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What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you. |
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"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you. "
Honesty and integrity
Empathy
Selfless
If you have those then halfway to being a decent human being. |
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"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.
Honesty and integrity
Empathy
Selfless
If you have those then halfway to being a decent human being."
Well that summed it up perfectly. So what this gentleman said  |
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over a year ago
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"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you. "
Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one! |
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"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.
Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one! "
I admire the whirlwinds! How on earth do you do it?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Will power and drive im a lazy twat nowadays keep meaning to go the gym but i just cant be bothered anymore its boring if i dont see instant results i fuck it off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't) "
For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!
P |
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"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't)
For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!
P"
I'm getting that way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Patience. With kids, with idiots, with arrogant ppl, I just don't have much but when I see others calm and collected and cool I know its the right way to be. "
I fail when it comes to arrogant people!
P |
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"Patience. With kids, with idiots, with arrogant ppl, I just don't have much but when I see others calm and collected and cool I know its the right way to be.
I fail when it comes to arrogant people!
P"
Ooh god yeah. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
So many things - loyalty, integrity, respectfullness, empathy, the ability to see the bigger picture and offer wisdom as a result, those who are confident in their beliefs and convictions even in the face of adversity.
Those who listen but don't feel the need to pontificate.
Those who don't constantly seek validation, or consider themselves superior
I could be here all day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you admire about other people? People here or in your real life. No need to name names.
Hopefully you'll see yourself in some of the traits named, because I'm sure people admire things about you.
Quiet, calm, collected people. I'm like a whirlwind in all aspects of my personality. I long to be the quiet person taking it all in, instead of the loud one!
I admire the whirlwinds! How on earth do you do it?! "
The only positive of it is that it comes with honesty because there is no time to make up lies! Otherwise it's a burden |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Honesty and integrity. I also admire people that don't need or seek the validation of others, that are confident enough in themselves as a person to go against popular opinion."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I admire honesty, courage, creativity, imagination, ingenuity, dedication, trustwort_iness, integrity, willingness to be vulnerable in order to be authentic, confidence, willingness to listen and learn, perseverance, flexibility, inclusiveness, friendliness, compassion, empathy, humility,
That’ll do for a starter for ten. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I admire people who seem to be unflappable. They deal with the serious shit without anxiety. (I also - not really - hate the bastards because I bloody can't)
For me that depends who's shit it is. Other peoples and I'm a proper mumma bear and calm. My own shit.... hell no!
P
I'm getting that way "
See I think there's a large amount of that in a lot of people? It's like the pressure is off when it's others' shit as you're just "helping out?" Your input is greatly appreciated, but is seen as a bonus, no expectations, so as such the lack of pressure means more likely in my own experience I can exceed whatever expectations there may have been anyway?
When it's your own shit, potential for flappery is much more evident! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve read all these admired traits particularly those that are values rather just a capability, or aspect of our personality type, including those that I put in my post. The thing that struck me and pained me was the recognition of how frequently I don’t live those values.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I admire people who can let things roll off their backs.
People who find the light through the cracks
People who can laugh at themselves
People who are unapologetically themselves
People who like to be the weird, the funny, the awkward
People who accept themselves
People who strive to explore themselves and their thoughts and learn
People who are curious
People who are adventurous
People who stand alone with their convictions no matter what others think
People who can do projects without making messes
People who can make pretty cakes
People who don’t overthink
People who give without thinking about it.
I will stop now.
Oh wait... people who are succinct
-Mrs |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I’ve read all these admired traits particularly those that are values rather just a capability, or aspect of our personality type, including those that I put in my post. The thing that struck me and pained me was the recognition of how frequently I don’t live those values.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak."
Yes, that's similar to the thoughts I had about my own posts. I think recognising and working on it is a good step though (in a not patronising way!).
I've thought a lot recently (thanks studying) about traits, conversational styles etc and I think embracing particular traits and discarding certain flaws is definitely a way forward. You can do that while remaining true to who you are I think. |
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"I’ve read all these admired traits particularly those that are values rather just a capability, or aspect of our personality type, including those that I put in my post. The thing that struck me and pained me was the recognition of how frequently I don’t live those values.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
Yes, that's similar to the thoughts I had about my own posts. I think recognising and working on it is a good step though (in a not patronising way!).
I've thought a lot recently (thanks studying) about traits, conversational styles etc and I think embracing particular traits and discarding certain flaws is definitely a way forward. You can do that while remaining true to who you are I think."
I see it as jousting with my fallen nature. I think we develop habits earlier in life when we are less self aware. Some that are harder to overcome than others. Radical acceptance means for me that I accept and forgive myself for those habits that I struggle to transform whilst changing what I can. Despite the inner conflict my hypocrises create I understand them and no longer dislike myself because of them. They are the very essence of the human condition for me. However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw. "
I don't see them as being outside of me (the flaws that is) but I do think that I can strive for self improvement.
I'm not entirely sure this will make any sense as I've had to take v. strong painkillers so it might end up being a stream of consciousness of sorts which is basically the standard Meli waffling let's be honest.
Perhaps discard wasn't quite the correct term. I think it's more a case of putting to rest one flaw? So if I'm aware it's come out (and given my tendency to overthink that's quite likely) I alter my behaviour/responses to try and prevent it from occuring again. I've had quite good success at that.
Going back to the working on the positive traits - I try and adopt a similar approach. Sometimes I just do rather than think too much and things turn out nicely. |
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"However to fight those things as if they were somehow outside myself only serves to reinforce them. I don’t how to discard a flaw.
I don't see them as being outside of me (the flaws that is) but I do think that I can strive for self improvement.
I'm not entirely sure this will make any sense as I've had to take v. strong painkillers so it might end up being a stream of consciousness of sorts which is basically the standard Meli waffling let's be honest.
Perhaps discard wasn't quite the correct term. I think it's more a case of putting to rest one flaw? So if I'm aware it's come out (and given my tendency to overthink that's quite likely) I alter my behaviour/responses to try and prevent it from occuring again. I've had quite good success at that.
Going back to the working on the positive traits - I try and adopt a similar approach. Sometimes I just do rather than think too much and things turn out nicely."
Right I understand - that’s what I call jousting with my consciousness- remaining more vigilant when I know I’m likely to slip.
When I talk about seeing things as outside myself was when I used to project the things I disliked about myself onto others and fought against them as if they weren’t a part of me. I do that much less now but need to remain vigilant should my awareness slip. However I’m still prone to lapses. Some stuff I just don’t have the personal courage to address. |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"Brevity 
Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa  "
Sorry Doc
Think your first post said it best. If I could achieve all that then I would be much better than I am.
If I found someone who could match all that I would drag her off to the cave and make sure she never wanted to escape....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Brevity
Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa
Sorry Doc
Think your first post said it best. If I could achieve all that then I would be much better than I am.
If I found someone who could match all that I would drag her off to the cave and make sure she never wanted to escape....
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I’ve accepted I’ll never live up to my ideals and nor will anyone else, those I admire most are those that recognise it really and are beautiful in all their glorious flaws and ‘sinfulness’. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People that can & do contain themselves.
Selfless.
Caring.
Passion for their importance in life. Actually love & admire this in a person.
Charismatic & Confident people without the ignorance or arrogance.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a woman who is simply polite and doesn't look down on anyone.
basic things such as saying thank you, smiling and not walking around like her shit don't smell |
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"a woman who is simply polite and doesn't look down on anyone.
basic things such as saying thank you, smiling and not walking around like her shit don't smell "
Agreed!.. politeness & manners go along way! Very attractive in a person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Passion, it’s a big one for me. If you’re passionate about something, regardless of what it is, I am happy to get involved in some conversation, albeit I may have to dig a little deeper and research a little.
Humility, it’s something that I need to work on at times. Periods in my life I’ve been praised and put into a position where I can be smug about what my managers, peers and colleagues think of me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....
Back then.... 
We'll see 
(not sure there's much to stay for)
Depends what your here for...."
Fun and giggles, nothing more xx |
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"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....
Back then....
We'll see
(not sure there's much to stay for)
Depends what your here for....
Fun and giggles, nothing more xx"
I'm sure you'll be ok.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love ppl who can genuinely not give a fuck (not just say it)....
Back then....
We'll see
(not sure there's much to stay for)
Depends what your here for....
Fun and giggles, nothing more xx
I'm sure you'll be ok...."
Haha, Me2, I'm always OK xx |
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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago
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Confidence without arrogance,
Manners without entitlement,
Certainty without fanatacism.
(Feel like a plusnet advert...)
But there are so many traits really
Most of all the ability to be a kind thoughtful human being |
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