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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?"
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour "
I think it could be a Northern Ireland problem in general. No luck for years Ballymena way I gave up trying.
Never noticed any Norn Iron ladies on the forums either. Reveal yourselves if you're here please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I’ve got to the point where I don’t bother because I think, what’s the point? Either a refusal or far more likely no response at all. I’ve been active in the forums lately but it feels like the regulars only talk to each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fucking shocking at flirting.
I think I've got a bit if a complex about it now as there are others I see flirt on the forums and it just looks predatory to me. I never wanna be like that or thought of in that way so I think a wall has gone up in my head.
I'm also lacking mojo which won't help.
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"I'm fucking shocking at flirting.
I think I've got a bit if a complex about it now as there are others I see flirt on the forums and it just looks predatory to me. I never wanna be like that or thought of in that way so I think a wall has gone up in my head.
I'm also lacking mojo which won't help.
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this need a to be a post in Aunty P's Advice thread....oh wait....      |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm fucking shocking at flirting.
I think I've got a bit if a complex about it now as there are others I see flirt on the forums and it just looks predatory to me. I never wanna be like that or thought of in that way so I think a wall has gone up in my head.
I'm also lacking mojo which won't help.
P
this need a to be a post in Aunty P's Advice thread....oh wait.... "
I've never been a fan of those self service machines. Unexpected item in the baggage area feck orf
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I've found that deliberately "hunting" people out to meet doesn't work for me - just feel awkward and clinical and discovered that fairly early on in my Fab life.
Much prefer it when a conversation sparks naturally and develops organically and we find a connection and chemistry as we go along rather than trying to force it - it usually leads to far more satisfying encounters that way too.
Now obviously that conversation has to spark somehow in the first place, which is where the forums come in - they're a great way to get to know people in an unpressured environment if you approach them right.
Works for me anyway and have met some lovely people as a result - obviously means you have to look further afield than your immediate geography but that's not an issue for me at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?"
That’s a shame the ladies are missing out on a lovely man. But yes I feel like that , I have no ideas how to get past it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would echo all the go out there and smile at 'real' people
I have no energy to chat on here at all really as I know it wont go anywhere but I can muster up enthusiasm to smile at people around and about. When you get a smile back that feels nice. So much easier and fulfilling than waiting for your messages to get read  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am the absolute shittiest small talker and flirter,
I can fancy the tits off you and when we meet Ill be staring into the abyss giggling nervously and sweating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour
I think it could be a Northern Ireland problem in general. No luck for years Ballymena way I gave up trying.
Never noticed any Norn Iron ladies on the forums either. Reveal yourselves if you're here please
I live in N Ireland
It’s the biggest shithole ever
Can’t wait to get out
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"I love a good flirt  my problem is not realising when someone means it and it’s not just banter, I am terrible at reading the signs  "
Absolutely this....me too!
Was out with my bestie (she's taken) and we chatted to 2guys. I took the initiative to move on and she told me off later saying 'why? he was totally after you' I said nah, he was just messing about but she was convinced he meant his flirty banter!!
...and I liked him too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour
I think it could be a Northern Ireland problem in general. No luck for years Ballymena way I gave up trying.
Never noticed any Norn Iron ladies on the forums either. Reveal yourselves if you're here please
I live in N Ireland
It’s the biggest shithole ever
Can’t wait to get out
."
Can't be that bad surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour
I think it could be a Northern Ireland problem in general. No luck for years Ballymena way I gave up trying.
Never noticed any Norn Iron ladies on the forums either. Reveal yourselves if you're here please
I live in N Ireland
It’s the biggest shithole ever
Can’t wait to get out
.
Can't be that bad surely?
Yes it is that bad
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?
I'm in the same boat in the same sea(Belfast) dude. I just keep plugging away, sending messages out to those that take mu fancy. Not much ever comes of a message but I'm not ready to give up just yet.
Soldier on Fever, I'm told you're one of the good guys so I imagine if you continue to put the effort in you will eventually reap the fruits of your labour
I think it could be a Northern Ireland problem in general. No luck for years Ballymena way I gave up trying.
Never noticed any Norn Iron ladies on the forums either. Reveal yourselves if you're here please
I live in N Ireland
It’s the biggest shithole ever
Can’t wait to get out
.
Can't be that bad surely?
Yes it is that bad
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Sorry to hear. There are definitely times I wish I lived elsewhere but then I have a bit of "craic" with someone and I'm all good again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s different if you’re not from here originally
Thats fair enough. Where are you from originally?
North East England "
I think, going by how my posts are received on the forum, our humour and way of doing things is a little differnt from yours. Plus living in "our wee country" most likely makes some a little small minded. Couple that with some who are still intent on maintaining the religious divide and I can see how things like that would be off putting to people not from NI.
I'm not sure what exactly puts you off the place bit I would hope it changes as does your mindset, or that you get to move away again before long |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s different if you’re not from here originally
Thats fair enough. Where are you from originally?
North East England
I think, going by how my posts are received on the forum, our humour and way of doing things is a little differnt from yours. Plus living in "our wee country" most likely makes some a little small minded. Couple that with some who are still intent on maintaining the religious divide and I can see how things like that would be off putting to people not from NI.
I'm not sure what exactly puts you off the place bit I would hope it changes as does your mindset, or that you get to move away again before long "
Over here its a tough crowd.
The North East (from my experience) is a lot more open and sharing when it comes to swinging and seems better at getting their heads around recreational casual sex.
That said, I've enjoyed coffee with some lovely ladies over here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went back to the real world for flirting and more. This place is just for entertainment. ..
this in spades"
I do chat to some lovely ladies on here but they are all too far away or too sensible to get tangled up with moi! |
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
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"It may be a lack of mojo at the moment but I do find from time to time I just can't bring myself to.message anyone new.
Partly it is because I know I'm not going to be available as often as I'd like. Partly because I feel it isn't going to lead anywhere...
I have given up trying to meet locally (Belfast) as the ladies prefer a certain type of chap which I'm not.
Anyone else find themselves in that position and how do you snap out of it?"
Take it to the bars. That's where the real flirting takes place. An eflirt is a waste of time. |
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