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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Numbers innit! Some dudes lower the bar slightly to get "results". I understand their reasoning but it doesn't make sense to me to be shagging ppl you don't really fancy that much.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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i feel exactly the same op. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also conversely if the guy isn’t portraying some facsimile of an Adonis then he isn’t going to get much attention."
Ah but I’m saying if he’s an adonis I’m going to ignore! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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You can’t make assumptions about body rype people go for. Yes he may be buff, but he may just actually fancy you.
Alright this won’t always be the case, but some people just fancy people that they fancy. There isn’t a manual somewhere that says that buff guys must only be interested in buff women, or vice versa.
We all like what we like. Stop over thinking it, and enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basically your issue is that they are only interested for one reason, so really it depends on whether you want to feel more than just a temporary object for them to get their kicks. If it does enough for you then fine, but if you want to feel they are drawn to you then that's not enough. You may not want to feel used, though you could flip that on its head and see yourself as using a fit guy that perhaps you don't think you'd get otherwise.
Of course there is the possibility that the fit guy thinks you are drop dead gorgeous and prefer curvier ladies  |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I wouldn't think so as much, people are attracted to different things, they may have read your profile, seen you post messages and thought you may have a connection.
This is all speculation of course, I can't speak for anyone else but myself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t make assumptions about body rype people go for. Yes he may be buff, but he may just actually fancy you.
Alright this won’t always be the case, but some people just fancy people that they fancy. There isn’t a manual somewhere that says that buff guys must only be interested in buff women, or vice versa.
We all like what we like. Stop over thinking it, and enjoy it."
Yeah, I'm swamped with messages from super hot women above my pay grade....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Basically your issue is that they are only interested for one reason, so really it depends on whether you want to feel more than just a temporary object for them to get their kicks. If it does enough for you then fine, but if you want to feel they are drawn to you then that's not enough. You may not want to feel used, though you could flip that on its head and see yourself as using a fit guy that perhaps you don't think you'd get otherwise.
Of course there is the possibility that the fit guy thinks you are drop dead gorgeous and prefer curvier ladies "
It’s a good point well made. But let’s face it if he’s chatting to me in a bar he probably only wants one thing anyway. And I’m not a prude and there’s a good chance he’ll get that one thing. But I just feel he wants to fuck hotter women when out and about, but on here any hole is a goal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Basically your issue is that they are only interested for one reason, so really it depends on whether you want to feel more than just a temporary object for them to get their kicks. If it does enough for you then fine, but if you want to feel they are drawn to you then that's not enough. You may not want to feel used, though you could flip that on its head and see yourself as using a fit guy that perhaps you don't think you'd get otherwise.
Of course there is the possibility that the fit guy thinks you are drop dead gorgeous and prefer curvier ladies
It’s a good point well made. But let’s face it if he’s chatting to me in a bar he probably only wants one thing anyway. And I’m not a prude and there’s a good chance he’ll get that one thing. But I just feel he wants to fuck hotter women when out and about, but on here any hole is a goal "
For some maybe that is the case, for others it's about the connection.
Also, don't put yourself down by suggesting that the super hot guys wouldn't genuinely be interested in you  |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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Depends on whether the Adonis is shallow or not to be honest. I take people at face value and there are some people that are not "stunners" but have a lot more going for them than some empty headed stunners.
A woman that can make me laugh and is comfortable in her skin will always be attractive to me.
A smile works wonders as well |
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By *oomsMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes it could just be that people feel they can be more honest with what they like on here, not every guy actually wants the size 10 girl.. though they may feel more compelled to say they do in a bar in front of their mates.
..though people probably do drop standards just to try and get a shag too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no idea as I’m not ridiculously hot, lol, but like a few have said, they may genuinely fancy you, I don’t really have a ‘type’ but I find different looks about different women attractive, and it might sound cliche but yes personality is very attractive |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"You can’t make assumptions about body rype people go for. Yes he may be buff, but he may just actually fancy you.
Alright this won’t always be the case, but some people just fancy people that they fancy. There isn’t a manual somewhere that says that buff guys must only be interested in buff women, or vice versa.
We all like what we like. Stop over thinking it, and enjoy it.
Yeah, I'm swamped with messages from super hot women above my pay grade.... "
That’s because you’re buff 
That’s my compliment of the day done - thanks Nippy! |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"Also conversely if the guy isn’t portraying some facsimile of an Adonis then he isn’t going to get much attention.
Ah but I’m saying if he’s an adonis I’m going to ignore!"
You’re being shallow then (making assumptions about him) and not at least exploring the situation.
If you weren’t interested in them fine but projecting your view isn’t fair on them. Even if it’s right just giving the counter argument. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can’t make assumptions about body rype people go for. Yes he may be buff, but he may just actually fancy you.
Alright this won’t always be the case, but some people just fancy people that they fancy. There isn’t a manual somewhere that says that buff guys must only be interested in buff women, or vice versa.
We all like what we like. Stop over thinking it, and enjoy it.
Yeah, I'm swamped with messages from super hot women above my pay grade....
That’s because you’re buff
That’s my compliment of the day done - thanks Nippy!"
You're hotlisted now!
Tell me I'm beautiful?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea as I’m not ridiculously hot, lol, but like a few have said, they may genuinely fancy you, I don’t really have a ‘type’ but I find different looks about different women attractive, and it might sound cliche but yes personality is very attractive "
Agreed. I wouldn't have fun with a gorgeous lady if there was no connection, and especially if she was obnoxious or self obsessed. I'm not inundated with messages funnily enough but I wouldn't debase myself for someone like that no matter how attractive she was. |
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Blokes aren’t very complicated really.
Bloke sees woman and wonders “Do I want to fuck her?” If she looks like she’s just come off a catwalk photo shoot then the answer is probably yes, but there can be other reasons why it’s yes too.
Does she look good fun?
You have a nice smile in your pictures.
Does she look like she would fuck me?
You have nekkidness in your pictures which is a green light for blokes.
That’s it. It doesn’t have to be a yes to every question, just to one or two. Aside from that, there’s the possibility that men like your body shape too, probably more than you think.
This is all secret man-stuff written here, it’s not normally discussed outside the meetings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What have you got to lose? You could be missing out,Just go with the flow if it happens enjoy it if not move on find someone else but whatever you do dont let them knock your confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes it could just be that people feel they can be more honest with what they like on here, not every guy actually wants the size 10 girl.. though they may feel more compelled to say they do in a bar in front of their mates.
..though people probably do drop standards just to try and get a shag too."
I agree with this. I'm no model but I get a lot of interest on and off the site (not being big headed here just honest) and when we have a conversation the first thing they say they noticed is my confidence and smile. Be proud of what your mamma gave ya, and if men wants to have a taste then let them if you feel there is no connection there then dont make yourself feel used, the word "no" exists for a reason. |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I have to disagree with you, OP. If I saw you in a bar/café/shop I would want you over any size 10 in a wide vicinity.You would take a lot of beating.
I just came across your profile courtesy of another thread and immediately put you on our hot list. As it happens, I don't have the body of Adonis, but if I did you would be right up there on women to try my luck with.
This is of course in the hypothetical scenario of me being single, which I'm not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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Try being told your too young!
Personally it’s down to attraction and some of the most beautiful faces I’ve ever seen have belonged to ‘larger’ women, so why on earth would you not try your luck with a beautiful woman regardless of how many extra pounds she might be carrying xx |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Also conversely if the guy isn’t portraying some facsimile of an Adonis then he isn’t going to get much attention.
Ah but I’m saying if he’s an adonis I’m going to ignore!"
So does that mean you don't think the people you have actually met are hot? I don't think i get this. |
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I'm no means hot in any way but the reason i am on here is because of my sexual preference and my naughty side to things. Generally speaking if u hook up in a bar with someone 9 times out of 10 the sex will be mundane and "normal" as both people would feel embarrassed or reluctant to delve into fantasies. Whereas on here it's an open minded place so fantasies can be achieved without prejudice. Maybe these "hot" guys are just kinky buggers and want to experiment more and it would be doubtful to find these people in a bar etc. Also they may be shy and have no confidence so this site helps them? |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I think you put too much store into thinking ifs and buts, you seem attractive bright and amusing, the size 10 blonde could easily be fit but also could be as dull as dish water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that’s an unfair way of thinking - because me personally. I don’t like size 8-10 blonde hair girls. It’s not my preference nor is it in my history of women.
Thinking like that will most likely make you dislike this site. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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So what about the guy who you think is equal to you, but he may be thinking about the size 10 but accepts he has a better chance with you?
At the end of the day some people want to feel connected and validated by sex, some people want to get butt naked fuck. Both are merely personal psychological and moral filters and despite what people say, neither filter is better than the other, just personal preference.
At the end of the day, do what feels comfortable to you. |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I have no idea how you know who I maybe interested in
And according to the wisdom of fab forums , good or bad looking are not objective conditions, thus according to forum logic , non of us can be called good or bad looking per se only that we may be ugly to some and attractive to others |
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On here it's just about a hole. Most guys will just bag a face as they have pretty girlfriends they can be seen out with so they don't give a fuck about looks and body on here. This is why they're "straight " but meet trans because it's just a hole to fuck.
Personally if I don't find toy attractive you have no chance. Nothing worse than regrets. |
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I think many women don't seem to realise that men aren't always as restricted by the 'rules' of conventional beauty as we are given credit for. I find many people who are beautiful in the classic sense, less attractive than people who might have more interesting or unusual features but also a lusty twinkle in the eye. Someone could be a size ten or a size eighteen, doesn't make them more or less sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How you react depends on what you're looking for. If a guy wants to lower his standards to meet me then that's his look out. I'm here for sex with hot guys. I really don't care if they wouldn't want to be seen out with me because chances are I wouldn't want to be seen out with them either. The neighbours would gossip too much 
Who am I to judge whether I think someone finds me genuinely attractive or not?
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you know what I'm here to fulfil some fantasies..meet like minded people. If I'm lucky maybe I'll make a friend along the way.
in the meantime this is your experience so talk to the hot guy see where his head is at...you maybe pleasantly surprised. beauty is in the eye of the beholder..enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds as though you are looknig for more than a fuck OP. If thats the case I get your point but if you don't have another agenda here I don't see why you dont just play with them if they are interested. |
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By *hezuMan
over a year ago
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I think it's your insecurities to blame my mate is a gym addict and he loves thick women because "theres more to love and cuddle". Maybe at a bar he'll go for the other woman because she's giving him eye contact n all that |
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I always assume any man who messages me (and they are predominantly straight) have been deleted by the hot chicks, ignored by the couples, turned down by the average girls. Then blocked by the BBW's, TS's, TV's. And CD's, then end up at my profile... well if they have a nice dick, I'll suck it. |
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So let me get this straight. If men only fuck slim model looking women they're shallow but if they fuck curvier women or women without model looks then they're desperate and any hole is a goal? I'm beginning to think they can't win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So let me get this straight. If men only fuck slim model looking women they're shallow but if they fuck curvier women or women without model looks then they're desperate and any hole is a goal? I'm beginning to think they can't win."
Not saying all this is true... But your right we can't win regardless |
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Horny men are like electricity. They will follow the path of least resistance.
If you find a guy who persists and jumps the hurdles you put in his path, then he's probably actually interested in you, not just your body. |
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By *hezuMan
over a year ago
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"Horny men are like electricity. They will follow the path of least resistance.
If you find a guy who persists and jumps the hurdles you put in his path, then he's probably actually interested in you, not just your body. "
Im a horny guy and this aint true I like a challenge and the flirting before the sex, maybe when I get older that'll change though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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You are in no way a bad looking woman and very attractive.
Lots of men of all shapes and sizes have different tastes in all shapes and sizes.
I know men away from fab who do as you say always appear on nights out with skint blonde big tits but I know they prefer curvy and it's a image thing for them, I think fab for most is a secret and nobody is judging their choices or attraction. |
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"Horny men are like electricity. They will follow the path of least resistance.
If you find a guy who persists and jumps the hurdles you put in his path, then he's probably actually interested in you, not just your body.
Im a horny guy and this aint true I like a challenge and the flirting before the sex, maybe when I get older that'll change though"
*I'm a horny guy* that made me lol! |
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By *ycallMan
over a year ago
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You may find that a lot of guys are just trying to conform to social expectations.
Size 10 blonde hair, nice boobs. You don’t stand out saying that and no one will rip the piss out of you for it.
Privately guys might be attracted to different things but don’t want to stand out and seem different.
I constantly get offers from guys wanting to suck my cock.
Are they lowering their standards?
Or do they secretly like sucking cock?
Personally I think that they actually like sucking cock but would never admit it to their vanilla friends as they are worried about people’s perception.
Although I am not in the super hot guy category I will happily admit that I thought the OP was attractive. Definitely wouldn’t consider it was lowering my standards to flirt and see if there was a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was messaging a guy - very fit - swim coach and a part-time model. Firstly I thought he was just having a laugh but he suggested a meet. It was a social. My jaw dropped when I met him in the bar as he was gorgeous - pictures he sent didn't do him justice.
I'm not gym fit, I'm a curvy girl with extra fat so I thought I might not be his type. But he wanted to see me again later that evening and he did. Came over to mine and spent a few hours - sex was amazing.
Lesson learned for me. I felt special haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men aren't as confident in themselves when they're mates are around. Peer pressure is a motherfucker.
Some other guys are just a bit cuntish and see you as good enough for an immediate bonk.. but don't want to make friends.
Some guys.. just have a different set of standards/preferences than youd expect them to have.
Just like women, not all men feel as attractive as others used them.
Confidence is an attractive trait, but in small doses, a little vulnerability and lack of confidence can also be attractive. If you've the time and patience to help someone bloom a little brighter.
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"Some men aren't as confident in themselves when they're mates are around. Peer pressure is a motherfucker.
Some other guys are just a bit cuntish and see you as good enough for an immediate bonk.. but don't want to make friends.
Some guys.. just have a different set of standards/preferences than youd expect them to have.
Just like women, not all men feel as attractive as others used them.
Confidence is an attractive trait, but in small doses, a little vulnerability and lack of confidence can also be attractive. If you've the time and patience to help someone bloom a little brighter.
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Love that last paragraph x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men aren't as confident in themselves when they're mates are around. Peer pressure is a motherfucker.
Some other guys are just a bit cuntish and see you as good enough for an immediate bonk.. but don't want to make friends.
Some guys.. just have a different set of standards/preferences than youd expect them to have.
Just like women, not all men feel as attractive as others used them.
Confidence is an attractive trait, but in small doses, a little vulnerability and lack of confidence can also be attractive. If you've the time and patience to help someone bloom a little brighter.
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I agree 100 % |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men aren't as confident in themselves when they're mates are around. Peer pressure is a motherfucker.
Some other guys are just a bit cuntish and see you as good enough for an immediate bonk.. but don't want to make friends.
Some guys.. just have a different set of standards/preferences than youd expect them to have.
Just like women, not all men feel as attractive as others used them.
Confidence is an attractive trait, but in small doses, a little vulnerability and lack of confidence can also be attractive. If you've the time and patience to help someone bloom a little brighter.
Love that last paragraph x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's TRUE though. Not all men are arseholes. Many are, but try to keep an open mind, you may just be his type of woman. We're all different.. thankfully. |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I guess its social norms. The current acceptable body type for women is apparently skinny, big tits. But in reality I think most men find a whole host of different people attractive, just society tells them to chase the socially acceptable types. A but stupid really but I'm sure that's what it is. |
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if you look around when you're out and about its easy to see that there are couples of all shapes and sizes. Good looking men with women above a size ten, good looking women with men who aren't gym fit. Or are people only seeing things that fit in with their personal feelings about themselves? |
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I don’t know as size/looks have much to do with it on here. I’ve been approached by men I never thought would be interested in me and they’re what I class as hot. Attraction is based on lots more than an initial glance and personality plays a big part. Well I hope that’s what they find attractive about me x |
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I dont have a type, there isn't a particular look that I am attracted to and dont deviate from. Every single woman is differnt and what I like about woman A I might dislike about woman B. As long as I can make a connection with a woman on here then I'm interested no matter what she looks like.
All that being said, there's something about redheads with long hair lol  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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I have fucked loads of super hot men that probably wouldn't look at me outside of a swingers club but honestly, I only want them for one thing so I'm not too bothered. I'm probably using them as much as they are using me |
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"Sometimes it could just be that people feel they can be more honest with what they like on here, not every guy actually wants the size 10 girl.. though they may feel more compelled to say they do in a bar in front of their mates.
..though people probably do drop standards just to try and get a shag too."
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I hear you
I often wonder if they would still be interested if they bumped into me when our with their mates |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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The ratios probably do have some say in this. But....
It does happen regarding attraction, people can't help what they find sexy as hell. There's loads of couples on here where the woman is substantially more "attractive in a generally thought of way" than the guy, the same as at clubs. There will also be couples where the reverse is true.
It's also a fact that when someone just "gets you" and all that goes on between your ears that they become much more attractive because of this? Beauty is more than skin deep.
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
I hear you
I often wonder if they would still be interested if they bumped into me when our with their mates "
Yes they definitely would |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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Op, have you considered the possibility that they are genuinely interested and find you attractive? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and attraction often works in ways we wouldn't normally consider. Before joining fab, i'd likely only be interested in that size 10 blonde you mentioned. My experiences here have broadened my horizons of appeal and I find that a good thing. Perhaps it's the same with them? (Nice profile btw ) |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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any holes a goal maybe  |
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Most likely a fake profile, there will be one or two guys here that are incredibly hot/good looking, they might have a body to die for, and I say good luck to them!!! But yes you get lots of body pics where they look great then the face is like omg!!! I ve seen it!! But ppl here are right, body face etc is all very nice but can they hold a conversation? Can they debate? Do they have a personality?? My best advice and I know it means nothing in this superficial world, maybe check their veris... or lack of them! |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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Take a look at Hugh Jackmans wife
There a very happy couple |
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Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two. |
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two."
shallowness and self centred comes in all shapes and sizes. Yes given chance personality can shine through. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two."
Wow, that's a really crappy attitude towards slim women. |
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two.
Wow, that's a really crappy attitude towards slim women. "
my thoughts exactly |
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"Blokes aren’t very complicated really.
Bloke sees woman and wonders “Do I want to fuck her?” If she looks like she’s just come off a catwalk photo shoot then the answer is probably yes, but there can be other reasons why it’s yes too.
Does she look good fun?
You have a nice smile in your pictures.
Does she look like she would fuck me?
You have nekkidness in your pictures which is a green light for blokes.
That’s it. It doesn’t have to be a yes to every question, just to one or two. Aside from that, there’s the possibility that men like your body shape too, probably more than you think.
This is all secret man-stuff written here, it’s not normally discussed outside the meetings "
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"Blokes aren’t very complicated really.
Bloke sees woman and wonders “Do I want to fuck her?” If she looks like she’s just come off a catwalk photo shoot then the answer is probably yes, but there can be other reasons why it’s yes too.
Does she look good fun?
You have a nice smile in your pictures.
Does she look like she would fuck me?
You have nekkidness in your pictures which is a green light for blokes.
That’s it. It doesn’t have to be a yes to every question, just to one or two. Aside from that, there’s the possibility that men like your body shape too, probably more than you think.
This is all secret man-stuff written here, it’s not normally discussed outside the meetings
You are barred from the next 3 meetings for disclosing secrets "
The first rule of man club is don't talk about man club? |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
i feel exactly the same op."
Me to! I have shared a post nearly identical to this. Ended up feeling worse because all the fat girl haters came out of the woodwork with their honest opinions ... ouch!
For the record though, if a hot guy has the chat and he twists my arm to meet I'm going to make the most of it enjoy it both use eachother for your mutual pleasure. It works both ways lol. Never know, might find something good |
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Just make the most of it OP...you are also looking just for sex so does it matter if he would approach you in front of his friends?
I believe I haven't had sex with a gym fit guy before I joined fab, now I'm in a relationship with one and they are not all into slim girls, some of them like curves too |
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
Take a look at Hugh Jackmans wife
There a very happy couple "
She's totally his beard |
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You are all incredible amazing , fantastic , wonderful ,kind, crazy , fun , intelligent, splendid , spiffing hot people .
Never look at some one and judge your life by a snap shot of theirs. They may look perfect in a picture . But it's an image you don't know the person in the image . May be they are depressed , I secure or just in need of a friend .
You have all been so kind and caring to me over this hard year .
I think your amazing and if any one tells you different, tell them
"Taff thinks I'm awesome "
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
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You literally are stereotyping. |
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There is a big difference between a bar and fab.
In a bar then you are primarily working on visual assessment carried out in a few seconds and so the brain is working just on that (sometimes scent and sound of voice as well). It will make instant decisions and probably graduate towards a "norm" from society.
On fab you have far more information and time to gain an impression of someone. There are still the pictures for the visual assessment, but depending on the profile many more outfits or angles or whatever to see. But there are then the words written on the profile or in forums or chatrooms. These details can slowly be put together to gain a fuller idea of the person and their personality and thus for an attraction to be formed.
Just my thoughts. |
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"There is a big difference between a bar and fab.
In a bar then you are primarily working on visual assessment carried out in a few seconds and so the brain is working just on that (sometimes scent and sound of voice as well). It will make instant decisions and probably graduate towards a "norm" from society.
On fab you have far more information and time to gain an impression of someone. There are still the pictures for the visual assessment, but depending on the profile many more outfits or angles or whatever to see. But there are then the words written on the profile or in forums or chatrooms. These details can slowly be put together to gain a fuller idea of the person and their personality and thus for an attraction to be formed.
Just my thoughts. "
I like those thoughts |
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"Blokes aren’t very complicated really.
Bloke sees woman and wonders “Do I want to fuck her?” If she looks like she’s just come off a catwalk photo shoot then the answer is probably yes, but there can be other reasons why it’s yes too.
Does she look good fun?
You have a nice smile in your pictures.
Does she look like she would fuck me?
You have nekkidness in your pictures which is a green light for blokes.
That’s it. It doesn’t have to be a yes to every question, just to one or two. Aside from that, there’s the possibility that men like your body shape too, probably more than you think.
This is all secret man-stuff written here, it’s not normally discussed outside the meetings "
There's a lot of truth in this. Generally either gender can ask these questions;
Do I find their face attractive?
Do I find their body appealing?
Are they approachable and friendly?
Do they possess some intellect?
Do they have the same interests as me, mainly sexual?
Are they clued up (know their way around the opposite sexes body, know how the opposite sexes mind works and how to coax it for the greatest pleasure possible)?
Are they unselfish in bed and will be more focussed on my pleasure than their own?
Do they present themselves well, eg, confident, dressed well, etc?
Do they have a good standard of personal hygiene?
And sometimes, for a few of the more competitive types or those seeking validation of their own opinions from their peers; Are they very sought after sexually by members of my own gender?
Ten questions, basically. For the average woman to consider sleeping with a guy she just meets in the real world you're probably looking at a minimum of 8 of those boxes ticked or perhaps 7 out of 10 correct answers when she's pissed. With the ratios on Fab it's more often 1 more answer on top of that due to a plentiful supply, so women want a minimum of 9 out of 10 normally. Some women will settle for nothing less than 10, but will usually bemoan the fact that there's not many blokes they now consider suitable.
For the average man on the street, he'd want 4 or 5 of those requirements met to consider sleeping with a woman. Definitely 4 when highly inebriated! AND with the ratios on here skewed the other way, the no frills bog standard bloke is going to sleep with a woman who satisfies 4 out of the 10 or 3 if it's a saturday night and he's home from the boozer!
It's also worth noting that some requirements are obviously more important than others to different people? This can vary massively. And remember, these are only the "average" men and women. Lots fall either side of that average.
And of course the satisfaction of each requirement has different standards or levels individual to those judging them just to confuse things further!
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I've a social conscience, so if someone I like also expresses interest, I do my best for the world. If someone is a cock, I'm not interested - like most of us here. But I don't forecast other alternative scenarios op, as I'm such a goodie two shoes |
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two."
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"Generally I came to the conclusion that I do not want to be with a size 10 and therefore never approach such females.
The reason is fairly simple a size 10 barbie doll or similar is likely to be shallow, self centred and gets lots of attention, I'm not stereotyping as not everyone is likely to be this we are all unique.
A woman with curves is just plain sexy, it has nothing to do with notches on bed posts or with trophy girls for the mates to witness, online is out of sight from judgementalists and no matter what there is your personality would shine through from a message or two.
And the charmer award does to...
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"It saddens me when I read how little people think of themselves and also how little people think of others. You see it so much on the forum.  "
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Girls....would you approach a male/female in public or give signs that you are interested or just smile or think they are out of my league and just leave it? Just out of curiosity x |
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I myself am a perfect 10, I’m handsome, intelligent, funny & kind, I’ve a great smile & a hot bod,
Your view may differ but as they say, its mind over matter, I don’t mind, as your opinion doesn’t really matter………
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I would be sceptical if a really hot guy approached me and think they were doing it as a bet...
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"Girls....would you approach a male/female in public or give signs that you are interested or just smile or think they are out of my league and just leave it? Just out of curiosity x "
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"I’m intrigued by a recent thought I have and wondered what other people’s thoughts are
I get messages off guys who are incredibly hot and to be honest it puts me off a little.
I know in a bar that guy wouldn’t come up to me, he’d be too interested in the size 10 blonde stood at the bar (and this is no dig, I’d be perving her too!!!)
If the guy wouldn’t be interested in a more social setting surrounded by his friends, why is he all of a sudden interested on here. More importantly why should I then be interested in someone that wouldn’t look twice when his friends are present.
Or is the general consensus, who cares he’s hot so fuck him?
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I so get thisxwhat your saying, to me men on here are desperate and sleep with anyone x I don’t get it |
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I know I'll never get turned down for being to hot lol. I kind of get where you are coming from though but it's very hard to work out as others have said what turns another person on. yes he may be able to chat up and get the size 10 blonde but he may also be totally bored with that type. I know I don't have a particular body type or look that I go for l just chance my luck with whoever I strike a connection with |
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