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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I do get them  sometimes it feels so bad that I wonder why I’m doing it!
I just don’t give in to it, the same as when I get nervous about other things. I focus on the positive and try not to throw up because that is very unappealing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Realise other people are probably feeling the same. Imagine everyone else is naked. Smile and look people in the eyes. Find something in the surroundings, outfits, etc to make small talk about until the conversation flows freely.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Realise other people are probably feeling the same. Imagine everyone else is naked. Smile and look people in the eyes. Find something in the surroundings, outfits, etc to make small talk about until the conversation flows freely...."
This is the right way of it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nerves is part of the excitement, but admittedly as a couple it's easier to be relaxed than a single. No different to going to a club for us, the day we stop having butterflies on the way or getting ready is the day we stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a lady for a coffee social and felt the nerves. I never thought I would of felt like that so much.
I'm not sure how to cope with it. Maybe have an alcoholic drink next time |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I do. Not sure it's nerves as such, more an adrenaline rush. Sometimes, very rarely I get a bit nervous. Like Zipper, I try and remember the other person is probably feeling the same. I have some amazing friends who listen to me go through my usual "oh, what happens if they don't like me?" train of thought. 
I think when I don't get them I know I'm not that excited about it.
It's fine once I am there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The worst part is the journey, well for me anyway. K is more confident. I spend the majority of the way to meet people thinking about heading back home! Once I’m there and chatting all is ok. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I have social anxiety and rarely go out irl unless it’s with one particular friend. However with fab stuff, I love it. I get nervous but in a good way. I feel more relaxed with fab people. I’d never go in a regular nightclub but I love going to swingers clubs. I’m not super confident but I feel more accepted I think |
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"I’ve only really met people I’d got to know pretty well as friends first so there’s been no expectation. Still a wreck but that’s with anything sociable so I try to just rationalise the fear x"
I remember your panic at attending the December MLS - which as it turned out you were fine with |
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"I’ve only really met people I’d got to know pretty well as friends first so there’s been no expectation. Still a wreck but that’s with anything sociable so I try to just rationalise the fear x
I remember your panic at attending the December MLS - which as it turned out you were fine with "
I was genuinely terrified! Still am of group situations.. so thankful people were lovely even though I didn’t get to meet that many! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a nervous wreck for socials. I feel quite comfortable meeting for sex, and yet meeting in civvies for a coffee fills me with terror! Always leave feeling fine though. |
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"I usually get the ‘what if they don’t fancy me’ nerves , once I’m there with a drink I’m fine!"
That used to be my big problem. I tend to pretend they're not going to fancy me, so it'll be a nice chat, and I can be pleasantly surprised if I'm wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a social last week and I spent the whole day worrying about it. When I met them, it was absolutely fine, as it usually is,but I still get ridiculously nervous. Probably more so when I really like them and feel like they're out of my league  |
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"Yes I'm quite bad sometimes. 
I never used to be, but health has forced anxiety upon me.
I'm lucky though I don't go anywhere without D and he keeps me calm and collected. 
Jo.Xx "
 sorry to hear that Jo!!! Looking forward to a lot of laughter next week  |
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"I had a social last week and I spent the whole day worrying about it. When I met them, it was absolutely fine, as it usually is,but I still get ridiculously nervous. Probably more so when I really like them and feel like they're out of my league "
I hear you. |
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"Yes I'm quite bad sometimes.
I never used to be, but health has forced anxiety upon me.
I'm lucky though I don't go anywhere without D and he keeps me calm and collected.
Jo.Xx
sorry to hear that Jo!!! Looking forward to a lot of laughter next week "
Thanks Saff
Can't wait to catch up with you!
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do, but i think it's normal. I build up a connection with someone before a social and i am pretty picky with who i meet. So because of this the nerves aren't there for long and it feels like I'm just meeting a friend  |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
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The first group social I went to yeah there were just a few nerves but none at subsequent ones. I didn't really get nervous when arranging more intimate socials but as it's been so long since I managed one of those I guess I might have now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about. |
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about. "
You looked more scared of the small group later on!! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about. "
Awww thanks MM. |
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about.
You looked more scared of the small group later on!! "
It was the video as I sat down that threw me off, abit of warning would have been nice. |
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about.
Awww thanks MM. "
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about.
You looked more scared of the small group later on!! "
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"Every one I go to I get nerves, I'm not really someone who thrives in big groups, so normally I put on a big smile and then break the big group down into smaller groups and look at it that way. Also helps when there's soo many friendly, funny and wonderful people about.
You looked more scared of the small group later on!!
It was the video as I sat down that threw me off, abit of warning would have been nice. "
Ha ha whoops!!! She’s a naughty one.. I promise there will be no more videos next week.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a bit of a nervous tummy, butterflies almost and do worry what I'm going to say will come out wrong but after about 10 minutes I'm usually fine "
Same. And i dont worry about it anymore, as it can be regarded as a positive sign too |
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