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Do you kiss on a meet?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
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For me I don’t care if another guy kisses C in a meet but I can understand that it might be too intimate for other couples.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If at a social it goes well then yes a kiss and agreed couldn’t have a meet where kissing isn’t allowed. You can tell a lot about someone from a passionate kiss "
I think without the kiss, the passion can be lacking. But that's just personal opinion, hence why I asked the question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
For me I don’t care if another guy kisses C in a meet but I can understand that it might be too intimate for other couples.
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See I understand the couple but as well, because a kiss can be seen as very personal. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Personally I adore kissing, it's the perfect starter, main course accompaniment and dessert to any meet and I can easily lose myself in just kissing with the right person - that said I appreciate that for some people kissing is not for them and if that is their preference then it's to be respected. |
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By *eith28Man
over a year ago
uxbridge |
I love a kiss. I’m pretty good at it. But I’d say it’s 50:50 on couples in private meets that are into kissing. I think in clubs it’s probably more likely to kiss. I’m wondering if there is a correlation between intimate kissing and personal planned v club dynamic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kiss on meets, although sometimes I regret it. Seems like a lot of men thinking "kissing" just means seeing how far they can shove their tongue down my throat  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
For me I don’t care if another guy kisses C in a meet but I can understand that it might be too intimate for other couples.
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Its down to the couple or lady but I do love a good kiss during. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Kissing is essential it is the prelude to whatever follows. It helps set the mood and get the blood flowing and the heart racing. If there is no kissing it all becomes a bit clinical. |
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"I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
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As you can see most people agree with you.
We make it clear on our profile so nobody who reads it needs to contact us. I don't think you need to "get it" just dont meet people like us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If there is no kissing then there is no meet. I won't compromise on that ever "
100% agree ! In fact it’s on my profile x
No kissing no meet. No exceptions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience it's usually couples who save that for their other halves which is very sweet.
I think it's foreplay though for me, love that release of oxytocin from kissing  just heightens the whole experience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Agree with loads of these comments. Kissing just gets you in the mood. And I didn't mean on a first meet, just on a meet with someone you may have met before. I just think sex without kissing is like. Read without butter, metaphorically speaking.  |
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I guess first it depends on the nature of meet. If it's a social I wouldn't expect to be snogging straight away. But kissing is a huge deal to me. If someone didn't want to snog me why would I want to do anything more intimate with them? I love a good snog.
Granted sometimes I've ended up in the middle of a spontaneous orgy, that is a bit different because I sometimes I've played with ladies I've not always kissed on the lips or got to know well prior to that time and space. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?"
I’d have to try to know for sure
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?"
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone."
Usually the bj works as a perfect warm up. You'd be the first to complain |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Usually the bj works as a perfect warm up. You'd be the first to complain "
Well, it's like......
No offence, but you might not be any good at it. And expecting that to do everything. It's like if a bloke didn't tease you or even try and arouse you and just went to try and put it in straight away with no tease, no build, no anticipation, no real lust.
Kind of like receiving a Christmas present unwrapped. It's no way near as fun as unwrapping it, with your teeth lol. |
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone."
Kissing is not the only form of warm up available |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Kissing is not the only form of warm up available "
I'm not saying that, but a kiss is a very important part in the process |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Usually the bj works as a perfect warm up. You'd be the first to complain
Well, it's like......
No offence, but you might not be any good at it. And expecting that to do everything. It's like if a bloke didn't tease you or even try and arouse you and just went to try and put it in straight away with no tease, no build, no anticipation, no real lust.
Kind of like receiving a Christmas present unwrapped. It's no way near as fun as unwrapping it, with your teeth lol."
We can't all be the same and like the same things, which is great.
From my perspective if I meet someone for play I'm aroused already and can't wait to rip his clothes off, taste him and for him to stick it in. If I'm not aroused by the thought alone of meeting someone - I simply won't meet him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Usually the bj works as a perfect warm up. You'd be the first to complain
Well, it's like......
No offence, but you might not be any good at it. And expecting that to do everything. It's like if a bloke didn't tease you or even try and arouse you and just went to try and put it in straight away with no tease, no build, no anticipation, no real lust.
Kind of like receiving a Christmas present unwrapped. It's no way near as fun as unwrapping it, with your teeth lol.
We can't all be the same and like the same things, which is great.
From my perspective if I meet someone for play I'm aroused already and can't wait to rip his clothes off, taste him and for him to stick it in. If I'm not aroused by the thought alone of meeting someone - I simply won't meet him."
Fair enough |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Kissing is where the fun starts 
I couldn't imagine not kissing. I am fussy with who I kiss, so if I kiss you it means I want a whole lot more "
Agreed |
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Kissing is not the only form of warm up available
I'm not saying that, but a kiss is a very important part in the process "
To you it obviously is which is fine. I know we're considered odd and have been called weird, cold, robotic etc by people who have never met us but we're on a swingers site where we thought at first that everyone's preferences were if not understood at least accepted without question. There's room for all of us, kissers and non kissers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Kissing is not the only form of warm up available
I'm not saying that, but a kiss is a very important part in the process
To you it obviously is which is fine. I know we're considered odd and have been called weird, cold, robotic etc by people who have never met us but we're on a swingers site where we thought at first that everyone's preferences were if not understood at least accepted without question. There's room for all of us, kissers and non kissers "
There is room for all |
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"If I meet 1 on 1 I don't kiss. How many men would really complain if I went straight for bj and to action from there?
I would complain. Trying to stick it in with no warm up is no fun for anyone.
Kissing is not the only form of warm up available
I'm not saying that, but a kiss is a very important part in the process
To you it obviously is which is fine. I know we're considered odd and have been called weird, cold, robotic etc by people who have never met us but we're on a swingers site where we thought at first that everyone's preferences were if not understood at least accepted without question. There's room for all of us, kissers and non kissers
There is room for all "
I hope so but this is one of the most questioned preferences on the forum and people feel able to make implications about sex with non kissers that would cause outrage if made about any other preference. |
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By *hip67Man
over a year ago
WOLVERHAMPTON |
My FB was on here with her previous partner as couple. We have openly discussed what they felt was acceptable and their boundaries and they would not kiss as it was too personal. My own view is that as a single it is part and parcel of the intamacy that goes with a meet but I understand that it may comprise some couples as well. She is moving back into the swinging world with me as a couple and it will be interesting to see where the boundaries are set this time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is part of the foreplay, the main event and the cuddles after. Kissing enables the flow of a sexual encounter, and more often than not continues it. Kissing stirs memories of moments and I feel all of these, in some degree, are needed in a meet. Or any sexual encounter to be fair. But that's just my opinion and would totally respect anyone choosing not to kiss... I would find it incredibly difficult however!
Peach x |
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Had 2 meets that didnt kiss ,not our choice theirs ,but ment it lacked something for me even hubby feels for me if there is no kissing ,you dont pick up someone in a bar and not start by kissing them ,why should this be any different? |
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It's just knowing what each of us want from a meet, if you don't want to respect the others boundaries, then you can see it's not going to work.
Couples who indulge in singles meeting, may have their rules in place that you aren't privy to, that's for them to decide. It may not seem a big deal to some, but if that's their thing, who are any of us to not respect that. We each need to know our limitations, then enjoy the ride. If its not for you, then just don't go there. |
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By *angerineMan
over a year ago
somewhere inbetween the right and wrong |
"Kissing is probably the most sexiest part of any foreplay. X"
So true- I have to kiss, it's something that (when missing) really cuts my enjoyment of the whole thing.
I can understand why some couples won't though.
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By *eefdoddusCouple
over a year ago
Scottish Borders |
It's always been a discussion point with us. We've never played alone, only as a couple so can't really comment on the single meet scenario. I (mr) find it a bit strange not to kiss. Mrs does it and enjoys it very much and I love to see her enjoying it whilst exploring the guy or lady with her hands and vice versa.
She isn't too keen on me doing it though. We're working on it..! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm talking obviously after the social is done and then it comes to the play part?
Because I don't get how people can get into the play without a bit of kissing?
What are your thoughts?
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omg kissing that involves exchanging bodily fluids  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love kissing only met one woman that didn’t kiss on a meet and it was strange when we were in missionary and not kissing lol but I just respect whatever people’s rules are |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I can't imagine a play meet without kissing it just wouldn't work for me and at social meets if we get on we kiss at the end just to see if there is chemistry. I couldn't have sex without kissing. |
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It's not that we don't want to, indeed we love it too, but can really understand why for some they don't.
Yes I know most here will focus on the oral sex aspect and how that seems more intimate than kissing, but there's a spiritual aspect that some will be wanting to keep for their partners, rather than the mechanical (in want of a better phrase) satisfaction that sex par se offers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you dont kiss its not great sex, its sex for the sake of sex, not for me I'm afraid "
I had great sex without kissing and meh one with kissing. Kissing isn't everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you dont kiss its not great sex, its sex for the sake of sex, not for me I'm afraid
I had great sex without kissing and meh one with kissing. Kissing isn't everything."
lol oh no you didn't |
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