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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

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By *ommickMan over a year ago

cork

Plenty more fish in the pond...make him regret not saying yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wait, what? A guy who says no? You're messing

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By *ynda CTV/TS over a year ago

Nr pwllheli

I JUST RECROSS MY LEGS, HITCH MY SKIRT A LITTLE HIGHER AND SMILE XX

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By *hechapMan over a year ago

Derry

You dont try to convince.

Just do and say the same as when a woman says no to me.

"Ok"

and move on.

I might have played those games when i was a teenager but am too long in the tooth now..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not allowed to say no!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

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who in their right mind would say no to you??

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't play those games.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wait, what? A guy who says no? You're messing

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yeah she must be...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don’t say no.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Odd...

Maybe respect the decision and move on...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Would like to see a guy pose the exact same question and see if the responses are different ???

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Depends on the situation!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe respect his decision. Lets reverse the question:

When she says no

But you know she means yes. How do you convince her.

The white knights would be all over this and the guy vilified for writing it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe respect his decision. Lets reverse the question:

When she says no

But you know she means yes. How do you convince her.

The white knights would be all over this and the guy vilified for writing it

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds a bit r*pey... regardless of gender, a no should always be respected, shouldn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your with the wrong guy

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Maybe respect his decision. Lets reverse the question:

When she says no

But you know she means yes. How do you convince her.

The white knights would be all over this and the guy vilified for writing it

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Maybe respect his decision. Lets reverse the question:

When she says no

But you know she means yes. How do you convince her.

The white knights would be all over this and the guy vilified for writing it

Agreed. Obviously a guy never means no!

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

NO means NO regardless of gender!

If he regrets saying no, he can let you know later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Can’t imagine a man alive saying NO to you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't play those games. "

This

. And I don’t chase

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

No means no, I don’t try to convince them otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No means no who ever it is

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

Are there the 2 threads running just to test the differences with gender reactions?

Cos so far it's really quite telling

No means no .. that's it

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"Are there the 2 threads running just to test the differences with gender reactions?

Cos so far it's really quite telling

No means no .. that's it"

yes and the answers are interesting especially to the Op,

However when I say no it means NO !

When my partner says No I take it as a NO as well

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'm going to assume this is just a rubbish joke. To try and "convince" someone seems a bit disturbing, or at best a bit sad and desperate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are there the 2 threads running just to test the differences with gender reactions?

Cos so far it's really quite telling

No means no .. that's it"

exactly

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

"Are there the 2 threads running just to test the differences with gender reactions?

Cos so far it's really quite telling

No means no .. that's it

exactly

Yeah ... we're both on the same wavelength

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No is a very clear word to understand with a very clear meaning!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You don't. No means no surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the risk of getting slaughtered, I really don't think this was intended as a thread about not respecting consent or lack of it. I think it was just meant as a light-hearted 'what's your seduction technique?' question.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"At the risk of getting slaughtered, I really don't think this was intended as a thread about not respecting consent or lack of it. I think it was just meant as a light-hearted 'what's your seduction technique?' question."
ok

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By *ax_uk_2009Man over a year ago

Wilmslow

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If he says no then I am happy to oblige

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

How do you know he means yes? I can say no with a giggle it doesn't mean I'm saying no but meaning yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If he says no then I am happy to oblige "

Already told her she chasing the wrong guy haha

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

No still means no though, even when regarding seduction. I get that it was possibly meant in a light-hearted way but even so, if someone says no once, that's the end of the discussion. I find it mildly irritating when I say no to something/one and the person thinks they know best and can seduce me to change my mind. It doesn't quite work like that. Maybe I'm being a dull snowflake though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% agree with you. I just feel a bit bad for the OP as I don't think that was at all the road she was going down. I read it more like when you're with someone and he's said 'No I'm watching the football' or something, as opposed to meaning how to convince a stranger. I'm probably wrong, but just throwing it in there as I doubt she was expecting to be called r*pey if it was just meant like that and maybe worded dodgy.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

And does that also apply to the other similar thread as the OP there seemed to take more hassle for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And does that also apply to the other similar thread as the OP there seemed to take more hassle for it"

Granted I haven't followed all the posts on either but they seemed pretty even from what I saw.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don’t

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"...I find it mildly irritating when I say no to something/one and the person thinks they know best and can seduce me to change my mind. It doesn't quite work like that. Maybe I'm being a dull snowflake though.

I do understand your point and yes, it might have been worded poorly (I'll say very likely it was!). But even with my partner, if he's watching UC and says no, that's what he means. Maybe people say no in a sort of teasing way sometimes *insert shrug emoji*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *hechapMan over a year ago

Derry

Maybe its a case of she asked "can i rimm and suck you"

and he said no no no of course not with a big smile on his face and a big erection in his hand.

In this scenario it would indicate he was swaying towards meaning yes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By leaving him alone.

He is not just a body he has feelings goddammit !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, if you asked your friend if they were coming out for drinks at the weekend, and they said no. Would you respect their decision of 'no' then too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, if you asked your friend if they were coming out for drinks at the weekend, and they said no. Would you respect their decision of 'no' then too?

Obviously

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By *ysteryman4117Man over a year ago

wareham

My Mrs was chatting to someone the other night, he originally said that he was to busy to meet.

An hour later he was fucking her........

Well played wife!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

what a weird thread. I've declined plenty of times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe respect his decision. Lets reverse the question:

When she says no

But you know she means yes. How do you convince her.

The white knights would be all over this and the guy vilified for writing it

Well when he wants his own way he gets it by cuddling into me and kissing my neck.

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I've said no before and will again I'm sure. Can a no be changed into a yes occasionally it can .

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

why would he day no if he means yes...maybe he wants you to work it a little.

I think it depends how well you know the person...if there's history. if no history I'd move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clearly wasn't a sex related question..

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By *reative CoupleXXXCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I wouldn't say no that's for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No means no. That's what i was always taught

Holly

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"You dont try to convince.

Just do and say the same as when a woman says no to me.

"Ok"

and move on.

I might have played those games when i was a teenager but am too long in the tooth now..

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

If he says no then he means no its the same with women no means no its worrying under any circumstances this is ignored.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What I actually mean is if your work your other half and you want to do something but he says no and you know that his mind could easily be changed. Well how do you go about chaining his mind.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Then discuss the pros and cons. Why does he have the absolute say?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Talk it through but if they still say no, respect it and move on

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you? "

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Are we talking about him saying no to you buying another pair of jimmy choo shoes out of the joint bank account

Turning you down for sex ?

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"They don’t say no."

Some do x

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

"Maybe its a case of she asked "can i rimm and suck you"

and he said no no no of course not with a big smile on his face and a big erection in his hand.

In this scenario it would indicate he was swaying towards meaning yes!"

Unless specifically agreed, no should always mean no.

An errection is no more consent than a wet pussy is.

Body might want it, but the head isn't always on the same page.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Think of it as sales and selling techniques.

You break something down into features and benefits and sell the benefits to him !

You want a new lingerie set because it makes "you" feel and look good (he's not interested)

However

The lingerie makes you feel extremely horny and you'll be ever so grateful (wink, lick your lips seductively)

Omg here's my credit card, in fact buy yourself 3 sets !

Now think of the benefits to him and sell them

lol

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t know. As he never says no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep just move on. Switching the gender if it was a guy not taking no for an answer it would generally be treated as creepy

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By *ornyandwellhungMan over a year ago

belfast

If he’s lying next to you and he says no, give him a suck and he should change his mind.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly. "

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

Just one thing darling, who was that chap at the back of the wardrobe holding that huge dildo.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

Just one thing darling, who was that chap at the back of the wardrobe holding that huge dildo. "

A present for you my love. Don't say I never get you anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really shocked by what I'm reading in the comments. If someone says no, you just move on. It's the same vice versa

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If he's not convinced by your donuts then he doesn't deserve you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really shocked by what I'm reading in the comments. If someone says no, you just move on. It's the same vice versa"

I haven't read the while post, so maybe theres like some private jokes I did't see, but I totally agree, and i don't think its really laughter material....

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

Just one thing darling, who was that chap at the back of the wardrobe holding that huge dildo.

A present for you my love. Don't say I never get you anything

You’re so kind and considerate and there was I thinking that you were hiding things from me. These delivery guys really offer a thorough service nowadays, it’s worth the £200 a month I give you for that amazon prime membership.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

Just one thing darling, who was that chap at the back of the wardrobe holding that huge dildo.

A present for you my love. Don't say I never get you anything

That's me, I'm all heart

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

You know what you men are like sweetie, you can never see further than your nose. Now be a darling and pass the box

You won’t need the box my love, of course you can keep them, there’s no need to take them back.

Take them back

I mean you are the bestest

I’ve just found a dress in your wardrobe that matches them perfectly.

Was it next to the bag, and accessories. Yes? That would be the one

Just one thing darling, who was that chap at the back of the wardrobe holding that huge dildo.

A present for you my love. Don't say I never get you anything

That's me, I'm all heart

By the way, I think you should treat yourself to a new phone, the other day when I was at work and you called me, there was a lot of interference, lots of almost grunting and screaming sounds and obviously a cross line as I could hear three guys in the background. I think they were from the wrestling club as I heard something about tag team.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"What I actually mean is if your work your other half and you want to do something but he says no and you know that his mind could easily be changed. Well how do you go about chaining his mind. "

OP to reverse this.... if you had already said no to something asked by your partner, but he kept asking trying to change your mind, how would that make you feel ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What I actually mean is if your work your other half and you want to do something but he says no and you know that his mind could easily be changed. Well how do you go about chaining his mind.

OP to reverse this.... if you had already said no to something asked by your partner, but he kept asking trying to change your mind, how would that make you feel ? "

Exactly. If it was a man who made this post, there would have been uproar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He wìll eventually say yes...at least my OH did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not allowed to say no!!

LJ"

Dam right!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?"

Bit of a straw man there, no?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

You are talking about buying you shoes here aren’t you?

Promise darling, they have been in the wardrobe this whole time

I beg your pardon sweetheart, it’s just I hadn’t noticed them before, and they look so gorgeous and expensive I’m surprised I hadn’t noticed them.

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By *andare63Man over a year ago

oldham

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Would like to see a guy pose the exact same question and see if the responses are different ???"

Forum character assassination

That's what would happen

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By *euschMan over a year ago

peterborough

Sorry, does not compute

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

Flash him your boobs?

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By *andare63Man over a year ago

oldham

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?"

Rape????? What the fook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take it on board and move on. Don’t be a pest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?

Rape????? What the fook

Seriously. This is what's wrong with today's world

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?

Rape????? What the fook

Seriously. This is what's wrong with today's world

. Haha. Don’t do anything, don’t say anything, don’t look at anyone, don’t help anyone in the street, don’t have an opinion, don’t make a joke and we should all be fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You dont try to convince.

Just do and say the same as when a woman says no to me.

"Ok"

and move on.

I might have played those games when i was a teenager but am too long in the tooth now..

This. I just move on if they play that game. Another form of time waster.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So r@pe is ok if you call it seduction?!?!?

Rape????? What the fook

Seriously. This is what's wrong with today's world

. Haha. Don’t do anything, don’t say anything, don’t look at anyone, don’t help anyone in the street, don’t have an opinion, don’t make a joke and we should all be fine

Honestly it's crazy.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike.

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By *ikingpairCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"No means no, I don’t try to convince them otherwise "

This - isn't that a basic premise of this whole lifestyle (and just life in general...)?

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike."

And men too I would hope.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im very very stuborn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike.

And men too I would hope. "

As I read, most already have very clearly unless mistaken.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike.

And men too I would hope.

As I read, most already have very clearly unless mistaken."

As have most of the women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No"

Yesssss

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

In the words of Jim trott

no no no no no no yes !

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Have you tried food? Food often turns me around and temps me in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't.

No means no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike.

And men too I would hope.

As I read, most already have very clearly unless mistaken.

As have most of the women

And the guys have been nice about it. My point as with a couple others was if it was a guy asking the ladies wouldn't have been so nice.

Anyway it's not gone unnoticed that you have some issues with some of my comments. Not sure why but guess you have your reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Have you tried food? Food often turns me around and temps me in."

I'll keep that in mind.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"As a parent My little ladies know if I've said yes it happens, if I've said no it won't. Those are my boundaries they are known and understood,

You'll decide between the both of you what means yes and what means no. Can't help thinking its asking for trouble down the line if no can be thought of as a might be ok if I keep pushing..

Personally I don't like grey areas, they can lead to all sorts of troubles

And as was said earlier, if the OP was a guy, we'd be hearing the ladies all shouting in the mike.

And men too I would hope.

As I read, most already have very clearly unless mistaken.

As have most of the women

And the guys have been nice about it. My point as with a couple others was if it was a guy asking the ladies wouldn't have been so nice.

Anyway it's not gone unnoticed that you have some issues with some of my comments. Not sure why but guess you have your reasons."

I've no idea what you're talking about

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Have you got him to say 'yes' yet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, unless yes....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Have you got him to say 'yes' yet? "

I have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How did you know he ment yes?

Was his t-shirt a little too tight or his shorts very short?

Maybe he made eye contact with you in the bar or let you buy him a drink.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How did you know he ment yes?

Was his t-shirt a little too tight or his shorts very short?

Maybe he made eye contact with you in the bar or let you buy him a drink....."

Because he always smirks. It's his tell. I know he is only saying no because he wants me to work for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll let you know if it ever happens to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sounds a bit r*pey... regardless of gender, a no should always be respected, shouldn’t it? "

Oh context puhlease!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to agree until I read differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd take the no as a no and walk away with my dignity in check. I'm not begging any guy for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't play those games. "

Here, here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No means no simple as.

I'd love to see people's reactions had this been written by a man!

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By *oy man 2Man over a year ago

I always say no to a cup of tea.

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By *iss Penny TrationWoman over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"How did you know he ment yes?

Was his t-shirt a little too tight or his shorts very short?

Maybe he made eye contact with you in the bar or let you buy him a drink.....

Because he always smirks. It's his tell. I know he is only saying no because he wants me to work for it. "

Or he just farted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

People can change their minds - just as I can if they want something in future. It's not my job to persuade

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference "

Seriously? So your telking me that your other half has never said no to anything in his life and you knew they could persuaded? As in a new clothes or going out for a drink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sounds a bit r*pey... regardless of gender, a no should always be respected, shouldn’t it?

Oh context puhlease! "

Exactly!

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference "

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

Exactly this! Oh and can you be my husband

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

I think this is a poorly worded thread. I don’t think it is meant as a ”consent/non-consent” post, but it comes dangerously close to being one.

Maybe a bit more context would help.

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By *uriousMe2018Couple over a year ago

Aldershot

No means yes and yes means anal!! Lol

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

Exactly this! Oh and can you be my husband

NO !!

But Maybe you can persuade me

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

We should respect each other, no means no

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

Exactly this! Oh and can you be my husband

NO !!

But Maybe you can persuade me

I can try

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

Exactly this! Oh and can you be my husband

NO !!

But Maybe you can persuade me

I can try

Woohoo

I'll try to be resilient

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

Exactly this! Oh and can you be my husband

NO !!

But Maybe you can persuade me

I can try

Woohoo

I'll try to be resilient

Don't try to hard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Seriously? So your telking me that your other half has never said no to anything in his life and you knew they could persuaded? As in a new clothes or going out for a drink"

Yes seriously IMO as well. Think you were very vague with your initial op, and being a sex site I'm not sure what other responses you expected than what's been given.

Context always useful to get appropriate answers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Ridiculous comment imo, women have always used there charm to get men to change there minds about hundreds of things and I read it as a lighthearted and fun comment.

My ex,... darling I've seen a lovely new pair of shoes.

Me.. Ffs you've already got 47 pairs

Ex.. But I'd be ever so appreciative

Me.. What size do you want

You're in her pants now...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Seriously? So your telking me that your other half has never said no to anything in his life and you knew they could persuaded? As in a new clothes or going out for a drink

Yes seriously IMO as well. Think you were very vague with your initial op, and being a sex site I'm not sure what other responses you expected than what's been given.

Context always useful to get appropriate answers.

Even sexually how does one come up with ra*e ? I've often got hay in not in the mood but a simple kiss or seductive smile can change one's mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell him it's his loss and send him another abusive message to fill up his inbox..... innit.... word etc....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OMG a girl got turned down on fab??!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I said no to a lass when out one night and meant it. I knew she was trouble the second her hand went down my trousers and her eyes widened

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm clearly too PG13. Remember in Friends when Monica has a cold and Chandler says he's definitely not having sex with her? So she rubs Vicks on her chest in front of him until he says yes. That's along the lines of where my head went, not r@pe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm clearly too PG13. Remember in Friends when Monica has a cold and Chandler says he's definitely not having sex with her? So she rubs Vicks on her chest in front of him until he says yes. That's along the lines of where my head went, not r@pe

I never saw my situation as r@pe as it was handled and never went further however I’d a feminist friend who was ready to phone the lawyers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never saw my situation as r@pe as it was handled and never went further however I’d a feminist friend who was ready to phone the lawyers

Unfortunately most don't see this or have never experienced it either.

If she says no then it's not happening. If she says it as a chase, she'll be running a long way ahead of me...lol

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"But you know he means yes. How do you convince him

If this thread was about a woman saying no, it’d be called r@pe. No difference

Seriously? So your telking me that your other half has never said no to anything in his life and you knew they could persuaded? As in a new clothes or going out for a drink

Yes seriously IMO as well. Think you were very vague with your initial op, and being a sex site I'm not sure what other responses you expected than what's been given.

Context always useful to get appropriate answers.

Even sexually how does one come up with ra*e ? I've often got hay in not in the mood but a simple kiss or seductive smile can change one's mind."

If this is about "shopping" as alluded to further up or another "activity " As an adult just go out and do it. Do you reallyu need to ask permission?

If its about needing your partner with you why not respect his no, smirk or not, or maybe next time you say no to someone that earlier smirk or look may put you in a situation you'd prefer not to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yah someone got what I meant

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By *anhung22Man over a year ago

Birmingham

Ha Ha!! Men do have headaches too***Well some of the times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think anyone posting on this thread is necessarily evil or out to take advantage or force anyone against their will. However, I do think no means no, full stop. Even if no turns into yes you should be asking yiur partner if yes really means yes and checking they are comfortable and not feeling pressured into something, it's just basic respect for fellow humans really.....

There's no humour in that for me and its not really alright to say yay someone finally gets me because there were 50 ppl who didn't get you and that might be the attitude of the person who's mind you're trying to change, sorry but coming from a different source this post would probably have been removed by now.... smh *sadface*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dont think anyone posting on this thread is necessarily evil or out to take advantage or force anyone against their will. However, I do think no means no, full stop. Even if no turns into yes you should be asking yiur partner if yes really means yes and checking they are comfortable and not feeling pressured into something, it's just basic respect for fellow humans really.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly! Bloody hell people will be scared to post anything soon.

. People don’t half take things seriously on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

NO! What kinda boy do you think I am?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Exactly! Bloody hell people will be scared to post anything soon.

. People don’t half take things seriously on here. "

Love friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly! Bloody hell people will be scared to post anything soon.

. People don’t half take things seriously on here. "

That's not far from the truth as far as guys concerned. I've seen you tear apart many a guys badly worded post on forums Nora.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly! Bloody hell people will be scared to post anything soon.

. People don’t half take things seriously on here. "

I don't post half of what I think. Of the half that I do post I think about half of that gets reported by fans..... we really cant say anything challenging these days its just utter mush or newbie bashing.... they should change the reply button and replace it with "like"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Exactly! Bloody hell people will be scared to post anything soon.

. People don’t half take things seriously on here.

This is very true.

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"No means no who ever it is"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When he says NO! your the unlukiest person in the world, avoid buying a lottery ticket this week!

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose. "

Not for the people who realised it was more tongue in cheek it wouldn’t. Do you really think she meant that she would try and force someone to do something like have sex or something against their will? This thread has totally been taken out of context in my opinion and I’ve have thought you of all people would see that x

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose.

Was it? Well I can be thick on the rare occasion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve never said no! Change him! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose.

Was it? Well I can be thick on the rare occasion

. Where would you be without me? You’d be crossing zeeeeeeebra crossings, booking preeeeeeeeemier inns and having long leeeeeeeeeeisirely breaks

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose.

Was it? Well I can be thick on the rare occasion

. Where would you be without me? You’d be crossing zeeeeeeebra crossings, booking preeeeeeeeemier inns and having long leeeeeeeeeeisirely breaks

. "

You know you love my accent

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose. "

When it was reversed, I gave the same answer.

And joke or not, I didn't find any iteration of this funny.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We can say no and I have before. No means no, regardless of sex. If this thread had been reversed, all hell would have broken loose.

Was it? Well I can be thick on the rare occasion

. Where would you be without me? You’d be crossing zeeeeeeebra crossings, booking preeeeeeeeemier inns and having long leeeeeeeeeeisirely breaks

. "

Ooh cringe.

*ducks for cover*

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By *izzymonkeyMan over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

Only 3 weeks and its nearly full....come on peeps....does no mean no or does no mean yes...I'm so conflicted.....

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