FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Fab swingers form of ego boost?
Fab swingers form of ego boost?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"No idea.
Personally Fab isn't a great place for building confidence. It's extremely fickle and can switch from adoration to abuse in a split second. "
I agree - there’s females I connected with when I first joined 4 years ago that will never come back because of the sheer abuse they get here. So understandable! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No idea.
Personally Fab isn't a great place for building confidence. It's extremely fickle and can switch from adoration to abuse in a split second.
I agree - there’s females I connected with when I first joined 4 years ago that will never come back because of the sheer abuse they get here. So understandable! "
In conjunction with other things, and being lucky enough to connect with some great people here, it's helped me. But it's in realising that I do not give a fuck what most people think about me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It's nice to be told nice things but not obsessing over no..
Its actually been quite bad in 1 instance that Ive had to take precautions, social media, etc. That's not fun xx"
Agreed - was reading yesterday how a guy was looking to meet an individual then he turned psycho and was looking to share images of her.
Just make sure do your due diligence and everything should be cool! Met some great people on this site over the years |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I believe very little of what’s said - certainly not by people I’ve never met. You’re the most beautiful woman on here, you’re classier than most of the otters on here, you have a gorgeous body... then straight onto the next with the same lines. So while genuine compliments are welcome, the hyperbole does nothing to boost my ego. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times! "
Personally, it's had the opposite effect on me.
I know nothing most folk say on here is sincere.
The messages I get, false flattery. People telling me what they think I want to hear, thinking they can charm me.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times! "
yes..the amount of fk on their profiles saying fab my/our pics is embarrassing! Your an adult get a grip and stop begging for an ego stroke  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Hell yeah!
I am ugly as sin
Fab's taught me that doesnt matter
Alot of men aint that picky
Boosted my ego big time"
I just think it’s what women allow themselves to believe?... if I asked every woman on here to explain what kind of woman I go for they’d probably be wrong? - but they already do it in their head. Think this guy isn’t into me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I think for a lot of men it can be an ego destroyer
My personal opinion is that if your ego isn't strong in the first place this isn't the place to look to reinforce it."
I think that goes for everyone tbh. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hell yeah!
I am ugly as sin
Fab's taught me that doesnt matter
Alot of men aint that picky
Boosted my ego big time
I just think it’s what women allow themselves to believe?... if I asked every woman on here to explain what kind of woman I go for they’d probably be wrong? - but they already do it in their head. Think this guy isn’t into me."
What is it women allow themselves to believe? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"
I think for a lot of men it can be an ego destroyer
My personal opinion is that if your ego isn't strong in the first place this isn't the place to look to reinforce it."
Ohh 100%. I thought I’d do okay on the site. I came back & it was brutal! I even have more success on tinder & such.
Thankfully i couldn’t give a fuck what anyone but my momma says! Cause she says I’m beautiful  hahahah |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hell yeah!
I am ugly as sin
Fab's taught me that doesnt matter
Alot of men aint that picky
Boosted my ego big time
I just think it’s what women allow themselves to believe?... if I asked every woman on here to explain what kind of woman I go for they’d probably be wrong? - but they already do it in their head. Think this guy isn’t into me."
How can any of us know the kind of woman you go for? I know a lot of women (and men) think they know but it's not possible |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Hell yeah!
I am ugly as sin
Fab's taught me that doesnt matter
Alot of men aint that picky
Boosted my ego big time
I just think it’s what women allow themselves to believe?... if I asked every woman on here to explain what kind of woman I go for they’d probably be wrong? - but they already do it in their head. Think this guy isn’t into me.
What is it women allow themselves to believe?"
When approached by a guy they’ll automatically rule it out in their head because they don’t think they’re the guys ‘type’. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I think for a lot of men it can be an ego destroyer
My personal opinion is that if your ego isn't strong in the first place this isn't the place to look to reinforce it.
Ohh 100%. I thought I’d do okay on the site. I came back & it was brutal! I even have more success on tinder & such.
Thankfully i couldn’t give a fuck what anyone but my momma says! Cause she says I’m beautiful hahahah"
Yeah, I'm pretty much like that so is my partner. You either like me or you don't there's nothing I can do to change it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times! "
Some do I would think though more the superficial people, what harm do they do? Well not a lot really just leave them in their own little world. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It’s a hilarious place as my previous profile stated I was fat, ugly and crap in bed and I’ve never had so many messages...  "
Always undersell! Get there & be pleased with their discoveries. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It’s a hilarious place as my previous profile stated I was fat, ugly and crap in bed and I’ve never had so many messages... "
I had no pictures, at all, for about two months. My pictures were so, so gorgeous. I was so beautiful.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times!
Some do I would think though more the superficial people, what harm do they do? Well not a lot really just leave them in their own little world."
0 harm to me or anyone else. It wasn’t a statement - it was a simple question.
Some people do go on though - block list is forever growing. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We men on FAB's massively outnumber the females on here, so if we are fortunate to meet up, its nice if women acknowledges - in the same way, if a women allows us into here life/bed etc, then it is only right e compliment her
Is that ego massaging ????? probably
JP xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No idea.
Personally Fab isn't a great place for building confidence. It's extremely fickle and can switch from adoration to abuse in a split second. "
This ^
Personally I take everything said with a pinch of salt, especially from those I’ve never met. Those I’ve met you have a better judge of character and whether being true full |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fab can be very fickle, build you up one moment and pulls you down the next. Lots of fake compliments x "
tell me about it angie nomatter how many times i say it im hounded |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I would take everything with a pinch of salt, Its nice to be complimented but like most have commented above its usually only a means to an end.
Although I do firmly believe I have nice shoes....so to all the fans of them! Thank you!
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I gladly accept any and all compliments, it does boost my ego and there is nowt wrong with that "
This exactly. ( except we know I’m not allowed to say “nowt”).
It does boost mine, but we also look to meet. - Mrs |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No idea.
Personally Fab isn't a great place for building confidence. It's extremely fickle and can switch from adoration to abuse in a split second. "
I agree with this too. I do gain more than I lose most of the time thankfully. But the abuse is not fun. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
"I believe very little of what’s said - certainly not by people I’ve never met. You’re the most beautiful woman on here, you’re classier than most of the otters on here, you have a gorgeous body... then straight onto the next with the same lines. So while genuine compliments are welcome, the hyperbole does nothing to boost my ego. "
This 100% |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Obsession, that's a strong word that I don't find attractive in the least.
As for compliments it depends who's saying them...most are taken with a pinch of salt"
Obsession - had to be used. Only way to describe some of the people on here. They become fixated on you & will start making fake profile & such to message you - it’s a strange one to say at the very least!
But you’re a very attractive woman - people will compliment of course. Why take most with a pinch of salt? Is it you don’t believe what they’re saying or what? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I believe very little of what’s said - certainly not by people I’ve never met. You’re the most beautiful woman on here, you’re classier than most of the otters on here, you have a gorgeous body... then straight onto the next with the same lines. So while genuine compliments are welcome, the hyperbole does nothing to boost my ego.
This 100%"
Of course - surprised my copy & paste message hasn’t hit your messages yet
Hahaha - loses the draw to fab for me personally if you’re looking to sleep with everyone. All about being selective |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I guess some do. This hasn't boosted me though, quite the opposite. "
Single male - don’t worry mate. I’ve had A LOT of rejection messages! A LOT! But it’s okay - not everyone is for everyone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Just had the thought;
Do you think some people just use fab as a form to boost their ego?
You see it on dating apps all the time, people just going on there for attention and not actually looking to date.
A few certainly love their ego boosted - can’t blame then. It’s nice to hear compliments & people obsessing over you at times! "
It certainly can give you a boost, but the opposite is also true! It's easy to see through the fake flattery to the genuine people though, so as long as you don't take everything at face value, I think it balances out.
Mrs TMN x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We have found that swinging has massively challenged both our body confidence issues to the point that we came off the site a couple of times...sorted now and enjoying it all.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Obsession, that's a strong word that I don't find attractive in the least.
As for compliments it depends who's saying them...most are taken with a pinch of salt
Obsession - had to be used. Only way to describe some of the people on here. They become fixated on you & will start making fake profile & such to message you - it’s a strange one to say at the very least!
But you’re a very attractive woman - people will compliment of course. Why take most with a pinch of salt? Is it you don’t believe what they’re saying or what? "
because it's just to get into my pants which is cool that's why I'm here.
If someone tells me I'm the best thing since sliced bread and we've never had a conversation it means nothing. So compliments in context I will graciously accept and others disregard.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"I would take everything with a pinch of salt, Its nice to be complimented but like most have commented above its usually only a means to an end.
Although I do firmly believe I have nice shoes....so to all the fans of them! Thank you!
"
You're welcome. Amen |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We have found that swinging has massively challenged both our body confidence issues to the point that we came off the site a couple of times...sorted now and enjoying it all.."
Looking at your profile and great pics I would never have thought that.
You both look great x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"We have found that swinging has massively challenged both our body confidence issues to the point that we came off the site a couple of times...sorted now and enjoying it all..
Looking at your profile and great pics I would never have thought that.
You both look great x"
Agreed - looks like an excellent selection of images. Ones with a real effort shooting them!
One thing I appreciate is when someone puts effort into their images |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’m sure some do yes. But when you’re inundated with ‘complements’ without showing or saying anything you don’t really see much on here as real. "
I agree. But if they have a few pics they won't see the other side, and so will believe the 'compliments'.
The other side being where even with no pics and a shit profile, I can still get many 'complimentary' messages from men. All I have to do is put Men on my looking for list and I'm incredibly shaggable. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yes definitely it is.
Fab entitles a form of ego boost somehow.
As soon as you are trying to sell yourself through a profile you made, I'd say that you are using fab as an ego boost.
Now it will either boost your ego or destroy it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I would take everything with a pinch of salt, Its nice to be complimented but like most have commented above its usually only a means to an end.
Although I do firmly believe I have nice shoes....so to all the fans of them! Thank you!
"
Oi you pinching my salt |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
In general it gives me a boost which is nice, but my reality on here has been that I trust too easily and end up feeling shitty. Hopefully next time I'll find someone genuine but I'm going by the rule now that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’m sure some do yes. But when you’re inundated with ‘complements’ without showing or saying anything you don’t really see much on here as real.
I agree. But if they have a few pics they won't see the other side, and so will believe the 'compliments'.
The other side being where even with no pics and a shit profile, I can still get many 'complimentary' messages from men. All I have to do is put Men on my looking for list and I'm incredibly shaggable. "
Exactly.. some of the messages when they can’t see anything are hilarious! Destroys faith rather than gives any thrill.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We have found that swinging has massively challenged both our body confidence issues to the point that we came off the site a couple of times...sorted now and enjoying it all..
Looking at your profile and great pics I would never have thought that.
You both look great x"
Why thank you kind lady  i think most people have a wobble for one reason or another.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We have found that swinging has massively challenged both our body confidence issues to the point that we came off the site a couple of times...sorted now and enjoying it all..
Looking at your profile and great pics I would never have thought that.
You both look great x
Agreed - looks like an excellent selection of images. Ones with a real effort shooting them!
One thing I appreciate is when someone puts effort into their images"
Thank you for your kind comments they were taken in August this year whilst on holiday.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I believe very little of what’s said - certainly not by people I’ve never met. You’re the most beautiful woman on here, you’re classier than most of the otters on here, you have a gorgeous body... then straight onto the next with the same lines. So while genuine compliments are welcome, the hyperbole does nothing to boost my ego. "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I do think some use this as a ego boost as they don't get the attention in there lives off here that they do on here.The thing they don't realise is that most of the attention they do get here is just lies to suck them in |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm sure some people use it for that, and there's not really anything wrong with that. However, as others have stated it can, erm, swing both ways. A compliment can give you a lift, but it's always important to keep it in perspective I think. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I get the impression that some see it as a vehicle to portray a totally false, virtual character to that of the real life personality. Quite often they fail miserably because ignorance and arrogance don’t wash well here in fab land..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
