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Do you lower standards to get a meet?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t really get the standards thing. That makes one person better than another? You can find different people attractive m, I don’t think they are of a lower standard though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
Seems I need a Susan Boyle style makeover. Thanks for the tips  |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
Seems I need a Susan Boyle style makeover. Thanks for the tips "
Give it a rest I'm sure Your really struggling |
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I have no standards 
As in its difficult to just from a photograph.
I fall for a character. A voice. A look. Body language. Some very photogenic people csn turn out be arseholes.
Other less photogenic people can turn out to have the devil in their eyes and a whole heap of fun in their tongue.
Which is why we tend to meet in clubs. A smorgasbord of options to socialize with before wasting time on wasters. |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
Seems I need a Susan Boyle style makeover. Thanks for the tips
Give it a rest I'm sure Your really struggling"
Only the lads allowed to complain eh? Woman haterzzz the lot of you. You can keep ya dicks, I didn't want them anyway... I'm kidding I do. Please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no standards
As in its difficult to just from a photograph.
I fall for a character. A voice. A look. Body language. Some very photogenic people csn turn out be arseholes.
Other less photogenic people can turn out to have the devil in their eyes and a whole heap of fun in their tongue.
Which is why we tend to meet in clubs. A smorgasbord of options to socialize with before wasting time on wasters."
A smorgasbord is a great way of explaining it, some things we like some we don’t but until we have the option we will never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No chance.i joined here to meet people I fancy not gross people i dont like that are offering it on a plate.Theres millions of those to chose from but no likey no sexy end of. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Being honest (always gives an opening for banter from you lot) when I am seeing a FWB regularly, the number and type of women/ couples I contact reduces considerably. "
Call me old fashioned, but I imagine you're a bit too busy to contact others when you're with your fwb?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being honest (always gives an opening for banter from you lot) when I am seeing a FWB regularly, the number and type of women/ couples I contact reduces considerably.
Call me old fashioned, but I imagine you're a bit too busy to contact others when you're with your fwb?? "
You are being old fashioned |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even i have a relative pick on here of very nice looking.... 'straight' guys so its not much fun for you lot, realities of fab "
You have more chance of getting a 'straight' man on here than I do!  |
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"Being honest (always gives an opening for banter from you lot) when I am seeing a FWB regularly, the number and type of women/ couples I contact reduces considerably.
Call me old fashioned, but I imagine you're a bit too busy to contact others when you're with your fwb?? "
When with, but alas that isn’t as often as we would like (violins out...) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not about standards, more people you are attracted to
Simple really
Very true, I find that takes time though
It does but makes the sex damn hot  "
Sex is only good if you feel attracted to the person, otherwise it’s just trying to be happy |
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"It’s not about standards, more people you are attracted to
Simple really
Very true, I find that takes time though
It does but makes the sex damn hot
Sex is only good if you feel attracted to the person, otherwise it’s just trying to be happy"
You got it, hence my amended post
Personally I can’t do it just to be happy the connection has to be there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not about standards, more people you are attracted to
Simple really
Very true, I find that takes time though
It does but makes the sex damn hot
Sex is only good if you feel attracted to the person, otherwise it’s just trying to be happy
You got it, hence my amended post
Personally I can’t do it just to be happy the connection has to be there "
It took me a long time to realise that, a connection with someone is either natural or not. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets?  |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? "
can we please stop using Susan Boyle as someone who is unattractive and not worthy ? Really there are women on here who wudnt stand a chance against her !
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"It’s not about standards, more people you are attracted to
Simple really
Very true, I find that takes time though
It does but makes the sex damn hot
Sex is only good if you feel attracted to the person, otherwise it’s just trying to be happy
You got it, hence my amended post
Personally I can’t do it just to be happy the connection has to be there
It took me a long time to realise that, a connection with someone is either natural or not. "
It has to be natural or else you’re not being true to yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? can we please stop using Susan Boyle as someone who is unattractive and not worthy ? Really there are women on here who wudnt stand a chance against her !
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So let’s not slag Susan Boyle but run everyone else down? Everyone deserves to be happy |
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If I've erred generously when uncertain, a social will confirm that my preferences have been established based on good experience. The wrong personality is always wrong to meet and I'd prefer celibacy to trying to be turned on by others who aren't a match.
Bags for life are widely available and may assist head covering, with less damage to the environment |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? can we please stop using Susan Boyle as someone who is unattractive and not worthy ? Really there are women on here who wudnt stand a chance against her !
So let’s not slag Susan Boyle but run everyone else down? Everyone deserves to be happy "
I wasn't suggesting that , Susan Boyle deserves to be happy too don't ya think ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? can we please stop using Susan Boyle as someone who is unattractive and not worthy ? Really there are women on here who wudnt stand a chance against her !
So let’s not slag Susan Boyle but run everyone else down? Everyone deserves to be happy I wasn't suggesting that , Susan Boyle deserves to be happy too don't ya think ? "
Everyone deserves happiness x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? "
You are like an agony uncle who takes everthing litterally. |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets? "
Whoomp there it is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To the ladies who say they never would... Id like to see what your honest reaction would be to this or other apps, if you had signed in male gender for a day or two. |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
If you spent as much time sending nice positive messages with decent pictures as you seem to spend posting self-pity on the forum, you might be doing better than you are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
If you spent as much time sending nice positive messages with decent pictures as you seem to spend posting self-pity on the forum, you might be doing better than you are. "
Is that how you managed to get so many ladies? |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
If you spent as much time sending nice positive messages with decent pictures as you seem to spend posting self-pity on the forum, you might be doing better than you are.
Is that how you managed to get so many ladies? "
white knighting I think it's called lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the ladies who say they never would... Id like to see what your honest reaction would be to this or other apps, if you had signed in male gender for a day or two. "
Not all men struggle, and if they do, not all of them are desperate enough to ‘lower their standards’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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would you do it in everyday fuckery?. I am not sure what the logic is in this.
enjoy flirts below par bit meets.. why settle for less than mind blowing? |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I have no standards
As in its difficult to just from a photograph.
I fall for a character. A voice. A look. Body language. Some very photogenic people csn turn out be arseholes.
Other less photogenic people can turn out to have the devil in their eyes and a whole heap of fun in their tongue.
Which is why we tend to meet in clubs. A smorgasbord of options to socialize with before wasting time on wasters."
This for us too now although we no longer do clubs as our wants have changed & the casual fun sex even if regular with he same person/people isn't enough anymore & we are finding the idea of a poly thruple more & more attractive.
So we'll do a few of the big socials soon just to get "Out there" again.
As far as "Standards" go, that's a bit crass really, Yes you have "Criteria" but if someone is outside of those but for whatever reason be it looks/personality etc. You find them attractive & want to play "Make the bed sqeak" its hardly dropping your standards is it?
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
Not the first time you've used that comment on here. Really gets you doesn't it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not lowered, but my standards are very realistic, I wouldn't shag a very very hot guy because I won't accept someone lowering their standards for me and me being the ugly fuck
I meet guys I think are normal like me |
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"I don’t really get the standards thing. That makes one person better than another? You can find different people attractive m, I don’t think they are of a lower standard though. "
I agree I dislike when it when people talk about standard's. |
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
Not the first time you've used that comment on here. Really gets you doesn't it "
This..that so called Susan Boyle lookalike might be sexy in her skin, great company, fantastic at sex, stupid comment that you judgemental shallow person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have standards, that would be a bit contradictory considering what I look like. I either like a guy or I don’t, and if I don’t then I wouldn’t reply to a message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve all got “standards” be it more physically or personality focused which is a hard balance to find as a couple seeking couples. We like the old saying “go with the flow”, if it feels right, it is right. No one we have, or ever will meet, is below or above us in our opinions, but opinions vary  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Standards? Define standards in this context.
I know what I want, if people aren’t what I want then I won’t meet them. If that’s what you mean then I guess it’s a no.
Standards, leagues etc. Not words I like or use. |
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"I don’t have standards, that would be a bit contradictory considering what I look like. I either like a guy or I don’t, and if I don’t then I wouldn’t reply to a message "
nothing wrong with what you look like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have standards, that would be a bit contradictory considering what I look like. I either like a guy or I don’t, and if I don’t then I wouldn’t reply to a message nothing wrong with what you look like "
The thing with photos is you only see what people want you to see. For every photo that makes you look semi decent, there’s a hundred more that gets deleted lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes.
I think that one post tells any prospective meet all they need to know really...
You'll lower your "standards" to get a meet
Women who happen to meet athletic men are comparable to Susan Boyle with the inference that they only meet those men because the men are desperate.
And you wonder why you struggle to get meets?
You are like an agony uncle who takes everthing litterally. "
I can only react to the words in front of me - and suggesting I have taken what you said too literally would suggest that you didn't mean what you said which would make your comment deliberately inflammatory - what does that indicate?
Or alternatively you did mean them - in which case my "literal" response was appropriate.
Either way back to your OP - why would I lower my standards? The only reason I can think anyone would do so would be desperation - and frankly (to misquote one George O'Dowd) I'd rather have a cup of tea than do that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
Maybe if here is such a negative place requiring you to lower your standards then the real world is calling ... try talking to ladies in social settings and meeting them that way? It's great fun and you might even get to meet the right ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bet most people would think our standards had been lowered because we are on here! Lol
I’m pretty sure upstanding members of the community would agree!
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Tbh would you ever drop your standards in any part of your life.
It's like your job, would you take a pay cut to do the same as you do now, not a chance so why would you drop your standards.
You always want the next step in life to get the best of the best. So surely you would want the finer things in life and a attractive lady to enjoy your time with, some one with hot sexual chemistry wanting to rip each others clothes off instead of someone than just a quick fuck. |
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"Tbh would you ever drop your standards in any part of your life.
It's like your job, would you take a pay cut to do the same as you do now, not a chance so why would you drop your standards.
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What if you didn't have a job, and were desperate for money? |
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"I don’t have standards, that would be a bit contradictory considering what I look like. I either like a guy or I don’t, and if I don’t then I wouldn’t reply to a message nothing wrong with what you look like
The thing with photos is you only see what people want you to see. For every photo that makes you look semi decent, there’s a hundred more that gets deleted lol"
hence me not having alot of photos |
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"Tbh would you ever drop your standards in any part of your life.
It's like your job, would you take a pay cut to do the same as you do now, not a chance so why would you drop your standards.
What if you didn't have a job, and were desperate for money?"
I still wouldnt lower my standards because then I'm changing who I am or the way I am.
If i had no job I'd be putting my time into getting one and less time on here until i got myself sorted but that's just who i am i wont change for no one because if they are wanting you to change then it's not meant to be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel if I don't lower my standards, I will never meet anyone.
Because women are like gold dust and spoilt for choicem
Just look at how many gym rats are shagging Susan Boyle lookalikes. "
Omg what did I just read? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"would you do it in everyday fuckery?. I am not sure what the logic is in this.
enjoy flirts below par bit meets.. why settle for less than mind blowing? "
Is this a serious question |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wrote this when I was d*unk last night and I didn't realise there would be so many replies.
When I say about Susan Boyle it's very much tounge in cheek and I don't mean to offend anyone. I think standards is the wrong word. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well have you? "
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please  |
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"Well have you?
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please "
I’ve tried asking, but still waiting..  |
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"Well have you?
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please
I’ve tried asking, but still waiting.. "
Would fuck any wet and willing hole, no matter who owned it |
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"Well have you?
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please
I’ve tried asking, but still waiting..
Would fuck any wet and willing hole, no matter who owned it"
I’m guessing this is from a guys perspective??
I guess if the answer from a guy is yes, is that not more condescending and belittling to the woman as not being worth it, but she’ll do?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well have you?
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please
I’ve tried asking, but still waiting..
Would fuck any wet and willing hole, no matter who owned it"
But that isn't lowering standards, that is just your standard for a meet. Hence my question ... lowering compared to what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well have you?
Never understand this question. In what way lower standards?
Do I have different requirements between meeting someone for NSA and finding a partner for a relationship - sure I do but is that what is meant by lowering standards?
Someone explain please
I’ve tried asking, but still waiting..
Would fuck any wet and willing hole, no matter who owned it
I’m guessing this is from a guys perspective??
I guess if the answer from a guy is yes, is that not more condescending and belittling to the woman as not being worth it, but she’ll do?? "
This is what I am trying to understand. If say to have a long term relationship I require someone with a sense of humour (I am picking something random here) but I will forgo that for a meet, am I being condescending and belittling? Have I lowered my standards or just altered them the suit the situation? |
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