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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it harsh saying no bi or bi curious?
Think I state clearly we rather not get invites etc from people of that persuasion. Before I get pelters, it’s just not our thing. In real life I wouldn’t be bothered if gay bi hetro or even Christians but not in our sexy stuff please.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is so many people lie about their sexuality, a lot of single guys just say they are straight in order to meet couples who state that.
If you meet in a club I'm guessing most people don't ask a guy if he is bi before they play.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why it's not your thing?
Obviously it's your choice and you can put what you want on your profile. "
Why? Strange question....erm I’m not bi or bi curious as nature made me straight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So no bi or bi curious men, presumably that means bi women are welcome?
Do both of you have issues with bi men, or just Mrs?
I think I'd be more interested in meeting interesting, fun and attractive people than I would be about where they decide to put their todger  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing is so many people lie about their sexuality, a lot of single guys just say they are straight in order to meet couples who state that.
If you meet in a club I'm guessing most people don't ask a guy if he is bi before they play.
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Guess that’s true.......never know I guess and if they didn’t say I’d not be put off.....as long as didn’t touch me of course  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So no bi or bi curious men, presumably that means bi women are welcome?
Do both of you have issues with bi men, or just Mrs?
I think I'd be more interested in meeting interesting, fun and attractive people than I would be about where they decide to put their todger "
Well I would love to see wife play with another women but she’s not that way inclined. I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t care if man was no. She’s more relaxed than I am. I can’t explain it but I have a gay friend who tells me that sight of a Fanny makes him feel ill. I just except that’s how he feels. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why it's not your thing?
Obviously it's your choice and you can put what you want on your profile.
Why? Strange question....erm I’m not bi or bi curious as nature made me straight "
Yeah but a bi man isn't automatically gonna fancy you or want to touch you. I'm assuming you discuss beforehand what you'd like to happen on a meet and they would stick to that just like a straight man would.
I would actually think a bi guy would be more relaxed with a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing harsh about it if you don't like blokes who like dick then that's your own choice  "
Now that sounds as though I wouldn’t like the person and that’s not true. Just not being naked with me or interacting in a sexual way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s sexy for men and women to be bi but I don’t want a man who has sex with men. I’m not bi or curious. Dabbled a tiny bit in the past with a female as mff but it’s not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m not offended by it, but I do get a little disappointed sometimes when people who might ordinarily quite like me are put off because a chap has had the pleasure of my chap in his mouth. "
Again, liking a person and interacting sexually not the same thing |
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"I’m not offended by it, but I do get a little disappointed sometimes when people who might ordinarily quite like me are put off because a chap has had the pleasure of my chap in his mouth.
Again, liking a person and interacting sexually not the same thing"
True, I couldn’t bring myself to put fancy me. |
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"Can I ask why it's not your thing?
Obviously it's your choice and you can put what you want on your profile.
Why? Strange question....erm I’m not bi or bi curious as nature made me straight "
I'm really confused by this whole thread. Are you saying you're not interested in playing with women because you're straight? If that's the case then that isn't harsh as you're not into women. I don't understand why you would have to say no bisexuals though. Just specify no FF play. We're not animals incapable of keeping our hands to ourselves where they're not wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not offended by it, but I do get a little disappointed sometimes when people who might ordinarily quite like me are put off because a chap has had the pleasure of my chap in his mouth.
Again, liking a person and interacting sexually not the same thing"
Exactly!! A lot of people find that hard to understand on here unfortunately. Put your preferences on your profile I say. I did. What’s the point otherwise? Inundated with messages from people you’re not interested in just in case you happen to offend someone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why it's not your thing?
Obviously it's your choice and you can put what you want on your profile.
Why? Strange question....erm I’m not bi or bi curious as nature made me straight
I'm really confused by this whole thread. Are you saying you're not interested in playing with women because you're straight? If that's the case then that isn't harsh as you're not into women. I don't understand why you would have to say no bisexuals though. Just specify no FF play. We're not animals incapable of keeping our hands to ourselves where they're not wanted."
Sorry! I’m a man!! I’m saying please no bi men. Or bi curious men. States on profile our preference but get chatting and all of a sudden “ok to suck your dick then?” What? No not my thing. |
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"Can I ask why it's not your thing?
Obviously it's your choice and you can put what you want on your profile.
Why? Strange question....erm I’m not bi or bi curious as nature made me straight
I'm really confused by this whole thread. Are you saying you're not interested in playing with women because you're straight? If that's the case then that isn't harsh as you're not into women. I don't understand why you would have to say no bisexuals though. Just specify no FF play. We're not animals incapable of keeping our hands to ourselves where they're not wanted."
Sorry thought this was a female profile but just noticed it's a couples profile and it's the male speaking. Please reverse the genders of my comment! Bisexual men are also capable of keeping their hands to themselves if you're not into men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing harsh about it if you don't like blokes who like dick then that's your own choice
Now that sounds as though I wouldn’t like the person and that’s not true. Just not being naked with me or interacting in a sexual way. "
I meant sexually lol not disliking the person |
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"Is it harsh saying no bi or bi curious?
Think I state clearly we rather not get invites etc from people of that persuasion. Before I get pelters, it’s just not our thing. In real life I wouldn’t be bothered if gay bi hetro or even Christians but not in our sexy stuff please...."
I don't see why not. I'm not offended by your preferences. I think we're all entitled to them.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it harsh saying no bi or bi curious?
Think I state clearly we rather not get invites etc from people of that persuasion. Before I get pelters, it’s just not our thing. In real life I wouldn’t be bothered if gay bi hetro or even Christians but not in our sexy stuff please....
I don't see why not. I'm not offended by your preferences. I think we're all entitled to them. "
Exactly. I’m bi but Im only interested in straight men. I don’t feel the need to give a reason. We’re all different. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing is it's your sex life. You get to choose who you share it with. If you feel your reasons are justified the that's all that matters. "
Don’t think I need to justify them to be honest. If someone says bbc only wanted or just couples or just tv it’s their choice. I state no bi or bi curious. Had three mails last hour from bi gents. They have all been very polite and I politely decline but the ones saying straight then start chatting ...surprise ! Just read the profile and be honest!
One said it’s ok I’ve changed it to straight now. As if that is ok. |
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"The thing is so many people lie about their sexuality, a lot of single guys just say they are straight in order to meet couples who state that.
If you meet in a club I'm guessing most people don't ask a guy if he is bi before they play.
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This is a debate that's going on here in Ireland at the moment that may lead to new legislation. Not strictly in terms of swinging, but in general, as it's become an issue of 'consent'. If someone has a fundamental objection on moral, religious or other grounds to having sex with someone who is, for example, bisexual or married, and has sex with someone who claimed to be neither of those things, but lied, was informed consent actually given? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't mind but as I have on my profile it's bi because I have been with men x"
Yes! Because you are bi. And that’s just honest and hope of you read profiles would message people who say “no bis”?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing is so many people lie about their sexuality, a lot of single guys just say they are straight in order to meet couples who state that.
If you meet in a club I'm guessing most people don't ask a guy if he is bi before they play.
This is a debate that's going on here in Ireland at the moment that may lead to new legislation. Not strictly in terms of swinging, but in general, as it's become an issue of 'consent'. If someone has a fundamental objection on moral, religious or other grounds to having sex with someone who is, for example, bisexual or married, and has sex with someone who claimed to be neither of those things, but lied, was informed consent actually given?"
Nothing to do with morals and religion can piss right off. Just personal choice. Men lie to woman and women lie to men in trying to get what they want or how many partners they had but ....swingers should be honest on their choices....some could say I’m a hypocrite as would just love to see wife with another women but I can’t help how I feel about sexual stuff anymore than anyone else |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh bugger!! I have been harsh!!!
Sorry everyone!!
I had put on a forum on vid swaps or chats to pm me if Interested !! Never stipulated and forgotten I had posted!
Sincere apologies to everyone! What a knobhead I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh bugger!! I have been harsh!!!
Sorry everyone!!
I had put on a forum on vid swaps or chats to pm me if Interested !! Never stipulated and forgotten I had posted!
Sincere apologies to everyone! What a knobhead I am "
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"Is it harsh saying no bi or bi curious?
Think I state clearly we rather not get invites etc from people of that persuasion. Before I get pelters, it’s just not our thing. In real life I wouldn’t be bothered if gay bi hetro or even Christians but not in our sexy stuff please...."
I state no bi/bi curious on my profile and I don’t get any stick for it.. its my preference and shouldn’t have to explain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is key in all fab life! Honesty and acceptance. If someone is bi but meating someone straight, then if they have been told, the should play straight. But they shouldnt be made to feel uncomfy either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its.. definitely a bit out of order. that my sexuality would put you both off playing with me.
If you think I'm going to accidentally touch Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm secretly thinking and attracted to Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm riddled with diseases, you're very wrong.
If you think I'm less masculine for being bi.. you're also very wrong.
But I'd respect your profile and block you to avoid having to read that stuff.. threads like these make for a good filters.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think its.. definitely a bit out of order. that my sexuality would put you both off playing with me.
If you think I'm going to accidentally touch Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm secretly thinking and attracted to Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm riddled with diseases, you're very wrong.
If you think I'm less masculine for being bi.. you're also very wrong.
But I'd respect your profile and block you to avoid having to read that stuff.. threads like these make for a good filters.
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Didn’t think any of that to be fair. Just not my thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On Fab forums your not allowed to have preferences - there's always someone who gets offended
I couldn't care less who doesn't fancy me because I'm fat, mixed race and bi lol- I concentrate on the ones that
do.
This forum is the wrong place to ask anything OP - you'll just get shot down!
The small percentage of opinions on here aren't the majority. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"On Fab forums your not allowed to have preferences - there's always someone who gets offended
I couldn't care less who doesn't fancy me because I'm fat, mixed race and bi lol- I concentrate on the ones that
do.
This forum is the wrong place to ask anything OP - you'll just get shot down!
The small percentage of opinions on here aren't the majority."
Only saying....if read profile etc....but then I did apologise as I had put we like tributes on a thread so not stipulated preference. Still getting messages though. Yes easily offend people on here!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On Fab forums your not allowed to have preferences - there's always someone who gets offended
I couldn't care less who doesn't fancy me because I'm fat, mixed race and bi lol- I concentrate on the ones that
do.
This forum is the wrong place to ask anything OP - you'll just get shot down!
The small percentage of opinions on here aren't the majority."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think its.. definitely a bit out of order. that my sexuality would put you both off playing with me.
If you think I'm going to accidentally touch Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm secretly thinking and attracted to Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm riddled with diseases, you're very wrong.
If you think I'm less masculine for being bi.. you're also very wrong.
But I'd respect your profile and block you to avoid having to read that stuff.. threads like these make for a good filters.
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They don't want to meet bi men. Get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep OP I'm the same. Straight men please dont ask me why but it's just the way it is.
What’s an endura bib??
I'm wearing it hah it's not a sexual thing  "
Lol
Didn’t think so but what’s it do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course it’s not harsh OP. It’s your personal preference. We are both bisexual and it’s no different to us stating on our profile that we won’t meet with straight people.
It’s your choice as to who you share your bodies with.
Miss V |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Of course it’s not harsh OP. It’s your personal preference. We are both bisexual and it’s no different to us stating on our profile that we won’t meet with straight people.
It’s your choice as to who you share your bodies with.
Miss V"
Thank you. It’s certainly was not meant to offend just wonder why people don’t just read it ....takes a second |
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I do find this slightly amusing. I’ve touched a man’s cock twice in my life, and haven’t had any sexual contact with a man for 11 years, I’ve been exclusively heterosexual ever since. But I’m open on my profile about my orientation being bisexual because I’m open to it. And people wonder why so many men on here are Fab straight |
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"I do find this slightly amusing. I’ve touched a man’s cock twice in my life, and haven’t had any sexual contact with a man for 11 years, I’ve been exclusively heterosexual ever since. But I’m open on my profile about my orientation being bisexual because I’m open to it. And people wonder why so many men on here are Fab straight "
Why lie at all I say?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do find this slightly amusing. I’ve touched a man’s cock twice in my life, and haven’t had any sexual contact with a man for 11 years, I’ve been exclusively heterosexual ever since. But I’m open on my profile about my orientation being bisexual because I’m open to it. And people wonder why so many men on here are Fab straight
Why lie at all I say??"
They lie to get a shag |
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I think the odd thing about this is you seem to be coming at it from the perspective that because a few Bi men want to play with you, all Bi men want to play with you. This simply ain't how it is.
I (M) am Bisexual, we recently played with a straight guy who was very clear that playing with other men wasn't for him.
Was he good looking? Yes, he was.
Did I fancy him? No. He was straight, and I'm not attracted to straight men.
Did I try and touch his cock or persuade him to engage in Bi play with me when we all went into a private room? Nope. Again: Straight. Boundaries. Not interested.
Whether or not someone, anyone, respects your personal boundaries is nothing to do with their sexuality.
That being said, if you wouldn't feel comfortable around a Bisexual man in a MMF or MMFF, then it's your prerogative to not put yourself in that scenario. I'm merely trying to offer some perspective from 'The Other Side', if you will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it harsh saying no bi or bi curious?
Think I state clearly we rather not get invites etc from people of that persuasion. Before I get pelters, it’s just not our thing. In real life I wouldn’t be bothered if gay bi hetro or even Christians but not in our sexy stuff please...."
I am not straight but do not find it offensive at all. When it comes to sex, political correctness needs to stay out the bedroom 100%. Your body, your choice.
I exclude whole groups of people myself on a sexual and dating basis but happy to be friends. So stick to your guns, as long as you stay polite |
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"I think the odd thing about this is you seem to be coming at it from the perspective that because a few Bi men want to play with you, all Bi men want to play with you. This simply ain't how it is.
I (M) am Bisexual, we recently played with a straight guy who was very clear that playing with other men wasn't for him.
Was he good looking? Yes, he was.
Did I fancy him? No. He was straight, and I'm not attracted to straight men.
Did I try and touch his cock or persuade him to engage in Bi play with me when we all went into a private room? Nope. Again: Straight. Boundaries. Not interested.
Whether or not someone, anyone, respects your personal boundaries is nothing to do with their sexuality.
That being said, if you wouldn't feel comfortable around a Bisexual man in a MMF or MMFF, then it's your prerogative to not put yourself in that scenario. I'm merely trying to offer some perspective from 'The Other Side', if you will."
Thanks for that. And to avoid the scenario, they should just say they are bi. Simples as they say! And no, I have no idea why I’m not comfortable with it and in normal life I believe I have no prejudices. And I’m bloody sure they wouldn’t fancy me either!! Only know one person who does!!’ |
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"I think its.. definitely a bit out of order. that my sexuality would put you both off playing with me.
If you think I'm going to accidentally touch Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm secretly thinking and attracted to Mr. You're very wrong.
If you think I'm riddled with diseases, you're very wrong.
If you think I'm less masculine for being bi.. you're also very wrong.
But I'd respect your profile and block you to avoid having to read that stuff.. threads like these make for a good filters.
They don't want to meet bi men. Get over it."
Nah all the bi men of fab are at home cry wanking to James blunt over it... or maybe they're concentrating on more interesting things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All I would say OP looking at your profile, is you literally have that one line about bi men. Nothing else about what you want or what you offer, it seems a bit fixated.
By all means keep it as your opening line as it is important to you, bit maybe add a bit more text on other things |
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"The thing is so many people lie about their sexuality, a lot of single guys just say they are straight in order to meet couples who state that.
If you meet in a club I'm guessing most people don't ask a guy if he is bi before they play.
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I've often wondered about the club bit. Do people ask a guys sexuality?? |
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