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over a year ago
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Yeah i definitely get excited, i have one next weekend i have been looking forward to since early February. Love the excitement of meeting new people whether it be those you have been talking too, or those you have never spoken too but turn out to be really great fun.
I have made some good friends through socials  . |
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"Yeah i definitely get excited, i have one next weekend i have been looking forward to since early February. Love the excitement of meeting new people whether it be those you have been talking too, or those you have never spoken too but turn out to be really great fun.
I have made some good friends through socials ."
yes its nice to meet face to face after chating here ... some are nothing like youthink thay will be ... and some are just the same , lol |
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That is true, but that is one of the things that makes them exciting, its like going on a first meet without any pressure and knowing there are hopefully lots of people to meet and talk too, always plenty of surprises. |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either  "
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey "
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time"
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques. |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques."
hey don't apologise!!! lol, we live and learn |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
hey don't apologise!!! lol, we live and learn"
maybe you looked lovely thay could not cope , lol xxx yes we learn not to be like it yourselfs xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
hey don't apologise!!! lol, we live and learn maybe you looked lovely thay could not cope , lol xxx yes we learn not to be like it yourselfs xx"
ourselfs xx but woman can be funny if you look nice .. i have found this in the passed , |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques."
Yeah..... and form your own clique 
Just because it is called a socal it doesn't mean everyone has to want to talk to everyone else. Plenty of people go to socials to catch up with online friends or arrange who they want to spend some time with in advance.... a chance to meet up with some of the people they have been talking to online.
It's no different to going to a pub, except some of these friends have waited months to see eachother and have a natter.
The thing I find most annoying about socials.... the people who expect you to talk to them just because they recognise your username, when you have never chatted online previously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I remember travelling to a social in Ipswich a few years ago with my then partner and my girlie. We didnt know anyone. People didnt mix at first and it was a very cool atmosphere. However my little group just got into action. We mingled, moved tables together. Got everyone introduced and the party commenced. It was great |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either "
If you get that at a social it means you have been unfortunate enough to pick a social with crap hosts imo
kat x |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
If you get that at a social it means you have been unfortunate enough to pick a social with crap hosts imo
kat x "
Agreed, its great to have new people at socials, although its great to meet friends, it runs the risk of becoming stale without newbies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
If you get that at a social it means you have been unfortunate enough to pick a social with crap hosts imo
kat x Agreed, its great to have new people at socials, although its great to meet friends, it runs the risk of becoming stale without newbies "
well we will go to some more, as we do like to party, and i think it would be nice to see the people i chat to on here face to face!! |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
If you get that at a social it means you have been unfortunate enough to pick a social with crap hosts imo
kat x Agreed, its great to have new people at socials, although its great to meet friends, it runs the risk of becoming stale without newbies
well we will go to some more, as we do like to party, and i think it would be nice to see the people i chat to on here face to face!!"
You do right....some are fucking great and you will make some great friends xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques."
ohh you mentioned the c word....burn em at the stake....  apparently there arent any cliques....APPARENTLY...but i get what you mean and most who go to socials have been going awhile,but i went to my first one last year ...was fab but then again the hosts are good at organising them and most peeps who go do mingle but however there will always be the cliques...even tho they dont exsist..apparently |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
ohh you mentioned the c word....burn em at the stake.... apparently there arent any cliques....APPARENTLY...but i get what you mean and most who go to socials have been going awhile,but i went to my first one last year ...was fab but then again the hosts are good at organising them and most peeps who go do mingle but however there will always be the cliques...even tho they dont exsist..apparently "
I didn't say there were cliques, as polo said many people go to socials to meet people they have been talking too on line, and that can look like a clique because they have shared experiences and banter and you can feel like an outsider, that is just life, i don't see anything wrong with it.
It is no different to different groups of friends with shared interests meeting in a pub, there is the chance for everyone to meet or for them to enjoy the company of those they came to meet.
Surely better than if that opportunity wasn't there, people have the choice. |
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I enjoy socials and I do think that you have to put in effort to chat to people and mingle. Its nice to meet new people and they are a lot of fun.
I prefer a smaller intimate party than a big social I have to admit. Well for swinging fun that is. Big socials held at clubs are essentially about mingling and well socialising, not really ideal for swinging, not exactly discreet for play. There can be people that on sight you know you won't get on with, you may spot them giving you sly looks etc, but that is normal at any party or night out anywhere.
But I do think they are fun. At the two socials I've attended the hosts did make everyone feel comfortable and introduced others etc.
At smaller parties, house parties etc, people are in the same room so therefore all are chatting together. I really enjoy them
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
ohh you mentioned the c word....burn em at the stake.... apparently there arent any cliques....APPARENTLY...but i get what you mean and most who go to socials have been going awhile,but i went to my first one last year ...was fab but then again the hosts are good at organising them and most peeps who go do mingle but however there will always be the cliques...even tho they dont exsist..apparently
I didn't say there were cliques, as polo said many people go to socials to meet people they have been talking too on line, and that can look like a clique because they have shared experiences and banter and you can feel like an outsider, that is just life, i don't see anything wrong with it.
It is no different to different groups of friends with shared interests meeting in a pub, there is the chance for everyone to meet or for them to enjoy the company of those they came to meet.
Surely better than if that opportunity wasn't there, people have the choice."
^^^^^ read up i said u said the c word...was tongue in cheek...as its a toucy subject to some... |
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"I enjoy socials and I do think that you have to put in effort to chat to people and mingle. Its nice to meet new people and they are a lot of fun.
I prefer a smaller intimate party than a big social I have to admit. Well for swinging fun that is. Big socials held at clubs are essentially about mingling and well socialising, not really ideal for swinging, not exactly discreet for play. There can be people that on sight you know you won't get on with, you may spot them giving you sly looks etc, but that is normal at any party or night out anywhere.
But I do think they are fun. At the two socials I've attended the hosts did make everyone feel comfortable and introduced others etc.
At smaller parties, house parties etc, people are in the same room so therefore all are chatting together. I really enjoy them
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there was no introducing at the social we attended and we did try and mingle, and we did say hello to a few people!!
maybe its just us lol... we will try some more socials out, as someone else said it may have been a not very organised one!! who knows, |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
ohh you mentioned the c word....burn em at the stake.... apparently there arent any cliques....APPARENTLY...but i get what you mean and most who go to socials have been going awhile,but i went to my first one last year ...was fab but then again the hosts are good at organising them and most peeps who go do mingle but however there will always be the cliques...even tho they dont exsist..apparently
I didn't say there were cliques, as polo said many people go to socials to meet people they have been talking too on line, and that can look like a clique because they have shared experiences and banter and you can feel like an outsider, that is just life, i don't see anything wrong with it.
It is no different to different groups of friends with shared interests meeting in a pub, there is the chance for everyone to meet or for them to enjoy the company of those they came to meet.
Surely better than if that opportunity wasn't there, people have the choice.
^^^^^ read up i said u said the c word...was tongue in cheek...as its a toucy subject to some..."
noted.. missed that tongue and only saw the cheek :P, i don't mind a touchy subject, if there is actual touching involved even better. |
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Im looking forward to attending my first proper one with a lot of people from the South West room. Naturally i will say hello to people who i recognize but travelling up as a single female i'll have no option to mingle |
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"I enjoy socials and I do think that you have to put in effort to chat to people and mingle. Its nice to meet new people and they are a lot of fun.
I prefer a smaller intimate party than a big social I have to admit. Well for swinging fun that is. Big socials held at clubs are essentially about mingling and well socialising, not really ideal for swinging, not exactly discreet for play. There can be people that on sight you know you won't get on with, you may spot them giving you sly looks etc, but that is normal at any party or night out anywhere.
But I do think they are fun. At the two socials I've attended the hosts did make everyone feel comfortable and introduced others etc.
At smaller parties, house parties etc, people are in the same room so therefore all are chatting together. I really enjoy them
there was no introducing at the social we attended and we did try and mingle, and we did say hello to a few people!!
maybe its just us lol... we will try some more socials out, as someone else said it may have been a not very organised one!! who knows, "
Like i said earlier, to me if that happens its just bad hosting imo.
If i see people stood on there own at our socials i steer them in the direction of group of people and introduce them,
I have certain regulars at our socials who i know will take them under the wing and introduce people around.
Kat xx |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either
I guess there is always that risk, i cant stand that though, i try to mingle as much as i can, as you never know who could be your next good friend, sorry it was such a disappointing experience for you, i guess it is like any other social event sometimes people can get cliquey
we did try and mingle lol, never mind... there is always a next time
Yeah i wasn't implying you didn't hence the cliquey comment. I apologise if it came across that way. I guess it is always a good plan to meet someone there you do know, in case there are cliques.
hey don't apologise!!! lol, we live and learn maybe you looked lovely thay could not cope , lol xxx yes we learn not to be like it yourselfs xxourselfs xx but woman can be funny if you look nice .. i have found this in the passed ,"
So they tell you you look nice and then they are funny with you? |
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"I enjoy socials and I do think that you have to put in effort to chat to people and mingle. Its nice to meet new people and they are a lot of fun.
I prefer a smaller intimate party than a big social I have to admit. Well for swinging fun that is. Big socials held at clubs are essentially about mingling and well socialising, not really ideal for swinging, not exactly discreet for play. There can be people that on sight you know you won't get on with, you may spot them giving you sly looks etc, but that is normal at any party or night out anywhere.
But I do think they are fun. At the two socials I've attended the hosts did make everyone feel comfortable and introduced others etc.
At smaller parties, house parties etc, people are in the same room so therefore all are chatting together. I really enjoy them
there was no introducing at the social we attended and we did try and mingle, and we did say hello to a few people!!
maybe its just us lol... we will try some more socials out, as someone else said it may have been a not very organised one!! who knows,
Like i said earlier, to me if that happens its just bad hosting imo.
If i see people stood on there own at our socials i steer them in the direction of group of people and introduce them,
I have certain regulars at our socials who i know will take them under the wing and introduce people around.
Kat xx"
A sign of a good hostess, having seen what work can go into a social, i have utmost respect for those who organise them, no matter how well it turns out. |
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"we went to our first social a month or so ago, was really excited!!! dressed up got there to find that everyone just stayed in their little groups, it felt like we had gatecrashed someones party!!
didn't help that we didn't know anyone either "
We deliberately "crash" the groups, we go out of our way to introduce ourselves to as many people as possible, and never get pinned down in one area of the room, seems to work for us! |
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