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When she keeps saying 'no'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same answer as the woman who asked earlier...
No means no!!
If she changes her mind she can let you know.
Too many people play stupid head games... wtf!
You’re supposed to be grown ups!"
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"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"
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My exact point on the other thread
If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else
If she says no then it's no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"
My exact point on the other thread
If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else
If she says no then it's no"
exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Is there?
General consensus is no means no whatever gender
Obviously there are some sycophants on the ladies thread giving it the “I can’t imagine any man saying no to you” bol***ks but other than that pretty much the same |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"
My exact point on the other thread
If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else
If she says no then it's no
exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender "
The only difference really is a few guys kissing ass, you'll get that on any thread with a female op. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Is there?
General consensus is no means no whatever gender
Obviously there are some sycophants on the ladies thread giving it the “I can’t imagine any man saying no to you” bol***ks but other than that pretty much the same "
I get why this thread was done. Ish. There really isn't that much difference in response though. |
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"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"
My exact point on the other thread
If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else
If she says no then it's no
exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender
The only difference really is a few guys kissing ass, you'll get that on any thread with a female op. "
Also very true, bless the white knights |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No means no end of
Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail 
Or keep crossing her legs and hitching her skirt up as was said earlier. "
Not sure what you mean ...
Is that a new seduction method ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No means no end of
Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail
Your ex who you want back?"
I wish she would stop bothering me and let me be if that's what she wants and not bother me over petty things... Some women just never grow up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No means no end of
Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail
Your ex who you want back?
I wish she would stop bothering me and let me be if that's what she wants and not bother me over petty things... Some women just never grow up "
Block her then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"
My exact point on the other thread
If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else
If she says no then it's no
exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender "
I didnt know there was another thread but my response would be the same either way
Not sure what the context was either but i kind of assumed trying to get a partner not comfortable with swinging involved in it ... and my thoughts are if you have to change someone’s mind then you shouldnt do it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is not swinging related... "
Context is everything though .... because actually while we really should just always respect a no , people are going to have quite the different reaction to “well she was on a diet and i wanted us to order pizza so i talked her round”, or “he wanted to save the money and i thought we should treat ourselves with a trip away so i twisted his arm”, than they would about a sexual situation or something that resulted in them going against strong beliefs they have
I dont think the differing responses should be based on gender they should be based on scenario |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"sounds like she enjoys knowing you want her
she's deliberately playing a game to pull you back stopping you getting over her and moving on"
Exactly what I am thinking.
I call it headfucking.
Excuse my french ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sounds like she enjoys knowing you want her
she's deliberately playing a game to pull you back stopping you getting over her and moving on
Exactly what I am thinking.
I call it headfucking.
Excuse my french ... "
some self care needed maybe?
block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When she say no take it as a no she means no "
I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When she say no take it as a no she means no
I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ... "
You have the ability to stop her being able to contact you. Why aren't you doing it? |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
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If changes mind.
Too many people play stupid head games... wtf!
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It's a real shame some don't listen to the no, or indeed the reasons given for it. As for the head games don't think the ones that play them are bothered. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I hoped this was a compare and contrast thread, rather than as set out in the OP. The lesser of two evils.
I haven't seen the other thread but my advice is always treat people with respect and as adults. If a man says no to me (and they do fairly regularly) I accept that. I would expect the same in return.
Minds can change but isn't it better if that isn't a result of coercion and control?
Mutuality is sexy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I enjoy consensual non consensual. But obviously spoken about before hand and safe work or move put in place. "
My bad I’ve got confused thought this was about cnc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When she say no take it as a no she means no
I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ... "
Yeah.. if she's says 'no' and you still fuck, here's the headline; You're a rapist. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When she say no take it as a no she means no
I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ...
Yeah.. if she's says 'no' and you still fuck, here's the headline; You're a rapist."
Sex is about mutuality.
I would never force sex on a woman that said 'NO'.
I am talking a bit more than just sex on this thread.
Change your headline dude before you start to spread 'fake news' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a date around 2 months ago from Tinder. 25, bright, intelligent, gorgeous in every way, and just such a lovely person.
And after the first date and a lot of sex, she broached the subject of a 'rape' fantasy.
good luck, lovely, but I can't help you with that. There's a point where self-preservation simply has to kick in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you know she really means
'Yes' ...
What do you to convince her she getting it all wrong "
If you are going to comment on a thread, bother to read it all and find out what it's about. Op is obviously a good guy not an idiot so stop bashing.
This is an ego boost for her having you as a fall back. However much you like her you have to have respect for yourself and move on and not let yourself be manipulated. See the bigger picture you're allowing her to treat you this way so she's going with it. You never know she might respect you for stepping away and come good but i wouldn't wait on it. Know your worth then others will too xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And you know she really means
'Yes' ...
What do you to convince her she getting it all wrong
If you are going to comment on a thread, bother to read it all and find out what it's about. Op is obviously a good guy not an idiot so stop bashing.
This is an ego boost for her having you as a fall back. However much you like her you have to have respect for yourself and move on and not let yourself be manipulated. See the bigger picture you're allowing her to treat you this way so she's going with it. You never know she might respect you for stepping away and come good but i wouldn't wait on it. Know your worth then others will too xx"
Thank you for the kind words |
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exactly
. It means what it means....NO