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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
This actually came from talking to a friend of mine who was asking advice.
What 1 piece of advice would you give to new members of fab.
Lets keep it positive x |
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Be open. Don't let the negatives ruin the potentials. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be open. Don't let the negatives ruin the potentials. "
Agreed about not letting the negative overshadow the positive x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Be authentic and stay true to who you are. You'll meet and enjoy time with the people who are right for you if you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself  |
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Manage your expectations
Always read a profile before sending a message and join in events/forums.
Miss |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be authentic and stay true to who you are. You'll meet and enjoy time with the people who are right for you if you are."
Yes!! There will always be some that like you and others that don't. No point changing to try and please x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An Irish friend gave me a cracker
“In life it’s important to find out what your business is and you feckin mind it”!!!
LJ |
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Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose "
This also goes for cans/bottles of beer too x |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Manage your expectations
Always read a profile before sending a message and join in events/forums.
Miss"
Definitely agree with joining in the forums x |
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"Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose "
Or buy the little cans of Lynx lol |
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"This actually came from talking to a friend of mine who was asking advice.
What 1 piece of advice would you give to new members of fab.
Lets keep it positive x"
Be respectful and don't treat the site as if it's Tinder or dating site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't take it to seriously its just a bit of fun relationships are for expectations not a swinging sight  |
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"Just be yourself "
This ^
Plus don’t expect too much and just enjoy it without drama  |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Common theme of just be yourself, keep it fun and manage expectations x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just be yourself
This ^
Plus don’t expect too much and just enjoy it without drama "
Off subject..what a lovely avatar picture |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Be yourself. Don't allow others to influence your behaviour or opinions. Positive outlook geared towards having fun. It's what people should be here for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be prepared. It will change you. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be prepared. It will change you."
Genuinely interested, how has it changed you? For better or worse? X |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Positive outlook geared towards having fun. It's what people should be here for "
Yes. I think people get caught up and forget the fun. Esp newbies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't take it too seriously. It's a great place for fun and making friendships, but too many take it a bit too seriously and go a bit batshitcrazy.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
Don't rush to jump on the first cock that comes along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're valuable as a person, no matter what. |
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"Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose
Or buy the little cans of Lynx lol "
Ha ha ha ha ....good tip!
I'd say...listen and remember stuff you are told... otherwise you may be disgarded as someone who sends anyone and everyone a message... |
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New Women/couples - Block all sexes from sending messages until you get to grips with the site
New Men - Don't send messages until you understand how it works |
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Swing your own way (whether that’s meeting 20 people a day or once a decade) and don’t judge those who swing differently!
The swinging world would be incredibly dull if we were all the same! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t whinge |
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Learn to use mail filters, and read the Faqs... It will save a lot of 'why is this happening/not happening?' angst |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Be yourself
Keep it fun
Use filters
Swing whatever way works for you
Don't take it seriously
X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not a competition guys i already won  |
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Be respectful. Not everybody wants what you want. Accept it and behave in a way that shows you understand that. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be respectful. Not everybody wants what you want. Accept it and behave in a way that shows you understand that. "
Yes!!! Respect. Be polite and don't think everyone uses the site for the same reasons x |
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Read and understand the profiles
Jo x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be you. Stay true to who you are. And don't let anyone fuck with you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont come on here thinking that you are guarenteed to get laid it aint gonna happen just like that. |
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"Just be yourself
This ^
Plus don’t expect too much and just enjoy it without drama
Off subject..what a lovely avatar picture "
Thanks Cheeky - a moment of madness, normal service will return shortly |
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Be respectful, read the profiles completely. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I think the main one for women is use the filters so as not to get bombarded x |
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Dont rush into your first meet, if they are genuine they will wait. |
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Be yourself, write a decent profile, be funny and engaging, take the time to read a profile and send a decent message, try the forums, as a good place to get yourself/personality over.....and overall don't expect too much and be patient!!! |
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Be respectful! And don't be a Dick!! |
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"Just be yourself "
Do I have to?
Goddamnandfuckit! |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be yourself, write a decent profile, be funny and engaging, take the time to read a profile and send a decent message, try the forums, as a good place to get yourself/personality over.....and overall don't expect too much and be patient!!! "
Perfect advice x |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Just be yourself
Do I have to?
Goddamnandfuckit!"
Yourself is funny. Stay true x |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
For the men: don't assume that because a woman is on here she'll happily shag anybody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tidy your room before taking a picture and posting it to profile! Us ladies look at that stuff ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Treat people as you wish to be treated. As in life we never know how much someone could be dealing with. The internet is a blank canvas for some, an escape for others. |
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"Just be yourself
Do I have to?
Goddamnandfuckit!
Yourself is funny. Stay true x"
That's very kind, thank you. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Treat people as you wish to be treated. As in life we never know how much someone could be dealing with. The internet is a blank canvas for some, an escape for others. "
"For the men: don't assume that because a woman is on here she'll happily shag anybody. "
Not everyone uses the site for the same reasons. Agreed with both quotes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am finding it a struggle to engage people I am interested in. I make sure I read their profiles, I don't send unsolicited pictures or rude messages, and respect the fact if my message gets ignored. What is slightly irksome of this, is the fact that it's a bit of a two way street, if I have adhered to the profile rules, not been lewd or made any sexual advances, would it not be courteous to in the very least acknowledge the effort? If someone came up to you in the street and made polite and friendly conversation, would you simply ignore them? I get there are a lot of sleazeballs on here, but why treat me who follows the rules, like someone who just sends their dick pic and a "want to fuck"? |
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"Just be you. Stay true to who you are."
Unless you're a shit, in which case pretend to be somebody who isn't. |
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Trust your gut instinct.
Jo.Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can imagine it's frustrating x |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I am finding it a struggle to engage people I am interested in. I make sure I read their profiles, I don't send unsolicited pictures or rude messages, and respect the fact if my message gets ignored. What is slightly irksome of this, is the fact that it's a bit of a two way street, if I have adhered to the profile rules, not been lewd or made any sexual advances, would it not be courteous to in the very least acknowledge the effort? If someone came up to you in the street and made polite and friendly conversation, would you simply ignore them? I get there are a lot of sleazeballs on here, but why treat me who follows the rules, like someone who just sends their dick pic and a "want to fuck"?"
Which is why site FAQ's should be read. No reply means not interested. Read the forums as to why lots don't reply. Plus, don't take it personally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Practice your helicopter skills women here love it |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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"This actually came from talking to a friend of mine who was asking advice.
What 1 piece of advice would you give to new members of fab.
Lets keep it positive x"
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"This actually came from talking to a friend of mine who was asking advice.
What 1 piece of advice would you give to new members of fab.
Lets keep it positive x
Be respectful and don't treat the site as if it's Tinder or dating site "
Its up to the person how they want to treat the site! As long as ur respectful u can date etc! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To remain positive at all times
Be ready for a long wait for action if your a single male unless your a very lucky guy or ready to visit clubs and socials etc...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the response. New to the site so still learning. Do respect the no response thing though. My missus was on here for a while, however her Fab experience was completely different to mine. It might be that the site may not have what I am looking for either. Again thank you for the feedback though. Very helpful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not about you, it’s about the person you’re talking to. In my experience, providing truly useful advice starts by coming from a selfless place. Determine if they are open to receiving your advice and if not, then don't waste your time. Know what you're talking about (no rant) and keep it brief.
Remember too, your experience may not be others, so there may be contradictory advice which may be more valid.
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"Be prepared. It will change you.
Genuinely interested, how has it changed you? For better or worse? X"
It has changed me for the better, I am more confident about myself than when I joined.
My advice, be realistic, not everyone is going to find you attractive or want to jump into bed with you just cos you looked at their profile. Treat it and the people here exactly the same as you would in real life if you met in the pub or similar, be polite, be courteous, be a little flirty and cheeky and most of all patient.
The sentence that sums it up best is still "don't be a dick" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not about you, it’s about the person you’re talking to. In my experience, providing truly useful advice starts by coming from a selfless place. Determine if they are open to receiving your advice and if not, then don't waste your time. Know what you're talking about (no rant) and keep it brief.
Remember too, your experience may not be others, so there may be contradictory advice which may be more valid.
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That's probably the nicest thing iv ever read on a thread xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be choosey , it your body your choices . Keep a positive attitude there are some simply splendid people on here .
Be patient and polite but don't suffer silly arses . |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Great comments and advice. I'm a big believer in treat others how you want to be treated and definitely your body so your choice. There are lots of great people on this site x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose "
Ha! Brilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always aim to have a social first. |
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"Remember its the internet."
This. ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never rub another mans rhubarb |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Remember its the internet.
This. ^^"
Yes!! With real people behind the profiles x |
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"Remember its the internet.
This. ^^
Yes!! With real people behind the profiles x"
This too. ^^ |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"New Women/couples - Block all sexes from sending messages until you get to grips with the site
New Men - Don't send messages until you understand how it works "
Wish I’d seen this when I joined!! Didn’t even know there was a forum for a fortnight! |
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no unsolicited dick pics - bored to tears with them |
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Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today
Because if you like it today, you can do it again tomorrow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no unsolicited dick pics - bored to tears with them"
Good advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t whinge"
This nothing worse than a winger and read profiles first and respect them.. |
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"Never rub another mans rhubarb "
not unless you like rhubarb |
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"Be authentic and stay true to who you are. You'll meet and enjoy time with the people who are right for you if you are."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be yourself, be polite and don’t jump on the first meet that’s offered. Make sure you get out of fab what you want not what you think is expected of you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be open. Don't let the negatives ruin the potentials. "
Yes ... agree |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
No whinging
No negative, ranty statuses
No expecting it to be a sex on tap site
X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be honest with yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't wank off before a meet |
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Don’t send more than one message |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Be honest with yourself."
Think this is a main one, as well as being honest with yourself as to what you want to get from this site x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t send more than one message "
What if you accidently hit send before you're done and need to add more bits |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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Be patient and don't be disappointed if you get no response when messaging also use the forums to get to know people it's a good way of finding out what people like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep your mind wide open and remember everybody is different and respect them for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forget about getting a meet when you are interacting with people.
Enjoy it for the intersting people and great interacrions you can have the meets will follow |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Also, don't message everyone in a 5/10 mile radius. Look at profiles and read them to see if you both match x |
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"Be authentic and stay true to who you are. You'll meet and enjoy time with the people who are right for you if you are."
I’d second that |
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Don't take yourself or Fab too seriously
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If you are a single man, assume that you have to invest huge amounts of effort to gain the levels of realistic meet success you'd like. And you'll do better if you go to swinging clubs as well.
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There's someone for everyone. Push your boundaries and enjoy it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s not about you, it’s about the person you’re talking to. In my experience, providing truly useful advice starts by coming from a selfless place. Determine if they are open to receiving your advice and if not, then don't waste your time. Know what you're talking about (no rant) and keep it brief.
Remember too, your experience may not be others, so there may be contradictory advice which may be more valid.
That's probably the nicest thing iv ever read on a thread xxx"
 Just some tuppence worth of observations. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Don't take yourself or Fab too seriously
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Definitely. Once it stops being fun I'm gone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without putting a negative slant to your very good thread.
It's never been fun for me but it can cure boredom  |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Without putting a negative slant to your very good thread.
It's never been fun for me but it can cure boredom "
Then it's at least serving some purpose for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t expect anything and take it with a pinch of salt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't lie |
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Take your time maybe join in on the forum. Get to know people and them you. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Take your time maybe join in on the forum. Get to know people and them you."
I've made some great friends through the forums and had a few meets from them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a swingers site !
There is a lot of people on here that are not swingers they may call them selves swingers but just because you will fuck anyone and anything it won’t make you a swinger!
Also don’t trust anyone until you really know them !
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Choose carefully (take your time) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be respectful
Be yourself
Have fun
Don't take things too seriously if rebuffed, move on, there is someone out there for everyone
Stay safe |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"It’s a swingers site !
There is a lot of people on here that are not swingers they may call them selves swingers but just because you will fuck anyone and anything it won’t make you a swinger!
Also don’t trust anyone until you really know them !
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The trust thing I get but don't think there is a 'set in stone' swinger definition x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my One piece of advice would be..
entitlement you have none as do i |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a swingers site !
There is a lot of people on here that are not swingers they may call them selves swingers but just because you will fuck anyone and anything it won’t make you a swinger!
Also don’t trust anyone until you really know them !
The trust thing I get but don't think there is a 'set in stone' swinger definition x"
Yeah I suppose but for me swinging isn’t just fucking anything and anyone it’s about having fun with the right people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without putting a negative slant to your very good thread.
It's never been fun for me but it can cure boredom
Then it's at least serving some purpose for you x"
That's a positive in itself. Just making sure the newbies keep all the options open |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"It’s a swingers site !
There is a lot of people on here that are not swingers they may call them selves swingers but just because you will fuck anyone and anything it won’t make you a swinger!
Also don’t trust anyone until you really know them !
The trust thing I get but don't think there is a 'set in stone' swinger definition x
Yeah I suppose but for me swinging isn’t just fucking anything and anyone it’s about having fun with the right people "
The successful ones are the ones who generally have this outlook, in my opinion x |
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Talk to people like they're people, not things. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always follow gut instincts |
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Don’t get offended by non replies... it’s just normal here , but don’t keep contacting them
Stay safe |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Be friendly, polite, respectful. Look in the forums for advice, join in, get messaging people x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be authentic and stay true to who you are. You'll meet and enjoy time with the people who are right for you if you are."
Perfect answer Meli |
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It's not the be all and end all.......it's supposed to be fun, when it starts to not be....take a break... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be thirsty |
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Mine would be don’t be a dick (applies to men and women) and don’t have any expectations, be true to yourself and those that you connect with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For men: don't be discouraged by not getting replies. We are the majority so relax and see what happens
For women: weight up your options. There will be a lot of offers so don't be afraid to tale some time to choose whoever ticks the most boxes |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Another one, if it's too good to be true, most often it is. Do due dilligence when sorting meets out and above all BE SAFE x |
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"Use Lynx deodorant cans and Sky remotes only for their true purpose "
Hahahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keen for any advice I can get. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Keen for any advice I can get."
Read up then. Plus there are loads of other threads that offer advice to new profiles x |
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This isn't Ashley Madison or adult friend finder ! Get some clear face photos up.
Make sure you get photo verified.
Dont spam people with dick pics.
Become a member it's only £5 off your mobile
And most importantly read profile interests and personal preferences before emailing
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Don’t log on when you’re horny, looking to meet now. People pick up on it and feel like anyone handy will do. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Don’t log on when you’re horny, looking to meet now. People pick up on it and feel like anyone handy will do. "
Oh yes. The "meet now" brigade who send scattergun messages to every profile in a certain radius x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat ,be friendly and have fun and if you do watch people having sex as a friend stated"dont be a part of the wanking dead " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whatever you read on the forums, remember that only reflect 1% of the site, so don't get discouraged |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Chat ,be friendly and have fun and if you do watch people having sex as a friend stated"dont be a part of the wanking dead ""
That's a whole other thread about do and do not in clubs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In truth the only advise i can give is relax be yourself flash your personality no matter who you are embrace it dont stress out too much if you feel like your failing every loss brings you closer to victory |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"In truth the only advise i can give is relax be yourself flash your personality no matter who you are embrace it dont stress out too much if you feel like your failing every loss brings you closer to victory "
Don't take it seriously. Have fun x |
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Ooo if I put up a meet now that's a bad thing is it  |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Ooo if I put up a meet now that's a bad thing is it "
No. If it works for you then do it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In truth the only advise i can give is relax be yourself flash your personality no matter who you are embrace it dont stress out too much if you feel like your failing every loss brings you closer to victory
Don't take it seriously. Have fun x"
i always take it seriously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This actually came from talking to a friend of mine who was asking advice.
What 1 piece of advice would you give to new members of fab.
Lets keep it positive x"
only meet me im lovely this is for beautiful women only |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"In truth the only advise i can give is relax be yourself flash your personality no matter who you are embrace it dont stress out too much if you feel like your failing every loss brings you closer to victory
Don't take it seriously. Have fun xi always take it seriously "
Yeah right x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience. |
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Just love making new friends daily |
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Ok not daily like that's a bit much... but you get me love socials |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
The social side is a big part to swinging, I think anyway x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your anti-social stick to the chat rooms or the forums ..
The advice is flowing from me today |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If your anti-social stick to the chat rooms or the forums ..
The advice is flowing from me today "
I think the forums are great. The good, bad and mad bits all thrown in together keep it interesting and sometimes educational.
*must remember not to google everything I read but don't understand x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your anti-social stick to the chat rooms or the forums ..
The advice is flowing from me today
I think the forums are great. The good, bad and mad bits all thrown in together keep it interesting and sometimes educational.
*must remember not to google everything I read but don't understand x"
educational really lol |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If your anti-social stick to the chat rooms or the forums ..
The advice is flowing from me today
I think the forums are great. The good, bad and mad bits all thrown in together keep it interesting and sometimes educational.
*must remember not to google everything I read but don't understand xeducational really lol "
Nothing more constructive to add?
Yes, educational as it gives an insight as to how some others think and react x |
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One piece of advice - if you're looking for tips on intimate hair removal, best to ignore everything i say lol. I really am hoping that no-one attempts my suggestion on a recent thread of using a blowtorch...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before you enter the fab jungle be prepared get mating calls from 200 male creatures a hour and if your lucky once a year you will hear the call of the endangered species the female of the species.
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"One piece of advice - if you're looking for tips on intimate hair removal, best to ignore everything i say lol. I really am hoping that no-one attempts my suggestion on a recent thread of using a blowtorch...
You mean that doesn't work? X  "
It's fine as long as you've got a very steady hand and a bucketful of ice ready. Compared to the damage some men do by stealing their wife's tube of veet, it's actually not a bad idea... |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"One piece of advice - if you're looking for tips on intimate hair removal, best to ignore everything i say lol. I really am hoping that no-one attempts my suggestion on a recent thread of using a blowtorch...
You mean that doesn't work? X
It's fine as long as you've got a very steady hand and a bucketful of ice ready. Compared to the damage some men do by stealing their wife's tube of veet, it's actually not a bad idea..."
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One piece of advice - if you're looking for tips on intimate hair removal, best to ignore everything i say lol. I really am hoping that no-one attempts my suggestion on a recent thread of using a blowtorch...
You mean that doesn't work? X
It's fine as long as you've got a very steady hand and a bucketful of ice ready. Compared to the damage some men do by stealing their wife's tube of veet, it's actually not a bad idea...
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I will always remember a dating show I was watching.A guy was talking about how he was preparing for his first date with the woman he was meeting.
He said he brought a new shirt.
He got his car professionally valleted as he was picking her up.
His mom had given him a back sack and crack wax.
He had shaped his eyebrows.
Then the guy interviewing him said. Stop.your mom's done what |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whatever you do, don’t ever take my advice. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Whatever you do, don’t ever take my advice."
I used to have a t shirt that said "don't take my advice, you'll only end up dru*k" x |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do, don’t ever take my advice.
I used to have a t shirt that said "don't take my advice, you'll only end up dru*k" x"
Sounds like good advice to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Learn to handle rejection in a polite and decent manner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums "
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x"
I didn't read half of that. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When she responds to a message. Don't take it as an invite for sex ..
Give it at least 9 months |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x"
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers "
So your advice would be?
Is it cliquey because some know each other and respond to each other? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers
So your advice would be?
Is it cliquey because some know each other and respond to each other? X "
My advise would be.Some people are blatantly ignorant and will blank other people and use cliquey excuse for there arrogance.Its that simple. |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers
So your advice would be?
Is it cliquey because some know each other and respond to each other? X
My advise would be.Some people are blatantly ignorant and will blank other people and use cliquey excuse for there arrogance.Its that simple."
Ok. Sorry you feel like that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep it going ladies. It will make it to 175 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers
So your advice would be?
Is it cliquey because some know each other and respond to each other? X
My advise would be.Some people are blatantly ignorant and will blank other people and use cliquey excuse for there arrogance.Its that simple.
Ok. Sorry you feel like that x"
No sorry needed.I just think it would be a good price of advice to me and you and everyone to make the forums more inviting and welcoming.Not just a place where a lot feel pushed out by the ones that look like they own the posts.Its not aimed at you but more aimed at the few that silence a lot of people that try to join in and get pushed out by the egos that some have in here.Anyway sorry for my rant but I hope you can see my comments are just trying to make it better for more to feel welcome here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever you do don't get offended when you get blanked by the cliquey ones that live in the forums
It takes time to get noticed in the forums and sometimes threads move too fast. Everyone has comments that get ignored/missed/blanked. Key is to not take it personally x
Move to fast lol.Theres minutes or more between some comments.I think the problem is some people thrive off the attention and owning the posts as they live in the forums.
I don't take it personally as it's not just me it affects it's every normal that trys to get involved but gets shut out by the cliquey attention junkie forum dwellers
So your advice would be?
Is it cliquey because some know each other and respond to each other? X
My advise would be.Some people are blatantly ignorant and will blank other people and use cliquey excuse for there arrogance.Its that simple.
Ok. Sorry you feel like that x
No sorry needed.I just think it would be a good price of advice to me and you and everyone to make the forums more inviting and welcoming.Not just a place where a lot feel pushed out by the ones that look like they own the posts.Its not aimed at you but more aimed at the few that silence a lot of people that try to join in and get pushed out by the egos that some have in here.Anyway sorry for my rant but I hope you can see my comments are just trying to make it better for more to feel welcome here."
I feel your passion .... 2 more to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never believe the advice your given in the forums... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have I killed it yet |
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