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Is distance that much of a factor?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So - forums are slow. My work afternoon is now dull. Because who actually goes to work to work right?  
Do you feel distance is that much of an off put to you? So say an individual was travelling through your area for 1 week at a time every month. Would you consider meeting with them
Regularly?
Or because their home location is far away from you - it’s off putting?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Distance is not a consideration for the right person who I have already built a rapport with. "
Good man - how did that come about? Strike up a convo through messages? Or in a club?
(Assuming they’re from here) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately yes, I’ve very little free time and travel a lot so when trying to arrange things, I try and keep the traveling within reason, maybe a few hours |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We're lazy fabbers so definitely is for us. "
For me - I wouldn’t travel more than 30-40 miles for a meet.
But I’m often based remotely for work a week at a time. In the same location monthly - so it may even warrant me changing my location to connect with individuals. |
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By *mJamsCouple
over a year ago
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I think if you have a connection with someone then the distance doesn’t have to be an issue. And if someone was in your area once a month or so then no reason you couldn’t make it work. |
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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago
A world all of his own |
"Distance can be a pain but most obstacles can be overcome if you want to meet with someone x"
Yeah pretty much the same for me. Because of shift work and hours etc I only really have one weekend out of three available if I'm going to be travelling a long way so it just takes planning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends. I was adamant I wouldn’t travel more than an hour for anyone. That’s all changed now. We said we’d probably only be able to see each other once a month. It been 3 times a week a few times  . Totally depends who it is and what you’re looking for I think. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If the connection is right, distance means nothing. "
Very true - you’d get sheer excitement driving on the way to a meet! Especially one you have a connection with / time flies by! |
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We tend to have to do a round trip of a 100 miles or more ,because of where we live ,and thats meeting half way ,between lack of time and the expense ,fuel ,hotel its not easy ,BUT saying that it wont and hasnt put us off as life is short so we are living it NOW ... |
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If someone travelled regularly and consistently it wouldn't be an issue.
It comes to the fact people usually only want one-offs and I'm not looking for that.
Many will say everything they think I want to hear. That they would visit regularly but the distance is tedious for them becomes more of a chore in the end.
When I used to have my inbox open I would get many messages from guys saying they were in the area working locally for a short while or passing through, I'm just plain not interested in being a hook up.
I met with one guy who worked in the area 2 days a month but he was only interested in one-offs when he had no one else interested. Messages months later after no communication asking if I fancy going his hotel, lol not a chance been there had the piss taken. Once bitten twice shy so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So - forums are slow. My work afternoon is now dull. Because who actually goes to work to work right?
Do you feel distance is that much of an off put to you? So say an individual was travelling through your area for 1 week at a time every month. Would you consider meeting with them
Regularly?
Or because their home location is far away from you - it’s off putting?
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only if shes my girl my penis is unavailable to the rest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone travelled regularly and consistently it wouldn't be an issue.
It comes to the fact people usually only want one-offs and I'm not looking for that.
Many will say everything they think I want to hear. That they would visit regularly but the distance is tedious for them becomes more of a chore in the end.
When I used to have my inbox open I would get many messages from guys saying they were in the area working locally for a short while or passing through, I'm just plain not interested in being a hook up.
I met with one guy who worked in the area 2 days a month but he was only interested in one-offs when he had no one else interested. Messages months later after no communication asking if I fancy going his hotel, lol not a chance been there had the piss taken. Once bitten twice shy so to speak."
I suppose! That’s very true.
For instance out of my meets there’s 2 women I’m regularly in contact with! Both from 3 years ago - everyone recently no longer in contact with.
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t mind driving the odd 245 miles and back if it means we can spend some quality time together seeing as he does it for me too. Although it’s fun meeting halfway sometimes for a sexy weekend away.  |
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"If someone travelled regularly and consistently it wouldn't be an issue.
It comes to the fact people usually only want one-offs and I'm not looking for that.
Many will say everything they think I want to hear. That they would visit regularly but the distance is tedious for them becomes more of a chore in the end.
When I used to have my inbox open I would get many messages from guys saying they were in the area working locally for a short while or passing through, I'm just plain not interested in being a hook up.
I met with one guy who worked in the area 2 days a month but he was only interested in one-offs when he had no one else interested. Messages months later after no communication asking if I fancy going his hotel, lol not a chance been there had the piss taken. Once bitten twice shy so to speak.
I suppose! That’s very true.
For instance out of my meets there’s 2 women I’m regularly in contact with! Both from 3 years ago - everyone recently no longer in contact with.
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I have a few companions I see every now and then and known them over 2.5 years if it wasn't for distance and available free time I'd see them more often.
Distance will always be a factor for fwb/fb/playmates/companions.
Hookups it's just like a trip away change of scenery so people are happy to make one off visits over distance. But regularly it's less likely.
I do social only 1st meets its a long way to visit for a social. Many say it would be worth it, but to me it's not because they agree social but they always end up trying to make it worth their visit. I've even considered making it 2 social visits before sex if someone wants a regular playmate then they wouldn't mind making sure we're compatible. I want to make sure they are genuine so the distance and the socials would be off putting to anyone disingenuous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I regularly travelled to Leicester to meet a lady and she would travel to Wales.
It worked well for about 4 months until our work schedules interfered with it and we sadly fizzled out.
So no distance isn't an issue if you both want it enough.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distance puts me off, as does the 'I'm here once a week' thing.
If I get the urge, I wanna fulfill it pretty much right away, not have to wait for a specific night, or to wait hours for someone to turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t mind driving the odd 245 miles and back if it means we can spend some quality time together seeing as he does it for me too. Although it’s fun meeting halfway sometimes for a sexy weekend away. "
Oh my. That’s dedication right there! - leg shaking orgasms no doubt! Hahaha good. You can’t beat a hot weekend away of nothing but each other & endless sex! |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t mind driving the odd 245 miles and back if it means we can spend some quality time together seeing as he does it for me too. Although it’s fun meeting halfway sometimes for a sexy weekend away.
Oh my. That’s dedication right there! - leg shaking orgasms no doubt! Hahaha good. You can’t beat a hot weekend away of nothing but each other & endless sex! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone travelled regularly and consistently it wouldn't be an issue.
It comes to the fact people usually only want one-offs and I'm not looking for that.
Many will say everything they think I want to hear. That they would visit regularly but the distance is tedious for them becomes more of a chore in the end.
When I used to have my inbox open I would get many messages from guys saying they were in the area working locally for a short while or passing through, I'm just plain not interested in being a hook up.
I met with one guy who worked in the area 2 days a month but he was only interested in one-offs when he had no one else interested. Messages months later after no communication asking if I fancy going his hotel, lol not a chance been there had the piss taken. Once bitten twice shy so to speak.
I suppose! That’s very true.
For instance out of my meets there’s 2 women I’m regularly in contact with! Both from 3 years ago - everyone recently no longer in contact with.
I have a few companions I see every now and then and known them over 2.5 years if it wasn't for distance and available free time I'd see them more often.
Distance will always be a factor for fwb/fb/playmates/companions.
Hookups it's just like a trip away change of scenery so people are happy to make one off visits over distance. But regularly it's less likely.
I do social only 1st meets its a long way to visit for a social. Many say it would be worth it, but to me it's not because they agree social but they always end up trying to make it worth their visit. I've even considered making it 2 social visits before sex if someone wants a regular playmate then they wouldn't mind making sure we're compatible. I want to make sure they are genuine so the distance and the socials would be off putting to anyone disingenuous "
Agreed - if someone wanted me to travel 150 miles for a coffee to meet then I probably would be inclined to decline it.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t mind driving the odd 245 miles and back if it means we can spend some quality time together seeing as he does it for me too. Although it’s fun meeting halfway sometimes for a sexy weekend away.
Oh my. That’s dedication right there! - leg shaking orgasms no doubt! Hahaha good. You can’t beat a hot weekend away of nothing but each other & endless sex!
And eating lush food too "
Food & Empty balls. I see why he travels anyway!  what every man needs & wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We travel great distances to meet the right people but we usually tie it in with w/e in the camper van when we can. The problem is who are the right people? You would you have to be sure they were the right people to travel 250 miles say. If we seem to get on then we would but if didn't work out we'd go off and do something else. Most get very angry and demand they get recompense or their time and puts a lot of people off travelling understandably |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We travel great distances to meet the right people but we usually tie it in with w/e in the camper van when we can. The problem is who are the right people? You would you have to be sure they were the right people to travel 250 miles say. If we seem to get on then we would but if didn't work out we'd go off and do something else. Most get very angry and demand they get recompense or their time and puts a lot of people off travelling understandably"
I mean that could be very much the picture - but due diligence should always be done for a meet of distance!
I couldn’t think of anything worse than prep’n for a meet & then driving the distance only to get stood up or the person not be what you expected. |
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"If someone travelled regularly and consistently it wouldn't be an issue.
It comes to the fact people usually only want one-offs and I'm not looking for that.
Many will say everything they think I want to hear. That they would visit regularly but the distance is tedious for them becomes more of a chore in the end.
When I used to have my inbox open I would get many messages from guys saying they were in the area working locally for a short while or passing through, I'm just plain not interested in being a hook up.
I met with one guy who worked in the area 2 days a month but he was only interested in one-offs when he had no one else interested. Messages months later after no communication asking if I fancy going his hotel, lol not a chance been there had the piss taken. Once bitten twice shy so to speak.
I suppose! That’s very true.
For instance out of my meets there’s 2 women I’m regularly in contact with! Both from 3 years ago - everyone recently no longer in contact with.
I have a few companions I see every now and then and known them over 2.5 years if it wasn't for distance and available free time I'd see them more often.
Distance will always be a factor for fwb/fb/playmates/companions.
Hookups it's just like a trip away change of scenery so people are happy to make one off visits over distance. But regularly it's less likely.
I do social only 1st meets its a long way to visit for a social. Many say it would be worth it, but to me it's not because they agree social but they always end up trying to make it worth their visit. I've even considered making it 2 social visits before sex if someone wants a regular playmate then they wouldn't mind making sure we're compatible. I want to make sure they are genuine so the distance and the socials would be off putting to anyone disingenuous
Agreed - if someone wanted me to travel 150 miles for a coffee to meet then I probably would be inclined to decline it...."
I've never expected anyone to travel, I put everything bluntly and honestly. If they wish to insist after thats up to them.
I've had playmates from 100+ miles away visit regular but I've never expected them to. Life changes which have brought things to an end or someone does something stupid or just drifted apart.
One companion came every 2 weeks for 3 days via trains from 135 miles away for months. Some people are genuine it's just hard to find them amongst the rest who aren't.
I can't drive which is why I accommodate I'm happy to provide them with food, drinks and such like home from home. Least I can do for a welcomed guest who makes the effort to come and spend time with me. But it's making sure the person is trustworthy for them to visit my home in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've never expected anyone to travel, I put everything bluntly and honestly. If they wish to insist after thats up to them.
I've had playmates from 100+ miles away visit regular but I've never expected them to. Life changes which have brought things to an end or someone does something stupid or just drifted apart.
One companion came every 2 weeks for 3 days via trains from 135 miles away for months. Some people are genuine it's just hard to find them amongst the rest who aren't.
I can't drive which is why I accommodate I'm happy to provide them with food, drinks and such like home from home. Least I can do for a welcomed guest who makes the effort to come and spend time with me. But it's making sure the person is trustworthy for them to visit my home in the first place."
From up north - I thought so. Hospitality that of a hotel! About to hop on a train myself & come up! Food - watered & a comfy bed |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I've done a 2-3 hour journey for a meet before now but would only do so with someone I felt a strong connection and chemistry with - if the other person is willing to do the same it places pretty much anywhere in England/Wales within reach |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well 2500 miles away and two flights would you travel f*ck that lol!"
I suppose - but Egypt? I wouldn’t imagine the ‘swinging’ scene is that big over there? Or if there is even that kind of scene |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't see distance as a problem for the right person "
Very true. Especially if you very rarely ever get a connection with someone else. Makes it more fun travelling seeing new things/places |
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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago
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Having to mess about making arrangements is just too much fuss. I kind of irks me that when I tell guys they are too far away they almost always reply with 'I can travel'! Well of course you can travel, most people can!
I much prefer the convenience of meeting local people, it makes making short notice meetings easier and if we make a connection and want to make it a regular thing it makes life so much easier. |
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If I liked someone, wanted to spend time with them, then distance isn't a barrier.
Might take a bit of planning but anything is doable.
I've had a couple of long term FWBs, the nearest was 60miles away, the other 160miles.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I liked someone, wanted to spend time with them, then distance isn't a barrier.
Might take a bit of planning but anything is doable.
I've had a couple of long term FWBs, the nearest was 60miles away, the other 160miles.
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Something to look forward too - that eager wait until Friday night when you get prep’d & make your way to FWB house. Makes it all worth it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well 2500 miles away and two flights would you travel f*ck that lol!
I suppose - but Egypt? I wouldn’t imagine the ‘swinging’ scene is that big over there? Or if there is even that kind of scene"
No there isn't a swing scene here except some expats! I meant going over to the uk! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not that big of a deal for the right person. When I first met my now OH I lived in Liverpool and he lived near Peterborough. I worked most of the weekends and we still managed to see each other at least once a month. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not that big of a deal for the right person. When I first met my now OH I lived in Liverpool and he lived near Peterborough. I worked most of the weekends and we still managed to see each other at least once a month."
No surprise really - looking through your gallery he appears to have had a great time! I’d be asking to meet daily... hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well 2500 miles away and two flights would you travel f*ck that lol!
I suppose - but Egypt? I wouldn’t imagine the ‘swinging’ scene is that big over there? Or if there is even that kind of scene
No there isn't a swing scene here except some expats! I meant going over to the uk! Lol"
Yeah I didn’t think so - anytime I’ve gone there diving it’s a very quiet one!
I mean - if you’re travelling that far for some pussy, it’d have to be world class! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Not for us but that's because we don't want one offs & we've learnt that keeping someone happy on here leading to a meet can be difficult as it's then you find whether their heart is really in it.
But our last long distance visitor stayed for two days so at least if they travel to us we try to make it worthwhile.
Passing through though? not sure, maybe if as you say OP it's a regular thing. But you should never be the "I'm working in the area" you should be the reason they want to travel, should you not??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not for us but that's because we don't want one offs & we've learnt that keeping someone happy on here leading to a meet can be difficult as it's then you find whether their heart is really in it.
But our last long distance visitor stayed for two days so at least if they travel to us we try to make it worthwhile.
Passing through though? not sure, maybe if as you say OP it's a regular thing. But you should never be the "I'm working in the area" you should be the reason they want to travel, should you not??
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I mean that’s true - if you’re popping up & saying I’m in the area for work people will assume it’s a one time thing.
But in reality I’m just chasing someone to keep me company when my nights are lonely away. Eating - drinking - sleeping alone for a week in a place you aren’t as familiar with is nice - but company is even nicer  |
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"So - forums are slow. My work afternoon is now dull. Because who actually goes to work to work right?
Do you feel distance is that much of an off put to you? So say an individual was travelling through your area for 1 week at a time every month. Would you consider meeting with them
Regularly?
Or because their home location is far away from you - it’s off putting?
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as I only meet in clubs it doesn't bother me.. as chances are i may go near them at some point or they are messaging me as they themselves will be going to an event I'm also attending. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distance is not an issue for us as we love nothing more than a naughty weekend away . New city , drink laughs and filthy fun !! How all weekends should be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So - forums are slow. My work afternoon is now dull. Because who actually goes to work to work right?
Do you feel distance is that much of an off put to you? So say an individual was travelling through your area for 1 week at a time every month. Would you consider meeting with them
Regularly?
Or because their home location is far away from you - it’s off putting?
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Sure I’d meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Distance is not an issue for us as we love nothing more than a naughty weekend away . New city , drink laughs and filthy fun !! How all weekends should be "
That’s it - new city. New experience & everyone knows holiday flings are the best ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Distance is not an issue for us as we love nothing more than a naughty weekend away . New city , drink laughs and filthy fun !! How all weekends should be "
This ^^^^^^ even if didn't work out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Travelling is pretty much essential for me as I live in Northern Ireland. That said, catching planes to the mainland is as easy as hopping on a bus for me. Hire a car and I'm sorted. Flights can be had for as little as 17 quid and take an hour!
Thus I can fly in and out of pretty much any mainland airport quickly and cheaply.
For the right regular person it would be my pleasure to travel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not that big of a deal for the right person. When I first met my now OH I lived in Liverpool and he lived near Peterborough. I worked most of the weekends and we still managed to see each other at least once a month.
No surprise really - looking through your gallery he appears to have had a great time! I’d be asking to meet daily... hahaha"
Thanks it still took me a few months to persuade him we should be more than friends. Totally worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Distance is no issue what so ever. The guy I'm seeing regular is about 3 hours from where I live. Yet we have seen each other every week. Sometimes twice. I've just got back from seeing him now. Some people are worth traveling for |
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Distance is a big issue for me, I just don't have enough free time to be spending most of it travelling. And there's no way I'm accommodating (kids, animals, nosy neighbours, etc.). So yeah, only local for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't travel far, I can't afford it.
I feel bad that I can't travel, so struggle with idea that someone is prepared to travel to me.
I'd feel more comfy if they were round here, passing through for work.
Less pressure to be the person they have built you up to be, less pressure to perform sexually.
Then I realised I was just being silly and am sometimes persuaded to break my rule, for the right people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would definately accommodate this depending on the connection.
We would also go out our way to meet the person or persons deliberately to see them in the right circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the right person distance is just a minor obstacle that's quite easily overcome. The journey back also give you plenty of time to relive the best bits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all for the right person, i travel 140miles to london to see my miss D, we meet when we feel like it and our own busy lives allow. Nipping dowm this weekend for a whole weekend with her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I travel for 5 hours on public transport each way to see my OH. It's a pain but worth it and it wont be for much longer.
I should add the distance not the relationship wont be for long |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably would be for us once we get to that point. The reason being we have very little free time and sometimes can't get away till evening anyway so sometimes a long commute isn't even an option. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
I'm abit undecided right now.
I dont like the pressure if someone travels a long way for a social. I like to meet someone for a coffee/drink or meal etc
then go my own way.
I'm happy to meet people who are passing through for a social if we've spoken for sometime before or from the forums.
I cant travel very far maybe upto an hr due to my commitments at home. So as I'm looking for something with longevity I'm not sure it's fair on them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I travel all over the UK with my job and when staying in an area I message women and if I'm lucky to get a reply, it's allways no because I'm not a local man.
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Travel is not an issue for the right person that you have that connection with
Anyone I meet I’ve talked to previously for a while so you just know the connection and chemistry is there already, my meets are normally a day come overnighter so no need to rush anything the first time.
Some I’ve met just for a drink as they were local but I found the connection wasn’t there, probably because we hadn’t took the time to see beforehand |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm abit undecided right now.
I dont like the pressure if someone travels a long way for a social. I like to meet someone for a coffee/drink or meal etc
then go my own way.
I'm happy to meet people who are passing through for a social if we've spoken for sometime before or from the forums.
I cant travel very far maybe upto an hr due to my commitments at home. So as I'm looking for something with longevity I'm not sure it's fair on them.
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Next time I’m driving through I’ll send you a message for a coffee haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Travel is not an issue for the right person that you have that connection with
Anyone I meet I’ve talked to previously for a while so you just know the connection and chemistry is there already, my meets are normally a day come overnighter so no need to rush anything the first time.
Some I’ve met just for a drink as they were local but I found the connection wasn’t there, probably because we hadn’t took the time to see beforehand "
By the time the first drink has gone down - you pretty much know if the person will even be fun enough to entertain all night never mind have sex with |
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Depends on how you define distance. For some forty/fifty miles is too far, and that's just around the block for me. Personally, I don't think ninety minutes/ two hours on a train is a strenuous journey, although some people are limited by time factors also.
Once you're getting into the hundreds of miles, well...it would have to be worth it. I would always go the extra mile for someone I clicked with. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm abit undecided right now.
I dont like the pressure if someone travels a long way for a social. I like to meet someone for a coffee/drink or meal etc
then go my own way.
I'm happy to meet people who are passing through for a social if we've spoken for sometime before or from the forums.
I cant travel very far maybe upto an hr due to my commitments at home. So as I'm looking for something with longevity I'm not sure it's fair on them.
Next time I’m driving through I’ll send you a message for a coffee haha"
Yep you do that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm abit undecided right now.
I dont like the pressure if someone travels a long way for a social. I like to meet someone for a coffee/drink or meal etc
then go my own way.
I'm happy to meet people who are passing through for a social if we've spoken for sometime before or from the forums.
I cant travel very far maybe upto an hr due to my commitments at home. So as I'm looking for something with longevity I'm not sure it's fair on them.
Next time I’m driving through I’ll send you a message for a coffee haha
Yep you do that. "
I’ll wait a few years & then I can DM! Hahaha |
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I'm lucky that I travel lots but I find a lot of women won't meet visitors to there area(even though with me it's often every month throughout the year)
I guess it could be a polite way of saying thanks but no thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Once a month would be damn good going for us. Life means I can't travel so I've often thought it was an issue.
However, I have been proved wrong. He is miles away and is happy to travel to london. It's as and when we can but it works for us.
If I could travel to him i would, I love a long train ride  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So - forums are slow. My work afternoon is now dull. Because who actually goes to work to work right?
Do you feel distance is that much of an off put to you? So say an individual was travelling through your area for 1 week at a time every month. Would you consider meeting with them
Regularly?
Or because their home location is far away from you - it’s off putting?
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many will delete your message based on distance, many will even block you based on distance |
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Distance is a funny thing because it’s more the travelling time that’s the problem. Eg; I live in Southampton and someone could live in Dorchester (40 miles) and it take me the same time to drive there as if they lived in Bristol (60 miles) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I travel all over the UK with my job and when staying in an area I message women and if I'm lucky to get a reply, it's allways no because I'm not a local man.
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Where I live it's a huge thing, and yes I love to travel and have adventures but ... messages from guys "here for work" or "on my hols" is tantamount to "I want sex now but won't pay for a prostitute" so it's always a no go situation and that's the same with all the ladies down here that I've spoken to. So yes travelling to meet someone that you have a fantastic rapport with is awesome but meeting because you're staying here doesn't work for me at all. Meeting for socials is different though ... |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Distance is a funny thing because it’s more the travelling time that’s the problem. Eg; I live in Southampton and someone could live in Dorchester (40 miles) and it take me the same time to drive there as if they lived in Bristol (60 miles)"
This is a good point, We get "Your only sixty miles from Cardiff" But it takes between two & two half hours to do that sixty miles!. You could pretty much do Cardiff to London in that time.
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