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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Quick question.
How many of you lovely people, consider a decent conversation vital before a meet, socially or sexually?
Personally,I feel it's vitaly important. I want to be chomping at the bit to get face to face.
I also want the person or persons I'm talking to, to feel the same.
I'm pretty amazed at how difficult it is to find good conversation.
Obviously, this is fab, so flirting and imaginative chat should also be included at some point.
I'm guessing that most folk see flirty or naughty chat as a way of men collecting memories for the wank bank.
In my case it's the former.
Just wondering   |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Conversation tests chemistry. It's an investment into the good stuff.
If the chemistry is not there, nothing else will be. It would just be soul-less fucking. No passion or desire. And certainly no olives  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There needs to be a balance. I like flirty convo, but theres a time and place, if every conversation consists of constant sexual innuendo it gets boring. Fast. But thats just me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't stimulate my mind, you are going nowhere near my body!
Unfortunately I've now gone 2.5 years without due to the above   "
At what point are you gonna give it all up?
You always sound scunnered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't stimulate my mind, you are going nowhere near my body!
Unfortunately I've now gone 2.5 years without due to the above
At what point are you gonna give it all up?
You always sound scunnered "
I had to Google scunnered  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quick question.
How many of you lovely people, consider a decent conversation vital before a meet, socially or sexually?
Personally,I feel it's vitaly important. I want to be chomping at the bit to get face to face.
I also want the person or persons I'm talking to, to feel the same.
I'm pretty amazed at how difficult it is to find good conversation.
Obviously, this is fab, so flirting and imaginative chat should also be included at some point.
I'm guessing that most folk see flirty or naughty chat as a way of men collecting memories for the wank bank.
In my case it's the former.
Just wondering "
I think it's very important to have stimulating conversation before a meet. I never do short notice meets for this reason.
I like conversation build up to meeting, that's a big turn on! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had a meet a long time ago off here. We didn't chat, she just asked for my address and I bravely gave it her. Luckily she was genuine. She was also absolutely drop dead gorgeous. Problem was, I just wasn't turned on at all. Best I could do was go down on her, but when it came to sex, I simply wasn't interested. If we had chatted for a bit first, I absolutely believe it would have been a different matter.  |
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Talk about what, good to talk but you both know why you are here. Personally, like to keep talk to a minimum until meeting not too interested in mail ping-ponging or teasing lose interest and move on, haven't said that happy to talk if that is what the person wants as long as we get what is going on. |
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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago
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"Quick question.
How many of you lovely people, consider a decent conversation vital before a meet, socially or sexually?
Personally,I feel it's vitaly important. I want to be chomping at the bit to get face to face.
I also want the person or persons I'm talking to, to feel the same.
I'm pretty amazed at how difficult it is to find good conversation.
Obviously, this is fab, so flirting and imaginative chat should also be included at some point.
I'm guessing that most folk see flirty or naughty chat as a way of men collecting memories for the wank bank.
In my case it's the former.
Just wondering "
Couldn't agree more with you, op. Chemistry cannot exist with just one element! |
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"Go on then.
How many single guys on here would not shag a willing lady just because the conversation wasn’t stimulating enough???
Hahaha
You are having a giraffe!"
That kind of attitude shines through, though, and puts women off. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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The people not interested in conversation become obvious fairly quickly and it puts me off.
I think about 10% of men who contact me want a conversation and about 10-20% of those will have a mutual attraction. It's why I hardly meet now.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely when I was meeting I would always have at least 1 social but prefer more I like a lot of build up and like to know the person I'm going to fickn |
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"Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility. "
I hope you aren't saying that the two are mutually exclusive. |
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Oh I love a good chat!
There are some who want to chat, others who message and it’s fairly obvious they either don’t want to they just want a blind meet up with any vagina they can get at midnight.... or want you to talk dirty to them and get them off... (don’t get me wrong, I kinda enjoy the dirty chat) but not after 2 messages of “hi how are you” “fancy a meet now”?
Chatting tests chemistry, swooping faces pics, then talking about any old crap from the weather to favourite sexual position..
if you engage with someone who wants to chat, it makes for a much more pleasant social, leading to a potentially explosive meet. In my opinion anyway x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There needs to be a balance. I like flirty convo, but theres a time and place, if every conversation consists of constant sexual innuendo it gets boring. Fast. But thats just me.
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Totally agree! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility.
I hope you aren't saying that the two are mutually exclusive. "
Ok. I confess, I'm having a thick moment. I don't understand lok  |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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I like to flirt and have banter on here. If you go full on sexual from the get go, there is very little room to go, unless you both have an endless imagination, or three is a very short time frame from initial message to meeting.
If that time frame is extended then constant sex chat gets tedious and monotonous. There are only so many ways you can tell someone what you want to do to them.
Once a base level of attraction/interest is attained I like to get to know someone. You will almost always get better results from paying attention and asking how someone is than sending a dick pic every day.
The best time to talk filth is when you whisper it into your lovers ear just as things get steamy.. unless you are totally cringeworthy of course. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Go on then.
How many single guys on here would not shag a willing lady just because the conversation wasn’t stimulating enough???
Hahaha
You are having a giraffe!"
I wouldn't and couldn't (both physically and mentally) - there has to be a connection and chemistry on some level for me to be interested in spending intimate time with someone and that comes through talking and getting to know them a little - fastest I've met anyone from here has been a number of weeks, and the average is usually a couple of months from initial conversation to actually meeting. |
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"Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility.
I hope you aren't saying that the two are mutually exclusive.
Ok. I confess, I'm having a thick moment. I don't understand lok "
It reads like you're saying that you can't both have personality and be flirty/ naughty. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility.
I hope you aren't saying that the two are mutually exclusive.
Ok. I confess, I'm having a thick moment. I don't understand lok
It reads like you're saying that you can't both have personality and be flirty/ naughty. "
Gotcha. Absolutely not what I was insinuating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we can't have a good conversation with somebody we certainly won't be wanting to do anything sexual with them. "
Sums it up for me, good flowing conversation is vital. The other person has to interest me mentally to get to the physical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Promising replies. I agree, it's not always right, to jump straight into naughty chat. There should be vanilla conversation first. That reveals a lot about a persons personality. However, this is fab and most of us are here because we are all a bunch of highly sexed nutjobs(tongue in cheek). Vanilla equals personality. Flirty and naughty equals, sexual compatibility. "
Any sniff of sex chat before we've met in person and I will never meet them. It turns me off them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quick question.
How many of you lovely people, consider a decent conversation vital before a meet, socially or sexually?
Personally,I feel it's vitaly important. I want to be chomping at the bit to get face to face.
I also want the person or persons I'm talking to, to feel the same.
I'm pretty amazed at how difficult it is to find good conversation.
Obviously, this is fab, so flirting and imaginative chat should also be included at some point.
I'm guessing that most folk see flirty or naughty chat as a way of men collecting memories for the wank bank.
In my case it's the former.
Just wondering "
depends how popular the person is as to how much conversation you will achieve  |
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