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over a year ago
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I am new to swinging but enjoy what i have experienced so far... I am now looking to expand my experience and try a m/f couple. I am so worried about disappointing the lady as I am still unsure of what I will be able to do with her.... How do I go about explaining that... |
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dont forget, we arent gay/bi by design, so everyone that is has had to start somewhere, so i really wouldnt worry about it.
going by past experiences, your bigger worry would be stopping the bloke feeling like an extra wheel while you and his OH get jiggy lol |
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I think the first time with anyone is a bit of an experiment though to be honest - but no worries because it's the same for anyone. I'm sure if you just relax and enjoy yourself and make sure everyone else is enjoying themselves too, you'll all have a great time.
So with that it's a 'good luck when ya do' from us 
Wolf
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well if you have the disire, which it seams you have then go for it, if you tell the couple that its your first time, get to know them first and it shouldnt be a problem |
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"well if you have the disire, which it seams you have then go for it, if you tell the couple that its your first time, get to know them first and it shouldnt be a problem "
I was thinking that too. Wanting to please others and enjoying doing it and being pleased too is one enormous positive!
....you'll be fine Jen xx
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"I really love giving as much as receiving. I was thinking that I really want to make a woman feel how good I feel when i am being pleased xx "
as has been said, a very big positive to bring to the table.
just wish you were closer as we have yet to meet someone that makes Em feel the woman thing is for her. |
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Doesn't everyone have these nerves to start?
We found just being honest and saying 'I really want to try but quite nervous and not sure how much i'll be comfortable with' Works really well.
The important bit is picking a couple that are chilled out and relaxed with no agenda.
Go with the flow and have fun with a capital F lol. Its how we roll... |
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We're pretty sure that there will be plenty of women out there that would be perfectly happy to let you see how much you wanted to please them.
As long as you tell them you are unsure of what exactly you want to do before you start and its a relaxed woman/couple it will be fine there have been loads before you feeling just the same... |
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You certainly sound curious to us...
Had another thought to whilst 'researching' Christpoher & Natalie's profile and noticing their add for a social meet.
You could try going to a larger social and chatting to a few of the other women there about their first experiences, you'll probably find a lot were very similar to yourself... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am new to swinging but enjoy what i have experienced so far... I am now looking to expand my experience and try a m/f couple. I am so worried about disappointing the lady as I am still unsure of what I will be able to do with her.... How do I go about explaining that... "
there you go ^^ cut out the explaining bit and you are just about there,many people who look at profiles look for honesty and thats what you have done |
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"Yes thats true ... I just would hate to upset anyone but everyone has their first time x"
just go for people with verifications from single women and explain to them, and its their choice if they break you in,
some couples ive been with dont really like breaking someone in, guess the head isnt as good as someone whos comfortable and done it alot! but some wont mind at all, as your what alot are looking for! |
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It might be an idea to add a couple of pictures to your profile. We do like to have an idea of who we are meeting. They don't have to be necessarily 'risqué' if your not comfortable with that. Maybe keep face pics for private. But it always makes us feel more confident about a profile when it has some pics on it and from speaking to others we know a lot do feel the same.
Just a thought. |
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I will always send a face and body pic when asked I have to be really careful due to my career... I will get a couple of pics done when i am next in the right situation....one with no face x |
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