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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being nervous for our body the symptoms are exactly the same as being excited... Sweaty hands, shaking legs etc... The secret is to trick your brain thinking you are excited... Use 5 second rule...  |
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By *azielMan
over a year ago
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Take deep breaths, mentally tell yourself, remind yourself why your doing what your doing. Don't be afraid to tell whoever your nervous and take comfort that you can leave or stop at anytime.
Or simply say... "fuck it" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before a meet? Deep breath, walk in, smile and a firm handshake, then talk! In the knowledge that they will be nervous too, so trying to exude confidence, even if you don't really feel it, will help put them at ease, which will put you at ease, which just makes the world a lovely place  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get terrible nerves but depends on the situation how I deal with it. For meeting that's vamping it up to the max, it's much easier to feel confident in red lips and heels.
Other situations I try focus my breathing and adopt a power pose. Any kind of public speaking though and I need to resort to beta blockers it's that bad! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fake it. I get terribly nervous meeting new people and in new situations. I talk, a lot, with nerves though. After me waffling on for a bit I tend to start to relax a bit x"
I waffle about rubbish and literally do not shut up! And usually have a horrendous hot flush and end up looking a sweaty mess with mascara all around my eyes!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories. |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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"I fake it. I get terribly nervous meeting new people and in new situations. I talk, a lot, with nerves though. After me waffling on for a bit I tend to start to relax a bit x"
This is exactly what I'm like too |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
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"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories."
Isn't that to help you fall asleep? One way to deal with it, I guess. |
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SUCK IT UP.....
What's the worst that could happen.....
....or in reality....I probably just chat Shit....I'm good at that...
I don't get nerves so to speak, I'm quite a calm relaxed person in general?!  |
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Depends on the situation. Very rare I get nervous before a meet, only happened once.
In work situations, take a deep breathe, smile and sit on my hands and cross my feet at the ankles otherwise I’ll just fidget. Passes quite quickly though |
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"How do you deal with them? "
Is it regards a fab meet or more in real world situations ?
If it's fab i would say it's a case of talking and chatting lots so it feels like you're not meeting a stranger.
You could phone them on your way to the meet to get an accurate eta so you arrive just after them and you're not kept waiting.
In the real world if it's presentations to an audience it's all about practise and perpetration, talk slowly and give yourself sections where you can play a video to gain your thoughts and don't forget to breath !!
Take prompt cards, no one cares if you pause to look down and check.
Sometimes you can build in an early finish point if it's going pear shaped but continue if you're happy.
It does get easier the more you do and there's always the old trick of imagining the audience naked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories."
We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.
Isn't that to help you fall asleep? One way to deal with it, I guess."
Haha, no. It can be used to help with sleeping I imagine. I do it at work before I see a big client. It helps me be more relaxed and less nervous adrenaline and energy incarnate. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.
We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you "
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Breathing techniques/ meditation. Talking it through with someone, getting it out of my system. To some extent trying to rationalise, what's the worst that can happen etc. Plan for a couple of bad eventualities.
Ultimately accept that some level of nerves related discomfort is going to be part of the experience, put on my big girl pants, feel the fear and do it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can do the 4, 7, 8 technique - breathe in for 4, hold for 7, out for 8. Repeat it a few times. Remember how much you've accomplished so far.
You'll be an absolute star and we're rooting for you. If it gets really bad, SOS and I'll come up with some crappy jokes/gifs/stories.
We totally are rooting for you! So proud of you
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Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're hardwired to be nervous, it's a fight or flight thing when we are put into consequential circumstances. As long as you know when to fight and when to run then it's all good. Be nervous. Depending on the situation anyone else involved is likely nervous too, unless it's like an interview but then I would say that most interviewers would take nerves into consideration. Plus when you're nervous you're not cocky, cockiness looks worse than nervous I find |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel nervous whenever I do anything new. I try to focus on deeper breathing than usual and remind myself that the feelings will pass eventually.
Whatever your new adventure is I wish you the very best. You’ve got this x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are you nervous about Rubi  ....
The first day of my new adventure
Starting uni? "
I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying
Who am I kidding?  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Depends what it is really - sometimes I'll just adopt the brazen it out and get on with it approach, sometimes I'll just avoid the situation that's making me nervous, others I'll seek someone to talk it through with and try and get a semblance of reassurance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are you nervous about Rubi ....
The first day of my new adventure
Starting uni?
I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying
Who am I kidding? "
Afraid it's all quinoa and early nights now with students! Not like in my day, they don't know what they're missing! Good luck, I'm sure you'll be wondering tomorrow night what you were ever worried about! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Positive affirmations! Sometimes a good breathing technique does the job. I like one called golden thread. Grounding exercises are good.. when you find few things you can see, hear, smell, etc. To distract your mind in its anxious state. And being prepared. Whatever it is. Assuming it is something planned? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are you nervous about Rubi ....
The first day of my new adventure
Starting uni?
I am. Back to the days of living on noodles and partying
Who am I kidding? "
Hope it went well, daughter started yesterday too! |
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"How do you deal with them? "
Deep breaths and suck it up, nerves generally leave after you e started what you're nervous about.
Taking your mind off it is one of the best ways, keep your mind busy..maths, singing songs in your head....you'll figure your own way!
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