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Do u get softer or harder with age
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a lot more laid back - my general feelings towards a lot of stuff is ‘I’m too old for this shit’. Makes for a lot easier life to just let some things go  "
This but also I’m less likely to put up with any shit now and will always speak up if I’m not happy about something! |
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Age has made my not give a fuck attitude even more not give a total fuck I really don’t give a fuck for arseholes, stupid people or stress. Over the shoulder it goes
No sorry I must jog on as I’ve a blood pressure test today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely wiser and probably harder, I'm less likely to tolerate poor service and bad manners.
I also see through people with more clarity and call them out if they're bulshitting me. |
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A mixture of both...
I’m harder in that I don’t suffer fools or numpties, or individuals that think they can walk all over you.
On the other hand, as you get older you realise what is really important in life. It’s the little things you can do for someone that can mean the world of difference to them, just the simple act of listening when they need an ear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer fools even less now and just surround myself with the people I want but I,m more relaxed in other aspects . Makes you think though . Good question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s a book called the chimp paradox, which is a phenomenal read. It explains in some detail why your likely to react, or have reacted, in a particular way. It then goes through varying steps to what will help with those changes.
It is something that we will all do throughout life, but I think it’s more events than age that allows the emotional maturity to develop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A mixture of both...
I’m harder in that I don’t suffer fools or numpties, or individuals that think they can walk all over you.
On the other hand, as you get older you realise what is really important in life. It’s the little things you can do for someone that can mean the world of difference to them, just the simple act of listening when they need an ear "
Without a doubt
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask both my daughters, I've definitely softened over the years, a lot of stuff that used to wind me up washes right over me now, the Scottish fire still burns within though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's natural to mellow with age, despite all the knocks that life deals you. I'm much more emotionally open now, though to be honest, i'm still struggling with empathy.  |
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A mix of both.
Softer, as I have far more patience & empathy. I'm more tolerant, understanding sympathetic towards others, than I was 30yrs ago
Harder, a life has given me several good kickings. I don't take bullshit, and will walk away, cut dead anyone I feel isn't a positive force in my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A mix of both.
Softer, as I have far more patience & empathy. I'm more tolerant, understanding sympathetic towards others, than I was 30yrs ago
Harder, a life has given me several good kickings. I don't take bullshit, and will walk away, cut dead anyone I feel isn't a positive force in my life. "
You’re a strong women Miss, just from what you’ve told me and that’s probably only half of it. Big respect for you my lovely x  |
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"A mix of both.
Softer, as I have far more patience & empathy. I'm more tolerant, understanding sympathetic towards others, than I was 30yrs ago
Harder, a life has given me several good kickings. I don't take bullshit, and will walk away, cut dead anyone I feel isn't a positive force in my life.
You’re a strong women Miss, just from what you’ve told me and that’s probably only half of it. Big respect for you my lovely x "
Thank you my lovely, and the same can be said for you xx |
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I'm a great deal harder in many ways. I've never suffered fools gladly, now I just don't suffer them at all, I'm far more cynical than I was and take absolutely no crap from anyone. However I have empathy and if someone deserves sympathy and understanding (even if nobody else thinks they do) I give it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think age has to do with it. I was always a softie. Then I had some hard blows (literally) and it made me hate the world. I rebuilt myself but still wouldn't trust. Now I'm soft as anything and I hate how vunerable that makes me |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Harder.. I’ve had a lot of shit to deal with in recent years and it’s wiped out my once naturally positive outlook on life.
I have to really look with a magnifying glass to see the good in people these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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id like to say softer but with the job I do I would say I am a lot less tolerant of things that would normally cause stress so probably harder in general but with people I really know im very mellow |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think I'm a lot softer. Losing several people who have been close to me in the past few years has changed me. I was quite an outspoken gobshite but now I find I'm less that way (or I keep it to myself a lot more ). I've realised that words can really have an impact and it's far better to focus on the positive with people you care about. Life is too short. |
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