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Am always curious about couples that profess to be ‘soul mates’
Having never had the pleasure of one, what happens when you realise you’re no longer compatible?
How do you feel about the person you truly believed was your soul mate for life? |
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over a year ago
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I've haven't met anyone yet who can handle me let alone be a soulmate. It would be nice to find that person who just fits into all aspects of me I suppose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you discover you're no longer compatible then they never were your soul mate. 25 years with mine and loving him more than ever  "
Awwww you sweetheart
But yes, this. Only eight years though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've haven't met anyone yet who can handle me let alone be a soulmate. It would be nice to find that person who just fits into all aspects of me I suppose.
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hang in there, button. Just do your damnedest recognise it when it comes. |
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I met my soul mate when I was 14.
We were best friends for 3 years, then I told him what I really thought of him. We have been together almost 23 years and our love for each other grows stronger daily.
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are hundreds out there for everyone. I have married two so far. There are several others I could have loved if I was of a mind to at the time we were together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've haven't met anyone yet who can handle me let alone be a soulmate. It would be nice to find that person who just fits into all aspects of me I suppose.
hang in there, button. Just do your damnedest recognise it when it comes."
I quite like being called button  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lost my soul mate to cancer just over four years ago,we packed alot into the 7 years we spent together and I feel blessed to have shared my life with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lost my soul mate to cancer just over four years ago,we packed alot into the 7 years we spent together and I feel blessed to have shared my life with him "
 I lost my first wife after 20 years together, yes it is shit, but the time and joy we had together far out weighs to pain of losing her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lost my soul mate to cancer just over four years ago,we packed alot into the 7 years we spent together and I feel blessed to have shared my life with him
I lost my first wife after 20 years together, yes it is shit, but the time and joy we had together far out weighs to pain of losing her."
I totally agree it does |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lost my soul mate to cancer just over four years ago,we packed alot into the 7 years we spent together and I feel blessed to have shared my life with him
Jo.Xx "
Thank you Jo xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a woman, we had coffee. It was like we knew each other forever and feelings just clicked.
After a few more coffees (on different dates) we parted and decided it was for the best we never met again.
It was tough as it felt like I had met someone who should have been in my life, and if our lives had taken different paths, we would have complimented each other perfectly.
I can't blame hormones or lust as we didn't even kiss.
We can have multiple connections on different levels, with different feelings. I am happy for those who have their soul mate who fulfils every aspect of their lives.
But if I have a soul (questionable I'm sure) it belongs to several people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Took me til I was 41 to find my soulmate. I honestly believe I could never love anyone as much as I love him.
Took me until I was 48 but so worth the wait
Mrs xx"
defineitly. Xx |
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By *cgkcCouple
over a year ago
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"I've haven't met anyone yet who can handle me let alone be a soulmate. It would be nice to find that person who just fits into all aspects of me I suppose.
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This is why I prefer to think of 'meeting your match'.
When I met Mrs, I knew I'd met my match, and 20 years later this helps us work through the inevitable problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree"
That's soulless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never had anything close to finding this, it could be a myth or it could be my life is too much for them!
Time will tell though.
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Perhaps you need to look further afield  |
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless "
that's quite a big statement to make. Why do you think its soulless?
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless "
I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it gives more credit to the people making the partnership work rather than saying it was just destiny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recently met a girl who is the closest I’ve ever considered to a soul mate- we are so compatible except for about 10% of her kinks that sadly would always make themselves known
I do worry about where they are going to take her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless that's quite a big statement to make. Why do you think its soulless?
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I just think I know too many ppl who've given up on life too early, like even if you've not found a soul friend yet, it doesn't mean there's not one waiting. The thing about making it work I personally believe is an excuse made by ppl who chose the wrong person and don't want to admit there could be someone perfect waiting. When it's right it's right and effortless imho and it's not work its a pleasure.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another."
I kinda disagree. I've never felt like we're "making it work" and we've been through some real shitty times together. But never once have I felt like I've had to fight to stay together. I've just always known we'll be as strong as ever when it all blows over. It's never entered either of our minds that we wouldn't just be together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless that's quite a big statement to make. Why do you think its soulless?
I just think I know too many ppl who've given up on life too early, like even if you've not found a soul friend yet, it doesn't mean there's not one waiting. The thing about making it work I personally believe is an excuse made by ppl who chose the wrong person and don't want to admit there could be someone perfect waiting. When it's right it's right and effortless imho and it's not work its a pleasure.... "
As soneone who has been mostly happily married to a fella I considered to be my soulmate,I agree with this,it's no longer effortless,and no longer right,it's work |
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless that's quite a big statement to make. Why do you think its soulless?
I just think I know too many ppl who've given up on life too early, like even if you've not found a soul friend yet, it doesn't mean there's not one waiting. The thing about making it work I personally believe is an excuse made by ppl who chose the wrong person and don't want to admit there could be someone perfect waiting. When it's right it's right and effortless imho and it's not work its a pleasure.... "
My partner and I have been together since you were 3 years old. We have worked damn hard to make our relationship work I'm not quite sure how you can infer that we chose the wrong partner and have given up on life because we don't put the success of our relationship down to being soul mates.If a relationship is effortless it means one or both are putting no effort in and someone is fooling themselves. |
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I'm inclined to agree
That's soulless that's quite a big statement to make. Why do you think its soulless?
I just think I know too many ppl who've given up on life too early, like even if you've not found a soul friend yet, it doesn't mean there's not one waiting. The thing about making it work I personally believe is an excuse made by ppl who chose the wrong person and don't want to admit there could be someone perfect waiting. When it's right it's right and effortless imho and it's not work its a pleasure.... "
I have literally never met a couple ever who's relationship I would describe as effortless. My grandparents were together from teenagers until they died in their 70s so I have seen love that spanned over half a century. I think the idea of soulmates can lead people to prematurely end relationships when things aren't easy rather than actually putting the work in. At the end of the day humans can be shit and none of us are perfect.
Also from a purely evolutionary perspective, love is just a chemical reaction designed to make us procreate and co-parent. If something happens to our current mate we are designed to find another. It might not sound as romantic but as I said, it's a viewpoint that gives credit to a couple who maintain a long term, happy relationship. |
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I kinda disagree. I've never felt like we're "making it work" and we've been through some real shitty times together. But never once have I felt like I've had to fight to stay together. I've just always known we'll be as strong as ever when it all blows over. It's never entered either of our minds that we wouldn't just be together. "
I didn't mean that it was a fight or a chore. Just that relationships last when both people are committed to maintaining a healthy relationship and making each other happy rather than relying on it being predetermined. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't believe in soulmates. After a certain degree of compatibility, the rest is just a mutual commitment to making it work and respect for one another.
I kinda disagree. I've never felt like we're "making it work" and we've been through some real shitty times together. But never once have I felt like I've had to fight to stay together. I've just always known we'll be as strong as ever when it all blows over. It's never entered either of our minds that we wouldn't just be together.
I didn't mean that it was a fight or a chore. Just that relationships last when both people are committed to maintaining a healthy relationship and making each other happy rather than relying on it being predetermined."
Yeah, I know, that happens naturally when it's right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Better to have loved and kept. I'm winning on that score
Think we're Level pegging!"
Ummmmm, pegging????  |
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"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Better to have loved and kept. I'm winning on that score
Think we're Level pegging!
Ummmmm, pegging???? "
That was my reaction too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Better to have loved and kept. I'm winning on that score
Think we're Level pegging!
Ummmmm, pegging????
That was my reaction too "
I'd give anything a go for a beautiful pair of boobs, I'm not proud......  |
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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago
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"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Better to have loved and kept. I'm winning on that score
Think we're Level pegging!
Ummmmm, pegging????
That was my reaction too "
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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago
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"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
Better to have loved and kept. I'm winning on that score
Think we're Level pegging!
Ummmmm, pegging????
That was my reaction too
Someone mention pegging?????
I'd give anything a go for a beautiful pair of boobs, I'm not proud...... "
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"Some interesting and honest revelations.
Do you think having loved and lost is the same as having a soul mate? I don’t think it is.."
Soul mates die just like anybody else so its possible to have a soul mate and lose them.
I think believing in soul mates could leave a lot of lonely widows and widowers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am always curious about couples that profess to be ‘soul mates’
Having never had the pleasure of one, what happens when you realise you’re no longer compatible?
How do you feel about the person you truly believed was your soul mate for life? "
Your heart breaks for years and perhaps you can never commit the same again. |
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