults. The world has gone mad enough as it is..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my own experience, every hotel I've ever stayed in around Europe if there's a child screaming and misbehaving by the pool, in the restaurant or anywhere else, it's invariably a British child. The parents always seem to ignore them and concentrate harder on their smart phones. Is this because the parent won't smack or discipline the child or because they can't?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am assuming that this thread is in response to new laws being made in Scotland.

About time too.

I don't believe physically assaulting your children is justifiable in any circumstances."

I agree and it's interesting how you interchanged smacking which in the context of the thread is about discipline that you changed it to mean assaulting.

This is why as I explained earlier that it cannot be be debated unless terms are explained.

Far too many assumptions are made by far too many snowflakes often themselves either abused and so equate discipline for abuse or don't have kids and have little experience of raising them.

Many assume that there is only one way to discipline.

Having raised 4 kids what I will say on this is that kids are different and respond differently to different forms of discipline. What works well for one may not get the same desired effect for another.

There are a lot of abused kids in this world and it's not because they got smacked but because they didn't get punished, not disciplined and got away with most anything. Their abuse has been that they were not taught discipline nor respect. They have got everything they asked for, that's also abusive. Some of the cheekiest unrespectful kids I've met are ones who come from parents who haven't disciplined and not been consistent with it. We will reap in later years what we've overlooked now.

I was spanked, but never abused or 'hit' or beaten and there is a difference. If you don't know it then I may suggest it's how you were disciplined that demonstrates lack of differentiation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my own experience, every hotel I've ever stayed in around Europe if there's a child screaming and misbehaving by the pool, in the restaurant or anywhere else, it's invariably a British child. The parents always seem to ignore them and concentrate harder on their smart phones. Is this because the parent won't smack or discipline the child or because they can't?"

Both. Hands tied because it's frowned on and fear of some one misguided by calling it beating and abuse.

I listened to an interesting radio debate on this a few years ago and on one side was this parent defending their right to use snaking if necessary and on the other and spokes person for some organisation (found out later she had no kids of her own). The later kept using the word abuse and the parent asked them why they insisted on using that word as they were discussing discipline. She just kept saying spanking was physical abuse. The parent then said, well if that is your agenda then you should be looking at the many other types of abuse, like psychological and emotional which is much more damaging long term. She had no real response to that. It's harder to guage on a chart and open to question so not easy to address, where as snaking is the easy target.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I wouldn't "physically discipline" an animal, let alone my own children. It's a lazy way of parenting, give them a smack and they'll be too scared to do it again. I don't want my kids to be scared of me, I've never hit them, and I've managed to raise so far two very well behaved youngsters. Oh and my parents never hit me, so my opinion isn't the result of an abusive upbringing either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am assuming that this thread is in response to new laws being made in Scotland.

About time too.

I don't believe physically assaulting your children is justifiable in any circumstances.

I agree and it's interesting how you interchanged smacking which in the context of the thread is about discipline that you changed it to mean assaulting.

This is why as I explained earlier that it cannot be be debated unless terms are explained.

Far too many assumptions are made by far too many snowflakes often themselves either abused and so equate discipline for abuse or don't have kids and have little experience of raising them.

Many assume that there is only one way to discipline.

I was spanked, but never abused or 'hit' or beaten and there is a difference. If you don't know it then I may suggest it's how you were disciplined that demonstrates lack of differentiation."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am assuming that this thread is in response to new laws being made in Scotland.

About time too.

I don't believe physically assaulting your children is justifiable in any circumstances.

I agree and it's interesting how you interchanged smacking which in the context of the thread is about discipline that you changed it to mean assaulting.

This is why as I explained earlier that it cannot be be debated unless terms are explained.

Far too many assumptions are made by far too many snowflakes often themselves either abused and so equate discipline for abuse or don't have kids and have little experience of raising them.

Many assume that there is only one way to discipline.

I was spanked, but never abused or 'hit' or beaten and there is a difference. If you don't know it then I may suggest it's how you were disciplined that demonstrates lack of differentiation."

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

Yes, you may think it's ok to smack your children and may thank you for it in the future especially if they believe it helped keep them on the straight and narrow. But others may not, just like me every smack meant I moved away and lost some of the love I had for the woman who gave birth to me and certainly cared and nursed me as a baby. Non of that remembered I just recall mainly the anger now and how scared I was of it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am assuming that this thread is in response to new laws being made in Scotland.

About time too.

I don't believe physically assaulting your children is justifiable in any circumstances.

I agree and it's interesting how you interchanged smacking which in the context of the thread is about discipline that you changed it to mean assaulting.

This is why as I explained earlier that it cannot be be debated unless terms are explained.

Far too many assumptions are made by far too many snowflakes often themselves either abused and so equate discipline for abuse or don't have kids and have little experience of raising them.

Many assume that there is only one way to discipline.

I was spanked, but never abused or 'hit' or beaten and there is a difference. If you don't know it then I may suggest it's how you were disciplined that demonstrates lack of differentiation."

This ^^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline. "

I'm sorry to hear this happened and it goes to highlight a very common misrepresentation.

What you have described is what I see as abuse, not discipline. That's bullying and venting ones anger on a weak person who cannot defend themselves which happens a lot.

Unfortunately I feel many throw the bath out with the dirty water not able to see that it's the water that is dirty not the bath. The bath will hold fresh clean water and is still suitable for what it was designed for.

Just because a child was abused when physically disciplined, doesn't mean that all physical discipline is abusive, nor that they would do the same.

Unfortunately this is the approach much of our society takes today with most things. An inability to discern and differentiate, maybe borne out from threats of being falsely reported.

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By *easidegirlWoman over a year ago

south shore

Nowadays its not right, not accepted. Back in the 70's it was normal. I wasn't traumatised, or feared my parents it was a normal, common acceptable thing growing up as a kid.

I didn't smack mine but one does wonder..kids seem out of control now, no respect for authority, know their rights and seem to get away with things. And I'm not generalising..its true in a lot of cases. I don't know what the answer is but please don't think all of us who got a smack got traumatised..a smack not a beating or touching inappropriately..

We respected adults, our parents and authority back then, not feared..respected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't "physically discipline" an animal, let alone my own children. It's a lazy way of parenting, give them a smack and they'll be too scared to do it again. I don't want my kids to be scared of me, I've never hit them, and I've managed to raise so far two very well behaved youngsters. Oh and my parents never hit me, so my opinion isn't the result of an abusive upbringing either. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline.

I'm sorry to hear this happened and it goes to highlight a very common misrepresentation.

What you have described is what I see as abuse, not discipline. That's bullying and venting ones anger on a weak person who cannot defend themselves which happens a lot.

Just because a child was abused when physically disciplined, doesn't mean that all physical discipline is abusive, nor that they would do the same.

Unfortunately this is the approach much of our society takes today with most things. An inability to discern and differentiate, maybe borne out from threats of being falsely reported.

I like you. You speak sense. Never thought I’d say that on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline.

I'm sorry to hear this happened and it goes to highlight a very common misrepresentation.

What you have described is what I see as abuse, not discipline. That's bullying and venting ones anger on a weak person who cannot defend themselves which happens a lot.

Just because a child was abused when physically disciplined, doesn't mean that all physical discipline is abusive, nor that they would do the same.

Unfortunately this is the approach much of our society takes today with most things. An inability to discern and differentiate, maybe borne out from threats of being falsely reported.

I like you. You speak sense. Never thought I’d say that on here. "
you lier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline.

I'm sorry to hear this happened and it goes to highlight a very common misrepresentation.

What you have described is what I see as abuse, not discipline. That's bullying and venting ones anger on a weak person who cannot defend themselves which happens a lot.

Just because a child was abused when physically disciplined, doesn't mean that all physical discipline is abusive, nor that they would do the same.

Unfortunately this is the approach much of our society takes today with most things. An inability to discern and differentiate, maybe borne out from threats of being falsely reported.

I like you. You speak sense. Never thought I’d say that on here. you lier

Haha. Meaning you????

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"I was smacked by my Mother, but when she lost her temper it wouldn't stop until her anger subsides. So I would behave because I was scared, I didn't know how far she may go when she was mad at me.

She isn't a terrible person in those days we all got smacked, however we aren't close and I've never forgotten it.

So I don't smack my Lads and hope I'm doing a good job, by using other methods of discipline.

I'm sorry to hear this happened and it goes to highlight a very common misrepresentation.

What you have described is what I see as abuse, not discipline. That's bullying and venting ones anger on a weak person who cannot defend themselves which happens a lot.

Just because a child was abused when physically disciplined, doesn't mean that all physical discipline is abusive, nor that they would do the same.

Unfortunately this is the approach much of our society takes today with most things. An inability to discern and differentiate, maybe borne out from threats of being falsely reported.

I was abused and I clearly see the difference between abuse and physical punishment. The point many abused people make is that where are the lines, who defined the punishment, is it a smack on the back of the hand? Or 10 smacks on the bum? For what should physical discipline be used for? As there are no hardfast rules, it makes it easier for abusers to hide behind the term discipline. So whilst I understand the difference, I seen on this thread many people who have been abused. If we as children knew that it was wrong to hit maybe so many of us wouldn't have had the upbringings we've had.