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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does Fab, or similar platforms, improve your self confidence?
Or does it have a negative impact?
Or no impact at all?
I’m a confident person but I would say fab has improved it for me. |
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I think if you have good self esteem coupled with confidence and know your own worth then something like fab won't affect it either way.
I think though that it can give you more or less confidence in the way you look depending on your experience.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Generally improved mine, I still have crap days but it's much better than it was."
Great to see it’s improved yours!
I had a blip in confidence when I made the move from gym fit to dad bod. But fab quickly gives that!if anything I’ve been more popular rocking the dad bod haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mrs Here- I’ve always been comfortable with who I am and confident in that. I’ve always been less confident in my appearance and sexual attractiveness to others but didn’t care as if someone got to know me they’d like me or they wouldn’t. Fab has been good for mine, to find my feet viewing myself in another way as more than just “that weird one” . I am weird but I’ve found a new side of me.
When we’ve been stood up or degraded it can sometimes knock me for a day or two but I do just pick up and remember it’s a reflection of them, not me. I can see why for some it could be really difficult to deal with the rejection. It depends on your core confidence I think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does Fab, or similar platforms, improve your self confidence?
Or does it have a negative impact?
Or no impact at all?
I’m a confident person but I would say fab has improved it for me."
Any situation that you put yourself in, that can entail any kind rejection or exposes you the views and opinions of others is detrimental to your self confidence. It is how you deal with it which is the real struggle. Its human nature |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think if you have good self esteem coupled with confidence and know your own worth then something like fab won't affect it either way.
I think though that it can give you more or less confidence in the way you look depending on your experience.
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I’d say I have these things but still get a boost. Or maybe I just think I do! |
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Definitely helping my self esteem, I'm a very confident person with very low self esteem,so when I receive messages giving me compliments (from couples as the Mr has it set so single men can't message) which isn't something I'm used to in normal day life, I don't usually receive compliments, then it proper puts a smile on my face and makes me feel good  |
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"I think if you have good self esteem coupled with confidence and know your own worth then something like fab won't affect it either way.
I think though that it can give you more or less confidence in the way you look depending on your experience.
I’d say I have these things but still get a boost. Or maybe I just think I do!"
If you think it does, it does |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does Fab, or similar platforms, improve your self confidence?
Or does it have a negative impact?
Or no impact at all?
I’m a confident person but I would say fab has improved it for me.
Any situation that you put yourself in, that can entail any kind rejection or exposes you the views and opinions of others is detrimental to your self confidence. It is how you deal with it which is the real struggle. Its human nature"
I guess I am fortunate rejection doesn’t bother me. On fab specifically |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think if you have good self esteem coupled with confidence and know your own worth then something like fab won't affect it either way.
I think though that it can give you more or less confidence in the way you look depending on your experience.
I’d say I have these things but still get a boost. Or maybe I just think I do!
If you think it does, it does "
Good point haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does Fab, or similar platforms, improve your self confidence?
Or does it have a negative impact?
Or no impact at all?
I’m a confident person but I would say fab has improved it for me.
Any situation that you put yourself in, that can entail any kind rejection or exposes you the views and opinions of others is detrimental to your self confidence. It is how you deal with it which is the real struggle. Its human nature
I guess I am fortunate rejection doesn’t bother me. On fab specifically"
Contentious issue:
Rejecting can be on many levels empowering |
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As a woman of a certain age i like many woman of any age have body confidence issues ,even though my hubby has told me for years otherwise ,and coming on here i thought id be destroyed ,but no and having a few meets under our belt ,im feeling more attractive and sexual which is the most attractive than i have ever done even hubby comments on my change and im wearing clothes etc i wouldnt have done before so its a big fat YES  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a woman of a certain age i like many woman of any age have body confidence issues ,even though my hubby has told me for years otherwise ,and coming on here i thought id be destroyed ,but no and having a few meets under our belt ,im feeling more attractive and sexual which is the most attractive than i have ever done even hubby comments on my change and im wearing clothes etc i wouldnt have done before so its a big fat YES "
Love this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No impact, i try not to mistake anything that happens online with real life. "
But getting stood up in a real life meet does connect to fab and can easily make someone feel badly. Just as a great meet can make you feel good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No impact, i try not to mistake anything that happens online with real life.
But getting stood up in a real life meet does connect to fab and can easily make someone feel badly. Just as a great meet can make you feel good. "
I see you're point. But i wouldn't let that effect my confidence, I'd see that as their loss. I've been on and off dating sites for nearly 3 years and you have to develop a thick skin for that with the amount of ghosting and time wasters that are on there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great. "
Lots of psychic men on here, eh?
Probably been good for me confidence wise I think. Wasn't majorly lacking in self esteem before but had the odd wobble like most folk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great.
Lots of psychic men on here, eh?
Probably been good for me confidence wise I think. Wasn't majorly lacking in self esteem before but had the odd wobble like most folk."
Doris Stokes men everywhere.
I do (being serious) like that even the people who I think are gorgeous, have wobbles sometimes. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab can be great fun. But it shouldn't be confused with real life. That's when things go wrong, people get hurt and self esteem leaves the building. I take it all with a pinch of salt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great.
Lots of psychic men on here, eh?
Probably been good for me confidence wise I think. Wasn't majorly lacking in self esteem before but had the odd wobble like most folk."
Obviously Monster Munch helped  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great.
Lots of psychic men on here, eh?
Probably been good for me confidence wise I think. Wasn't majorly lacking in self esteem before but had the odd wobble like most folk.
Obviously Monster Munch helped "
Flaming hot monster munch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks like it still makes people type out sound-bites though. The responses to threads like this always make me smile some are so predictable thanks for the giggles. |
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I take what people say on here to me with a big pinch of salt. Unless they are friends, proper friends. Being on here has helped me see myself, sort of, how others see me in terms of my body image x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we all suffer a little from it.
But I've realised that as I'm happy then f them.
And if I decide to lose a bit of weight, it's for me and no one else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think, sometimes, the forum gives you more confidence. Not the smoke blowing, but hearing lots of difference peoples' experiences, preferences, kinks etc. Things are less daunting when you know everyone's in the same boat really, and you're no less attractive or weirder than most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No,I'd say that,overall,it's lowered my confidence inasmuch as it's compounded what much of my experience has shown me - that is,that I'm essentially unattractive to the majority of women.
I don't say that to fish for compliments. If you knew me at all you'd know that I am almost coldly objective about myself.
But that's not to say it doesn't hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Positive ego boost. Even with no pics or profile text, men know how attractive I am and tell me I'm horny sexy amazing and they want to meet me right now and fuck. Feels great.
Lots of psychic men on here, eh?
Probably been good for me confidence wise I think. Wasn't majorly lacking in self esteem before but had the odd wobble like most folk.
Obviously Monster Munch helped "
Nom nom....my little monster |
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"No,I'd say that,overall,it's lowered my confidence inasmuch as it's compounded what much of my experience has shown me - that is,that I'm essentially unattractive to the majority of women.
I don't say that to fish for compliments. If you knew me at all you'd know that I am almost coldly objective about myself.
But that's not to say it doesn't hurt. "
That made me sad to read that.. sorry you feel that way. I think you’d be surprised how many think similarly. Attraction is a funny old thing and for me it’s very much about face to face not online words.. |
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It's a mixture for me when I joined I had very little confidence but the positive attention I received from others made me feel better about myself.
Then something happens to make you start questioning people's authenticity and booom before you know it your confidence is knocked.
Why?
Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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That made me sad to read that.. sorry you feel that way. I think you’d be surprised how many think similarly. Attraction is a funny old thing and for me it’s very much about face to face not online words.. "
Ah,I'm sorry - I didn't intend that. 
Attraction is sometimes apparently inexplicable,that's true. I've been strongly attracted to women of diverse character and appearances and have always been quite at ease with that! I've never quite understood people who say they're only attracted to a very narrow 'type' of person. (They may actually be,I've just never understood it,that's all.)
Words I've always been at ease with,too,but they're effect is limited on such an image-centric site as this one.
That's a pity.
Anyway,sorry again: I...would tell you a joke to cheer you, except I've only ever remembered about 3! |
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That made me sad to read that.. sorry you feel that way. I think you’d be surprised how many think similarly. Attraction is a funny old thing and for me it’s very much about face to face not online words..
Ah,I'm sorry - I didn't intend that.
Attraction is sometimes apparently inexplicable,that's true. I've been strongly attracted to women of diverse character and appearances and have always been quite at ease with that! I've never quite understood people who say they're only attracted to a very narrow 'type' of person. (They may actually be,I've just never understood it,that's all.)
Words I've always been at ease with,too,but they're effect is limited on such an image-centric site as this one.
That's a pity.
Anyway,sorry again: I...would tell you a joke to cheer you, except I've only ever remembered about 3! "
Ah behave.. no apology necessary. It is very image based on here.. unless you use the forums and get to know people too. Kind of gives you a different angle when it’s on form. A lot of people genuinely like each other.. many have met via organised socials etc. It changes the dynamic.
No point telling me jokes.. never remembered one in my life..
Get involved here.. see if it changes your mind any! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"It's a mixture for me when I joined I had very little confidence but the positive attention I received from others made me feel better about myself.
Then something happens to make you start questioning people's authenticity and booom before you know it your confidence is knocked.
Why?
Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
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Exactly Jo x |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"It's a mixture for me when I joined I had very little confidence but the positive attention I received from others made me feel better about myself.
Then something happens to make you start questioning people's authenticity and booom before you know it your confidence is knocked.
Why?
Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
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Well said. As Maya Angelou says “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” I’ve spent too long rationalising others bad behaviour - no more, no more. |
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"It's a mixture for me when I joined I had very little confidence but the positive attention I received from others made me feel better about myself.
Then something happens to make you start questioning people's authenticity and booom before you know it your confidence is knocked.
Why?
Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
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Sadly true of many...
Thankfully not everybody  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our first few meets put me on cloud 9 but it has dropped dramatically recently causing me to pull out of a few meets. I also have a fear of meeting new people so it's a big step being on here at first. Absolutely love it when I get my head in the right place and we do meet. M x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
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 Ach. I do understand where you're coming from and yes, I've had the pleasure of knowing some right bellends on here. But I still believe in people and I always will. People can be thoughtful. People show me they genuinely care frequently. No matter how many people show me otherwise, I'm going to have faith in the good ones.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No,I'd say that,overall,it's lowered my confidence inasmuch as it's compounded what much of my experience has shown me - that is,that I'm essentially unattractive to the majority of women.
I don't say that to fish for compliments. If you knew me at all you'd know that I am almost coldly objective about myself.
But that's not to say it doesn't hurt. "
I can sort of echo this insomuch as fab has confirmed that as a TV lots of guys (and a few women) find me attractive, whereas for my male profile it has confirmed pretty much the above; to the extent that I'll probably delete that profile and go back to POF for any male/female dates. It's been a harsh learning curve. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Because I believe.. I believe people are genuine, caring, honest, thoughtful.
The reality is very different.
Jo.Xx
Ach. I do understand where you're coming from and yes, I've had the pleasure of knowing some right bellends on here. But I still believe in people and I always will. People can be thoughtful. People show me they genuinely care frequently. No matter how many people show me otherwise, I'm going to have faith in the good ones.
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I'll get me coat. Lol |
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Not gonna lie I get the occasional bout of frustration when I'm out on my travels and no one wishes to strike up a conversation. But then I stop and ask myself why I'm "upset".
Not worth getting the hump over (all pun intended) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does Fab, or similar platforms, improve your self confidence?
Or does it have a negative impact?
Or no impact at all?
I’m a confident person but I would say fab has improved it for me."
I've always been a confident person anyway and Fab hasn't changed that really, though it has given me new ways to channel it (blatant exhibitionism  )
P believes in herself, but has moments of self-doubt at times? Fortunately both myself and Fab reassure her regularly that she has NOTHING to doubt about herself!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm confident but not arrogant, I'm a people person can strike up conversations with anyone fab has had no influence on that, you can feel as though youre not part of anything here and can understand how less confident people might be made to feel here as a result of the silence their efforts receive, especially guys but everyone feels that at some point here, some with body confidence, some with depression, some just with what lifes throwing at them at that moment. Some here are all about sex their whole being is sex but there is more to life, try and enjoy what you do and take an interest in life and people and you will fair better in whatever you do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm confident but not arrogant, I'm a people person can strike up conversations with anyone fab has had no influence on that, you can feel as though youre not part of anything here and can understand how less confident people might be made to feel here as a result of the silence their efforts receive, especially guys but everyone feels that at some point here, some with body confidence, some with depression, some just with what lifes throwing at them at that moment. Some here are all about sex their whole being is sex but there is more to life, try and enjoy what you do and take an interest in life and people and you will fair better in whatever you do "
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By (user no longer on site)
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As many have said, I don’t believe Fab can radically alter your personality but rather enhance traits you already have.
So a confident person becomes more so, an arrogant one more so and a total dipstick more so. This also means it can have a detrimental effect on those already in a negative or delicate state of mind. That’s why I like the threads on talking and sharing experiences and problems... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As many have said, I don’t believe Fab can radically alter your personality but rather enhance traits you already have.
So a confident person becomes more so, an arrogant one more so and a total dipstick more so. This also means it can have a detrimental effect on those already in a negative or delicate state of mind. That’s why I like the threads on talking and sharing experiences and problems..."
Exactly. I’ve always struggled to take a compliment even when I might have described myself as confident. My experience in the few months I’ve been on Fab has confused me though.There’s just so many messages throwing away compliments at the same time as requesting to meet and fuck that I find it hard to know....are the nice things said actually genuine or is it’s just because I’m a single woman and anyone would do??
It can be flattering when someone convinced you they mean it but I find it’s making me cynical.
That may say more about me than the men which is why I’ve started dropping into the forums just recently to chat here more as the friendships and support seem really helpful as well as fun |
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"As many have said, I don’t believe Fab can radically alter your personality but rather enhance traits you already have.
So a confident person becomes more so, an arrogant one more so and a total dipstick more so. This also means it can have a detrimental effect on those already in a negative or delicate state of mind. That’s why I like the threads on talking and sharing experiences and problems..."
I'm inclined to agree, well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My confidence as a human being hasn’t been affected by Fab at all. I have a healthy level of self-esteem. However my understanding of myself as a sexual being has improved, I’m more confident in what I like and don’t like, but due to lack of practice my confidence in my sexual abilities has not improved much at all. I don’t think it has deteriorated though. |
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