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Are men more sexual than women or does social conditioning just make it appear so?
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Definitely the latter.
The fact that people need laws in order to not sexualise or impose their requirements onto a woman is ridiculous! The concept that a woman can be in control of her own body, desires or sexual journey is still a strange one to many people so it is definitely societal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"The latter would be my guess. Any expression of my sexuality was incredibly fraught growing up, in a way that wasn't true for my male peers. "
Same. I would have probably had a lot more sex in my younger years if it wasn't so socially frowned upon as I always considered myself a "good girl" and that was kind of at odds with the incredibly horny young woman I grew into which it shouldn't have been if I wasn't hurting anyone in my pursuit of sex. |
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Its hard to say but I would slightly go with men being more horny if thats the same thing. When a guy gets horny reason just goes out of the windows and they all go dambusters with only one objective and its emptying their balls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises! |
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"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours."
Is that conditioning as well, though? Learning early and for minor things that it's a bad idea, whereas some men don't? |
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"The latter would be my guess. Any expression of my sexuality was incredibly fraught growing up, in a way that wasn't true for my male peers. "
But it doesn't sound like you were brought up in Manchester though  |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours."
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking? |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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Women generally have a far greater appetite or the potential to have, mainly because of their anatomy although it’s generally more suppressed due to social conditioning. I’d say men are more impulsive whereas women have a more mentally balanced approach but generally a far superior appetite.
That’s just my opinion though, I just checked and I am not a woman so my view is limited  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think men are perhaps more physically driven than women in that there are higher numbers of men than women who would engage in anonymous sex like escorts or glory holes. They seem to need the physical release more than women.
Women I think tend to think more about sex emotionally and are more driven to shared experiences than the physicality.
Or maybe it's just all the same but we show ourselves to be how society expects? I have no idea.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!"
Many struggle where the clit is so may avoid the subject altogether.  |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Definitely the latter.
The fact that people need laws in order to not sexualise or impose their requirements onto a woman is ridiculous! The concept that a woman can be in control of her own body, desires or sexual journey is still a strange one to many people so it is definitely societal. "
Some are even incredibly offended by a woman embracing their sexuality. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Many struggle where the clit is so may avoid the subject altogether. "
Where it is or where you touch it? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Forgive me, as I am on a bit of a downer on here of late due to recent messages, I think it is social conditioning, I personally don't understand why a man does not read back a message and think this is disrespectful, unacceptable and down right abusive!
I don't get it and I never will so it is obvious we just don't think in the same way.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Many struggle where the clit is so may avoid the subject altogether. "
Wait, I thought clit was just a mythical thing, like the g spot  |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling. "
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think men are perhaps more physically driven than women in that there are higher numbers of men than women who would engage in anonymous sex like escorts or glory holes. They seem to need the physical release more than women.
Women I think tend to think more about sex emotionally and are more driven to shared experiences than the physicality.
Or maybe it's just all the same but we show ourselves to be how society expects? I have no idea.
Rubi x"
I like the emotional stuff too! I once had sex with little emotional connection and felt like a used slut afterwards!
P.S. nothing wrong with being slutty, just prefer to feel like a lover myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?"
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the latter too.
Women are shamed far more for being sexually liberated or for openly loving sex.
Just look on social media, the moment a woman talks about sex or having sex she’s a whore or a slag. But when a man does it he’s a “lad”.
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Its hard to say but I would slightly go with men being more horny if thats the same thing. When a guy gets horny reason just goes out of the windows and they all go dambusters with only one objective and its emptying their balls. "
I think women are just brought up to be more restrained and will choose to just suffer alone instead. I've certainly had occasions where I've been climbing the walls and unable to sleep and it does drive you slightly bonkers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling.
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally."
I know my sex drive never keeps up with any men in my Long relationships. My friends are the same. I’m just going by the men on here always asking for sex chat and being horny beasts. I used to get loads of guys texting me on a Sunday morning with the hangover horn. I don’t think women pest men in the same way so much. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too. "
Not quite what ‘caveman’ means to me.
In nature the females make the males put on a show for them before they decide who to mate with, especially birds... think some men just have their mating calls a little twisted |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!"
Haha yes every 40 second is a tad extreme but maybe if they averaged out the few hours over the day...  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Ach. I'm not sure. Even in the framing of the question it's ascribing sexual, gender based stereotypes. I think that yes, there are societal expectations on how a man is to perform - to be interested in sex and to be a stud, whereas a woman is seen as being a slut and should be classy. Women are often taught to keep quiet and men to vocalise their needs. Media enforces these beliefs constantly (an interesting example being the different ratings given to acts of oral on men and women in film).
I think if we stopped looking at sexuality in terms of genders and stereotypes (women wanting x, y and z in terms of sex and men wanting/needing x) and more an individualistic approach it would help a lot. Combating the socioreligous belief structure is a bit more difficult though.
I'm not sure if any of that makes sense. It's late! |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Women generally have a far greater appetite or the potential to have, mainly because of their anatomy although it’s generally more suppressed due to social conditioning. I’d say men are more impulsive whereas women have a more mentally balanced approach but generally a far superior appetite.
That’s just my opinion though, I just checked and I am not a woman so my view is limited "
Haha I think you may be accurate. I could have sex a few times in row but most men would probably physically struggle to keep up even if the mental desire was also there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Haha yes every 40 second is a tad extreme but maybe if they averaged out the few hours over the day... "
Hey leave my 3 hour edging sessions alone! That's not how averages work  |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"Ach. I'm not sure. Even in the framing of the question it's ascribing sexual, gender based stereotypes. I think that yes, there are societal expectations on how a man is to perform - to be interested in sex and to be a stud, whereas a woman is seen as being a slut and should be classy. Women are often taught to keep quiet and men to vocalise their needs. Media enforces these beliefs constantly (an interesting example being the different ratings given to acts of oral on men and women in film).
I think if we stopped looking at sexuality in terms of genders and stereotypes (women wanting x, y and z in terms of sex and men wanting/needing x) and more an individualistic approach it would help a lot. Combating the socioreligous belief structure is a bit more difficult though.
I'm not sure if any of that makes sense. It's late! "
It is late Meli! Simpler terminology or you’re not allowed to post after 9
making me have to re read your post as it’s always worth pondering on. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"Women generally have a far greater appetite or the potential to have, mainly because of their anatomy although it’s generally more suppressed due to social conditioning. I’d say men are more impulsive whereas women have a more mentally balanced approach but generally a far superior appetite.
That’s just my opinion though, I just checked and I am not a woman so my view is limited
Haha I think you may be accurate. I could have sex a few times in row but most men would probably physically struggle to keep up even if the mental desire was also there."
A woman has the ability to far exceed 6/7 repeats although I’d say the majority of men would be seriously struggling beyond that |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I think men are perhaps more physically driven than women in that there are higher numbers of men than women who would engage in anonymous sex like escorts or glory holes. They seem to need the physical release more than women.
Women I think tend to think more about sex emotionally and are more driven to shared experiences than the physicality.
Or maybe it's just all the same but we show ourselves to be how society expects? I have no idea.
Rubi x"
I was talking to a male friend recently about how single men can at times use sex as a way to get their needs for intimacy and connection met as well as their sexual needs. Women on the other hand are often taught it is more acceptable to have your sexual needs met by someone you have an emotional connection with. I think in reality we are all seeking roughly the same things and have the same amount of variation in that regardless of gender, it's just some things are considered more acceptable for men and others for women. |
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By *aysolCouple
over a year ago
Swansea |
Men are definately more sexually promiscuous than women because bioligically men are designed to spread their seed, whereas women are designed to choose someone that can provide for their children. However, I dont think that necessarily means that women aren't as horny as men. Yes I think there is social conditioning but there is also biological explanationa for different behaviours. I think its a mixture and they both feed into eachother... |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"So to put it bluntly... women are more sexual and men want to be."
Interesting. I have to say in previous relationships where I have had a higher sex drive than the man, they often haven't liked that very much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say some of them are. Some women don't need/want to have sex as often as their parter would like it. In fact I know of a couple who didn't have sex for a few years after they had a child. Loss of libido, body changes, stress. I don't have kids myself but I think women are more likely to put needs of their child over their own sexual needs but guys just want to have sex no matter what. Kudos to those guys who understand the situation and won't pressure their OH into anything. |
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"Social conditioning and mixed in with a bit of old worldy thinking.... 
Old worldy thinking in what sense?"
As in still a lot of traditional thoughts....that men are the more sexual of the species and always wanting more sex etc.!!! |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Forgive me, as I am on a bit of a downer on here of late due to recent messages, I think it is social conditioning, I personally don't understand why a man does not read back a message and think this is disrespectful, unacceptable and down right abusive!
I don't get it and I never will so it is obvious we just don't think in the same way. "
I saw a tweet recently that said "Its hard to be a slut in a world full of men constantly cock blocking themselves." 
There's some truth to it. I do think we as women have a lot more barriers that need breaking down to make us feel comfortable enough to have casual sex but also a lot of men clearly have no idea at all how to approach women for casual sex. Which isn't surprising really as most of the advice you ever hear is only ever about how to pursue women for relationships or that awful "pick up" stuff. I.e. how to trick a woman into having sex with you  |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too. "
Haha! It doesn't build up yano? Their balls won't explode |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive never conformed to society ive always been very sexual and not cared what anyone else thought
Very admirable. It isn't easy."
I think the latter! I read a quote just today that said "most men think they like sex until they meet a woman who wants to fuck at least six times a day". |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I think the latter too.
Women are shamed far more for being sexually liberated or for openly loving sex.
Just look on social media, the moment a woman talks about sex or having sex she’s a whore or a slag. But when a man does it he’s a “lad”.
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I've definitely felt a lot of that. You end up even shaming yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the latter. I was brought up very strictly.
good girls don't behave this way. if you want a man to respect you you act this way etc
I was shamed and cast out from my family during my first pregnancy. i now realise it's left me with huge sexual issues
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling.
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally.
I know my sex drive never keeps up with any men in my Long relationships. My friends are the same. I’m just going by the men on here always asking for sex chat and being horny beasts. I used to get loads of guys texting me on a Sunday morning with the hangover horn. I don’t think women pest men in the same way so much. "
That's interesting as I've usually been the one with the higher sex drive in most of my relationships. In fact the only one I definitely wasn't was with another woman. Though neither me nor her pestered anyone for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling.
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally.
I know my sex drive never keeps up with any men in my Long relationships. My friends are the same. I’m just going by the men on here always asking for sex chat and being horny beasts. I used to get loads of guys texting me on a Sunday morning with the hangover horn. I don’t think women pest men in the same way so much. "
that depends who you meet!! |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"So to put it bluntly... women are more sexual and men want to be.
Interesting. I have to say in previous relationships where I have had a higher sex drive than the man, they often haven't liked that very much. "
Because following on the theme of social concepts for a very long time the man had to be ‘manly’ and act certain ways too! And going back to more primitive times it was very much the same. To some it’s imasculinating to be outpaced, also from a psychological perspective it hits the ‘not adequate’ button for lack of a better term.
However, it should cut both ways as times change. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too. "
Perhaps I'm strange in the fact that I've never felt like that, it's not an urge to release it as its often phrased. Sometimes I crave a person's touch but that's different and I doubt, gender specific.
As others have said though, I do think that impulse control (wherever that comes from, internal/external) and the acceptance of actually expressing that want or need is a bit part in that.
Thinking a little abstractly, I remember how much teen boys talked about masturbating, whereas girls and even young women never even admitted quietly with partners to having done it. Girls are taught from a very early age that sex is bad and boys aren't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling.
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally.
I know my sex drive never keeps up with any men in my Long relationships. My friends are the same. I’m just going by the men on here always asking for sex chat and being horny beasts. I used to get loads of guys texting me on a Sunday morning with the hangover horn. I don’t think women pest men in the same way so much. that depends who you meet!!"
Never. Mine is always low. I’ve met someone from here who is similar to me and it’s so nice not to feel like I have to have sex all the time. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Ach. I'm not sure. Even in the framing of the question it's ascribing sexual, gender based stereotypes. I think that yes, there are societal expectations on how a man is to perform - to be interested in sex and to be a stud, whereas a woman is seen as being a slut and should be classy. Women are often taught to keep quiet and men to vocalise their needs. Media enforces these beliefs constantly (an interesting example being the different ratings given to acts of oral on men and women in film).
I think if we stopped looking at sexuality in terms of genders and stereotypes (women wanting x, y and z in terms of sex and men wanting/needing x) and more an individualistic approach it would help a lot. Combating the socioreligous belief structure is a bit more difficult though.
I'm not sure if any of that makes sense. It's late! "
That's precisely the point I'm trying to make 
There is of course individual variation in things like sex drive and need for emotional connection to have sex, etc but I think that variation exists among the population as a whole, regardless of gender. However we are taught that "men are more sexually driven and women are more emotionally driven" and I do think those things have an effect on how we express ourselves and how we are perceived. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Haha yes every 40 second is a tad extreme but maybe if they averaged out the few hours over the day...
Hey leave my 3 hour edging sessions alone! That's not how averages work "
I was talking about myself . And don't tell me you've never seen people use skewed averages to make the statistics fit their agenda |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Men are definately more sexually promiscuous than women because bioligically men are designed to spread their seed, whereas women are designed to choose someone that can provide for their children. However, I dont think that necessarily means that women aren't as horny as men. Yes I think there is social conditioning but there is also biological explanationa for different behaviours. I think its a mixture and they both feed into eachother..."
That's an interesting point of view. The species' we are most closely related to often mate with multiple males while fertile to increase their chances of conception. They also raise children as a group. The human penis is also designed to displace sperm left behind by other males. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Haha yes every 40 second is a tad extreme but maybe if they averaged out the few hours over the day...
Hey leave my 3 hour edging sessions alone! That's not how averages work
I was talking about myself . And don't tell me you've never seen people use skewed averages to make the statistics fit their agenda "
Is that like narrowing your sample size of veri’s so you sound like you’re slightly better than a ladywank? |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I would say some of them are. Some women don't need/want to have sex as often as their parter would like it. In fact I know of a couple who didn't have sex for a few years after they had a child. Loss of libido, body changes, stress. I don't have kids myself but I think women are more likely to put needs of their child over their own sexual needs but guys just want to have sex no matter what. Kudos to those guys who understand the situation and won't pressure their OH into anything. "
I can understand the loss of libido after having a child. Having a child has a lot more of a physical impact on a woman than it does on men (obviously). Things should eventually recover though. Other factors often contribute such as differences in expectations in things like childcare and housework, but that's a whole other can of worms I won't open |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Ive never conformed to society ive always been very sexual and not cared what anyone else thought
Very admirable. It isn't easy.I think the latter! I read a quote just today that said "most men think they like sex until they meet a woman who wants to fuck at least six times a day"."
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"the latter. I was brought up very strictly.
good girls don't behave this way. if you want a man to respect you you act this way etc
I was shamed and cast out from my family during my first pregnancy. i now realise it's left me with huge sexual issues
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I'm really sorry to hear that. Your sexual history has no bearing on whether you deserve respect in my eyes. I hope you're managing to rebuild yourself  |
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"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too.
Haha! It doesn't build up yano? Their balls won't explode "
Haha I know, just tiredly thinking out loud that more impulsivity could be subconsciously down to the biology of spreading seed/impregnating, but then be compounded by there being less social pressure on men to suppress urges. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think personally its the latter.
Although it does very much depend on the individual.
Sex drives are high in both men and women.
I've experienced both sides of that coin in the past"
Agreed. Both high and low sex drives exist in any way you categorise people and none are wrong or a failure for it. |
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"the latter. I was brought up very strictly.
good girls don't behave this way. if you want a man to respect you you act this way etc
I was shamed and cast out from my family during my first pregnancy. i now realise it's left me with huge sexual issues
I'm really sorry to hear that. Your sexual history has no bearing on whether you deserve respect in my eyes. I hope you're managing to rebuild yourself "
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"So to put it bluntly... women are more sexual and men want to be.
Interesting. I have to say in previous relationships where I have had a higher sex drive than the man, they often haven't liked that very much.
Because following on the theme of social concepts for a very long time the man had to be ‘manly’ and act certain ways too! And going back to more primitive times it was very much the same. To some it’s imasculinating to be outpaced, also from a psychological perspective it hits the ‘not adequate’ button for lack of a better term.
However, it should cut both ways as times change."
Absolutely. All of this. Men are hypersexualised and therefore there is a lot of pressure on them to always be sexual, up for sex and to "perform" well. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too.
Perhaps I'm strange in the fact that I've never felt like that, it's not an urge to release it as its often phrased. Sometimes I crave a person's touch but that's different and I doubt, gender specific.
As others have said though, I do think that impulse control (wherever that comes from, internal/external) and the acceptance of actually expressing that want or need is a bit part in that.
Thinking a little abstractly, I remember how much teen boys talked about masturbating, whereas girls and even young women never even admitted quietly with partners to having done it. Girls are taught from a very early age that sex is bad and boys aren't. "
Absolutely. It goes even further back than that. Young boys are allowed to run around naked and have their hands in their pants but young girls are told these things are unacceptable from a very young age while seeing boys being allowed to. From a very young age we are fed the message that our bodies are less acceptable. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"So to put it bluntly... women are more sexual and men want to be.
Interesting. I have to say in previous relationships where I have had a higher sex drive than the man, they often haven't liked that very much.
Because following on the theme of social concepts for a very long time the man had to be ‘manly’ and act certain ways too! And going back to more primitive times it was very much the same. To some it’s imasculinating to be outpaced, also from a psychological perspective it hits the ‘not adequate’ button for lack of a better term.
However, it should cut both ways as times change.
Absolutely. All of this. Men are hypersexualised and therefore there is a lot of pressure on them to always be sexual, up for sex and to "perform" well."
From my experience though it’s quite simple to overcome these barriers. Generally through two things; time and exploration. Take the time to learn the mind of the person you are with and you’ll both be liberated and pleased sexually and mutually. Frequency can be overcome by intensity, just have to invest the time in making it more fruitful and most importantly natural. |
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I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Going by the Kik me threads or wank groups, I think men have more urges than women. Probably why more men generally look for sex elsewhere due to partners going off sex due to female libido dwindling.
Or do men just more openly express those urges?
Women's libidos tend to dwindle in relationships for complex reasons that aren't always inevitable. Men and women have affairs in marriages pretty equally.
I know my sex drive never keeps up with any men in my Long relationships. My friends are the same. I’m just going by the men on here always asking for sex chat and being horny beasts. I used to get loads of guys texting me on a Sunday morning with the hangover horn. I don’t think women pest men in the same way so much. that depends who you meet!!
Never. Mine is always low. I’ve met someone from here who is similar to me and it’s so nice not to feel like I have to have sex all the time. "
All levels of sex drive should be acceptable and not shamed. You are absolutely fine as you are and nobody should make you feel otherwise |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's a misconception.
Like that bs statistic that we think about sex every 40 seconds on average.
Plus men don't talk about the women's vaginas like women talk about men's penises!
Haha yes every 40 second is a tad extreme but maybe if they averaged out the few hours over the day...
Hey leave my 3 hour edging sessions alone! That's not how averages work
I was talking about myself . And don't tell me you've never seen people use skewed averages to make the statistics fit their agenda
Is that like narrowing your sample size of veri’s so you sound like you’re slightly better than a ladywank? "
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I really don’t think women are as horny as men.... really?"
Some women are hornier than most men and some men are hornier than most women. Some woman are less horny than most men and some men are less horny than most women. |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
my own little sanctuary |
"I really don’t think women are as horny as men.... really?
Some women are hornier than most men and some men are hornier than most women. Some woman are less horny than most men and some men are less horny than most women."
That just made me think of father ted “smaller means further away Dougal” |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I agree it's the latter. But also think women have better impulse control when it comes to sex, so it dictates fewer of their decisions/behaviours.
Again though are we just conditioned to have greater impulse control when it comes to sex? We don't seem to when it comes to things like dieting or smoking?
I'm sure that's a big part of it. Maybe biology too though, and a caveman need to 'empty their balls' as it's so nicely put often . If I physically needed to release something from my body I'd probably be more frantic too.
Haha! It doesn't build up yano? Their balls won't explode
Haha I know, just tiredly thinking out loud that more impulsivity could be subconsciously down to the biology of spreading seed/impregnating, but then be compounded by there being less social pressure on men to suppress urges. "
Its a funny thought though isn't it? Exploding balls... well maybe not for the men |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Just going to drop in ‘contraception’
Artificial hormones can play a big part as they change the natural hormone cycle. "
Again though, society places most of the burden of contraception on women |
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From back in the day I can remember the phrase, lie back and think of England!
Women weren't really thought of as enjoying sex but more of it's your husbands right...give it him. Now I'm happy to say we have come along way and it is no longer shocking that a woman has wants and needs and that they own it.
As for who owns it more I don't really know. |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off "
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird |
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By *acey_Red OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I really don’t think women are as horny as men.... really?
Some women are hornier than most men and some men are hornier than most women. Some woman are less horny than most men and some men are less horny than most women.
That just made me think of father ted “smaller means further away Dougal” "
I may be a little young to get the reference |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I really don’t think women are as horny as men.... really?
Some women are hornier than most men and some men are hornier than most women. Some woman are less horny than most men and some men are less horny than most women.
That just made me think of father ted “smaller means further away Dougal”
I may be a little young to get the reference "
You’re older than me! |
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird "
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking "
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup |
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup "
I won't even dare to mention what my drink of choice is  but keep saving those plastic straws |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup
I won't even dare to mention what my drink of choice is but keep saving those plastic straws "
I’m a good bar man but I’m not putting that in a cup lol |
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup
I won't even dare to mention what my drink of choice is but keep saving those plastic straws
I’m a good bar man but I’m not putting that in a cup lol "
I'll let you know when I've gathered a pint full, just put it against my locker number |
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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup
I won't even dare to mention what my drink of choice is but keep saving those plastic straws
I’m a good bar man but I’m not putting that in a cup lol
I'll let you know when I've gathered a pint full, just put it against my locker number "
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"I've not read the entire thread so sorry if I'm saying something already said. At a basic level as humans, like most animals, we have two basic drivers, to survive and to reproduce ie. To continue our species. So we have drives that tell us we are hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold and also the need for sex. In men the latter is pretty much a constant, in women its at times when they are most likely to reproduce. So men are officially hornier, most of the time, than women. Same with most of the animal kingdom. That's just scientific findings so don't bite my head off
Head bitting isn't my kink
I don't know how I fit into that. The treatment of my endometriosis means I am unable to reproduce at any time yet I am horny pretty much constantly. I was before I was on it too. Maybe I'm just weird
Of course, none of that accounts for sex addictions just ask a
Tasman Peninsula dusky antechinus - they never stop fucking
I hope your choice of drink isn’t that much of a mouthful or you’ll just get a plastic straw and an empty cup
I won't even dare to mention what my drink of choice is but keep saving those plastic straws
I’m a good bar man but I’m not putting that in a cup lol
I'll let you know when I've gathered a pint full, just put it against my locker number
I’m like a captain on a boat I have to stay with the ship I’m afraid"
Don't worry, I'll get the drink, you just need to pour it into a glass, plastic straw of course |
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