Socially being a nice guy and polite is all well and good.
But sublinenly is that guy sending out a message that he,ll not be assertive at sex?
Once sex is on realistically do you ladies want us guys to drop the nice guy/ polite mode?
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"Socially being a nice guy and polite is all well and good.
But sublinenly is that guy sending out a message that he,ll not be assertive at sex?
Once sex is on realistically do you ladies want us guys to drop the nice guy/ polite mode?
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You've got me think about the opposite scenario and the women I've known and interacted with....
Ones who are kind and considerate are the same in bed.
Ones who are selfish are the same in bed.
Ones who are open and vocal are the same in bed.
And ones who are shy and quiet...well you just don't know til you get them in bed and open them up  |
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"Socially being a nice guy and polite is all well and good.
But sublinenly is that guy sending out a message that he,ll not be assertive at sex?
Once sex is on realistically do you ladies want us guys to drop the nice guy/ polite mode?
You've got me think about the opposite scenario and the women I've known and interacted with....
Ones who are kind and considerate are the same in bed.
Ones who are selfish are the same in bed.
Ones who are open and vocal are the same in bed.
And ones who are shy and quiet...well you just don't know til you get them in bed and open them up "
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Oh hell no....
I have known quiet, polite non-assuming guys in day to day life, becoming so much more when it comes to being behind closed doors..
But also know strong male alpha's being pussy cats when the door is closed...
Never judge a book by its cover.. |
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Well its never a good idea to be an arsehole they are just not appreciated I would stick with manners and a relaxed attitude as the majority won't meet anyone who is arsy or aggressive. |
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"Socially being a nice guy and polite is all well and good.
But sublinenly is that guy sending out a message that he,ll not be assertive at sex?
Once sex is on realistically do you ladies want us guys to drop the nice guy/ polite mode?
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Be you. If you're pretending to be nice, people will pick up on it. If you're pretending to be dominant, people will pick up on it.
In answer to your question, I think I'm a nice person. Though if the mood takes during sex I can be assertive, dominant, domineering, confident and demanding.
How you are as a person has got absolutely FUCK ALL to do with the type of sex you have. In my humble opinion. |
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"Socially being a nice guy and polite is all well and good.
But sublinenly is that guy sending out a message that he,ll not be assertive at sex?
Once sex is on realistically do you ladies want us guys to drop the nice guy/ polite mode?
Be you. If you're pretending to be nice, people will pick up on it. If you're pretending to be dominant, people will pick up on it.
In answer to your question, I think I'm a nice person. Though if the mood takes during sex I can be assertive, dominant, domineering, confident and demanding.
How you are as a person has got absolutely FUCK ALL to do with the type of sex you have. In my humble opinion."
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I never know what men mean when they describe themselves as a "nice guy".
I like a man to be nice, I don't want a horrible person anywhere near me. I do want a guy to have character and spirit but that doesn't mean he can't be nice as well and doesn't reflect on how we'll connect sexually. |
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"I never know what men mean when they describe themselves as a "nice guy".
I like a man to be nice, I don't want a horrible person anywhere near me. I do want a guy to have character and spirit but that doesn't mean he can't be nice as well and doesn't reflect on how we'll connect sexually."
A lot of men take the piss out of the 'Nice guy' And a lot of women fall for the 'Bad boy bullshit' Which is why it's even a thing. |
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Being a nice guy and polite doesn’t stop me being a good sexual partner.
I’m Dominant sexually. I can be polite and suggestive. I can be assertive and polite at the same time. Being polite doesn’t mean not asking for what you want.
Being sexually arousing and polite are not in opposition to each other |
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"I don’t like men who have a nice/polite mode. I like nice and polite men."
This!
As soon as you put "mode" it suggests your polite / nice guy mode is just a calculated act.
What we want is people who are decent, polite and respectful by nature that's simply who they are. Once true trust is established then all sorts of kinks can take place.
KJ x
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