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Are adults still at home with parents weird?
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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1 of my siblings left home late 20s, one mid and one late 20s still at home, and the other 3 of us left by age 17, lol. The ones who left late/stayed are alot better off financially.
Although if mother ever needs caring for that will be me. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"aye they are weird
unless the son or daughter own the property"
I'm my mums carer and we rent, if that makes me weird then that's perfectly OK. Hopefully nothing happens to your situation that means you have to put someone else first and then be called weird for doing so. |
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If they're carers they deserve a bloody medal. It's very unlikely they're minted though. Caring for parents is one of the toughest tasks, vastly under valued, mostly unpaid and damn hard work.
It's not weird at all |
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Totally depends...
After a break up and having to move home now, moving hom to care for someone no...
However I have one friend who is 39 and well he still lives at home never moved out, runs taken over the family business, he parents have retired and I swear he is still a virgin... now that is weird! |
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My brother was in his thirties before he moved out with his partner. He had a few serious relationships before but nothing that made him want to move in with them and with costs of housing being what they were he either had to give up his nice holidays or stay with parents where he lived cheaply and came and went as he pleased. Nothing weird in that. |
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"Does not weird mean you would date them?
Feel like most wouldn't take someone still living with parents seriously in dating scene"
I know two people in their fifties who live with their parents. One always has apart from attending university as a mature student, the other had a brief period of living separately but now lives back with them. Neither are carers but I expect they will be as time progresses.
I wouldn't have a relationship with either of them because the type of relationship they both want wouldn't suit me. However they both are capable of holding down a specific type of relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ive a few friends who are in their 50s still at home though to be fair are carers
So how does that make them weird OP? "
I don't think they are, just Never left. Just overheard others talking about it snd thought, why is it worthy of criticism and why sre people so judgemental , especially not knowing the circumstances |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Myself and my children live with my mum. I did leave home though before moving back.
It’s only “weird” in our culture. Other cultures live with their family/extended family and nobody bats an eyelid. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know about weird more financial restraints in many cases. Better at home with mum and dad than living in a squat or on the street."
Well yes, i stayed with my mum after leaving the army. |
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"Ive a few friends who are in their 50s still at home though to be fair are carers
So how does that make them weird OP?
I don't think they are, just Never left. Just overheard others talking about it snd thought, why is it worthy of criticism and why sre people so judgemental , especially not knowing the circumstances "
People are usually critical and judgemental when something is different to how they live. |
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"Myself and my children live with my mum. I did leave home though before moving back.
It’s only “weird” in our culture. Other cultures live with their family/extended family and nobody bats an eyelid."
Yeah. In rural southern India you'd be weird if you didn't go and live in your husbands parents house or at least in the same village. |
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I'm back at home. Officially I'm taking time off between overseas projects, but I've apparently unwittingly been assigned the job of unpaid carer too.
I like that the old dear isn't lonely, but damn does it cramp my style. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the difference between living with your parents and living with friends or strangers in a house share? My dad's my best friend... I would happily live with him if I needed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they’re carers I don’t see anything weird about that "
Me neither. I also don't see anything weird about someone who lives with parents, because they are in financial difficulty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's hard not to judge them, there's a certain stereotype and assumptions made in that situation but no, they're not weird. People can live wherever they want, if it works for them then why should it matter what others think? |
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By *azielMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's hard not to judge them, there's a certain stereotype and assumptions made in that situation but no, they're not weird. People can live wherever they want, if it works for them then why should it matter what others think? "
Totally agree, people's cirmstances are always varied. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a friend who got married at 19, married failed and they divorced earlier this year.
He's 30. Had to move home after they sold and split the house.
I don't think it's weird, he got married too young, has a good job and some money, he just has to build himself back up now.
I don't see the shame in living at home temporarily to ensure you get a solid step back on the property ladder.
I think it's weird when people my age are comfy at home with parents. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kind of like the old expectations of living arrangements in Europe, but I'm specifically talking about Germany because that's what I know.
You'd live in a three story house, each story is basically a flat big enough for two people, bottom floor is granny, middle the parents and top floor is the kids.
Granny can baby sit, parents look after granny when she needs it.
Family dynamics don't usually work this way though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they’re carers I don’t see anything weird about that
Me neither. I also don't see anything weird about someone who lives with parents, because they are in financial difficulty. "
Yeah. I don’t see anything weird about any of it to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had to move back in with my parents at 29. Due to losing my home and now ex husband. If it wasn't for them myself and my son would have been homeless. So can't really judge unless circumstances are known.
Then again if its some weirdo 50 year old virgin bachelor, knocking one out into his mother's flannel nightie everynight. Id say he's weird. |
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If you had asked me 20years back I would have said yes. But in London, these days,I totally understand it. If my parents were still alive and in London,I would gladly help with their bills each month. Private rent is an effing nightmare. Plus you have my mates scenerio,he is genuinely looking after his mother. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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As suggested already, it can often be a case where the younger generation elements in a family cannot afford a home.
I see some younger people in the town where I work who on the wages they're on, will struggle to ever raise the deposit on a home in this area.
Even to rent a flat, will cost a fortune. |
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Me personally I couldnt live with my mum we get on great apart but together we clash, but for those that do are very smart.
Better off financially food on the table only down side is bringing a woman back could be an issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does not weird mean you would date them?
Feel like most wouldn't take someone still living with parents seriously in dating scene"
Many guys I’ve met in the last few years were living back at home after a break up. My ex hubby was living at home when I met him (he was 26) Not ideal but it’s not forever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn’t live with family. Left home at 18 and never looked back. If I had to care for them that’s different. My mum is too fussy with stuff and would drive me insane to go back for any other reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's the difference between living with your parents and living with friends or strangers in a house share? My dad's my best friend... I would happily live with him if I needed "
There’s a massive difference. I live in a houseshare in London and it’s very relaxed but also fun when we have parties. I also have the freedom to do as I please and have people over when I want. |
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"Ive a few friends who are in their 50s still at home though to be fair are carers "
In the case of caring, no. Otherwise yes a little, however I can see why people might HAVE to due to living costs, and their own income. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had to move back to my parents to escape an abusive relationship and eviction. In this day and age though I would say no as rent and mortgage prices are sky high and employment is at rock bottom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they're carers they deserve a bloody medal. It's very unlikely they're minted though. Caring for parents is one of the toughest tasks, vastly under valued, mostly unpaid and damn hard work.
It's not weird at all"
Exactly ...It's a very hard job ,and sad to see someone who you love in such a fragile state(and you know they were once strong and independent)..As you say they deserve a medal |
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My 27yr old son lives with me and i can not see that changing in the future as he has a few a additional support needs. Nobody should ever judge without knowing the circumstances. My son is not weird he just needs more support than others. |
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Some 50 year old twins near me still live with their mother. I guessed it was because their dad died when they were young do didnt want to leave the mam on her own ( not so weird). But found out recently that its a two bed bungalow and they still share a room which i thought was abit weird. Each to their own i guess |
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definitely minted though 
