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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.
In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.
So which roles do you think that you fulfil?
An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will  |
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I genuinely don't know what I am, although I can describe it.
I just kind of plod along. I try to be a cheerleader where I can, but I also don't try to sugarcoat people's shit. I get support both public and private for things I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I genuinely don't know what I am, although I can describe it.
I just kind of plod along. I try to be a cheerleader where I can, but I also don't try to sugarcoat people's shit. I get support both public and private for things I say. "
You’re definitely an injector of positivity but also a straight talker. |
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The commentators used to describe roles within the Big Brother community. There was the Maternal figure and the so called baby of the group. Some people gravitate to these roles but I wonder if you can overthink these things. Interesting though. But does it work for everyone and is it really an illusion. Is it a collection on individuals or a community ? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will "
There is that too but I disagree that there aren't roles being filled even unwittingly and multiple people can fill the same role at the same time.
I'm not saying that there is a hierarchy nor a pecking order but I also don't think that it's the random brownian motion of people that you describe. There is order even in chaos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am sporadic poster. Habitual lurker.
Cannot say I offer anything valuable to the forum particularly.
I don't stand out, neither do I particularly want too |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will
There is that too but I disagree that there aren't roles being filled even unwittingly and multiple people can fill the same role at the same time.
I'm not saying that there is a hierarchy nor a pecking order but I also don't think that it's the random brownian motion of people that you describe. There is order even in chaos. "
Brownian? Interesting I don’t see roles or people filling them I’m afraid.
What role do you think you have TM? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a role at all other than trying to be a nice, honest person, sometimes a little sarcastic. In my time in the Forum Community, I've started threads, joined in where I can, been agony aunt to newbies and people struggling, flirted and attended Forum Socials. If I could have a role though, I would like to be the Forums Nurse |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"The commentators used to describe roles within the Big Brother community. There was the Maternal figure and the so called baby of the group. Some people gravitate to these roles but I wonder if you can overthink these things. Interesting though. But does it work for everyone and is it really an illusion. Is it a collection on individuals or a community ?"
That's a rough guide to my thought process although I'd say that the roles are far more complex and can be fluid according to who else is posting, how they're feeling and other variables. |
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The community is like a series of Game of Thrones. There are alliances, loyalties, betrayal, battles, bullies, plots, sub plots and intrigue. There are monsters, plotters, braggers, liars, opinions, counter opinions, debates and arguements.. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I don't have a role at all other than trying to be a nice, honest person, sometimes a little sarcastic. In my time in the Forum Community, I've started threads, joined in where I can, been agony aunt to newbies and people struggling, flirted and attended Forum Socials. If I could have a role though, I would like to be the Forums Nurse "
There is that aspect and its interesting that you ended your post with the kind of conclusion that I was looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im aloof 
OK... How does that fit into group dynamics? "
i don't think i fit i amuse many but not in a way that gets audible applause and i probably have a reverse affect on many once again without audible applause, i think there are definitely cliques of people who stick together here as their are on lots of internet groups and apps but no-one knows anyone until they meet and not just once either, people form opinions and judgements but as long as one knows this it can't have an adverse affect on ones stance dont you think? |
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I used to be one of the ponderers that posted stuff I couldn’t organise in my crazy mind..
at the moment I’m just catching up so contributing in random stuff to make myself and others laugh.
I think it evolves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type
Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it "
Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received!  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type
Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it
Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received! "
Brace yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m that one who never thinks before they speak/type
Ooo Nora I’ve got something for you! I will send it
Ooooh I’ve heard that a few times and often not been impressed with what I’ve received!
Brace yourself "
Haha haha funny. And true!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don’t see it as a community with roles to be filled. People are what they are, interacting as they do which is a reflection of themselves. I think some people would like to believe there is a sort of ranking/hierarchy but I don’t agree. It is your experience and you will make of it what you will "
Seconded  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B? 
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
I am actually Chinese tbh
lies!"
Forgot to add that Iam a pathological liar too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab "
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec "
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x"
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"
Avec du sel de Guérande mdrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
Avec du sel de Guérande mdrrr "
Now you’re talking |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!"
D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube "
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha "
We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha
We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained "
Don’t forget to use subtitles x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant "
Ce sera de l’huile d’olive vierge première pression à froid pour Chill |
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I don’t think I have a role at the moment as I post very infrequently. In my ‘heyday ‘ I guess (or like to think) that I was a kind of forum big sister - someone who said what they thought but tried to do it in a kind way - and tried not to make anyone feel crap or excluded!
Whether or not I succeeded I’ve really no idea!
Not posting much at the moment as I’m getting to know someone who might become important and who isn’t, thank the lord, a forumite! 
Really looking forward to catching up with loads of you next week though!  |
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha
We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained "
What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha
We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained
What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this?? "
You have to blow to get the job |
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
I wish I knew what you’re talking about x
You don’t unless you’re into bi men and short on lube
Well it sounds sexy anyway haha
We’ll send you the video, it’s better seen than explained
What do I have to do to get to be camerawoman for this??
You have to blow to get the job"
That seems too simple...I think I need more clarification on who  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.
In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.
So which roles do you think that you fulfil?
An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "
That's a good question. If I was answer for both of us (though P may have a few points to add as is her modus operandi ) I'd say that we both flit between roles?
I tend to be an often light-hearted loosely guiding presence and philosopher whilst P tends to be a moral compass?
Whereas we BOTH tend to also be the naughty bunch at the back of the bus from time to time (which is often!)....
B |
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"I’m here to fill the french quota
What about F&B?
He won’t admit it but he’s Belgian.
Nous sommes tous frères dans Fab
Je connais pas beaucoup de frères qui veulent s'enculer à sec
Bah non, pas à sec quand même, un peu de manières!
D'accord, manieres sont gratuit et plaisant
Ce sera de l’huile d’olive vierge première pression à froid pour Chill"
Je suis heureux de voir le bromance s’épanouir. beaucoup d'huile d'olive et bien jouer, mais vilain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because of my personality so called disorder I read and answer very much with the gentle, curious respectful female side...I rarely let the male side out. ..my past was erm let's say hell so I have quite a different outlook to many..I look beyond the surface.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me? Jesus where do I start.
I guess I'm a little like the mad aunt who is insecure at times yet still outgoing. The crazy bitch who looks out for other people coz she knows how it feels to be alone and lost.
I try to promote wellness and belief in oneself even though I don't always lead by example in that respect. I do however like to think I give hope to others who've been through the mill.
I can be a pig headed tunnel visioned mule, but at the same time I know there's a bigger picture in every situation.
I'm a great believer in standing by ones convictions, yet being able to admit to being wrong.
I think I'm the reliable one, in as much as I'll be honest.
I'm just me, a complicated simple contradiction with a huge heart that likes a laugh, a confidante, a friend, but one with limits that will cut people dead if those limits are crossed.
Together we're probably laughed at, laughed with and I imagine we've hit a few people in the feels with our journey.
I'd like to think we're the couple that people are rooting for to make things work for all eternity, who get our happy ever after.
We're the down to earth, up for a giggle pair who aren't afraid to show vulnerability and excitement in equal measure.
B is like Nemo looking for adventure, and I'm like his dad seeing danger from all angles! I reel him in and he pushes me and reassures me.
P
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though."
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us. |
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"I think I have the mum role.
Not crowd control? "
Oh I can do that too. 
I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I have the mum role.
Not crowd control?
Oh I can do that too.
I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment "
Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us. "
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself."
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself."
Yep, pretty much what I said ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend "
Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend
Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party "
Party you say?  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend "
Standard. I think you just tune out when it becomes too intellectual - it's a different frequency . (not that this thread or my reply is in any shape or form).
You can always look at boobs and plug a story or two? |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend
Standard. I think you just tune out when it becomes too intellectual - it's a different frequency . (not that this thread or my reply is in any shape or form).
You can always look at boobs and plug a story or two? "
Now you're talking! Sounds way more fun!
My next story will be titled "Tales of Sex from the Twilight Zone". Can't forget to pay Rubi her royalties |
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"I really don't see the forum as a community as such. It's interesting reading how others perceive themselves though.
How do you view the forums then?
Self perception is always an interesting thing and often at odds with how others see us.
I'm not quite sure. It'd be too dull a stream of consciousness to type out. I don't think people do fall in to particular archetypes either - I think that it depends on who they are interacting with and what day it is and where the moon is.
Yes. Self perception can be how you *want* to be seen or try and portray yourself to be like rather than a true reflection of yourself.
This is getting too deep for my simple reptilian brain to comprehend
Join F&B and I, we’re planning a party
Party you say? "
Yeah! Two more seats in the Talbot. We’ll drive around looking for worthy salty arses. No cake allowed. |
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"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.
In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.
So which roles do you think that you fulfil?
An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "
I fill my role , where I dib into the forums and sometimes write stuff |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms "
I like this observation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms
I like this observation "
And I approve of your liking it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know as I fulfill any particular role. I’m just me, hopefully I’m nice to everyone , not argumentative, ready with a kind word. And a bit like that embarrassing aunty who flirts with your friends x |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I'm the bemused outsider looking in. Bit of a loner on here. Billy-No-Mates, if you will. I read a lot, post a bit and probably either go unnoticed or bore everyone to tears.
Totally the opposite to how I am in real life |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online? "
Many people do, it's also a common understanding of psychology that people assume different mantels in different social situations. Are you the same with your family as you are with your friends or at work?
People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance. |
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"I think I have the mum role.
Not crowd control?
Oh I can do that too.
I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment
Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then? "
I don't think we should go there
Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the old 'daddy' type, for those that like that sort of thing.
I'm also a pacifist and a voice of reason hopefully!
I also love science based threads, and like to give my opinion on them. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I think I have the mum role.
Not crowd control?
Oh I can do that too.
I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment
Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?
I don't think we should go there
Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle "
I agree.
I did a thread a little while ago about people's perceptions versus others opinions, it was interesting if a little limited. It did go to show how insightful others are and also highlighted how people don't see themselves as others do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?
Many people do, it's also a common understanding of psychology that people assume different mantels in different social situations. Are you the same with your family as you are with your friends or at work?
People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance. "
I can see what you mean and i understand why people do it. I'm just myself. I believe in truth, honesty, respect and integrity. To present something I'm not is dishonest and not how i operate. I expect the same in others. It's a real turn off for me and an instant deal breaker. If i find someone has lied or misrepresented themselves. It's an instant delete and block for me. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?
Many people do, it's also a common understanding of psychology that people assume different mantels in different social situations. Are you the same with your family as you are with your friends or at work?
People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance.
I can see what you mean and i understand why people do it. I'm just myself. I believe in truth, honesty, respect and integrity. To present something I'm not is dishonest and not how i operate. I expect the same in others. It's a real turn off for me and an instant deal breaker. If i find someone has lied or misrepresented themselves. It's an instant delete and block for me. "
I see what you're saying but I think you're misunderstanding what I'm talking about |
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" Community? Nah. More like a school playground. Everyone knows who they want to play with and decides which newbies fit with their group norms "
Shhhhh you know golden rule one is not to mention fight club |
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"I think I have the mum role.
Not crowd control?
Oh I can do that too.
I was once described as the alpha female of the forum in a similar way that a troop of monkeys has an alpha female. I chose to see it as a compliment
Matriarch? Who is the Alpha Male then?
I don't think we should go there
Who knows what they meant. How others see us is often not how we see ourselves and probably the reality is somewhere in the middle
I agree.
I did a thread a little while ago about people's perceptions versus others opinions, it was interesting if a little limited. It did go to show how insightful others are and also highlighted how people don't see themselves as others do. "
There was one recently where as an aside almost someone told me how they perceived me previously and now. It was interesting because in my opinion they were quite wide of the mark but as its their real impression of me on some level it must be true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After reading another thread I've been musing (yes I'm doing it again) about the forum 'community', it's dynamics and how people fit into it.
In order for a community to function, certain roles must be fulfilled and people consciously and unconsciously fit into those roles in order to facilitate the community good.
So which roles do you think that you fulfil?
An honest appraisal if you will folks, none of the morose and flagellatory 'no one notices me' that some folks respond with... "
Don't know what the word for it is. The one who chucks a thought bomb into the room to see how it affects/ inspires/ incites people's passions (good or bad).
Some may find that interesting and some may find that aggravating. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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"Strange way to see the site. Do you adopt a different persona from your own, while online?
Many people do, it's also a common understanding of psychology that people assume different mantels in different social situations. Are you the same with your family as you are with your friends or at work?
People shift behaviours both consciously and unconsciously to fit in and gain acceptance.
I can see what you mean and i understand why people do it. I'm just myself. I believe in truth, honesty, respect and integrity. To present something I'm not is dishonest and not how i operate. I expect the same in others. It's a real turn off for me and an instant deal breaker. If i find someone has lied or misrepresented themselves. It's an instant delete and block for me. "
I assume your initial comment was aimed at me.
To clarify my post, I wrote what is my perception of what others on here think of me. I do not adopt a different persona online as to how I am offline, but I have no friends on here so I feel as if I don't fit in, whereas in real life when with my friends my self-perception is the opposite of how I perceive myself to be on here, yet I act no differently.
I certainly haven't lied or misrepresented myself. Far from it. |
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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago
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Just a general lurker for the most part. I do/have offered advice/opinions on many varied topics and have also taken advice and learned from many threads.
Not sure how others would see me but I think I see myself as a voice of reason with a little humour and some sarcasm thrown in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im the han solo of the group the lovable rogue in love with a princess rough tough on the outside but a heart of gold shame for mystique mind you being my best mate makes her chewbacca |
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